This is simply an inhuman process

[kitty loves moudi 0]

Aisha,

I am so sorry to hear of your loss. If there was any greater reason to have a loved one's case expedited, I cannot think of it. I wish for you that your husband will arrive shortly, so that you can mourn together and begin to heal together.

Cat

We are sorry for your loss and keep you in our prayers.

[Nick/Nadia Bluma 0]

Aisha,

I am so sorry to hear of your loss. If there was any greater reason to have a loved one's case expedited, I cannot think of it. I wish for you that your husband will arrive shortly, so that you can mourn together and begin to heal together.

Cat

So sorry for your loss and for the added trauma at USCIS. You're in our prayers

Nick & Nadia

[Amy B. 0]

Aisha,

My heart goes out to you. I am sorry to hear about your loss and the emotional pain that your going through. You and your husband are in my prayers and I pray that you will be reunited and soon. Insha Allaah.

Aisha

[Karramel 0]

So sorry to hear this, this makes me so angry...

In my prayers and the next to hopefully be approved, chin up...

[Linguere 0]

Thank you everyone for your thoughts, suggestions, hopes, prayers and kind words. Sometimes we just have to vent as well. I was honestly thinking that by telling my story I could also send out some love and prayers for all of you. I think until the news picks up stories such as mine and many, many others, USCIS will operate in near secrecy, doing as they please. I have faxed all of my information to my congressman's office and will give that a little bit of time. I will, for whatever it is worth, write something soon and send it wherever I can find. These injustices and operation with impunity should not be allowed by any agency who serves the people. It is only the people who can force it to change.

[CBR 0]

I can't even think of words to express my empathy for you and disgust with the people who turned down your expedite request. I too suffered the loss of a son (stillborn at 36 weeks gestation) so I do understand the pain you are feeling. It is absolutely cruel that they won't allow your husband come here to mourn the loss of your child. It's his child too!! I would like to see your story get media attention and WAKE PEOPLE UP!! This process is incredibly difficult for everyone that goes through it and unbelievably more so for people enduring situations like yours.

You will be in my thoughts & prayers .

[happyinlove012408 0]

I am truly sorry that you have to go through that alone. I don't know what I would have done in your situation. Be strong and may God protect you. I wish you and your husband the very best.

Edited March 20, 2008 by happyinlove012408

[Brian&Mel 0]

I am so sorry to hear about your loss.

You will be in our thoughts

You need to be strong and hope your husband will be by your side soon.

Take care!

[Beauty for Ashes 257]

Greetings VJ Family. I don't post much, but read often. I have been silently waiting and trying to accept that my husband and I may wait a year or more to begin our life together. It makes me wonder about those of us who do things the right and legal way. I understand the need for security checks and the like, but with the prices that we pay, I would certainly expect better services. Because we are so depedent, our very lives are dependent upon approvals, we don't protest, we don't cause any waves and we silently wait. We vent in private anonymous forums to maintain our sanity. If this were for any other service and a company was run so inefficiently as to separate families for sometimes years, there would be massive protests in the street, at the embassies, all around the world. But again, we are prisoners of our love of a non-citizen who choses to do things legally and righteous, despite the costs.

I found out that I was pregnant (a miracle, i had been told that i could not conceive) just a few weeks after my husband left to return to his country. I was going through a terrible crisis at the time and could not sleep or do much of anything. As soon as I found out I was pregnant, I pulled myself together and quickly moved into survival mode. I start planning and figuring out how the heck I would do this by myself until Homeland Security decided that the man that I married could enter the country legally. Unfortunately, on top of everything that I was going through, the baby passed away during the first week of March. It was an emotional trauma like no other. I requested a review for expedited processing since I still had to undergo surgery and I do not have any family in this city. I came here simply to study. They reviewed my request and requested proof. I faxed everything. They sent me an email yesterday saying that it is not an emergency. I called and inquired as to the criteria for an emergency. Did they need to see that I attempted suicide or what? I mean, really, aren't people sometimes let out of jail for funerals? My law-abiding husband cannot come here in the loss of our unborn child and aid me in recovery from surgery? Are they serious? My call was elevated to another representative who informed me that when I petitioned for my husband I stated that I can support HIM in every way, NOT just financially. So, I should not need HIM for anything. I asked the lady if she could imagine being in my position. I said my husband will not be a public charge, but I may if you allow me to suffer here alone through this horrible trauma. She said that I could send everything again and hope that a different human will read the paperwork. WOW. I spoke to my congressman's office and sent everything to his office in hopes that they may look into it. I'm considering writing an article and posting it everywhere. USCIS is a big mess and now Gonzalez has stepped down. Where does that leave such an unorganized, backed up and overloaded with rookie employees organization? I was told, though, by someone else that the only emergencies that are considered now are those of national security. That confuses me a bit because anyone who wanted to do something to the U.S. certainly could not wait this long. They'd do it illegally. This process is way too frustrating, even for criminals.

If I ever become that disconnected from the people that I serve on my job, I will quit. There is more at work in the universe than myself. I am sending out a hope and a prayer for all of those who are suffering through this inhuman, disorganized and ridiculously non-transparent process.

Peace and blessings,

A.

I just received a medical expedite...Based on pregnancy...I have almost lost my baby 2 times and was hosptialised.A miscarriage is not considered a medical emergency.However,if your pregnancy was high risk and you had not lost the baby,it would have been granted..I also only applied at nvc not uscis...which is not a bigtask to do...nvc is another story...What I would do is this,contact your SENATOR and present them with the evidence and ask for help at that level....I waited 6 months for an noa2 so trust me...this has been a long hard haul considering I got married last May and its already the end of march....Im not sure uscis would have approved me...nvc did and i think they get alot fewer cases at that level

I havent seen too many expedites..so I wanted to share what happened with me with you

[Beauty for Ashes 257]

Greetings VJ Family. I don't post much, but read often. I have been silently waiting and trying to accept that my husband and I may wait a year or more to begin our life together. It makes me wonder about those of us who do things the right and legal way. I understand the need for security checks and the like, but with the prices that we pay, I would certainly expect better services. Because we are so depedent, our very lives are dependent upon approvals, we don't protest, we don't cause any waves and we silently wait. We vent in private anonymous forums to maintain our sanity. If this were for any other service and a company was run so inefficiently as to separate families for sometimes years, there would be massive protests in the street, at the embassies, all around the world. But again, we are prisoners of our love of a non-citizen who choses to do things legally and righteous, despite the costs.

I found out that I was pregnant (a miracle, i had been told that i could not conceive) just a few weeks after my husband left to return to his country. I was going through a terrible crisis at the time and could not sleep or do much of anything. As soon as I found out I was pregnant, I pulled myself together and quickly moved into survival mode. I start planning and figuring out how the heck I would do this by myself until Homeland Security decided that the man that I married could enter the country legally. Unfortunately, on top of everything that I was going through, the baby passed away during the first week of March. It was an emotional trauma like no other. I requested a review for expedited processing since I still had to undergo surgery and I do not have any family in this city. I came here simply to study. They reviewed my request and requested proof. I faxed everything. They sent me an email yesterday saying that it is not an emergency. I called and inquired as to the criteria for an emergency. Did they need to see that I attempted suicide or what? I mean, really, aren't people sometimes let out of jail for funerals? My law-abiding husband cannot come here in the loss of our unborn child and aid me in recovery from surgery? Are they serious? My call was elevated to another representative who informed me that when I petitioned for my husband I stated that I can support HIM in every way, NOT just financially. So, I should not need HIM for anything. I asked the lady if she could imagine being in my position. I said my husband will not be a public charge, but I may if you allow me to suffer here alone through this horrible trauma. She said that I could send everything again and hope that a different human will read the paperwork. WOW. I spoke to my congressman's office and sent everything to his office in hopes that they may look into it. I'm considering writing an article and posting it everywhere. USCIS is a big mess and now Gonzalez has stepped down. Where does that leave such an unorganized, backed up and overloaded with rookie employees organization? I was told, though, by someone else that the only emergencies that are considered now are those of national security. That confuses me a bit because anyone who wanted to do something to the U.S. certainly could not wait this long. They'd do it illegally. This process is way too frustrating, even for criminals.

If I ever become that disconnected from the people that I serve on my job, I will quit. There is more at work in the universe than myself. I am sending out a hope and a prayer for all of those who are suffering through this inhuman, disorganized and ridiculously non-transparent process.

Peace and blessings,

A.You will have better luck with your senator because they deal with federal agencies...Im so sorry....this has been the worst year of my life too

[Linguere 0]

Greetings VJ Family. I don't post much, but read often. I have been silently waiting and trying to accept that my husband and I may wait a year or more to begin our life together. It makes me wonder about those of us who do things the right and legal way. I understand the need for security checks and the like, but with the prices that we pay, I would certainly expect better services. Because we are so depedent, our very lives are dependent upon approvals, we don't protest, we don't cause any waves and we silently wait. We vent in private anonymous forums to maintain our sanity. If this were for any other service and a company was run so inefficiently as to separate families for sometimes years, there would be massive protests in the street, at the embassies, all around the world. But again, we are prisoners of our love of a non-citizen who choses to do things legally and righteous, despite the costs.

I found out that I was pregnant (a miracle, i had been told that i could not conceive) just a few weeks after my husband left to return to his country. I was going through a terrible crisis at the time and could not sleep or do much of anything. As soon as I found out I was pregnant, I pulled myself together and quickly moved into survival mode. I start planning and figuring out how the heck I would do this by myself until Homeland Security decided that the man that I married could enter the country legally. Unfortunately, on top of everything that I was going through, the baby passed away during the first week of March. It was an emotional trauma like no other. I requested a review for expedited processing since I still had to undergo surgery and I do not have any family in this city. I came here simply to study. They reviewed my request and requested proof. I faxed everything. They sent me an email yesterday saying that it is not an emergency. I called and inquired as to the criteria for an emergency. Did they need to see that I attempted suicide or what? I mean, really, aren't people sometimes let out of jail for funerals? My law-abiding husband cannot come here in the loss of our unborn child and aid me in recovery from surgery? Are they serious? My call was elevated to another representative who informed me that when I petitioned for my husband I stated that I can support HIM in every way, NOT just financially. So, I should not need HIM for anything. I asked the lady if she could imagine being in my position. I said my husband will not be a public charge, but I may if you allow me to suffer here alone through this horrible trauma. She said that I could send everything again and hope that a different human will read the paperwork. WOW. I spoke to my congressman's office and sent everything to his office in hopes that they may look into it. I'm considering writing an article and posting it everywhere. USCIS is a big mess and now Gonzalez has stepped down. Where does that leave such an unorganized, backed up and overloaded with rookie employees organization? I was told, though, by someone else that the only emergencies that are considered now are those of national security. That confuses me a bit because anyone who wanted to do something to the U.S. certainly could not wait this long. They'd do it illegally. This process is way too frustrating, even for criminals.

If I ever become that disconnected from the people that I serve on my job, I will quit. There is more at work in the universe than myself. I am sending out a hope and a prayer for all of those who are suffering through this inhuman, disorganized and ridiculously non-transparent process.

Peace and blessings,

A.You will have better luck with your senator because they deal with federal agencies...Im so sorry....this has been the worst year of my life too

Thank you for that information. That is contrary to what my congressman's office told me, so it's always good to know that there is hope. I believe you are right that there are fewer requests at NVC. I have just sent a letter about my story, not with my receipt numbers or anything, to every single member of the house subcommittee that overseas USCIS. I wanted them to read a personal story behind all of the testiony of Gonzalez and the news stories. I think I will also follow your advice and send a letter to my senator. I had planned to ask for an expedite after reading that it was possible with a high-risk pregnancy but was waiting for the doctor's appointment to do so. It was already too late. According to what the USCIS representative told me, I'm not allowed to need my husband emotionally or in any way. I am supposed to support HIM in every way, not just financially. That is what she told me. I felt like I was talking ot a machine. I will continue to fight. My husband and I are moving through the days like zombies just trying to survive. There can be no healing, no grieving and progression while we remain apart. Thank you for your message and I wish you the very best in reuniting with your husband. You are in my prayers.