Bad News

[Traviesa 0]

Ok yes it's just a job...BUT what happens when it's time to support him...and then nobody will hire me since I'm a job hopper. He won't get here.

[pax 0]

You have well over a year and a half to find a job post-wedding if you're thinking of getting married in February 2007, and you're in a growth profession at the moment. Something tells me you will be okay! If nothing else, you can take your CPA (if you haven't already), hang out a shingle, and do taxes. Plenty of accountants make a good living that way.

Melissa, don't what-if yourself to death just yet. Have a talk with HR—if you're talking about needing time off eight months from now, that's plenty of time for them to work something out.

[MichelleandCraig 1]

Even tho it's not best case scenario, you can get a job any old place until you can get one doing what you really want again.and anyway, that's not likely to have to happen with months of advance notice. Most employers I've ever worked for would have been way more understanding that that if you explain the situation in detail. It's a LOT of notice you are able to give them(unfortunately for you guys... :( ) I'm not trying to be arguementative at ALL with you Meliss, just trying to show like the rest that it's not a hopeless situation at all. If you have to take what you can get later(if it comes to that) get a cosponsor if you need to. I had been working at a job for 8 years..only making 10.50/hr (and that's good for this tiny town!) and I had to get one too...it'll be ok is all I'm saying...it just makes me curious when you post like it's over already or something..if you want to be together that bad(and I know ya do) then you will make it happen...M.

[Elizabethnhenry 0]

I am a bit late in finding this post, but just wanted to add my good wishes for you and Javier for the future.

Take good care of each other.

[Traviesa 0]

I am trying to be practical as best I can. I have a good job now which gives me 3 weeks of leave a year and pays me very well. I cannot see running off to marry as an option. I worked too hard to get where I am and I'm not leaving it all behind. Having said that, IF my boss (we have no HR) is willing to work with me, we'll do it. If not, we'll simply have to find another alternative. Thanks for the suggestions.

[pax 0]

I have a good job now which gives me 3 weeks of leave a year and pays me very well.

So...what's the problem, then? I'm not trying to be truculent, but if you have 3 weeks' leave anyway, then...?

[mercuryroad 0]

I am trying to be practical as best I can. I have a good job now which gives me 3 weeks of leave a year and pays me very well. I cannot see running off to marry as an option. I worked too hard to get where I am and I'm not leaving it all behind. Having said that, IF my boss (we have no HR) is willing to work with me, we'll do it. If not, we'll simply have to find another alternative. Thanks for the suggestions.

MissLiss......sorry to hear all of this and I hope a solution presents itself. I was faced with the very real possibility of having to move to Peru. I also have a very good job and have been at my company for 11 years. After a very stressful and agonizing internal debate, I decided I would absolutely move there and leave this behind. It is so difficult because everything is very comfortable and it is tough to let that go. Follow your heart and you will know what to do. Good things happen in the midst of adversity and I'm sure they will happen to you too.

[Traviesa 0]

I have a good job now which gives me 3 weeks of leave a year and pays me very well.

So...what's the problem, then? I'm not trying to be truculent, but if you have 3 weeks' leave anyway, then...?

Logistically speaking, this thing is a nightmare. I had intended to hold the wedding ceremony in February-have the ceremony on a Saturday, then take a week's honeymoon. To fulfill the civil requirement, I was planning a trip in July-a week, to handle all of that. I thought it could be done in a week. The week in July plus 7 days in Feb. were going to be 12 days of leave. I have already used 2 for sickness. That leaves one day. If I scrap the July idea, that means I wait until Feb. to see him and really only have time for the civil ceremony-no honeymoon, no nothing. Now, I was beginning to be certain I'd be able to convince at least my mom to come to the ceremony in Feb. With it being like this (just a civil ceremony) there's no way she's going to be ok with it. I'm trying to do the best thing for everyone involved-not just myself. It's not easy, and please continue to bear with me!

[ChristinaM 0]

Aw, hon; that's too bad.

As you're an accountant, there is always going to be a job for you somewhere. Being a jobhopper isn't the end of the world - trust someone who has only held one job for over a year and is still employed

You will find a way through this, even though it's certainly far from ideal.

[pax 0]

Now, I was beginning to be certain I'd be able to convince at least my mom to come to the ceremony in Feb. With it being like this (just a civil ceremony) there's no way she's going to be ok with it.

*sigh* Melissa, sweetie...you are getting yourself all a-tizzied for no reason. You DON'T know that your job will not grant you the extra unpaid leave. Now you're assuming your mother won't come to your wedding if it's "just" a civil ceremony. Whatever your wedding is—all princess'd out or just the facts, ma'am—it's yours and Javier's ticket to the life you want to have together. You can always re-do it later, stateside or in Mexico, however you like.

PLEASE don't start dooming yourself to failure, as I said. So many folks here are rooting for you and dammit, we want wedding pictures someday.

[rebeccajo 14]

I say screw it and move to Mexico. Permanently.

I'm beginning to wish I had never brought Wes to this h*ll hole.

[irishgirl73 0]

I say screw it and move to Mexico. Permanently.

I'm beginning to wish I had never brought Wes to this h*ll hole.

Would you move there?

[Traviesa 0]

Pax, we'll have to wait until Monday. That's when Javier can call the Migracion and ask questions. We're going to ask if there's any way possible they can do us this teeny tiny favor and help us out for July. After that, I'll know for sure what we're dealing with. Until then, I'm just going to be freaking out and thinking the worst!!! So maybe I will be pleasantly surprised rather than terribly disappointed....

Rebecca, let's go! Bring Wes and we'll all head down to Mexico. Wouldn't that be fun???

[ChristinaM 0]

Is it a possibility for you to move to Mexico and work there, Melissa, or to live near the border and commute into the US for work purposes?

[Traviesa 0]

Is it a possibility for you to move to Mexico and work there, Melissa, or to live near the border and commute into the US for work purposes?

It would be a permanent move, as we wouldn't qualify for Waivers if I was living in Mexico.