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Filed: Citizen (apr) Country: Colombia
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I became happier as soon as I realised I wasn't going to find a perfect person.

You said it sister! :thumbs:

Diana

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10/02/07 - POE

11/16/07 - Received green card and Welcome to America letter in the mail

Removing Conditions

07/06/09 - I-751 sent to CSC

08/14/09 - Biometrics

09/27/09 - Approved

10/01/09 - Received 10 year green card

U.S. Citizenship

03/30/11 - N-400 sent via Priority Mail w/ delivery confirmation

05/12/11 - Biometrics

07/20/11 - Interview - passed

07/20/11 - Oath ceremony - same day as interview

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Filed: Citizen (pnd) Country: Canada
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I understand the felling.....

At least the life seam good for you (house, love, friends, job etc)

But well.... you know, idea for the future, in a few years... going in vacation in UK together is not like moving there..... perhaps he will fall in love for it (and perhaps not) and the other way aound.. because of your adaptation to the US you will see things that you never saw before in the UK and it will feel awkward.

Good luck for all !

Removal of conditions

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03.25.2011 Approved

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AOS/EAD/AP from K1

07.23.2008 Send AOS/EAD/AP

07.29.2008 Check cashed

08.01.2008 NOA1

08.08.2008 Biometric Notice received

08.21.2008 Biometric Appointment

09.22.2008 Approval notice sent for AP (CRIS email)

09.22.2008 Card production ordered for EAD (CRIS email)

09.25.2008 Card production ordered for EAD (CRIS email) and a couple of touch since (last one 09.30.2008)

09.27.2008 Reception AP

10.02.2008 EAD Received

02.23.2009 Notice for interview (1.5 month late compared to LA statistics)

03.16.2009 AOS Touch

04.01.2009 Interview in LA  // Approved 

04.06.2009 Welcome to the USA Letter

04.13.2009 Reception GC

Naturalization
06/2016 Request
03/2017 Interview

Almost at the end !

 

Filed: Citizen (pnd) Country: Canada
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That made me think.... my sweet was talking about going to live in Quebec city this morning.....

was funny.....

i said we'll see...... but yes for vacations or something.

I feel the same way for france (perhaps actually way stronger) i really would avoid going back to live in france... but for vacations.... no problem !

Removal of conditions

01.11.2011 Remove conditions GC I-751 ($590)

01.18.2011 NOA1

02.24.2011 Biometric

03.25.2011 Approved

03.28.2011 Notice sent

03.31.2011 Received new green card (and it's green !)
 

AOS/EAD/AP from K1

07.23.2008 Send AOS/EAD/AP

07.29.2008 Check cashed

08.01.2008 NOA1

08.08.2008 Biometric Notice received

08.21.2008 Biometric Appointment

09.22.2008 Approval notice sent for AP (CRIS email)

09.22.2008 Card production ordered for EAD (CRIS email)

09.25.2008 Card production ordered for EAD (CRIS email) and a couple of touch since (last one 09.30.2008)

09.27.2008 Reception AP

10.02.2008 EAD Received

02.23.2009 Notice for interview (1.5 month late compared to LA statistics)

03.16.2009 AOS Touch

04.01.2009 Interview in LA  // Approved 

04.06.2009 Welcome to the USA Letter

04.13.2009 Reception GC

Naturalization
06/2016 Request
03/2017 Interview

Almost at the end !

 

Filed: K-1 Visa Country: Australia
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the poster asked a question:

What do the Americans think here?, would you move to your partners country or is your marriage based on staying put in the US?

Kazan is an American, and answered the question :)

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The Very Secret Diary of Legolas Son of Weenus - by Cassandra Claire

Day One: Went to Council of Elrond. Was prettiest person there. Agreed to follow some tiny little man to Mordor to throw ring into volcano. Very important mission - gold ring so tacky.

Day Six: Far too dark in Mines of Moria to brush hair properly. Am very afraid I am developing a tangle.

Orcs so silly.

Still the prettiest.

Day 35: Boromir dead. Very messy death, most unnecessary. Did get kissed by Aragorn as he expired. Does a guy have to get shot full of arrows around here to get any action? Boromir definitely not prettier than me. Cannot understand it. Am feeling a pout coming on.

Frodo off to Mordor with Sam. Tiny little men caring about each other, rather cute really.

Am quite sure Gimli fancies me. So unfair. He is waist height, so can see advantages there, but chunky braids and big helmet most off-putting. Foresee dark times ahead, very dark times.

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Im writing under a different screen name, the reason will become apparent, as I need some feedback and/or advice regarding the following issues that has come up at home. Im British and am suffering quite terrible homesickness. I have been with my husband for 2 years, married and living in the US for 10 months now.

We have recently had a discussion regarding the idea of us moving to the UK as a family, and the reaction I got from my husband was quite unexpected. Basically, he has told me that he does not want to live in the UK and that if I wanted to go home, then I would be alone. This of course has upset me no end as I left my home country and family, to be with my husband, NOT to be in the US, and I naturally thought our marriage was based on love and wanting to be together.

Now, Im not being unreasionable as I havent just come out with this and expected us to start packing our bags, I just suggested that maybe in a few years we could go and live there for a while.

What do the Americans think here?, would you move to your partners country or is your marriage based on staying put in the US?, Im just a bit baffled, and heartbroken. I would have moved to Outer Mongolia to marry him, but obviously he doesnt feel the same.

Lili I feel you and I'm sorry you're homesick..alot of us will be at some stage (well me being an early K1'er) I've already felt homesick thinking I'll be away from the one place I was in all my life around my family etc in the UK. But he has to learn how to respect your feelings and maybe compromise a little not just shut them off and say 'you'll be alone on that one'. I agree women like that are more inclined to do for their men rather than the opposite. Maybe he just felt a splinter of you not appreciating the fact you are at home in the US with him and my feelings are he took it personally. Time is the biggest healer there is, all I can say is if you have a webcam hook it up and be with your family that way, but I know (not the same thing). If you feel that strongly you really need to start thinking how you guys will be in the next couple of years because if he can dismiss your feelings on this important one , I wonder what else he would turn a blind eye to. You've told him now give him time to relish your thoughts. I'll be thinking of you.....

The UK now is nothing but imposing news taxes LOL (even on bins now) and they quick to impose no smoking laws in your own car so there are many things to consider on so many different scopes and knowing where you'll both be better off. As long as you're together it doesn't matter I suppose but it does one more than the other.. I'll probably get rushed by the American force on this website now for saying this but quite a few Americans would refuse to live in another country. Please don't attack me I'm just stating facts from close US friends and how they feel about living in another country!!

Yours,

Posted

This discussion has been brought between me and my husband. I miss my family terribly specially that I haven't been away from them ever since till I get here in the US. Our plan is to have our retiring years in my homeland, Cebu Philippines. But right now my focus is to get a good job, start a family and live life one day at a time.

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I-751 Lifting Conditions Timeline

April 06, 2010 - mailed I-751 documents via usps express mail(overnight)with delivery confirmation

April 07, 2010 - packet delivered and signed

April 12, 2010 - check was cashed

April 13, 2010 - received NOA1 (dated 04/08/10)

May 07, 2010 - Biometrics

May 10, 2010 - Touched

June 23, 2010 - APPROVED WITHOUT INTERVIEW!!!

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Filed: Other Timeline
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......I'll probably get rushed by the American force on this website now for saying this but quite a few Americans would refuse to live in another country. Please don't attack me I'm just stating facts from close US friends and how they feel about living in another country!!

Yours,

You'll get no 'rushing off' from me on that point.

From the time we are tiny, we are told we live in the 'greatest nation on earth'. We are told our form of government is superior; that our freedoms are like no other; that our land is more abundant.

I feel all Americans should travel abroad. I didn't have the opportunity till I met my husband. It was quite an eye-opener for me. I've often told the ridiculous story on myself of how one day when walking about with him in Northern Ireland, I actually found myself thinking the country wasn't 'so bad' and that I saw no one in shackles. As you are from the UK, I'm sure you are aware my husbands country isn't free from the blemishes of the Troubles. As an American, some of the still-visible remnants of that conflict were chilling to me. By and large, we as a people have never known the fear of random terror. We are quite spoiled, quite soft and quite judgmental of our fellow men who have learned peace the hard way.

I'm rambling and apologize for that. Americans need to see other corners of the globe, both to appreciate what the rest of the world has to offer and to appreciate what we do have over here while not putting it on a pedestal.

the poster asked a question:

What do the Americans think here?, would you move to your partners country or is your marriage based on staying put in the US?

Kazan is an American, and answered the question :)

So am I. Yet my feeling are 'disingenuous'.

Filed: K-1 Visa Country: Australia
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I questioned your mild attack on another's answer, not your 'answer'... which was actually not an answer to the OP's question, but a snide remark at Kazan... and what came across as disingenuous, and still does, was not your feelings, but the contrast between your many claims elsewhere that you may speak bluntly, or be too sarcastic for some, or whatever, but that's the 'way you are' and people have to understand that and get your meaning from it, when you were unwilling, at least in this instance, to do the same thing for someone else

061017001as.thumb.jpg

The Very Secret Diary of Legolas Son of Weenus - by Cassandra Claire

Day One: Went to Council of Elrond. Was prettiest person there. Agreed to follow some tiny little man to Mordor to throw ring into volcano. Very important mission - gold ring so tacky.

Day Six: Far too dark in Mines of Moria to brush hair properly. Am very afraid I am developing a tangle.

Orcs so silly.

Still the prettiest.

Day 35: Boromir dead. Very messy death, most unnecessary. Did get kissed by Aragorn as he expired. Does a guy have to get shot full of arrows around here to get any action? Boromir definitely not prettier than me. Cannot understand it. Am feeling a pout coming on.

Frodo off to Mordor with Sam. Tiny little men caring about each other, rather cute really.

Am quite sure Gimli fancies me. So unfair. He is waist height, so can see advantages there, but chunky braids and big helmet most off-putting. Foresee dark times ahead, very dark times.

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Im writing under a different screen name, the reason will become apparent, as I need some feedback and/or advice regarding the following issues that has come up at home. Im British and am suffering quite terrible homesickness. I have been with my husband for 2 years, married and living in the US for 10 months now.

We have recently had a discussion regarding the idea of us moving to the UK as a family, and the reaction I got from my husband was quite unexpected. Basically, he has told me that he does not want to live in the UK and that if I wanted to go home, then I would be alone. This of course has upset me no end as I left my home country and family, to be with my husband, NOT to be in the US, and I naturally thought our marriage was based on love and wanting to be together.

Now, Im not being unreasionable as I havent just come out with this and expected us to start packing our bags, I just suggested that maybe in a few years we could go and live there for a while.

What do the Americans think here?, would you move to your partners country or is your marriage based on staying put in the US?, Im just a bit baffled, and heartbroken. I would have moved to Outer Mongolia to marry him, but obviously he doesnt feel the same.

Hello,

My husband and I met here in India and have been together for 2.5 years. We just got the CR1 and are moving to the US in 6 weeks. Before living here, I spent two years in Kazakstan and know that going through culture shock is tough and I feel for you as you are in the throes of it right now. It is true that many assume that transitioning between the UK and the US will be a piece of cake, but the fact that there are some similarities can actually make it more difficult and hit you in ways that you would never have guessed. Something that was pounded into our heads over and over again by Peace Corps staff and 2nd year volunteers is that the 6-12 month period is the hardest, but after that it gets easier and easier. Granted it is a little bit different if you know that you only have a two year assignment rather than a lifetime commitment. ;)

We are planning on staying in the US for 7-10 years, and then returning to settle in India. I am worried about Ritesh adjusting to the US and how it will impact him for some time to feel so disoriented and out of place, to possibly face racism and the closed-mindedness of Americans... We talk all the time about things, but I know that as much research as I did before both of my moves, there is nothing like the actual experience of living in a new place. (Heck, that can apply to moves within the US as well!) In the meantime, we watch a lot of Cops to get a taste of the 'other side' of the US! ;)

Like others have recommended, keep those lines of communication open, plan a trip home (you might be surprised how much you miss not just your hubby, but also your new life!) and give yourself some time - don't be too hard on yourself! :)

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Filed: Other Timeline
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I questioned your mild attack on another's answer, not your 'answer'... which was actually not an answer to the OP's question, but a snide remark at Kazan... and what came across as disingenuous, and still does, was not your feelings, but the contrast between your many claims elsewhere that you may speak bluntly, or be too sarcastic for some, or whatever, but that's the 'way you are' and people have to understand that and get your meaning from it, when you were unwilling, at least in this instance, to do the same thing for someone else

*sigh*

This is getting really old.

And that's a really really long sentence and frankly I'm having trouble figuring out what you are saying. As nearly as I can tell, you are trying to put your interpretation of my words on them. I especially don't get the part about my being unwilling to understand, and I don't appreciate your insistence that I'm lying about something.

Believe it or not, I happen to realize that sometimes I'm too blunt. I suppose that's from my upbringing - I'm from blue collar stock and that's how I was raised. I'm also from a generation that has a distinct aversion to phoniness. When I 'overspeak' (which I realize I sometimes do) I'm willing to explain it. And I never expect the reader to learn to like it or necessarily agree.

On the other hand, I'm a heart on my sleeve type but with a learned edge. I spent 26 years in a marriage to a brutal individual who ridiculed tenderness; who put his feelings first before mine and our sons; and who drained emotion off decent people like a sponge. You never knew when you woke up what the day would hold.

So....because of my upbringing and my early adult life, I struggle with emotions that sometimes rise up in me. My reaction to certain feelings is often raw.

I would appreciate it if you wouldn't attempt to put words in my mouth about my reaction to Jeffrey insofar as it relates to the OP's predicament. I explained my post already mostly because Jeffrey asked. Believe me, there is no 'ingenuousness' in it.

Filed: K-1 Visa Country: Russia
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Thanks for the support STP. :) There are a couple of people around here that delight in ridiculing my personal beliefs and the relationship Alla & I share because it doesn't coincide with theirs. It has been going on for months. I'm not getting into all of the unkind things said. Often when I answer an OP in a way they don't feel, in their opinion, helps, I'm personally called out and badgered (even though others may have answered with a similar train of thought.) I can say it is getting very old.

I questioned your mild attack on another's answer, not your 'answer'... which was actually not an answer to the OP's question, but a snide remark at Kazan... and what came across as disingenuous, and still does, was not your feelings, but the contrast between your many claims elsewhere that you may speak bluntly, or be too sarcastic for some, or whatever, but that's the 'way you are' and people have to understand that and get your meaning from it, when you were unwilling, at least in this instance, to do the same thing for someone else

Jeffery AND Alla.

0 kilometers physically separates us!

K-1 Visa Granted... Wednesday, 21 May 2008

Alla ARRIVED to America... Wednesday, 12 November 2008

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Filed: Other Timeline
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Jeffrey -

I do not ridicule your relationship. And I don't badger you.

Is it impossible for you to understand how putting your feelings to the OP in the place you put them was 'over the top'?

Maybe I should have written a longer sentence to you instead of just popping off with how I felt.

Thanks for the support STP. :) There are a couple of people around here that delight in ridiculing my personal beliefs and the relationship Alla & I share because it doesn't coincide with theirs. It has been going on for months. I'm not getting into all of the unkind things said. Often when I answer an OP in a way they don't feel, in their opinion, helps, I'm personally called out and badgered (even though others may have answered with a similar train of thought.) I can say it is getting very old.

I questioned your mild attack on another's answer, not your 'answer'... which was actually not an answer to the OP's question, but a snide remark at Kazan... and what came across as disingenuous, and still does, was not your feelings, but the contrast between your many claims elsewhere that you may speak bluntly, or be too sarcastic for some, or whatever, but that's the 'way you are' and people have to understand that and get your meaning from it, when you were unwilling, at least in this instance, to do the same thing for someone else

Posted

I'm really not seeing why KT needed to be called out here. He seems to wear his heart on his sleeve too and quite frankly his attitude is one I would expect my own husband to embrace (fortunately for me he does). It's not just about being "madly in loive"; it's about compromise, something the OP's husband seems unwilling to do. If she is happy to live with that, it is her decision and I hope she can be happy with that. If this is the case, I hope she gets over her homesickness. 10 months is still early days.

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