Russia girls are amazing!

[Kazan' Tiger 1]

I'm not so sure. I consider it is cultural based. Remember what I said... She believes that her children should 100% carry the bags if I am absent. The problem lies in that, when I am there, there is a strong man that should do it. She repeatedly mentioned, it would, "look bad on street. That a man should carry all when present."

I agree this is not a clash of cultures. My wife expects her daughter to help with the groceries and other things.

Very true. By only problem is when this courtesy becomes a mandate with regards to children. This is one of the few things that Alla & I disagree on. Whenever we returned home with a weeks worth of groceries, it was my sole responsibility to carry all the bags. It was "not right" to ask her children to each take a small bag or two to lightened my load. I asked her, What do you do when I am not here. "We divide bags." was her answer. My retort was then , Why can't we do that now? To which she responded with the obvious, "Because you are here!" I pointed out that I expect my own children to help me when we go to the grocery store. To which was returned the predicted, "This not America!" Personally, I see nothing wrong with children helping in this capacity, in America or Россия!

yes, i can never walk more than two feet carrying something heavy without a man offering to carry it for me. in america they do sometimes, but it's not guaranteed like in Russia.

Thats not russian thing, Russians make their kids do everything. Especially boys. It looks like an individual agenda not clash of cultures.

[Ilya R. 0]

I grew up in Russia, and remember clearly when my dad was with us I would still carry something. Same goes for all of my friends. Russian Parents are pretty strict when it comes to this, so its def not cultural. Unless your wife has a different kind view on what Husband should do, from the rest of us.

[eekee 182]

I wasn't talking about grocery bags, but suitcases and things. whenever we go shopping we put the stuff in backpacks anyway.

[Kazan' Tiger 1]

Maybe its family or more local. I can say that whenever we stood out waiting the bus, I did, indeed, notice the children and wives empty handed while the man of the family resembled a mule.

I grew up in Russia, and remember clearly when my dad was with us I would still carry something. Same goes for all of my friends. Russian Parents are pretty strict when it comes to this, so its def not cultural. Unless your wife has a different kind view on what Husband should do, from the rest of us.

[Chuckles 0]

I've met a few American women who felt the man should carry everything too. That doesn't seem that odd to me, no matter what culture.

As far as my own family, I always try to do all the lifting and carrying... but my Russian wife and daughter do help...

[Satellite 1]

I can say that whenever we stood out waiting the bus, I did, indeed, notice the children and wives empty handed while the man of the family resembled a mule.

No wonder there is a high rate of alcoholism amongst Russian men. Edited April 30, 2008 by Satellite

[Kazan' Tiger 1]

Hmmm, yes... I seem to remember saying often, I could use a drink, after toting those ten bags 500 meters from the stop plus the eight flights of steps!

I can say that whenever we stood out waiting the bus, I did, indeed, notice the children and wives empty handed while the man of the family resembled a mule.

No wonder there is a high rate of alcoholism amongst Russian men.

[akdiver 3]

It was "not right" to ask her children to each take a small bag or two to lightened my load.

Oh, see, I would explain it this way: children need to earn their keep. If I'm earning the money to pay for the groceries, the very least they can do is to carry the bags into the house - ALL the bags. After they're done with that, they can take the trash out, mow the yard, vacuum the floors and do their homework.

[Ban Hammer 13,659]

I can say that whenever we stood out waiting the bus, I did, indeed, notice the children and wives empty handed while the man of the family resembled a mule.

No wonder there is a high rate of alcoholism amongst Russian men.

[SaadBell 0]

oh just wait till the american women find this thread!

Hey, hey, hey, American girl in the house. There are some awsome women in this country as well as awsome men. I date who I like and marry whom I love. I do say, Turkey has some hot men.

[slim 1,533]

It was "not right" to ask her children to each take a small bag or two to lightened my load.

Oh, see, I would explain it this way: children need to earn their keep. If I'm earning the money to pay for the groceries, the very least they can do is to carry the bags into the house - ALL the bags. After they're done with that, they can take the trash out, mow the yard, vacuum the floors and do their homework.

Yeah, but if you want something done right.....

[Ban Hammer 13,659]

oh just wait till the american women find this thread!

Hey, hey, hey, American girl in the house. There are some awsome women in this country as well as awsome men. I date who I like and marry whom I love. I do say, Turkey has some hot men.

it was just a matter of time

[slim 1,533]

Let's liven this thread up again.....

I expect my wife to help me carry the bags. Moreover, since I'm the one paying for the groceries, she should carry all of them.

[LvivLovers 39]

Let's liven this thread up again.....

I expect my wife to help me carry the bags. Moreover, since I'm the one paying for the groceries, she should carry all of them.

This should be interesting...

[Kazan' Tiger 1]

I made the mistake of handing a bag to Alla once. The look in her eyes was, well... indescribable. "Jeffery! I look like horse to you?" I replied, and I do? I then began to make my best horse impression on the streets of Kazan'. Let's say it did not go over well with her. I was definitely far more amused.

Let's liven this thread up again.....

I expect my wife to help me carry the bags. Moreover, since I'm the one paying for the groceries, she should carry all of them.