How often does beneficiary return to hometown?

[Alex+R 0]

He goes when he wants to and has the money, I think. He didn't go home at all last year.

I tried to get him a ticket with frequent flyer miles for christmas, but that didn't work so we went to Europe instead. He's going to Brazil by himself in June because I'll be working in California.

I think he'll probably go once a year and I'll probably go once ever other year or every three years.

[*JG* 2]

My husband hasn't been back in nearly 2 years. Looks like it will be at least another year, if our finances even cooperate then.

He hasn't pushed to go back one bit.

My husband hasn't been back in nearly 2 years. Looks like it will be at least another year, if our finances even cooperate then.

He hasn't pushed to go back one bit.

[chri'stina 190]

Sujeet's first trip back was after a year and a half..would have been sooner but his time off and finances were an issue. Since then it's been once a year. Actually I don't think that's enough and wish he could go twice a year. He has gone by himself each time. It costs a lot to fly to India, anywhere from $1000-1300 for one person. We hope that me and Kavi can go on the next trip, maybe the end of this year. It's going to cost a lot though.

He misses his family, but they miss him even more, he has neices that love him a lot like a 2nd father, and I truly wish and hope he can start going 2 times a year eventually. Me and Kavi would probably only go once a year or so. I can't imagine only seeing my family once a year, that would be very hard and sad for me.

[Alex+R 0]

I can't imagine only seeing my family once a year, that would be very hard and sad for me.

Me too! As it is I don't see them enough. Maybe four times a year, except for the year I lived in Minneapolis. I could probably never live overseas for more than 2 or 3 years at a time unless I could spend at least three weeks a year with my family. I don't know how people are able to do live far from family; I couldn't find the strength without getting depressed.

We just visited Rey's brother in Spain last week, and his other brother spent Christmas with my family in Minnesota, but he hasn't seen his mom or sister in 14 months!

[Jenn! 918]

It's been over 2 years and he hasn't been back yet. The way it looks right now, we will be going in one year. It's a long time, and I wish he (or we) could go more frequently, but it just hasn't worked out that way, unfortunately.

[Amby 490]

Neil has his mom in England but really has no desire to visit her. He'd rather go other places instead of England. It's been over a year and not sure when we will go to England. We're planning a trip to Montreal in a few months and then Hawaii this summer so who knows

[sparkofcreation 0]

It's been 4 years since my husband has been back to the UK, although his mum and stepdad have visited twice. We're going over there in October of this year.

Ideally I'd say we'd do every other year together and the in-between years either he would go by himself or some of his family would visit here.

I try to see my own family at least once a year, they live on the other side of the US.

My best friend's husband is from Pakistan and they go back about once every 3 years and his parents visit here with about the same frequency. (My friend and her husband go during our winter to escape the cold--his parents visit during our summer because that's the only way they can stand it!) So he sees his family about once every 18 months.

Edited March 26, 2008 by sparkofcreation

[Nick/Nadia Bluma 0]

We are shooting for once every year minimum, but I'm sure that will change once we have kids (either way.)

My husband and I agreed on once a year. However, for the first year that I am over there, we will tour the states, get me settled and grounded in our new life. Thereafter, once a year....... A good deal for me!

[Imua 0]

We are hoping to go back once a year(hopefully during Dashain(like Nepali Christmas ) if we can both get the time off) but I don't know how realistic that will be - it all depends on his job of course, when he gets one. It's very expensive to fly to Nepal(my tickets have cost from $1200-1600 for one person) and we do want to go back for good in a few years so need to save money. I am hoping we can at least go back every other year.

Edited March 26, 2008 by Pattu Rani

[JandC 0]

Well....we'll probably go back to England every 2 years....then my family will come to the USA in between that.

[w¡n9Nµ7 §£@¥€r 123]

Hi all

I don't know if it has been posted before but I really want to know how often do you guys return to your homeland with ur spouse after leaving it for immigrating in the USA?

I had a shocking discussion with my fiance about it. He thinks goin back to Indonesia every other year is too much. I was weeping in the toilet earlier, I think that is very sad that I wont be able to see my family for a while. Instead, he wants me to go by myself. I don't think its fun. Pls give ur answer here folks!

It's been three years since my wife has been back. She will go this summer and the intent is to go over year from here on.

[Cassie 8]

We've been averaging a trip a year. We don't let it go longer than a year gap between trips. This year it looks like I'll be making two trips. Due to health reasons, my parents have been unable to come visit us since the wedding, and it's hard for my brother and his family to travel with two little kids (the cost of tickets for a family of four don't help either!). We'd go back more often if time/money permitted.

The deal my husband and I have made is that if/when I need to go home, we will make the funds available so I can go, no arguments. That way, I don't feel guilty. And I make sure I don't abuse that. If/when we move to Canada, this deal will switch over to him.

[~krakatoa~ 27]

When I didn't have the work, I wanted to go home every 6 months. After a while and considering all other factors such as finances/savings, no. of vacation days from work, my husband's vacation days, we have to postpone things a little.

We are working on saving for our dream house so no major trips except within USA. We miss my family but instead of us travelling, at the end of this year perhaps, we will file for their visitors' visa. We are very positive if a petition will be filed, it will be approved. This is only if we can't take the distance anymore and we can't get the vacation days from work right away.

For me, one advantage of not going back home "too early" (from the day of arrival) is I get over or lessen the emotional attachment I have for my family and start focusing on my married life, adjustments in the States, appreciating the changes. I love my family dearly. My family even wants me not to go home at least 2 years so everybody, including them could adjust to my "absence" and still be as happy as if I am there. We call each other every other weekend. My family is busy too with their lives and work.

[Gaby&Talbert 1]

We have traveled to Mexico twice in the last year and her mother has come here twice. We drove the last time, it was about 14 hours. We are driving again in June for a week. Plane tickets for the 3 of us cost more than the gas. Fortunately we can drive to Mexico but it would be difficult if my wife was from overseas. My wife loves her family and misses them but she understands that she cannot see them as often as she likes. We have a 6 month old baby and my son from a previous marriage has school. Hopefully someday we will be able to move closer so we can visit more. It is important that our baby knows his family in Mexico too.

[Sister Fracas 5]

Hubster will be here 3 years at the end of June and this summer will be his 4th trip back. We went together in the summer of 2006, I stayed for 2 weeks, he stayed for a month. Then last summer he went for two months and we went during the holidays for two weeks (we are going to alternate each holiday season). This summer he will go by himself again for one month. I don't have as much vacation time as he does (he's a teacher), so he'll do most of these summer trips by himself.