It's Friday!! It's Fridayyyyyyy!!!!!

[doodlebugg 10]

You know what bugs me the most is that this has all gone so smoothly up until just now as far as his coming. My kids have been happy with anticipation and are pretty cool about it all. We've discussed issues that have come up and have talked about being open in communication when problems arise once he's here, etc. I NEVER expected this problem and I'd love to bring up bigotry at our monday night family meeting but then if I put the spotlight on it then they'll just resent him. Kids this age are more into who accepts them amoung their peers rather than what is ethical...to a point. I hope this isn't going to be a bigger problem.

The fact that they've all met to discuss this is really embarassing and now I have to wonder if the whole town isn't talking about me. All the smiles I've gotten since wearing hijab are probably a front. I'd move in a ny minute if I didn't think it would rip my kids' hearts out to leave their freinds and burn resentment towards their new stepdad. UGH.

Plan your own meeting and ask them if they would like to come over and meet in person to rid of the (fears), cake and ice creams should do the trick. Its the parents not the kids.....

maybe later but right now i feel like telling them all to go fk themselves.

[brnidokiegurl 0]

sure u do, but take the higher road, remember your kids are also watching to see your reactions

[ayesha4akram 0]

Well if any of those parents EVER want anything from me again they're all SOL. Suprisingly my daughter isn't really sad about it. She mentioned nonchallantly that the parents had a MEETING and ALL agreed that they should not allow their daughters over our home until they ALL feel more comfortable with him. I guess they'll have another meeting to discuss that. IF they change their mind I will call them and ask them to please send over $20 per child per month to fund all of the flippin' food that I feed them. I don't just feed them either I purposely go out of my way to buy each of them their favorite snacks, sodas, etc. and I have bought requested WII games for them as well.

I'm fuming. You know my town has a special group formed to combat bigotry after some nazi symbols were spraypainted at our middle school but God forbid they are openminded about someone from MENA other than Israel. I'm beyong fuming but not showing it since my daughter seems not bothered by it.

A meeting??!!!! i'm fumbling here to find the right words to say, but it's blown my mind!!! The nerve of these people!!

Those parents should be ashamed of themselves. And sadly this is what their kids will learn from them. ughh

You're doing right by not showing your daughter what you really feel since she's ok with things. Just make sure that when your daughters are playing with Usama, their laughter is heard all through town . That'll make the other kids bother their parents . Sowwy got cawwied away.

[ya falaha! 0]

Do you think they're more bothered by him being Egyptian or by how you met and have conducted your marriage? What I mean is maybe they think it's odd that you've had a marriage via the phone and internet and that's not really "normal" by their standards. They may just be put off by the whole thing and not necessarily just him being Mid Eastern. You don't know what their kids have been telling them. Kids tend to exaggerate and may have said some things that seem weird to them.

Edited April 4, 2008 by moody

[doodlebugg 10]

You know, I can kind of understand the trepidation on wanting their daughters in a house with a man that they don't know. I mean unfortunately sexual crimes are abundant these days and how do they know he's not an offender BUT I would hope that they all know ME enough to know that my judgement is in line. I guess that's what hurts too .... the fact that they don't think enough of my judgement to feel safe. It's not like I sat down with each of their husbands to interview them, you know? How the heck do *I* know that any of their husbands aren't sicko's other than the fact that their kids *seem* well balanced?

I have to stop thinking about this or it'll make myself sick.

[doodlebugg 10]

Do you think they're more bothered by him being Egyptian or by how you met and have conducted your marriage? What I mean is maybe they think it's odd that you've had a marriage via the phone and internet and that's not really "normal" by their standards. They may just be put off by the whole thing and not necessarily just him being Mid Eastern. You don't know what their kids have been telling them. Kids tend to exaggerate and may have said some things that seem weird to them.

Could be but still why not call me directly and talk to me about it instead of having a meeting ya know? Oh well. I hated this town growing up and it was a mistake to move back. I wish I had the money to live in Boston proper and send the kids to private school. Then they'd be educated in a more diverse environment.

[ya falaha! 0]

Maybe once he's here and they see that he's just a normal guy they won't be so weird about him. Their heads are probably filled with all sorts of strange scenarios. Just give it time.

[JeanneVictoria 55]

Do you think they're more bothered by him being Egyptian or by how you met and have conducted your marriage? What I mean is maybe they think it's odd that you've had a marriage via the phone and internet and that's not really "normal" by their standards. They may just be put off by the whole thing and not necessarily just him being Mid Eastern. You don't know what their kids have been telling them. Kids tend to exaggerate and may have said some things that seem weird to them.

Could be but still why not call me directly and talk to me about it instead of having a meeting ya know? Oh well. I hated this town growing up and it was a mistake to move back. I wish I had the money to live in Boston proper and send the kids to private school. Then they'd be educated in a more diverse environment.

Do your girls have a World History class? If so, they could have him come to their class to kinda do a "show and tell". Have him speak to the class about Egypt and if you have any artifacts, etc that he could bring to show the class also. You would have the greatest PR and what could be more thrilling than someone directly from that country!! Sweetie, just look at the positive you can bring and let the others be jealous!! I just wish you wouldn't worry and make yourself sick especially when this should be the greatest and most thrilling time of your life!!

I know everything will be sooooooo fine!!!

Jeanne

[SaadBell 0]

“Have a meeting,” Oh that is priceless, sounds like my old days at the officers club, and roll call ladies. I hated those women than and hate them even more now. SNOBS, period, anybody named Edie in that group, she was the worst offender, use her husband’s rank to boss the other wife’s around. Bridget I really don’t know you, but from just what I read and listen to, I think you seem extremely level headed, but than what the hell do I know, I divorced the navy life and left. You are handling it correct, for your daughters, do all your evil thinking, and talking here, where they can’t see it. That is so sad, but yep, totally understand, people you think are your good friends can turn in a second. Hang in there you are a wonderful mother, and having your girls involved in something out of their little circle in their city, this only expands their views on the world. Your girls will learn a source of information from your new husband, and positive things. Hang in there, if you need evil ideas, now I am good with those. Take good care and let us know how it goes when your hubbie is finally there.

[MelindaandTarek 0]

Zee in 59 days we want to see good news from you !

Jackie

For sure Jackie...I need to find my dancing shoes

Zee will these do??????

[Jenn! 918]

Oh boy those are some sexy shoes right there.

[SaadBell 0]

Jenn - I am feeling them shoes, you better back up kay

[*Maureen* 0]

You know what bugs me the most is that this has all gone so smoothly up until just now as far as his coming. My kids have been happy with anticipation and are pretty cool about it all. We've discussed issues that have come up and have talked about being open in communication when problems arise once he's here, etc. I NEVER expected this problem and I'd love to bring up bigotry at our monday night family meeting but then if I put the spotlight on it then they'll just resent him. Kids this age are more into who accepts them amoung their peers rather than what is ethical...to a point. I hope this isn't going to be a bigger problem.

The fact that they've all met to discuss this is really embarassing and now I have to wonder if the whole town isn't talking about me. All the smiles I've gotten since wearing hijab are probably a front. I'd move in a ny minute if I didn't think it would rip my kids' hearts out to leave their freinds and burn resentment towards their new stepdad. UGH.

Plan your own meeting and ask them if they would like to come over and meet in person to rid of the (fears), cake and ice creams should do the trick. Its the parents not the kids.....

maybe later but right now i feel like telling them all to go fk themselves.

that's just awful bridget! why dont you offer them parents your assistance of pulling the stick out of each and everyones A$$es!

I sure hope they come around for the childrens sake.

on a sidenote, i keep getting phonecalls from these places telling me that im getting a courtesy call cause my car warranty is about to expire it's been expired about 5 years now, they call my home, my cell, my work and my husband 's cell this is so annoying! and its not like i can tell them to stop calling cause its a recorded message, so i dont know how to stop it, this has been going on for a few weeks now

Edited April 4, 2008 by 77Maureen

[SaadBell 0]

on a sidenote, i keep getting phonecalls from these places telling me that im getting a courtesy call cause my car warranty is about to expire it's been expired about 5 years now, they call my home, my cell, my work and my husband 's cell this is so annoying! and its not like i can tell them to stop calling cause its a recorded message, so i dont know how to stop it, this has been going on for a few weeks now

Me too me too, ####### is that, I hate it so much!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[*Maureen* 0]

on a sidenote, i keep getting phonecalls from these places telling me that im getting a courtesy call cause my car warranty is about to expire it's been expired about 5 years now, they call my home, my cell, my work and my husband 's cell this is so annoying! and its not like i can tell them to stop calling cause its a recorded message, so i dont know how to stop it, this has been going on for a few weeks now

Me too me too, ####### is that, I hate it so much!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

wow, i wonder what's going on with these places, it is very aggravating!