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Hello, Everyone here:

I feel lukcy that I just found this forum here. like found my family.

Like some of you do, I am also in a complicated case.

I had F-1 visa before I met my husband. And then I met him, and got married with him on 2004 May. on August 2005, we passed our interview, and now I am in the process of waitting for removing conditions on residency.

It started this March, I got a letter regarding the joint account my husband and I have, there was negative one thousand dollars balance since last October, and luckily, it was already paid off. (My husband paid it off) and this April, I got another letter from the same bank regarding the same account, there is -3500 balance, due to a fraud check cashed by my husband. Then I tried to talk with him...and he tried to lie to me. ... anyway....after almost one month discussion and argument with him... He wanted me to pay the money for him, and I asked him where the money go, and he didn't want me know.He started to not to come home...and even terminated his cellphone number... and started from then, I realized he has some other woman outside, and he has been with that woman for a while...that's why since last year, he started to treate me worse and worse...its a long story...

And now the bank is asking me for money(since its joint accouont)...and also I just realized he used the fraud check under the same name and cashed another 2000 dollars in another bank (that's his own account, my name is not there).

I tried to contact him...but unable to. He has been back for almost one month already. and contacted me only twice, nothing but ask me for money and said If I dont pay, then he's going to divorce.

I just can not believe I really married this man, how can a person be totally different few years ago and few years now. And today, I just know that he is fired by his company, because of his absense, suspended driver license and dishonesty.

On my table, are all his bills...cellphone, insurance, warning letter from the bank....but I am unable to find him. (tried to reach his grandpa, grandpa said he doesn't get in touch with my husband for a long long time)

In my case, we will not submit the application for removing condition on residency until June 2007. I really dont know what I can do between now to then...since he is threateing me for divorcing and want me to pay for him. I am still studying in the school and even financied my tution, where can I find that 3000 dollars to pay for him. besides, if I paid once, I may have to pay twice, again and again...

I can not stand for his threating again and again...and all these stresses. I really want to divorce with him. But can I divorce with him now? If I divorce with him right now...am I going to be back to my F-1 Visa or I will just lost my identity...

Can anybody give me some suggestions or advices? I would really appreciate that. Thank you for the patience of reading my long story.

I wish god bless all of us.

I wish tough days can finally pass. I wish I can get through.

Thanks

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chocolaterie   0

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I would go to the bank and explain to them what happened. I'm sure fraud charges will be made against him, and the account will probably become closed. If he is threatening you that is very serious. I would go to the police station with proof. If you divorce him you will not lose your GC, you can remove conditions without him. I'm not an expert on this topic but I'm sure someone will elaborate on that subject. Good luck.

Barbara (Canada) & Dallas (USC)

AOS

Nov 13 2005 EAD & I-485 sent to Chicago Lockbox

Nov 22, 2005 EAD & I-485 NOA1

Dec 15, 2005 Biometrics for EAD & I-485

Dec 19, 2005 EAD & I-485 Touched

Jan 21, 2006 Rec'd I-485 Fingerprint Reschedule Notice (AHHH!!!)

Feb 10, 2006 Fingerprint App't

Feb 1, 2006 EAD Approved!!!!

Feb 11, 2006 Rec'd EAD card

Feb 13, 2006 Applied for SSN

Feb 17, 2006 Rec'd SSN

Feb 23, 2006 I-485 Transferred to CSC (AHHH!!)

Mar 02, 2006 I-485 Has been received at CSC

Mar 13, 2006 I-485 Touched

Mar 14, 2006 I-485 Touched

Apr 15 & 25 2006 emailed CSC for status inquiry on I-485

Apr 26 2006 received a response from CSC, another response in 60 days (ahhhhh!!!)

Apr 27, 2006 I-485 Touched

Jun 17, 2006 I-485 Touched

Jun 19, 2006 I-485 Touched

Jun 20, 2006 I-485 Touched

July 3, 2006 emailed CSC again, no response given in the allotted 60 days time frame.

July 27, 2006 received a response from CSC, another response will be given in 30 days.. ha ha ha.

***app sent back to Missouri ***app sent to Chicago

Aug 21 2006 touched

Sept 29 2006 3rd year Anniversay

October 13, 2006 Immigration Interview - Need to return with Long Form Birth Certificate

October 13, 2006 Long Form Birth Cert ordered with expediated shipping

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5-20 business days for the Green Card to arrive, maybe I'll be back to see my family before Christmas?

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Kajikit   65

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He can't blackmail you just because he's your husband. You need to collect your evidence and go to the police. And go ahead and divorce him because he sounds like he well and truly deserves it...

Karen - Melbourne, Australia/John - Florida, USA

- Proposal (20 August 2000) to marriage (19 December 2004) - 4 years, 3 months, 25 days (1,578 days)

STAGE 1 - Applying for K1 (15 September 2003) to K1 Approval (13 July 2004) - 9 months, 29 days (303 days)

STAGE 2A - Arriving in US (4 Nov 2004) to AOS Application (16 April 2005) - 5 months, 13 days (164 days)

STAGE 2B - Applying for AOS to GC Approval - 9 months, 4 days (279 days)

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He can't blackmail you just because he's your husband. You need to collect your evidence and go to the police. And go ahead and divorce him because he sounds like he well and truly deserves it...

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tomjerry,

Three suggestions:

- Get your own individual bank account immediately, if you haven't already.

- Have a consultation with a divorce attorney to review your situation and discuss your options not only for divorce but also for how to deal with the overdrawn bank account and your husband's outstanding bills.

- When you sort out the divorce issue, have a consultation with an immigration attorney to be sure that you understand correctly how the divorce situation affects an application for removal of conditions.

Yodrak

Hello, Everyone here:

I feel lukcy that I just found this forum here. like found my family.

Like some of you do, I am also in a complicated case.

I had F-1 visa before I met my husband. And then I met him, and got married with him on 2004 May. on August 2005, we passed our interview, and now I am in the process of waitting for removing conditions on residency.

It started this March, I got a letter regarding the joint account my husband and I have, there was negative one thousand dollars balance since last October, and luckily, it was already paid off. (My husband paid it off) and this April, I got another letter from the same bank regarding the same account, there is -3500 balance, due to a fraud check cashed by my husband. Then I tried to talk with him...and he tried to lie to me. ... anyway....after almost one month discussion and argument with him... He wanted me to pay the money for him, and I asked him where the money go, and he didn't want me know.He started to not to come home...and even terminated his cellphone number... and started from then, I realized he has some other woman outside, and he has been with that woman for a while...that's why since last year, he started to treate me worse and worse...its a long story...

And now the bank is asking me for money(since its joint accouont)...and also I just realized he used the fraud check under the same name and cashed another 2000 dollars in another bank (that's his own account, my name is not there).

I tried to contact him...but unable to. He has been back for almost one month already. and contacted me only twice, nothing but ask me for money and said If I dont pay, then he's going to divorce.

I just can not believe I really married this man, how can a person be totally different few years ago and few years now. And today, I just know that he is fired by his company, because of his absense, suspended driver license and dishonesty.

On my table, are all his bills...cellphone, insurance, warning letter from the bank....but I am unable to find him. (tried to reach his grandpa, grandpa said he doesn't get in touch with my husband for a long long time)

In my case, we will not submit the application for removing condition on residency until June 2007. I really dont know what I can do between now to then...since he is threateing me for divorcing and want me to pay for him. I am still studying in the school and even financied my tution, where can I find that 3000 dollars to pay for him. besides, if I paid once, I may have to pay twice, again and again...

I can not stand for his threating again and again...and all these stresses. I really want to divorce with him. But can I divorce with him now? If I divorce with him right now...am I going to be back to my F-1 Visa or I will just lost my identity...

Can anybody give me some suggestions or advices? I would really appreciate that. Thank you for the patience of reading my long story.

I wish god bless all of us.

I wish tough days can finally pass. I wish I can get through.

Thanks

Kajikit,

Why the police? I don't see anything in tomjerry's post that warrants police involvement.

Yodrak

He can't blackmail you just because he's your husband. You need to collect your evidence and go to the police. And go ahead and divorce him because he sounds like he well and truly deserves it...
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motu   6

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I agree with Yodrak's suggestions - I know that you are stuck with paying off the bank as you are jointly liable and they can go after whosoever they choose (and since you seem to be the only one with money at this point, they will go after the one they can recover their money from.)

Immidiately get your own account and consult with an attorney about divorce proceedings and I have read here before that you can lift condidions on your own (after divorce) if the marriage was entered into in 'good faith'. I think all in all its good that you can take care of these things now and the sooner you do it the sooner you can step into the next (and better) phase of life. Best of Luck

2005

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July 21 Interview in Bogota ** Approved ** Very Easy!

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Oct 19 Mailed AOS Packet to Chicago

2006

Feb 17 AOS interview in Denver. Biometrics also done today! (Interviewing officer ordered them.)

Apr 25 Green card received

2008

Removal of conditions

March 17 Refiled using new I-751 form

April 16 Biometrics done

July 10 Green card production ordered

2009

Citizenship

Jan 20 filed N400

Feb 04 NOA date

Feb 24 Biometrics

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June 10 Oath Ceremony - Teikyo Loretto Heights, Denver, Colorado

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Thank you all for your suggestions.

I guess I have to talk with an lawyer to solve the join account problem first, and I already have my personal bank account.

My friends told me the police will be involved because of the fraud check he wrote. He said he got the check from a lady who pay him for a used car. and we called the owner of the check, she said she lost her wallet and the account has been closed long time ago.

I was thinking to pay off the balance, but people told me if I pay once, there will be twice, and more and more...

I talked with an lawyer assistant on the phone last week, she said their law office doesn't accept case like this, since whenever it is involved with marriage and join account, its a tough case and issue.

I am worrying now that when the police involved, what will happen to me...

I can not find him anywhere, and he doesn't contact me. almost go crazy...

Thanks for all of your kindness. I hope the tough days will pass soon.

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Thank you all for your suggestions.

I guess I have to talk with an lawyer to solve the join account problem first, and I already have my personal bank account.

My friends told me the police will be involved because of the fraud check he wrote. He said he got the check from a lady who pay him for a used car. and we called the owner of the check, she said she lost her wallet and the account has been closed long time ago.

I was thinking to pay off the balance, but people told me if I pay once, there will be twice, and more and more...

I talked with an lawyer assistant on the phone last week, she said their law office doesn't accept case like this, since whenever it is involved with marriage and join account, its a tough case and issue.

I am worrying now that when the police involved, what will happen to me...

I can not find him anywhere, and he doesn't contact me. almost go crazy...

Thanks for all of your kindness. I hope the tough days will pass soon.

First off, being jointly liable for debts or bank overdrafts is one thing if the account is in your name also, being jointly culpable for any wrong doing is quite another matter. This matter shouldn't have any impact on your status.

That said, I'm a little confused.

Who was the individual that supposedly passed the fraudulent check? Your husband? Or the woman who supposedly bought the vehicle? The way I read your post, and correct me if I am wrong, your husband sold a used car to a woman who paid him by check. Instead of depositing it in the joint account he cashed it at the bank. Is that correct? The woman who wrote the check had closed the account and therefore the funds were not there. How then was the money somehow withdrawn from the joint account? Or was it that he deposited the check, which was later returned from the issuing bank as NSF and your husband had already drawn the money from the joint account?

Either way you slice it, from my interpretation your husband would not be the individual passing bad checks, but perhaps I am missing something here.

If he is responsible in some way for manipulating your bank accounts, unfortunately as a married couple there would be little recourse, since what's his is yours and vice versa normally in the marital context, unles you had some other written stipulation. If you are intent on separating and pursuing a divorce, or even taking a time out to better determine what to do with your marriage, then I agree with Yodrak, that you'd be best off to separate your banking functions right away so that he doesn't have access to your income/savings in the future. The matter of the funds he has already accessed fraudulently (if that is indeed the case) could be addressed in any mediation and settlement conference, I suppose.

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yodrak,

ultimately tho, isnt the USC responsible anyway? he would have to have signed an I864 that says he is responsible for her, yes?

am i wrong?

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and only then, will you find the meaning of happiness."

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you gonna keep your residency, you don't need him he is an #######!!! you will file without him

I feel lukcy that I just found this forum here. like found my family.

Like some of you do, I am also in a complicated case.

I had F-1 visa before I met my husband. And then I met him, and got married with him on 2004 May. on August 2005, we passed our interview, and now I am in the process of waitting for removing conditions on residency.

It started this March, I got a letter regarding the joint account my husband and I have, there was negative one thousand dollars balance since last October, and luckily, it was already paid off. (My husband paid it off) and this April, I got another letter from the same bank regarding the same account, there is -3500 balance, due to a fraud check cashed by my husband. Then I tried to talk with him...and he tried to lie to me. ... anyway....after almost one month discussion and argument with him... He wanted me to pay the money for him, and I asked him where the money go, and he didn't want me know.He started to not to come home...and even terminated his cellphone number... and started from then, I realized he has some other woman outside, and he has been with that woman for a while...that's why since last year, he started to treate me worse and worse...its a long story...

And now the bank is asking me for money(since its joint accouont)...and also I just realized he used the fraud check under the same name and cashed another 2000 dollars in another bank (that's his own account, my name is not there).

I tried to contact him...but unable to. He has been back for almost one month already. and contacted me only twice, nothing but ask me for money and said If I dont pay, then he's going to divorce.

I just can not believe I really married this man, how can a person be totally different few years ago and few years now. And today, I just know that he is fired by his company, because of his absense, suspended driver license and dishonesty.

On my table, are all his bills...cellphone, insurance, warning letter from the bank....but I am unable to find him. (tried to reach his grandpa, grandpa said he doesn't get in touch with my husband for a long long time)

In my case, we will not submit the application for removing condition on residency until June 2007. I really dont know what I can do between now to then...since he is threateing me for divorcing and want me to pay for him. I am still studying in the school and even financied my tution, where can I find that 3000 dollars to pay for him. besides, if I paid once, I may have to pay twice, again and again...

I can not stand for his threating again and again...and all these stresses. I really want to divorce with him. But can I divorce with him now? If I divorce with him right now...am I going to be back to my F-1 Visa or I will just lost my identity...

Can anybody give me some suggestions or advices? I would really appreciate that. Thank you for the patience of reading my long story.

I wish god bless all of us.

I wish tough days can finally pass. I wish I can get through.

Thanks

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I'm happy you found this forum too as it seems you have been given great advice. I hope you just make sure you protect yourself and remove your name, if you can, from any joint accounts. Make sure you are not linked with anything else he does. From the reading I have done, I believe you can file without him as your marriage was entered into with good faith. Good Luck!

Doreen

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6/14/03 Met Online

9/30/2003 He was denied a Tourist Visa

1/7/2004 Sent 1-129F-tried to prove hardship; many reasons

8/8/2004 Petition denied

After 214 Days of waiting

10/11/2004 Returned from Morocco even more in love.

11/15/2004 Mailed I-129F off to Nebraska

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86 Days what an awesome feeling

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b]INTERVIEW DATE 5/10/05[/b]

3/31/05 Fiance finally receives his packet from the consulate

4/12/05 He had medical exam

5/10/05 INTERVIEW WAS A SUCCESS

5/18/05 VISA IN HAND

Took 214 Days for a denial, but IN 205 days He will be HOME

6/10/05 Abdou arrives in America, what a happy day!

6/13/05 Applied for SSN

6/23/05 6 p.m. We were MARRIED; honeymoon in Gatlinburg

8/13/05 AOS and EAD paperwork mailed

8/25/05 NOAs in the mail!!! Yea!

11/25/05 - BIOMETRIC DATE

01/26/06 - AOS SUCCESSFUL INTERVIEW AND HE GETS HIS FIRST JOB AT FIRST JOB INTERVIEW

02/13/06 - GREEN CARD ARRIVED

4/22/06 - Driver's License!!

11/05/2007 Filed to Lift conditions[/color]

11/07/07 - NOA1 received

12/21/07 - Biometrics completed

04/08/08 - 10 YEAR CARD APPROVED

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11/3/08 - Filed for Citizenship

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If we could only find out what the husband's side of the story is.

Would it matter to you.....jeez...as going by your posts it always seems to be the immigrant that is at fault and wanting to do wrong by the USC :angry:

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