Planning tentative wedding date

[Jesse and Hema 2]

Thanks everyone!

I feel a bit silly for even asking this question which now is so *blatantly* obvious!

Many of us learned the hard way.. Just be glad you know better.

[*JG* 2]

I would not plan ANY tenative date until you get that visa in your hot little hands! Plans being scrapped is almost as depressing as the wait times. RFE's, translated documents, police reports...there are so many snags that could happen that would upset any date you've planned. Remember, you have six months to use the visa, then 3 months after entering before having to get married (oops 90 days, not 3 months). Either way, that should give you plenty of time to plan something. Do a search for people that have put serious money down and planned weddings, that didn't dissolve due to embassies and consulates that weren't within the usual timelines. Best to wait...can't stop you from internet looking...dreaming...planning...just don't plan a day!

Believe those of us who have gone through this, seen it first hand and paid attention to what has happened around us. ANYTHING can happen in between now and the time you get your visa in your hands. And, don't even think once you've been approved it will guarentee a time. I've seen visa delivery delayed for such crazy things as natural disasters.

I will tell you every single time someone asks, DO NOT make wedding plans until you are sure you have that visa in hand.

[Jesse and Hema 2]

Believe those of us who have gone through this, seen it first hand and paid attention to what has happened around us. ANYTHING can happen in between now and the time you get your visa in your hands. And, don't even think once you've been approved it will guarentee a time. I've seen visa delivery delayed for such crazy things as natural disasters.

I will tell you every single time someone asks, DO NOT make wedding plans until you are sure you have that visa in hand.

For example, after my fiancee was approved for her visa, the embassy's special visa printers broke... They could not print the visa... Set our plans back only about a week though.

[*JG* 2]

Believe those of us who have gone through this, seen it first hand and paid attention to what has happened around us. ANYTHING can happen in between now and the time you get your visa in your hands. And, don't even think once you've been approved it will guarentee a time. I've seen visa delivery delayed for such crazy things as natural disasters.

I will tell you every single time someone asks, DO NOT make wedding plans until you are sure you have that visa in hand.

For example, after my fiancee was approved for her visa, the embassy's special visa printers broke... They could not print the visa... Set our plans back only about a week though.

I know people who have had theirs lost between the embassy and the delivery place.

I know people who have had a hurricane batter the embassy.....they were in limbo for almost a month.

I know people who have been told their visa was not approved, when they got the approval at their interview.

And, that's just after approval. There are a million reasons for delays before the actual interview.

Never, ever anything concrete. I've seen lots of people burned with non-refundable plans.

[Jesse and Hema 2]

I know people who have had theirs lost between the embassy and the delivery place.

I know people who have had a hurricane batter the embassy.....they were in limbo for almost a month.

I know people who have been told their visa was not approved, when they got the approval at their interview.

And, that's just after approval. There are a million reasons for delays before the actual interview.

Never, ever anything concrete. I've seen lots of people burned with non-refundable plans.

So after reading this, how are people with pending cases supposed to sleep at night?

[*JG* 2]

I know people who have had theirs lost between the embassy and the delivery place.

I know people who have had a hurricane batter the embassy.....they were in limbo for almost a month.

I know people who have been told their visa was not approved, when they got the approval at their interview.

And, that's just after approval. There are a million reasons for delays before the actual interview.

Never, ever anything concrete. I've seen lots of people burned with non-refundable plans.

So after reading this, how are people with pending cases supposed to sleep at night?

Everyone deals with something unexpected. You survive it.

The thing is, this process is so expensive as it is. Why add more heaches by putting down payments on some date you just aren't positive on?

[greeneyedgirlfl 0]

We're just having a civil ceremony the week he gets here...waiting on the interview as we speak...and then having a small family/friends ceremony and reception later...