BATTLE OF JEALOUSY

[rebeccajo 14]

Well, that doesn't change my response. This is what American men do.

may i highlight this to you.. i get jealous when im seeing him too much focused at tv while with me ( or maybe im just paranoid) haha.. :devil: :whistle:

Hehe, it's other way around for us.. Its me who get jealous and asking for his Full attention from the "TV" hehe.. i get jealous when im seeing him too much focused at tv while with me ( or maybe im just paranoid) haha..

You get jealous of your American husband because he's watching TV?

You better get used to it sister. American men are born with a remote control in their hand.

[DeadPoolX 9]

There is such a thing as a "healthy amount" of jealousy. Perhaps that doesn't immediately make sense, since when people hear the word "jealously" they tend to think of someone going psycho, such as Glenn Close's character in Fatal Attraction but that's rarely the case. It does -- and can -- happen, but it's not the norm.

What I mean by a "healthy amount" is it'd be normal to be jealous if your wife or husband were spending an inordinate amount of time with a member of the opposite sex in a non-business or family-related capacity and the two were quite visibly flirting. While this wouldn't have to mean anything adulterous was going on, it would naturally seem threatening to most spouses and to be honest, it should. There's nothing wrong with your wife or husband having friends of the opposite sex, but there's a difference between having a friend or two and spending most of your free time with that person and playing the sort of touchy-feely games usually reserved for someone you're romantically/sexually interested in.

Obviously jealousy can be a bad thing, since it can be seen in situations when there's absolutely no threat to someone's relationship at all. However, I would say that half the time, these cases are misunderstandings between husband and wife (or boyfriend and girlfriend) due to lack of communication somewhere. One person knows what they're doing is harmless so they automatically assume the other person will know that too, but that isn't always the case. It might be better to discuss things in order to avoid trouble down the line.

[✿Ice Rain✿ 0]

And, I'm aware of that.. you're not me and i am not you.. we both have different view with the matter.. :luv:

Well, that doesn't change my response. This is what American men do.

may i highlight this to you.. i get jealous when im seeing him too much focused at tv while with me ( or maybe im just paranoid) haha.. :devil: :whistle:

Hehe, it's other way around for us.. Its me who get jealous and asking for his Full attention from the "TV" hehe.. i get jealous when im seeing him too much focused at tv while with me ( or maybe im just paranoid) haha..

You get jealous of your American husband because he's watching TV?

You better get used to it sister. American men are born with a remote control in their hand.

[Sister Fracas 5]

[✿Ice Rain✿ 0]

"You get jealous of your American husband because he's watching TV? "

:whistle:

Hehe, it's other way around for us.. Its me who get jealous and asking for his Full attention from the "TV" hehe.. i get jealous when im seeing him too much focused at tv while with me ( or maybe im just paranoid) haha..

You get jealous of your American husband because he's watching TV?

You better get used to it sister. American men are born with a remote control in their hand.

[rebeccajo 14]

Right. My view is you won't change his behavior, especially if you get PO'd about it.

I thought you wanted to have an open discussion.

My bad.

And, I'm aware of that.. you're not me and i am not you.. we both have different view with the matter.. :luv:

Well, that doesn't change my response. This is what American men do.

may i highlight this to you.. i get jealous when im seeing him too much focused at tv while with me ( or maybe im just paranoid) haha.. :devil: :whistle:

Hehe, it's other way around for us.. Its me who get jealous and asking for his Full attention from the "TV" hehe.. i get jealous when im seeing him too much focused at tv while with me ( or maybe im just paranoid) haha..

You get jealous of your American husband because he's watching TV?

You better get used to it sister. American men are born with a remote control in their hand.

[✿Ice Rain✿ 0]

Well, with you telling me that i cant change my husband's behavior , how are you so sure about with your statement? You are not the wife.. I believe im the wife of my husband..LOL

By the way, yeah , this is open discussion about BATTLE OF JEALOUSY, between the wife and the husband" :luv:

Right. My view is you won't change his behavior, especially if you get PO'd about it.

I thought you wanted to have an open discussion.

My bad.

And, I'm aware of that.. you're not me and i am not you.. we both have different view with the matter.. :luv:

Well, that doesn't change my response. This is what American men do.

may i highlight this to you.. i get jealous when im seeing him too much focused at tv while with me ( or maybe im just paranoid) haha.. :devil: :whistle:

Hehe, it's other way around for us.. Its me who get jealous and asking for his Full attention from the "TV" hehe.. i get jealous when im seeing him too much focused at tv while with me ( or maybe im just paranoid) haha..

You get jealous of your American husband because he's watching TV?

You better get used to it sister. American men are born with a remote control in their hand.

Edited March 18, 2008 by SHAPE OF MY HEART

[rebeccajo 14]

Well, with you telling me that i cant change my husband's behavior , how are you so sure about with your statement?

By the way, yeah , this is open discussion about BATTLE OF JEALOUSY, between the wife and the husband" :luv:

Because I've lived here all my life and practically every married American guy I know has the ability to completely 'zone out' in front of the tube.

And because I was married for 26 years to one of them.

And because my UK husband isn't addicted to the TV.

Any more questions?

Edited March 18, 2008 by rebeccajo

[✿Ice Rain✿ 0]

No questions.. But i believe you're not the wife of my husband to tell me that i couldn't change his behavior.. Not all MEN are the same.

Well, with you telling me that i cant change my husband's behavior , how are you so sure about with your statement?

By the way, yeah , this is open discussion about BATTLE OF JEALOUSY, between the wife and the husband" :luv:

Because I've lived here all my life and practically every married guy I know has the ability to completely 'zone out' in front of the tube.

And because I was married for 26 years to a one of them.

And because my UK husband isn't addicted to the TV.

Any more questions?

[almaty 19]

oh this thread has legs...

[Sister Fracas 5]

oh this thread has legs...

and they are skidding out of control in opposite directions... kind of like a deer on ice...

so much for open discussion anyway...

Edited March 18, 2008 by Sister Fracas

[rebeccajo 14]

Why did you start this thread anyway?

All I'm saying to you is this.....lots of guys do this. It's so prevalant that American wives JOKE about it. It can be a problem in some marriages, but most men don't take it to the extreme. So in other words - IT'S NORMAL.

But you say it makes you mad. I'm trying to tell you it's not worth getting mad over.

No questions.. But i believe you're not the wife of my husband to tell me that i couldn't change his behavior.. Not all MEN are the same.

Well, with you telling me that i cant change my husband's behavior , how are you so sure about with your statement?

By the way, yeah , this is open discussion about BATTLE OF JEALOUSY, between the wife and the husband" :luv:

Because I've lived here all my life and practically every married guy I know has the ability to completely 'zone out' in front of the tube.

And because I was married for 26 years to a one of them.

And because my UK husband isn't addicted to the TV.

Any more questions?

oh this thread has legs...

and they are skidding out of control in opposite directions... kind of like a deer on ice...

so much for open discussion anyway...

I think what we have here is a failure to communicate.......

[Sister Fracas 5]

Why did you start this thread anyway?

All I'm saying to you is this.....lots of guys do this. It's so prevalant that American wives JOKE about it. It can be a problem in some marriages, but most men don't take it to the extreme. So in other words - IT'S NORMAL.

But you say it makes you mad. I'm trying to tell you it's not worth getting mad over.

but Becca, he needs to be changed...

[✿Ice Rain✿ 0]

There is such a thing as a "healthy amount" of jealousy. Perhaps that doesn't immediately make sense, since when people hear the word "jealously" they tend to think of someone going psycho, such as Glenn Close's character in Fatal Attraction but that's rarely the case. It does -- and can -- happen, but it's not the norm.

What I mean by a "healthy amount" is it'd be normal to be jealous if your wife or husband were spending an inordinate amount of time with a member of the opposite sex in a non-business or family-related capacity and the two were quite visibly flirting. While this wouldn't have to mean anything adulterous was going on, it would naturally seem threatening to most spouses and to be honest, it should. There's nothing wrong with your wife or husband having friends of the opposite sex, but there's a difference between having a friend or two and spending most of your free time with that person and playing the sort of touchy-feely games usually reserved for someone you're romantically/sexually interested in.

Obviously jealousy can be a bad thing, since it can be seen in situations when there's absolutely no threat to someone's relationship at all. However, I would say that half the time, these cases are misunderstandings between husband and wife (or boyfriend and girlfriend) due to lack of communication somewhere. One person knows what they're doing is harmless so they automatically assume the other person will know that too, but that isn't always the case. It might be better to discuss things in order to avoid trouble down the line.

[Sister Fracas 5]

I think what we have here is a failure to communicate.......

I say she just pounds him over the head hard with the frying pan and see if his behavior doesn't change...