So does it really suck when they get here or what?

[Minya's wife 24]

Hey this guy is being honest...what would the guys think about what their wives are writting here?

[CarolynRitesh 0]

I don't know if that is just a man/woman, East/West thing or not, but what the MENA hubby posted applies for Ritesh too - NEVER talk about the relationship in a 'public' way. He has learned to accept that I talk to close girlfriends, but he only talks to me about what is between us - not even his best friends.

[Gaby&Talbert 1]

Gary,

Hate for an ex is love that has disappointed you. You need some counseling. I don't hate my ex, I don't love him, I have no feelings because I don't care any more. I have moved on to greener pastures.

If my husband spent this much time dwelling on his ex I would get so freaking sick of it that it would eventually lead to problems. Can't you move on????

I have moved on and I never talk about her, I only brought her up because I am curious why the difference in women from other cultures.

First let me clue you into something. Many women from other cultures do dastardly things to American Men. Take a hop skip and a stroll over to some of the other threads and you will see South American , Russian, Chinese you name it taking American men for greencard rides up and down the street. I personally have watched several south American women in the area that I live in in Florida make a laughing stock of their American husbands. Its not about culture. Its about UPBRINGING and to catagorize all American women as bad because you got taken for a ride is horrible. You are painting all women from MEXICO as saintlike and great moms and that just is not the case. You could have just as easily ended up with a former prostitute who stole all your money and waited out her AOS period and latered you.

I watch these threads started by these men that somehow think all RUSSIANS are saints. I got to the point that I just pointed out that most of the prostitutes working in UAE . Abu Dhabi and Dubai are from the FSU. The problem with prostitution of the FSU countries has become so severe that you really do not know WHAT or WHO you are marrying when you marry a woman from a foreign country. At least with an American you can run a background check. Can you do that with a foreign wife? Do you really know where she has been all the years before you knew her...The same thing stands with South America and Mexico. Do you really know the woman you marry as well as you could know an American? Just wondering.

The arrogance of some of the American men marrying foreign women astounds me. You do not have to BASH american women to point out the positives in your wife. American women also have to put up with being expected to work full time and raise kids and do everything else while alot of American men would put us out to work like farm hands and abuse the ####### out of us and then when you finally get your wife toy from overseas, you baby them. If I could sit on my ### and raise kids and not pull in a paycheck, I would be miss perfect too. The biggest problem with american women is our MEN. They want everything, give very little back, offer no romance or love story and then whine that we don't do what foreign women do. We don't get the chance to. We have to build your life on our backs,break our lives in half, raise your children for you to turn around and say we are not feminine or submissive enough. Who the hell is paying the bills while we are submissive. Not a damn person.... I do not blame you for looking overseas but most women do not start out their relationships bitter. We start out with dreams and needs.... and unlike most of my friends who just put up with the beer bellies and no personality red neck antics, we went else where too. Just like you

Sorry mena girls if my post offends anyone...

See now, you pissed of Wahrania, and she is raging preggy hormonal.

Wahrania, it is true about the Russian prostitutes in Dubai. MY SIL lived there and said they are everywhere. Imagine one of them hooking up with an American for a visa. Then we would see some hate all Russian women.

The thing I find interesting is that after looking through quite a few of the forums, I have seen many many many negative comments about American women, but this was the first one I have seen about American men. (DON'T PISS OFF THE PREGNANT WOMAN!) In all seriousness, it is tiresome to read about how 'we' are all money-grubbing gold diggers or evil or selfish, etc. I just don't know what American women they are talking about or have been associating with - no one in my family or friendship circle could remotely be characterized that way!

Thats cause most American women have the sense in their head not to make threads talking about how much American men suck. Yes , they do not ALL SUCK. But like alot of the men putting their foreign wives up on pedestals and then trashing American women, I kinda wanna stick up for American women because their posts are annoying. I was reading through some russian threads and I just didnt even bother posting anything because it served no purpose. Why bash all American men? I have ice cream flavors that I like but that doesnt mean I dont like any other flavors, I just go out of my way to grab the rocky road.

And if you really think about it , all these IMBRA waivers werent exactly invented to protect foreign men from American women. They were invented for the most part to protect women from coming over here and getting killed or beaten by men with criminal records or men who petitioned and petitioned and petitioned and sent the girls back and used the INS like a mail order bride service.

I personally like American men. If I could have found one that clicked with me and made my heart dance it would have made my life alot easier than falling in love with someone far away. I think women in general want to have the best things in life. Some of us just found it faster than others. Some of us got screwed over and then are looking for the pony under a pile of ####. Some of us just give up and eat ice cream. Some of us buy 29 cats. But for Talbert, if you think ALL AMERICAN women have had a gravy train being married to American men, you are SADLY mistaken. Being an American woman is hard as hell because along with the freedom comes a boat load of responsibility and society's attitudes with puts even more pressure on us. We have to listen to AMERICAN MEN say we are not submissive enough yet we have to work like hell in this society to put food on the table, get paid less than men,many American women have to not only juggle our lives but we have to care for elderly parents and family in a society that does not value older people. We consistantly earn less over our lifetimes then men because we are usually the primary care givers. Then I read threads from men raised by American men bashing us all over the place. The reality is that we dont get the breaks that alot of these foreign wives . We got alot of the American men when they got out of the school or army or whatever and hadnt established themselves enough to wonder if we submitted or not. We were too busy struggling along side the men, trying to build a life. Its the trophy wife syndrome. The american women are the workhorses and when hubby decides hes made it, he s all of the sudden looking at her body , who shes become and he did nothing to shelter her from aging and stress and then all of the sudden pronounces her bitter. Well if you are some woman who shouldered all the bills and were never treated well and built some guys life up and his career and stepped all over your dreams for him to get his and all of the sudden you are being compared to some girl in a 3rd world country who has very little to do other than do her hair and sit at home and doesnt live in the western dog eat dog world, it does become enraging. I understand why American women get a case of the ### with american men. If we dont work hard, we are lazy. If we work too hard we are bitchy and dont care about our men. It sure is hell sometimes to be an American woman. And I will be damned if some man who was suckled at the breast of a hard working american woman is going to bash the women that built this country that he is bringing his new wife too... I have too much respect for other women, American and other wise to allow that.

Just my two cents

Sorry I am hormonal/// if I offend anyone

I think any man who lets his wife support him is not much of a man. I think any man who abuses his wife or any other woman should be shot on the spot. I am only complaining about the women that are not treating their husbands the way they would like to be treated. Do unto others as you would like done to you. Be supportive to your husbands, it is going to be very hard on them coming here. Would each of you that have said something like "I am sick of having to talk slow" or something like that be willing to let your husband read what you have written here? One post said things not to say to your husband "I'm going to send you back"etc. Why is it ok for someone to say anything hurtful or mean to their spouse? It should not be acceptable for a woman or a man to say these kind of things to the person they love. Would a mother say to her children in the heat of the moment " I hate you and I wish you were dead" No that is horible and would hurt your child extremely but women get angry at their husbands and say these things but we are suppose to understand?

I don't know if that is just a man/woman, East/West thing or not, but what the MENA hubby posted applies for Ritesh too - NEVER talk about the relationship in a 'public' way. He has learned to accept that I talk to close girlfriends, but he only talks to me about what is between us - not even his best friends.

Aman I would never in a million years talk about personal problems with anyone but my wife. but it is open season on the ex.

[Jenn! 918]

I'm not sure what it is you're looking to accomplish. Maybe you can highlight some of most offensive quotes from this thread so that the posters can apologize to you for them and then they can show the post to their husband and discuss whether the post is appropriate. When they find out that it was, indeed, not appropriate, they can report back here and tell you how right you are.

[Chica Yeyé 41]

I think any man who lets his wife support him is not much of a man. I think any man who abuses his wife or any other woman should be shot on the spot. I am only complaining about the women that are not treating their husbands the way they would like to be treated. Do unto others as you would like done to you. Be supportive to your husbands, it is going to be very hard on them coming here. Would each of you that have said something like "I am sick of having to talk slow" or something like that be willing to let your husband read what you have written here? One post said things not to say to your husband "I'm going to send you back"etc. Why is it ok for someone to say anything hurtful or mean to their spouse? It should not be acceptable for a woman or a man to say these kind of things to the person they love. Would a mother say to her children in the heat of the moment " I hate you and I wish you were dead" No that is horible and would hurt your child extremely but women get angry at their husbands and say these things but we are suppose to understand?

What century are we talking about Talbert? Welcome to the 21st. Some women work and some men take care of the house; and that does not make them any less "manly".

[♥JP♥ 5]

I'm not sure what it is you're looking to accomplish. Maybe you can highlight some of most offensive quotes from this thread so that the posters can apologize to you for them and then they can show the post to their husband and discuss whether the post is appropriate. When they find out that it was, indeed, not appropriate, they can report back here and tell you how right you are.

Well said Jenn!

[CarolynRitesh 0]

I am so sad it is 2:45 AM here and way past my bed-time! Can't wait to wake up and see where this thread goes next! Have a great evening/night - may all of our loved ones be safe!

[Chica Yeyé 41]

I'm not sure what it is you're looking to accomplish. Maybe you can highlight some of most offensive quotes from this thread so that the posters can apologize to you for them and then they can show the post to their husband and discuss whether the post is appropriate. When they find out that it was, indeed, not appropriate, they can report back here and tell you how right you are.

Jenn is my favorite person I want to one day grow up and be like you sister :devil:

[Gaby&Talbert 1]

I think any man who lets his wife support him is not much of a man. I think any man who abuses his wife or any other woman should be shot on the spot. I am only complaining about the women that are not treating their husbands the way they would like to be treated. Do unto others as you would like done to you. Be supportive to your husbands, it is going to be very hard on them coming here. Would each of you that have said something like "I am sick of having to talk slow" or something like that be willing to let your husband read what you have written here? One post said things not to say to your husband "I'm going to send you back"etc. Why is it ok for someone to say anything hurtful or mean to their spouse? It should not be acceptable for a woman or a man to say these kind of things to the person they love. Would a mother say to her children in the heat of the moment " I hate you and I wish you were dead" No that is horible and would hurt your child extremely but women get angry at their husbands and say these things but we are suppose to understand?

What century are we talking about Talbert? Welcome to the 21st. Some women work and some men take care of the house; and that does not make them any less "manly".

Let me clarify, if a man is lazy and doesn't want to work. Raising children and keeping the house clean is hard work. The previous post was someone complaining about American men letting a wife support him while he was sitting around drinking beer.

If the wife can make more money and the husband wants to stay home with the kids that is fine.

[Jenn! 918]

I'm not sure what it is you're looking to accomplish. Maybe you can highlight some of most offensive quotes from this thread so that the posters can apologize to you for them and then they can show the post to their husband and discuss whether the post is appropriate. When they find out that it was, indeed, not appropriate, they can report back here and tell you how right you are.

Well said Jenn!

Jenn is my favorite person I want to one day grow up and be like you sister :devil:

Thanks, ladies. Lenina, I'm thinking of offering "be like Jenn!" classes in the near future due to popular demand. I'll be sure to let you know when registration begins.

[Chica Yeyé 41]

Jenn is my favorite person I want to one day grow up and be like you sister :devil:

Thanks, ladies. Lenina, I'm thinking of offering "be like Jenn!" classes in the near future due to popular demand. I'll be sure to let you know when registration begins.

Please do sister... I could offer a workshop on "how to be a b1tch and get away with it". My specialty, since I am not a Mexican saint

[Caladan 19]

bridget, uh, so I missed your news. Congrats! Yay! wooooo! wooooo!

We obviously didn't have the whole culture shock thing, but the hardest part for us was him being bored out of his mind in a new town while unable to work. If you can get him involved in something that structures his day - a language class, volunteering, something through the mosque - it will make some things a little bit easier.

[Ban Hammer 13,335]

wow

[sarahaziz 0]

I hope it will be such a great time when he comes!! with a big marriage ceremony and all.

American men are so sweet and respectful but they seem nicer to foreign women than american women right? i dont know thats the vibe i got. Everyone likes something different i guess.

[Nasturtium 500]

I'm not sure what it is you're looking to accomplish. Maybe you can highlight some of most offensive quotes from this thread so that the posters can apologize to you for them and then they can show the post to their husband and discuss whether the post is appropriate. When they find out that it was, indeed, not appropriate, they can report back here and tell you how right you are.

Do you think it needs to be signed by a parent or legal guardian like a bad grade in Elementary school? What do you think we should do about the fact that I'm my own legal guardian at this point and my parents live a few states away? Think faxes are OK?