What are the legalities of desertion after green card is recieved

[Dennis Miller 0]

I second Mermaid's advice- exuding positive attitude and energy will lift your spirits. Smile, even if you aren't right now, and examine how that makes you feel. Doesn't that feel good?

We understand your loneliness, as we all have experienced it to one degree or another, and my advice is do things for yourself first. Do things that make you happy and don't do things for the sake of attracting someone. When you are happy and energetic and positive, things will just fall into place.

We (aka the VJ community) are here for you and I wish you the best of luck.

Thank you , thank you all~ you are good people!

I was talking to some people on CANDLE FOR LOVE tonight and I heard two possibilities. One was to find someone[chinese speaking] who lives near San Jose CA. to pay a visit to her and find out what is happening if they can determine where she lives or works. There are not many chinese dormitories in San Jose I would not think. The other was a suggestion that she does love me but commited herself to prostitution as payment for mommas operation and/or becoming a LPR This would explain the secrecy, the must go, and how to make that kind of money so quickly. I am SICK about this!!!!

[diadromous mermaid 36]

I second Mermaid's advice- exuding positive attitude and energy will lift your spirits. Smile, even if you aren't right now, and examine how that makes you feel. Doesn't that feel good?

We understand your loneliness, as we all have experienced it to one degree or another, and my advice is do things for yourself first. Do things that make you happy and don't do things for the sake of attracting someone. When you are happy and energetic and positive, things will just fall into place.

We (aka the VJ community) are here for you and I wish you the best of luck.

Thank you , thank you all~ you are good people!

I was talking to some people on CANDLE FOR LOVE tonight and I heard two possibilities. One was to find someone[chinese speaking] who lives near San Jose CA. to pay a visit to her and find out what is happening if they can determine where she lives or works. There are not many chinese dormitories in San Jose I would not think. The other was a suggestion that she does love me but commited herself to prostitution as payment for mommas operation and/or becoming a LPR This would explain the secrecy, the must go, and how to make that kind of money so quickly. I am SICK about this!!!!

Whyworry about something before there is a need to be concerned? Worry is a useless thought process that has no effect other than to cause a peson to dwell on negativity Contacting someone in the town you think she went to, on the other hand, might provide some answers.

[Dennis Miller 0]

I second Mermaid's advice- exuding positive attitude and energy will lift your spirits. Smile, even if you aren't right now, and examine how that makes you feel. Doesn't that feel good?

We understand your loneliness, as we all have experienced it to one degree or another, and my advice is do things for yourself first. Do things that make you happy and don't do things for the sake of attracting someone. When you are happy and energetic and positive, things will just fall into place.

We (aka the VJ community) are here for you and I wish you the best of luck.

Thank you , thank you all~ you are good people!

I was talking to some people on CANDLE FOR LOVE tonight and I heard two possibilities. One was to find someone[chinese speaking] who lives near San Jose CA. to pay a visit to her and find out what is happening if they can determine where she lives or works. There are not many chinese dormitories in San Jose I would not think. The other was a suggestion that she does love me but commited herself to prostitution as payment for mommas operation and/or becoming a LPR This would explain the secrecy, the must go, and how to make that kind of money so quickly. I am SICK about this!!!!

Whyworry about something before there is a need to be concerned? Worry is a useless thought process that has no effect other than to cause a peson to dwell on negativity Contacting someone in the town you think she went to, on the other hand, might provide some answers.

Can't sleep. How can I find someone who lives where she may be that could do this?

[mnieto 2]

I second Mermaid's advice- exuding positive attitude and energy will lift your spirits. Smile, even if you aren't right now, and examine how that makes you feel. Doesn't that feel good?

We understand your loneliness, as we all have experienced it to one degree or another, and my advice is do things for yourself first. Do things that make you happy and don't do things for the sake of attracting someone. When you are happy and energetic and positive, things will just fall into place.

We (aka the VJ community) are here for you and I wish you the best of luck.

Thank you , thank you all~ you are good people!

I was talking to some people on CANDLE FOR LOVE tonight and I heard two possibilities. One was to find someone[chinese speaking] who lives near San Jose CA. to pay a visit to her and find out what is happening if they can determine where she lives or works. There are not many chinese dormitories in San Jose I would not think. The other was a suggestion that she does love me but commited herself to prostitution as payment for mommas operation and/or becoming a LPR This would explain the secrecy, the must go, and how to make that kind of money so quickly. I am SICK about this!!!!

Whyworry about something before there is a need to be concerned? Worry is a useless thought process that has no effect other than to cause a peson to dwell on negativity Contacting someone in the town you think she went to, on the other hand, might provide some answers.

Can't sleep. How can I find someone who lives where she may be that could do this?

A private investigator could help you

[Dennis Miller 0]

I second Mermaid's advice- exuding positive attitude and energy will lift your spirits. Smile, even if you aren't right now, and examine how that makes you feel. Doesn't that feel good?

We understand your loneliness, as we all have experienced it to one degree or another, and my advice is do things for yourself first. Do things that make you happy and don't do things for the sake of attracting someone. When you are happy and energetic and positive, things will just fall into place.

We (aka the VJ community) are here for you and I wish you the best of luck.

Thank you , thank you all~ you are good people!

I was talking to some people on CANDLE FOR LOVE tonight and I heard two possibilities. One was to find someone[chinese speaking] who lives near San Jose CA. to pay a visit to her and find out what is happening if they can determine where she lives or works. There are not many chinese dormitories in San Jose I would not think. The other was a suggestion that she does love me but commited herself to prostitution as payment for mommas operation and/or becoming a LPR This would explain the secrecy, the must go, and how to make that kind of money so quickly. I am SICK about this!!!!

Whyworry about something before there is a need to be concerned? Worry is a useless thought process that has no effect other than to cause a peson to dwell on negativity Contacting someone in the town you think she went to, on the other hand, might provide some answers.

Can't sleep. How can I find someone who lives where she may be that could do this?

A private investigator could help you

Thank you, Have you been to Sanibel before? Very nice but a little expensive also! I am checking into a P.I.

[Dennis Miller 0]

I second Mermaid's advice- exuding positive attitude and energy will lift your spirits. Smile, even if you aren't right now, and examine how that makes you feel. Doesn't that feel good?

We understand your loneliness, as we all have experienced it to one degree or another, and my advice is do things for yourself first. Do things that make you happy and don't do things for the sake of attracting someone. When you are happy and energetic and positive, things will just fall into place.

We (aka the VJ community) are here for you and I wish you the best of luck.

Thank you , thank you all~ you are good people!

I was talking to some people on CANDLE FOR LOVE tonight and I heard two possibilities. One was to find someone[chinese speaking] who lives near San Jose CA. to pay a visit to her and find out what is happening if they can determine where she lives or works. There are not many chinese dormitories in San Jose I would not think. The other was a suggestion that she does love me but commited herself to prostitution as payment for mommas operation and/or becoming a LPR This would explain the secrecy, the must go, and how to make that kind of money so quickly. I am SICK about this!!!!

Whyworry about something before there is a need to be concerned? Worry is a useless thought process that has no effect other than to cause a peson to dwell on negativity Contacting someone in the town you think she went to, on the other hand, might provide some answers.

Can't sleep. How can I find someone who lives where she may be that could do this?

A private investigator could help you

Thank you, Have you been to Sanibel before? Very nice but a little expensive also! I am checking into a P.I.

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I want to thank everyone who helped me! I got an email from the sister last night. I am devestated! She does not love me and wants out of the marriage. Reasons were; Not enough money, lovemaking, did not go to Disney and lack of communication. I replied and tried to reason but I know it was a futile effort. Dennis

[nane1104 146]

Dennis, I am so sorry to hear that. Do you think this is for real or just her try to keep you from searching for her?

However you are taking these news, I wish you all the best for the future. You seem to be a very nice person and I am sorry, you have to go through this.

Please stay in touch and keep us posted of any new developments!

[pushbrk 13,073]

I second Mermaid's advice- exuding positive attitude and energy will lift your spirits. Smile, even if you aren't right now, and examine how that makes you feel. Doesn't that feel good?

We understand your loneliness, as we all have experienced it to one degree or another, and my advice is do things for yourself first. Do things that make you happy and don't do things for the sake of attracting someone. When you are happy and energetic and positive, things will just fall into place.

We (aka the VJ community) are here for you and I wish you the best of luck.

Thank you , thank you all~ you are good people!

I was talking to some people on CANDLE FOR LOVE tonight and I heard two possibilities. One was to find someone[chinese speaking] who lives near San Jose CA. to pay a visit to her and find out what is happening if they can determine where she lives or works. There are not many chinese dormitories in San Jose I would not think. The other was a suggestion that she does love me but commited herself to prostitution as payment for mommas operation and/or becoming a LPR This would explain the secrecy, the must go, and how to make that kind of money so quickly. I am SICK about this!!!!

Whyworry about something before there is a need to be concerned? Worry is a useless thought process that has no effect other than to cause a peson to dwell on negativity Contacting someone in the town you think she went to, on the other hand, might provide some answers.

Can't sleep. How can I find someone who lives where she may be that could do this?

A private investigator could help you

Thank you, Have you been to Sanibel before? Very nice but a little expensive also! I am checking into a P.I.

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I want to thank everyone who helped me! I got an email from the sister last night. I am devestated! She does not love me and wants out of the marriage. Reasons were; Not enough money, lovemaking, did not go to Disney and lack of communication. I replied and tried to reason but I know it was a futile effort. Dennis

Wow, sorry to hear that. Sounds like it boils down to expectations not being met. Did you give her reasons to expect such things as a trip to Disney or more money? I wonder how many of those are made up reasons to cover unknown primary reasons.

[LoriLawless 0]

I was hoping for better news. I'm so sorry.

[nane1104 146]

I second Mermaid's advice- exuding positive attitude and energy will lift your spirits. Smile, even if you aren't right now, and examine how that makes you feel. Doesn't that feel good?

We understand your loneliness, as we all have experienced it to one degree or another, and my advice is do things for yourself first. Do things that make you happy and don't do things for the sake of attracting someone. When you are happy and energetic and positive, things will just fall into place.

We (aka the VJ community) are here for you and I wish you the best of luck.

Thank you , thank you all~ you are good people!

I was talking to some people on CANDLE FOR LOVE tonight and I heard two possibilities. One was to find someone[chinese speaking] who lives near San Jose CA. to pay a visit to her and find out what is happening if they can determine where she lives or works. There are not many chinese dormitories in San Jose I would not think. The other was a suggestion that she does love me but commited herself to prostitution as payment for mommas operation and/or becoming a LPR This would explain the secrecy, the must go, and how to make that kind of money so quickly. I am SICK about this!!!!

Whyworry about something before there is a need to be concerned? Worry is a useless thought process that has no effect other than to cause a peson to dwell on negativity Contacting someone in the town you think she went to, on the other hand, might provide some answers.

Can't sleep. How can I find someone who lives where she may be that could do this?

A private investigator could help you

Thank you, Have you been to Sanibel before? Very nice but a little expensive also! I am checking into a P.I.

********************************************************************************

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I want to thank everyone who helped me! I got an email from the sister last night. I am devestated! She does not love me and wants out of the marriage. Reasons were; Not enough money, lovemaking, did not go to Disney and lack of communication. I replied and tried to reason but I know it was a futile effort. Dennis

Wow, sorry to hear that. Sounds like it boils down to expectations not being met. Did you give her reasons to expect such things as a trip to Disney or more money? I wonder how many of those are made up reasons to cover unknown primary reasons.

Pretty tragic the whole thing. I mean, since my husband and I have been dating we have talked about going to Disney (amongst other places). Have we been there yet? NOPE! lol

Maybe I should leave him now....

In all seriousness that the topic deserves though, this is really really sad.

[diadromous mermaid 36]

There's nothing that says one must stay in the marriage just because one has a green card. So the mere fact that she's left doesn't tell us much of anything.

What we'd need to know is two things: whether her permanent residency is conditional (it's not clear when you married, or if she'll need to remove conditions), and whether you suspect that the marriage was entered into primarily for immigration benefit.

We married in China Oct. 17th 2005. She came to the US in FEb. 2007. We lived happily together for eight months, until she got the green card. At that time she went back to China for three months. Returned to US Feb. 14th this year and one week after returning said she was leaving to go to work in California. Left on the 28th. I paid airfare. She said before leaving that she loved me and did not want a divorce. She has never been affectionate to me. I just feel I was used to get here and get legal and then bye, bye! She has permanent residency for ten years. I don't know if she has to remove conditions as I never got to see the card or letter with it. I did see the notice they sent before mailing it and it said nothing about removing conditions. Thank you for your input!

Hmmm. When was she being disingenuous? Before when she said she loved you, or now, when she says she doesn't? I think based upon the timing of all of this and the fact that in 2 years apart she was purportedly able to maintain the "love" for you, but once here that "love" dissipated within a month or so, and only AFTER the GC was received...things don't just add up to me.

[Dennis Miller 0]

Dennis, I am so sorry to hear that. Do you think this is for real or just her try to keep you from searching for her?

However you are taking these news, I wish you all the best for the future. You seem to be a very nice person and I am sorry, you have to go through this.

Please stay in touch and keep us posted of any new developments!

Thank you for caring! I don't know if it is the truth or to keep me from finding her. At this point it doesn't matter. I could never trust her again. When trust is lost so is everything else. dennis

[Dennis Miller 0]

I second Mermaid's advice- exuding positive attitude and energy will lift your spirits. Smile, even if you aren't right now, and examine how that makes you feel. Doesn't that feel good?

We understand your loneliness, as we all have experienced it to one degree or another, and my advice is do things for yourself first. Do things that make you happy and don't do things for the sake of attracting someone. When you are happy and energetic and positive, things will just fall into place.

We (aka the VJ community) are here for you and I wish you the best of luck.

Thank you , thank you all~ you are good people!

I was talking to some people on CANDLE FOR LOVE tonight and I heard two possibilities. One was to find someone[chinese speaking] who lives near San Jose CA. to pay a visit to her and find out what is happening if they can determine where she lives or works. There are not many chinese dormitories in San Jose I would not think. The other was a suggestion that she does love me but commited herself to prostitution as payment for mommas operation and/or becoming a LPR This would explain the secrecy, the must go, and how to make that kind of money so quickly. I am SICK about this!!!!

Whyworry about something before there is a need to be concerned? Worry is a useless thought process that has no effect other than to cause a peson to dwell on negativity Contacting someone in the town you think she went to, on the other hand, might provide some answers.

Can't sleep. How can I find someone who lives where she may be that could do this?

A private investigator could help you

Thank you, Have you been to Sanibel before? Very nice but a little expensive also! I am checking into a P.I.

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I want to thank everyone who helped me! I got an email from the sister last night. I am devestated! She does not love me and wants out of the marriage. Reasons were; Not enough money, lovemaking, did not go to Disney and lack of communication. I replied and tried to reason but I know it was a futile effort. Dennis

Wow, sorry to hear that. Sounds like it boils down to expectations not being met. Did you give her reasons to expect such things as a trip to Disney or more money? I wonder how many of those are made up reasons to cover unknown primary reasons.

Yes, I told her that we would be going to Disney and other places in the fall when the weather cooled and I would take a vacation and we would do these things. She left before. I live about 30 miles from disney but the summer heat is not a fun thing! I told her all about my income, retirement, home, life insurance etc. before we ever married. I guess I'll never know how many were made up or why. thank you, dennis

[Dennis Miller 0]

I was hoping for better news. I'm so sorry.

Thank you! I too was hoping! dennis

[Dennis Miller 0]

I second Mermaid's advice- exuding positive attitude and energy will lift your spirits. Smile, even if you aren't right now, and examine how that makes you feel. Doesn't that feel good?

We understand your loneliness, as we all have experienced it to one degree or another, and my advice is do things for yourself first. Do things that make you happy and don't do things for the sake of attracting someone. When you are happy and energetic and positive, things will just fall into place.

We (aka the VJ community) are here for you and I wish you the best of luck.

Thank you , thank you all~ you are good people!

I was talking to some people on CANDLE FOR LOVE tonight and I heard two possibilities. One was to find someone[chinese speaking] who lives near San Jose CA. to pay a visit to her and find out what is happening if they can determine where she lives or works. There are not many chinese dormitories in San Jose I would not think. The other was a suggestion that she does love me but commited herself to prostitution as payment for mommas operation and/or becoming a LPR This would explain the secrecy, the must go, and how to make that kind of money so quickly. I am SICK about this!!!!

Whyworry about something before there is a need to be concerned? Worry is a useless thought process that has no effect other than to cause a peson to dwell on negativity Contacting someone in the town you think she went to, on the other hand, might provide some answers.

Can't sleep. How can I find someone who lives where she may be that could do this?

A private investigator could help you

Thank you, Have you been to Sanibel before? Very nice but a little expensive also! I am checking into a P.I.

********************************************************************************

***********************

I want to thank everyone who helped me! I got an email from the sister last night. I am devestated! She does not love me and wants out of the marriage. Reasons were; Not enough money, lovemaking, did not go to Disney and lack of communication. I replied and tried to reason but I know it was a futile effort. Dennis

Wow, sorry to hear that. Sounds like it boils down to expectations not being met. Did you give her reasons to expect such things as a trip to Disney or more money? I wonder how many of those are made up reasons to cover unknown primary reasons.

Pretty tragic the whole thing. I mean, since my husband and I have been dating we have talked about going to Disney (amongst other places). Have we been there yet? NOPE! lol

Maybe I should leave him now....

In all seriousness that the topic deserves though, this is really really sad.

Congratulations!!!!!!!! Tell your husband to take you to disney before the baby comes or you won't make it there for a while!