CAUGHT CHEATING............

[jego ryu 0]

HI!THERE..I JUST WANT TO KNOW YOUR ANSWER AND OPINION......WHAT IF YOU FIND OUT THAT YOUR MAN/WOMAN IS CHEATING ON YOU(like having an affair with other woman/man).....YOU GONNA FORGIVE IF THEY ASK..AND FORGET?(jus like nothing happen).......

Edited March 22, 2008 by jego ryu

[amerasianlove 0]

HI!THERE..I JUST WANT TO KNOW YOUR ANSWER AND OPINION......WHAT IF YOU FIND OUT THAT YOUR MAN/WOMAN IS CHEATING ON YOU(like having other woman/man).....YOU GONNA FORGIVE IF THEY ASK..AND FORGET?(jus like nothing happen).......

I always believe if you really respect and love your partner you will always be faithful to him/her at any cost,

For me cheating is not acceptable for any reasons,one of the most essential foundations of a succesful relationship is TRUST right?BUT...........if her/his repentance is gunuine and you can see that your partner is sincere with his actions then give him/her a second chance BUT..........if he/she did it again..thats the time you have to move on with your own life.

[Jesse and Hema 2]

Nope.

If a person does it once, it means they don't understand the meaning of true love and commitment. Plain and simple.

Same goes in cases of abuse.

To anyone out there (but mostly to the women), don't put up with any #### like this, ever. Nobody deserves abuse or infidelity. I've seen too many cases where it was tolerated for way too long.....

[~Laura and Nick~ 5]

Well first I'd confront him about it if I found out.

It all depends on the situation if I would be willing to work it out (Like if it was an isolated incident or something happening over a long period of time) but with my Nick....

I would be completely heartbroken and devastated but if he was genuinely sorry and wanted to work it out, I would do what I could to work through it.

I would never forget but I think if we were able to work through it, we would be that much stronger.

Now I'm done thinking about this subject cause it makes me sad.

Are you ok hon?

[amerasianlove 0]

Nope.

If a person does it once, it means they don't understand the meaning of true love and commitment. Plain and simple.

Same goes in cases of abuse.

To anyone out there (but mostly to the women), don't put up with any #### like this, ever. Nobody deserves abuse or infidelity. I've seen too many cases where it was tolerated for way too long.....

Everyone deserves a second chance BUT if u had enough then thats the time u have to give up and move on.

thats only my own personal opinion.

IS A THIRD CHANCE considered?

When it comes to physical abuse..OH NO!!! run for your life!!!!!!!!!

[amerasianlove 0]

Well first I'd confront him about it if I found out.

It all depends on the situation if I would be willing to work it out (Like if it was an isolated incident or something happening over a long period of time)

I totally agree with you dear Laura.

To all the people here keep on checking your partners email account..just kidding!

I might offend someone here.

[✿Ice Rain✿ 0]

Hi,

When i love the person , it means i love him at his best and at his worst.

With this scenario you gave, if the person don't love us anymore is why he/she cheats , i think its better to let go of this person..

It's hard at first but time will heal the broken heart..

[Nessa 23]

yes, I'd forgive and forget. Betrayal doesn't bother me. I'd love to stay in a relationship where I can't trust my partner and he has no respect for me.

[Jesse and Hema 2]

Well first I'd confront him about it if I found out.

It all depends on the situation if I would be willing to work it out (Like if it was an isolated incident or something happening over a long period of time) but with my Nick....

I would be completely heartbroken and devastated but if he was genuinely sorry and wanted to work it out, I would do what I could to work through it.

I would never forget but I think if we were able to work through it, we would be that much stronger.

Now I'm done thinking about this subject cause it makes me sad.

Are you ok hon?

Of course they cheating party will be apologetic. They always are. That's not the issue here. The issue is that the cheating party does not have an accurate understanding of what it means to be committed. Not only are they likely to do it again, but even if he/she does not, other aspects of the relationship will start to fail. This will either be fallout from the compromised trust, or from the lack of commitment that caused the adultery in the first place.

Consider this. If your partner can't stay loyal to you now, what about if you develop some health condition that requires caring assistance? Would you really count on his/her loyalty then?

In cases where these things happen, it's not true love.

No second chances...

[brnidokiegurl 0]

Is this a full blown affair for sure? if yes then no probably no second chance , if they have u then why the need for someone else

[~krakatoa~ 27]

I'd probably just walk away.

[~Laura and Nick~ 5]

Of course they cheating party will be apologetic. They always are. That's not the issue here. The issue is that the cheating party does not have an accurate understanding of what it means to be committed. Not only are they likely to do it again, but even if he/she does not, other aspects of the relationship will start to fail. This will either be fallout from the compromised trust, or from the lack of commitment that caused the adultery in the first place.

Consider this. If your partner can't stay loyal to you now, what about if you develop some health condition that requires caring assistance? Would you really count on his/her loyalty then?

In cases where these things happen, it's not true love.

No second chances...

Everyone is different and I would give that second chance purely on the fact that I love my Nicholas.

I can say this now though because I don't know what it feels like to have him cheat on me (I know I never will)

I don't know exactly how I would react.

I also don't know if I even WOULD be able to work through it.

Some people can turn a leaf, sometimes people do have a moment of weakness (We are human after all) and sometimes people deserve second chances.

I agree to disagree. I believe in the second chance and I have faith that it could work out.

[amerasianlove 0]

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always preserves."

1 Corinthians 13:4-

[Jesse and Hema 2]

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always preserves."

1 Corinthians 13:4-

Glad to see someone take my side

[✿Ice Rain✿ 0]

I agree with Laura.

Everyone is different and I would give that second chance purely on the fact that I love my Nicholas.

I can say this now though because I don't know what it feels like to have him cheat on me (I know I never will)

I don't know exactly how I would react.

I also don't know if I even WOULD be able to work through it.

Some people can turn a leaf, sometimes people do have a moment of weakness (We are human after all) and sometimes people deserve second chances.

I agree to disagree. I believe in the second chance and I have faith that it could work out.