scared but hoping

[Beauty for Ashes 257]

Hello Wahrania, I understand his pain, but I understand your's better. It is hard enough having to be a mother of a little miracle and to be the mother of the other big one who is scared to leavehis country. Where you are the one who needs the most support right now, you are having to give it. I dunno if its being a woman or what but we always end up having to help others when we have a thousand problems of our own and I mainly mean the concern and care it takes to be calm and ready for a baby.

Thats the thing too- if he didn't get his visa in like 6-8 months and was stuck in AP, he would have time to be all scared and neverous SEVERAL times, but because he wouldn't have the assurance of a visa, he would always affirm his most important desire is to go to be with you. Thats what AP does, it gets that out of the system and by the time the visa is issued, they have already been tired of missing their country and now desperate just to go be with you. Now hes got the visa, he can have time to miss his country, its all about the situation. You know and I know that if he was denied visa, he would be crying ALL DAY for YOU and to come to US and that this is is main dream and he cant live without you, etc. Now that hes in the middle with both choices, he is just psychologically flushing him out.

Not to worry at all, this is veyr common. It is like people hold their pain for many years until when the problem is finally solved THEN they cry. why? becuase at that point they have the solution and now they can reflect, they actually have the ABILITY to reflect after being stuck as a dear infront of headlights. Its like that. He is just reflecting. He will be more than thrilled to be here, and one look at you and baby will be enough to erase everything.

Sure he will always love his country and miss it too...but he knows who his real family is, you and his baby.

Give him time to just let it alllll out, he can delay his flight a week or two, see how jumpy and impatient he gets to see you then! Ya he'll be flying in like a man running towars his life because he knows he loves you way too much to miss a place. What is a place, after all, if you don't have the love of your life and you little baby!

He will be fine. You take care of yourself and be happy. Baby knows when mommy is sad, before they see their mommy.

Prayers to you and much love.

Tammy

the last 2 days he has made more attempts to be nice.....I think the reality of leaving maybe more appealing as the days go by.You guys have no idea how much you guys have helped me...thanks