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[TracyTN 237]

I also agree Melissa that your parents love you and if they truly want your happiness, they will eventually come around, even if they are disappointed and sad at the thought of you moving to Mexico. For a long time, I thought my parents would be against me moving to Mexico too until my mom finally came out and told me one day that my place was at my husband's side and actually ENCOURAGED me to move. True sacrifice on her part, as it was very hard for her to have me move down there, and they even tell me know they thought we'd never move back once I went down there. While I realize your situation with your parents can be different, don't short change them. Open up to them, explain the situation (just the illegal part if you're not comfortable with explaining the other reason behind Javier's visa denial), and see what happens. You could be pleasantly surprised Parents wnat their children's happiness even when it means sacrifice on their parts.

Excellent post.

[mikeize 0]

Sorry to hear about this 'Liss. (I know I'm late to find out). It really sucks. For what it's worth, I do believe that to make it through such trying times bodes well for your future relationship, and in fact will make it MUCH stronger. Good luck.

-mike

[faith 0]

I know that feeling. I was too frightened to tell my parents that Chris and I were getting married. I made him do it

*hugs*

It's a hard one.

I've been married every time I've been pregnant, and I was STILL afraid to tell my dad. That is an admission I was having sex

Hey... since being voted a VJ ho... WE at least know your having sex.... even if your dad doesn't

I believe my bulging pregnant belly tells everyone I'm having sex too heheh VJ ho, I had almost forgotten about that!

[Traviesa 0]

Sorry to hear about this 'Liss. (I know I'm late to find out). It really sucks. For what it's worth, I do believe that to make it through such trying times bodes well for your future relationship, and in fact will make it MUCH stronger. Good luck.

-mike

Thanks Mike! I know you're right, but it's still no fun...

Just to let you all know, after sitting down and thinking about things (and talking to Lisa, who for some reason has the power to make everything crystal clear) I think one way or another we'll be able to work this out. Forgive me for my little tirades-sometimes when you're already down, another bump can seem devastating when it really is just a bump. Thanks for the patience and knocking-of-sense back into me.

[faith 0]

Sorry to hear about this 'Liss. (I know I'm late to find out). It really sucks. For what it's worth, I do believe that to make it through such trying times bodes well for your future relationship, and in fact will make it MUCH stronger. Good luck.

-mike

Thanks Mike! I know you're right, but it's still no fun...

Just to let you all know, after sitting down and thinking about things (and talking to Lisa, who for some reason has the power to make everything crystal clear) I think one way or another we'll be able to work this out. Forgive me for my little tirades-sometimes when you're already down, another bump can seem devastating when it really is just a bump. Thanks for the patience and knocking-of-sense back into me.

Melissa, you've got to go through the process (crying, desperation, fit throwing, whatever works) in order to get to the point where you can say what you just said. I'm proud of you! You guys are tough, you can make it through this!!!

[Traviesa 0]

Oh my gosh, it's ON!!! I told my mom (and I was nervous as heck)...but I told her! And she seemed ok but she was a little upset...but then it all turned out alright! As I expected, she said "who do you think's going to come to this wedding?" I was prepared with an answer: it doesn't really matter if there's a lot of people there or only a few people there, it's our wedding. She didn't argue! I think she's going to come around...thanks again to all you lovely people for helping me prepare for the difficult encounter...it's DONE!!!

[gwenneh 7]

Congrats on taking that first big step! You need to turn around and take charge of the situation, and that's exactly what you're doing now. Good for you!

[Fandango 1,440]

Mel just remember that sitting at home playing defeatist isn't going to solve your problems...real or 'possibles' either. All that worry does is make ya a basket case!!!

Just keep thinking 'whatever comes up, we will get past it'

[Donna A 4]

hi melissa,

sorry to hear about ur news. i am a little late and not following vj as much as i used to. the last i remember from u was he was denied cuz of the drug admission and u were going to move to mexico to be with him. wow alot has gone on since then.

well just hang in there and everything will work itself out when the time is right.

hope u have ur fairy tale wedding u r hoping for.

donna

[djcess 0]

[mariav 0]

HANG IN THERE AND DO WHAT IT TAKES TO MARRY HIM.THINGS WILL WORK OUT! I WENT THRU A SIMILIAR SITUATION WHERE IT LOOKED LIKE THERE WAS NO HOPE.HANG IN THERE AND DON'T GIVE UP!

[Lizzy 0]

Sorry to hear of this news

[MaryandMian 1]

Melissa I am glad you finally talked to mom and told her your plans. I am praying that all goes well and you have your fairy tale wedding and reunion with Javier.

Mary

[tmma 467]

Mel just remember that sitting at home playing defeatist isn't going to solve your problems...real or 'possibles' either. All that worry does is make ya a basket case!!!

Just keep thinking 'whatever comes up, we will get past it'

Right

You can and will do this.....

Just hold on, you are strong-you have both got this far- make it happen!

All the very best

Michele

[Traviesa 0]

Mel just remember that sitting at home playing defeatist isn't going to solve your problems...real or 'possibles' either. All that worry does is make ya a basket case!!!

Just keep thinking 'whatever comes up, we will get past it'

Lisa, wait-didn't you see?? I told my mom! There's really no going back now...and I found this AWESOME web site that I think is going to give us all the resources we need to plan the thing. This is all good stuff!!!