My end of the road...

[Mike_Zandy 0]

Today, I woke up feeling better after reading all your posts. Thank you all!

Hang in there Ria... God has to have a plan.. I've experienced what seems like a dead end.. But, he has always worked things out in time. God bless you.. keep on praying!

[sj5 4]

I don't know what to say... Hugss tight

Edited April 5, 2008 by SJ

[Joe&Ghe 0]

I wanna give you a hug only if i can..god is watching over you guys..keep the faith.

[joyce_peter 1]

Hi guys! Good luck to those who are having their interview this month or next month. Im so happy for you and wish you all the best. Unfortunaely, I won't be joining the list. Something happened two weeks ago. And right now, Im going through severe depression right now to the point of getting sick.

Two weeks ago I ordered CENOMAR eventhough my marriage is already annulled because it was a requirement for the interview. I got the shock of my life when my CENOMAR came... there in the paper, it states that I am married to two men. One in year 1999 and the other in the year of 2o02. It was a shock because I never got married in 1999. I know the person indicated there. He was my ex-fiancee. I was engaged to him when I was 24 years old but I called it off for a lot of reasons. I remember signing papers but I know it was just a marriage license. Anyway, it was a bad break up. I remember him telling me that nobody can have me because he has connections to city hall and he will submit all the papers I signed and make it appear that we got married. I did not take his threat seriously. Then came the time that I met someone and got married. And then this ex stopped bugging me. The marriage didn't last. We got separated year 2006 and annulled year 2007. Last March 2007, I met someone and he is the reason why I am in K1.

I looked for my ex over the weekend so he could shed some light about this fake paper. He is already somewhere in the US so I can not sue him. My lawyer is filing a petition to declare this marriage null and void in the ground of fraud. Although we have a lot of evidences, it will still take some time for the judge (3 months) to make the decision. My next step was to call our lawyer in the US and again I was devastated with what he told me. He said I have to write to the Embassy Manila to ask to revoke my fiancee petition. Because this "prior marriage" was not diclosed to the petition, I may have an issue with misrepresentation which is a ground for denial or barring me to enter the US. Another issue is bigamy which is a crime in the US- another ground for denying my case. And there's a possibility that they will cancel my tourist visa.

Add to this, I think my relationship with my fiancee is now on the rocks. I can understand his dibelief but Im doing the best I can to explain things to him. I just find it hard to explain because I myself is so confused. Im still in a state of shock. He said something about not really knowing me and suggested to get to know each other first before getting married. If that's the case, why did he ask me to marry him 9 months ago? All this time, he doesn't really know me? How can he tell me he loves me if he doesn't know me? I lived with him for a month in the US. Last November 2007, I visited him and spent two weeks with him. We talk everyday, 3 to 5 times....sometimes for 2 hours. Chat for 4 hours...see each other thru webcam. Also, he finds it weird that I didn't know I was married. All I could answer is, this is Philippines... only in the Philippines where some people learn about the law not because they want to obey it but because they want to know how to break it properly. Im just thinking...if I can not convince my fiancee of my ignorance then surely, the consul won't believe me too. Anyway, Im just so tired now... I give up. This is probably not meant to be. I have no more tears to cry...

dont give up...god is so good,he wont give us problems which we cannot shoulder...be strong!!!!

[knowledge 0]

I think that the evidence to show him might help to evaporate his doubts. On the other hand he has to come see you there to know more about your environment. Wish you the best!! Do not give up if you feel good about the relationship otherwise.

[STEPHnRIA 2]

I just want you all to know that my fiancee read all your posts and we had a talk.

He said... " It's not the end of the road, Ria." And once again, I cried a river but this time because I felt relieved. He is still with me so I know I will make it and we will overcome this.

GOD IS GOOD.

THANK YOU ALL VJ FAMILY!

[dbears 1]

I just want you all to know that my fiancee read all your posts and we had a talk.

He said... " It's not the end of the road, Ria." And once again, I cried a river but this time because I felt relieved. He is still with me so I know I will make it and we will overcome this.

GOD IS GOOD.

THANK YOU ALL VJ FAMILY!

This is GREAT NEWS Ria..... I am happy for you. I hope everything will be sorted out soon. You guys look so good together and it would be a waste to just throw what you have together away just like that. i hope this temporary roadblock will strengthen your relationship instead of the other way around.

I'll keep you in my prayers.

[sara..... 371]

I just want you all to know that my fiancee read all your posts and we had a talk.

He said... " It's not the end of the road, Ria." And once again, I cried a river but this time because I felt relieved. He is still with me so I know I will make it and we will overcome this.

GOD IS GOOD.

THANK YOU ALL VJ FAMILY!

oh im so very happy for u.........keep us posted...........

sara

[fitzee21 0]

It is just so really hard to explain. My fiancee was asking me questions but he will never understand because he never lived here in Philippines. He would always say that is impossible because here in the US its like this or that. But really, you can't compare because this is a third world country. Not everybody has social security numbers. Not everyone pays taxes. A lot of times, its all about who you know and how much you can pay. But I think its a bad move to tell him that. I don't want my country to look so bad because that is not the total picture. He told me before that he will move here in Philippines if I don't get the visa. I will not ask him to move here. I know he will but he won't be happy and I don't want him to hate me for it someday. All I ever want is to make him happy, so now I will tell him that I love him so much, I will set him free.

By the way, this "guy" who made the fake marriage is US citizen. He is half American, half Filipino. We have evidence that marriage license was fake because first- in order for US citizen to get married here in Philippines, he nust have a certificate of legal capacity to marry... and he didn''t have that.

Anyway, I don't wana talk about evidences or whatever. I am more worried with my relationship to Stephen. I really don't know what's going on in his head...

Didn't he read any culture books or ask a lot of questions when he was there? I have a bit of an advantage because my stepmother is Filipina and she has a sister in Michigan that I talk to regularly, but most of what I know about the Philippines was read in books (I actually know more about the history, government, geography, etc. than my stepmother, she always skipped classes when she was young, hehe). However, I read about 10 books on the Philippines before I ever visited. I was curious about the culture and family life and how to show respect. A lot of the books that I'd read contain information regarding some of the daily challenges of a Filipino.

I'm really sad to hear about everything, I really hope that you everything can return to normal and that he knows you're telling the truth!

He hasn't been here to Philippines. My parents have invited him to come here so they could finally meet him. And we're supposed to have an engagement party, I would take him to places, do the interview together and fly to the US together with my son. He read a lot of books and newpapers but those won't tell him anything how I got into this situation. I really think that he has to live my life in order to understand.

Oh ok, I'm sorry to hear about everything. Yeah, he would have to come to visit to get the true experience of the Philippines. I'm truly sorry to hear about everything and hope that it's either for the best or that he can find some way to believe you. From a Kano's point of view, it is difficult to understand, but I know you're telling the truth. I'll be sure to keep you in my prayers.

[Mike_Zandy 0]

Zandy and I prayed that he would see your honesty and see that this is only a small bump in the road. We're so happy for you. Take care Mike and Zandy..

[bluemist 0]

Hi guys! Good luck to those who are having their interview this month or next month. Im so happy for you and wish you all the best. Unfortunaely, I won't be joining the list. Something happened two weeks ago. And right now, Im going through severe depression right now to the point of getting sick.

Two weeks ago I ordered CENOMAR eventhough my marriage is already annulled because it was a requirement for the interview. I got the shock of my life when my CENOMAR came... there in the paper, it states that I am married to two men. One in year 1999 and the other in the year of 2o02. It was a shock because I never got married in 1999. I know the person indicated there. He was my ex-fiancee. I was engaged to him when I was 24 years old but I called it off for a lot of reasons. I remember signing papers but I know it was just a marriage license. Anyway, it was a bad break up. I remember him telling me that nobody can have me because he has connections to city hall and he will submit all the papers I signed and make it appear that we got married. I did not take his threat seriously. Then came the time that I met someone and got married. And then this ex stopped bugging me. The marriage didn't last. We got separated year 2006 and annulled year 2007. Last March 2007, I met someone and he is the reason why I am in K1.

I looked for my ex over the weekend so he could shed some light about this fake paper. He is already somewhere in the US so I can not sue him. My lawyer is filing a petition to declare this marriage null and void in the ground of fraud. Although we have a lot of evidences, it will still take some time for the judge (3 months) to make the decision. My next step was to call our lawyer in the US and again I was devastated with what he told me. He said I have to write to the Embassy Manila to ask to revoke my fiancee petition. Because this "prior marriage" was not diclosed to the petition, I may have an issue with misrepresentation which is a ground for denial or barring me to enter the US. Another issue is bigamy which is a crime in the US- another ground for denying my case. And there's a possibility that they will cancel my tourist visa.

Add to this, I think my relationship with my fiancee is now on the rocks. I can understand his dibelief but Im doing the best I can to explain things to him. I just find it hard to explain because I myself is so confused. Im still in a state of shock. He said something about not really knowing me and suggested to get to know each other first before getting married. If that's the case, why did he ask me to marry him 9 months ago? All this time, he doesn't really know me? How can he tell me he loves me if he doesn't know me? I lived with him for a month in the US. Last November 2007, I visited him and spent two weeks with him. We talk everyday, 3 to 5 times....sometimes for 2 hours. Chat for 4 hours...see each other thru webcam. Also, he finds it weird that I didn't know I was married. All I could answer is, this is Philippines... only in the Philippines where some people learn about the law not because they want to obey it but because they want to know how to break it properly. Im just thinking...if I can not convince my fiancee of my ignorance then surely, the consul won't believe me too. Anyway, Im just so tired now... I give up. This is probably not meant to be. I have no more tears to cry...

Im very sorry to what happen.That's so sad.I know God will make a way and i hope that ur fiancee will understand ur situation.I wil keep u in my prayers.

God Bless...

[knowledge 0]

Hey, I'm soo happy to hear you clarified things together! Talking is the key...This process is full of obstacles, working and going beyound them gives strenth to the relationship. If you have proof that your ex was fraudulent, it's his loss sadly, but a strong case for you...maybe a good lawyer knowlegeable of the 2 countries can help you as well!! Regards!!

[ez2007 1]

God is so good indeed

[LuzyC 0]

Sorry to hear all that Ria,

It takes us 3 years and it cost us big time before we completely ''clean'' the ''mess'' of my ignorance on signing papers before Ria.. there's a lot of bump on my way to happiness and we pass all that with flying colors!.Gary stay with me from start to finish .My son and I been here for a year now and we live happily!

Offer everything to God Almighty and ask his guidance . Always remember that true love conquers all. Have faith, pray hard and don't lose hope. Everything has a reason .

Hang in there..

Our thoughts and prayers are with you both. Goodluck on your visa journey!

[STEPHnRIA 2]

Sorry to hear all that Ria,

It takes us 3 years and it cost us big time before we completely ''clean'' the ''mess'' of my ignorance on signing papers before Ria.. there's a lot of bump on my way to happiness and we pass all that with flying colors!.Gary stay with me from start to finish .My son and I been here for a year now and we live happily!

Offer everything to God Almighty and ask his guidance . Always remember that true love conquers all. Have faith, pray hard and don't lose hope. Everything has a reason .

Hang in there..

Our thoughts and prayers are with you both. Goodluck on your visa journey!

HEY YOU ARE BACK!!! You don't know me but when I first visited this website ( May 2007), your profile caught my attention. So basically, yeah, I always checked your timeline and was inspired. But I didn't read any of your posts about your "mess". What happened? Was it also somewhat like mine? So I think I should send you private message. Is it ok?