CAUGHT CHEATING............

[Ban Hammer 13,345]

HI!THERE..I JUST WANT TO KNOW YOUR ANSWER AND OPINION......WHAT IF YOU FIND OUT THAT YOUR MAN/WOMAN IS CHEATING ON YOU(like having an affair with other woman/man).....YOU GONNA FORGIVE IF THEY ASK..AND FORGET?(jus like nothing happen).......

oh i'd be really upset if my spouse had an affair with another woman

and i didn't get to watch

[sj5 4]

HI!THERE..I JUST WANT TO KNOW YOUR ANSWER AND OPINION......WHAT IF YOU FIND OUT THAT YOUR MAN/WOMAN IS CHEATING ON YOU(like having an affair with other woman/man).....YOU GONNA FORGIVE IF THEY ASK..AND FORGET?(jus like nothing happen).......

oh i'd be really upset if my spouse had an affair with another woman

and i didn't get to watch

who do not feel bad?

[sj5 4]

it's a totally different thing when marriage is involve...its a commitment.. an oath... under God, under law... its a mistake and a huge sin... and yet it can be forgiven... though not forgotten... depends on how deep the love is, and how much you want to give second chances... but... once is enough... two is too much.. and three is you should stop!

Remember one of the TEN COMMANDMENTS.

[wizardfitz 13]

As far as i am concerend there is no forgive and forget. once a cheater always a cheater. that person has broken my trust and without trust there is nothing to build on.

[Dr. A ♥ O 203]

I would be as mature about a cheating husband as this:

[Sylvia_n_Joseph 3]

Mine comes from a culture that allows multiple wives. His father has 2 and I have met both of them . His culture also calls for him to " marry" his brother widow in certain cases. If we are spending our time in his country as we plan to as we get older I am not sure how all of this will play out Right now he is saying only one wife. But will this change in time ? ( I also understand that his culture allows me to have a wife )

Is it cheating if your spouse has multiple wives ? I am NOT refering to in the US where it isn't legal , but if you are in a place that is it allowed .

can a woman have two or more husband?

is not cheating if permitted to have another spouse

No I can't have more than one husband ... but I can have a wife . A woman that will help in the house and such and will be considered legally part of the family .

Mine comes from a culture that allows multiple wives. His father has 2 and I have met both of them . His culture also calls for him to " marry" his brother widow in certain cases. If we are spending our time in his country as we plan to as we get older I am not sure how all of this will play out Right now he is saying only one wife. But will this change in time ? ( I also understand that his culture allows me to have a wife )

Is it cheating if your spouse has multiple wives ? I am NOT refering to in the US where it isn't legal , but if you are in a place that is it allowed .

can a woman have two or more husband?

is not cheating if permitted to have another spouse

No I can't have more than one husband ... but I can have a wife . A woman that will help in the house and such and will be considered legally part of the family .

[caybee 21]

I was in a 9 year relationship once - not married. At year 7 he cheated and we broke up - for a while. He came back, apologetic, saying it was a mistake and he didn't mean it and let's continue our relationship. It was painful and took me some time to re-consider. Finally, I agreed to give it another try. He was fine for about a month and then he felt I was supposed to be able to pretend it had never happened. I didn't harp on it or anything, but I couldn't help feeling insecure. I had told him when we got back together that it would take time for me to rebuild my trust in him and that he had to work on showing me he was trustworthy. He seemed to think that meant we went right back to how everything had been before he cheated. He kept getting angry that I was still feeling uncertain and hesitant and he felt that a month was long enough. Well, you can guess the story. It didn't work out - it took another 2 years of me ending the relationship, him pleading to get back together, and me giving it 'one more try'. I finally got enough backbone to end it once and for all even while he kept pleading his undying love and that he wanted us to be together forever. He continued trying to get me back for 3 months after we ended the relationship once and for all. He hadn't changed his spots though - I found out that all of the time he was professing his undying love and wanting to get back together he was seeing someone else. He moved in with her 2 months after I ended it for good. He had told her we had broken up a year earlier than we actually had. I don't know if she ever found out the truth or not. They are still together as far as I know.

On the other hand, a good friend of mine's husband cheated on her. They separated for a while and he realized just how much his wife and their marriage really meant to him. When she agreed to forgive him the two of them worked very hard to put their life back together. Their marriage is one of the strongest ones I know. He adores her and would never, ever do anything again to jeopardize their marriage or to risk losing her.

I think it depends on the circumstances and the individuals involved.

Excellent post.

[DeadPoolX 9]

I don't know how I'd react. I've never been in that situation (and I hope I never will be either), but since I haven't experienced it firsthand, I can't say my actions would be the same as whatever I state right now. I know I'd feel extremely hurt and betrayed. That much I can say for certain.

Would I immediately call of our marriage? I'm not sure. It might depend on the circumstances involved and who she cheated with too. For instance, if my wife slept with someone else because I was ignoring her, then I couldn't very well place all of the blame on her shoulders. Cheating would still be wrong, of course, but if someone in a relationship is continually neglected and all attempts to fix the problem are turned away, the chances of either the complete dissolution of the marriage or infidelity (or perhaps both) becomes incredibly great.

Who the husband or wife sleeps with outside the marriage might also have an effect on the cheated spouse. If a man or woman goes to bed with a virtually unknown person, with no connection to their significant other, the overall trauma inflicted by the act would be far less than if he or she cheated with their spouse's sibling, parent, or best friend. It would still hurt a great deal, but most people generally don't place the same level of trust in strangers as they would with family or friends. That sort of betrayal would be twice as painful.

Just for the record, I am not -- in any shape or form -- condoning infidelity at all in the second paragraph. I am merely stating that sometimes people cheat for more reasons than simply "some dude or chick was really hot" and they just had to "get a piece of that." It's no excuse and certainly not a way to validate the behavior, but it might explain it to some degree.

Edited March 22, 2008 by DeadPoolX

[doodlebugg 10]

Mine comes from a culture that allows multiple wives. His father has 2 and I have met both of them . His culture also calls for him to " marry" his brother widow in certain cases. If we are spending our time in his country as we plan to as we get older I am not sure how all of this will play out Right now he is saying only one wife. But will this change in time ? ( I also understand that his culture allows me to have a wife )

Is it cheating if your spouse has multiple wives ? I am NOT refering to in the US where it isn't legal , but if you are in a place that is it allowed .

you're saying the nigerian culture allows you, the wife, to have a wife?

[Mina76 0]

Everyone is different, I would try not to judge anyone who stays with their partner after something like this.

BUT FOR ME?

Im done!!

Its completely unacceptable behavior. There is absolutley NO excuse for it.... If you are thinking or actually cheating on someone, leave the relationship- then go wh*re around all you want!

I am grateful I have never had to experience anything like this.

Im sorry to anyone who has

Lisa

Me too!!!

I also agree that it's completely unacceptable behavior, why bother getting married in the first place!

[Sylvia_n_Joseph 3]

Mine comes from a culture that allows multiple wives. His father has 2 and I have met both of them . His culture also calls for him to " marry" his brother widow in certain cases. If we are spending our time in his country as we plan to as we get older I am not sure how all of this will play out Right now he is saying only one wife. But will this change in time ? ( I also understand that his culture allows me to have a wife )

Is it cheating if your spouse has multiple wives ? I am NOT refering to in the US where it isn't legal , but if you are in a place that is it allowed .

yes as I understand the culture I am allowed a wife I become basically a guardian and provider and she becomes a helper

you're saying the nigerian culture allows you, the wife, to have a wife?

[SnowyTater 0]

I gotta say it'd totally depend I don't see it EVER happening but I guess you never know. If it was just a sex thing and prolonged, and just completely disrespectful, then yeh it's over. But do have to say if we'd been having difficulties in our marriage, we're both really busy or I haven't been paying enough attention to him, or if he genuinely started having feelings for someone else and let that go too far, then I'm not gonna call it all off immediately. Of course I'd be really disappointed and upset and we'd have a lot to deal with, and it could end in us being apart, but my fiance's his whole other separate person, he's not like an objectified dog that has to constantly prove himself to me or anything. People screw up sometimes.

Having said that, I might do some of the things done in Olivia's wonderful pictures, though

[JVKn'CVO 11]

I would be as mature about a cheating husband as this:

Lol those are creepy, but a little funny!

Saludos,

Caro

Edited March 22, 2008 by JVKn'CVO

[jego ryu 0]

I would be as mature about a cheating husband as this:

this is the natural reaction of the woman.....when she find out her partner that she really love is cheating,,,,,you cant blame her.....

[Aymerlu 3]

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always preserves."

1 Corinthians 13:4-

" Thou shalt not commit adultery"

Exodus 20:14