Double Standards

[jpaula 20]

These threads about culture always lead to the same back and forth. What gets frustrating to me is that they ignore the diversity within any culture. In the end we are talking about individuals--ourselves included--who each carry their cultural influences differently. And our marriages are each different for that. So for those of us who are entering into, or already in, bi-cultural relationships, generalizations about Arab men or Algerian (enter other nationality here) men or Muslim men only go so far. That said, I learned far more about my husband and our marriage by living with him in Algeria than I ever thought I would.

[Sofiyya 1,687]

Ive witnessed several BORN muslimas get used and tossed for greencards....hijabis at that...no one is immune....especially with age disparity

Your response is no surprise, wahrania. You're a one trick non-Muslim pony full of negative stereotypes about Arabs and Muslims. But one thing that is clear is that you have serious doubts about your own relationship based on your past, and a great need to pull others down with you in your despair. You could use help. Insha'allah, you will get it and soon.

PS- You won't get it here.

My apologizes. It is not my intent to pronounce takfir on you. I just keep forgetting you're Muslim because,by the things you say, you've never struck me as Muslim. My bad. I need to work on that.

[Sofiyya 1,687]

These threads about culture always lead to the same back and forth. What gets frustrating to me is that they ignore the diversity within any culture. In the end we are talking about individuals--ourselves included--who each carry their cultural influences differently. And our marriages are each different for that. So for those of us who are entering into, or already in, bi-cultural relationships, generalizations about Arab men or Algerian (enter other nationality here) men or Muslim men only go so far. That said, I learned far more about my husband and our marriage by living with him in Algeria than I ever thought I would.

I've noticed a few trends among the "them and us" crowd. Some women romanticize and exoticize Arab Muslim men. Some try to exoticize themselves, as well, by their association with him. Some are intent on not compromising re their cultural and religious differences, and some haven't a clue that there are differences.

Then, there are the realists . . . thank God.

[sereia 0]

These threads about culture always lead to the same back and forth. What gets frustrating to me is that they ignore the diversity within any culture. In the end we are talking about individuals--ourselves included--who each carry their cultural influences differently. And our marriages are each different for that. So for those of us who are entering into, or already in, bi-cultural relationships, generalizations about Arab men or Algerian (enter other nationality here) men or Muslim men only go so far. That said, I learned far more about my husband and our marriage by living with him in Algeria than I ever thought I would.

so true!

[Beauty for Ashes 257]

Ive witnessed several BORN muslimas get used and tossed for greencards....hijabis at that...no one is immune....especially with age disparity

Your response is no surprise, wahrania. You're a one trick non-Muslim pony full of negative stereotypes about Arabs and Muslims. But one thing that is clear is that you have serious doubts about your own relationship based on your past, and a great need to pull others down with you in your despair. You could use help. Insha'allah, you will get it and soon.

PS- You won't get it here.

My apologizes. It is not my intent to pronounce takfir on you. I just keep forgetting you're Muslim because,by the things you say, you've never struck me as Muslim. My bad. I need to work on that.

too late.....you already did.................

[sereia 0]

These threads about culture always lead to the same back and forth. What gets frustrating to me is that they ignore the diversity within any culture. In the end we are talking about individuals--ourselves included--who each carry their cultural influences differently. And our marriages are each different for that. So for those of us who are entering into, or already in, bi-cultural relationships, generalizations about Arab men or Algerian (enter other nationality here) men or Muslim men only go so far. That said, I learned far more about my husband and our marriage by living with him in Algeria than I ever thought I would.

I've noticed a few trends among the "them and us" crowd. Some women romanticize and exoticize Arab Muslim men. Some try to exoticize themselves, as well, by their association with him. Some are intent on not compromising re their cultural and religious differences, and some haven't a clue that there are differences.

Then, there are the realists . . . thank God.

Compromise is key. Why should I give up everything for him and he not meet me SOMEWHERE in the middle? I knew going into my marriage with a Muslim man from Morocco was going to have some major cultural and religious differences...but I don't see why I have to be the one to give up everything and him nothing. These men also know they're marrying a non-Muslims and/or Westernized woman and should realize what they're getting into!

[Sofiyya 1,687]

too late.....you already did.................

Ok, you need your drama. If I intended to pronounce takfir on you, there would be no missing it, I assure you. But, that's not my style.

[Beauty for Ashes 257]

too late.....you already did.................

Ok, you need your drama. If I intended to pronounce takfir on you, there would be no missing it, I assure you. But, that's not my style.

shut up virtual wife...You really are a hag

[Beauty for Ashes 257]

too late.....you already did.................

Ok, you need your drama. If I intended to pronounce takfir on you, there would be no missing it, I assure you. But, that's not my style.

You are NOT the expert on Islam..nor are you immune from getting slammed for papers...I am sorry for calling you a hag....but you are just so curdled spoiled and condescending sometimes

[LaL 418]

This thread is now closed per the request of the OP. Thanks.