k-1 gone bad I want her out asap

[ammike 0]

Im very sorry for what had happened.. That it didnt worked out for the Both of you!

Did you got married??

Having an misunderstanding is just a part of Love Life and that makes you strong for the both of you..

But anyway as you said it really didnt worked out..

The only thing is that you should have to find a way to send her back, Buy tickets in the internet...

But hope that will gonna change your mind!!

^__^

Remember this all things will just gonna past, Hope you will gonna reminiscin all the Love Story that you had together..

Patience is a virtue and accepting each others strenth and weakneses shows Big Love..

Takecare and Goodluck!!

Ammike

[Eric-Pris 1,606]

What can I do to get her on a plane back to her home country as soon as possible???

Pokernut,

Not that it matters but what is her home country?

Edited March 17, 2008 by kid brooklyn

[Kathryn41 3,205]

It's not so much age as it is life experience that make you wiser...and you don't usually have one without the other.

To the OP, I completely understand your frustration with this and my heart goes out to you. It seems your good sense was trying to tell you something yet, it was clouded by what it is you want most and wanted to believe. I can understand that. It happens to all of us. You had warning signs, it's happened before...DONT let it happen again! The only thing you can do now is really learn from your mistakes. To love and be loved is the best gift this life has to offer. There is someone out there for you to share your life with. Someone who wont lie or cheat. Perhaps she's in this country, though.

IF all the OP states is true then this 'person' is one of the reasons we are all waiting so long to be with our loved ones. She is all that's wrong with this process and I would be disapointed if she was allowed to stay. Yes, I agree that she is a human being...but not a very nice one.

In regards to those who feel they are somehow empowered to judge the relationships of others.... I don't think it's any of our business to judge who is in love with who and why. Whether someone is too fat, too pretty, too young, too old, too rich..too poor...etc. How is that even our business and what gives any one of us the right to even suggest it's for visa fraud? We don't live their lives...we don't sleep in their bed. We can't even know the most intimate details of the people closest to us so what gives you the right to judge someone else's relationship based on a few lines or pictures in a forum? Of course there are cases of deception...but that can happen in even the most seemingly 'normal' relationships. Who made you judge and jury? We're not here for bigotry...we're here because we need and can offer support to each other based on similar circumstances. Those kinds of unjustified opinions should be kept to yourself because it really only shows your own arrogance and ignorance when you make statements like that.

Nice Post, KimandRuss,

I too am sorry that this has happened to you, Pokernut. I know what it is to love and to believe that the warning signs aren't going to lead to something different than you hope, that maybe if you are willing to love enough, to trust and give the other person the benefit of the doubt, it will all work out the way you want it to. Sometimes it does - but usually it doesn't.

Please don't let this second loss disillusion you. Sometimes love finds you when you stop looking and just start 'living' your own life - it finds you rather than you find it. I hope that this happens to you. Good luck, and I am sorry you are hurting.

[rhymeswithcandi 0]

She had another boyfriend? Would not kiss him good night? i bet when they were together 16 months ago they never even made love? is this guy retarded?

That is REALLY harsh and so unfair!!

[Jesse and Hema 2]

No offense to you, Jesse G, but given the current illegal immigration situation, what makes you think ICE will actually deport her? Solid evidence of fraud will open an investigation, but as she hasn't yet incurred any real immigration benefits (K-1 means nothing if unmarried and I-94 is expired), but he says he's not interested in contacting immigration. And deportation may be "free of charge" to the petitioner, but it's not the taxpayers.

If the OP is willing to buy a plane ticket for her to go back, I say go for it.

That statement was made assuming that the alien overstays the visa and proceeds to find work, etc... Since ICE will know what's going on, deportation is a definite possibility, I'd think. (Not a certainty)

You have a valid point about the taxpayers taking the blow for things like this. Not only that, but cases like these are obviously why others pursuing family-base immigration routes have a difficult time.

[philip2000 0]

Hi Pokernut. Do whatsoever to get the funds necessary to purchase that flight ticket and send her back immediately. I don't blame you at all. The longer she stay, the more you gotta pay to support her..Send her back!!

[athena_ny 1]

No offense to you, Jesse G, but given the current illegal immigration situation, what makes you think ICE will actually deport her? Solid evidence of fraud will open an investigation, but as she hasn't yet incurred any real immigration benefits (K-1 means nothing if unmarried and I-94 is expired), but he says he's not interested in contacting immigration. And deportation may be "free of charge" to the petitioner, but it's not the taxpayers.

If the OP is willing to buy a plane ticket for her to go back, I say go for it.

That statement was made assuming that the alien overstays the visa and proceeds to find work, etc... Since ICE will know what's going on, deportation is a definite possibility, I'd think. (Not a certainty)

You have a valid point about the taxpayers taking the blow for things like this. Not only that, but cases like these are obviously why others pursuing family-base immigration routes have a difficult time.

Def. not a certainty. M has a friend who reported his (ex?) spouse, and she's still running around the US 4 years later. ICE is grossly understaffed. Anything is possible, though.

[Sinergy 3]

I think if she really used him, yea, he has every right to send her home, he brought her here, with the thought that she loved him and really wanted to be with him, and the whole time she was lieing. Yea, he has every right to wanna send her back home. I dont think hes horrible for wanting that, nor do i think hes "disposing of her". She used him to get here, and its him who can send her home. Using ppl is wrong, and id be just as pissed as he is.

and OMG, ive never seen so much breaking of TOS in any thread on VJ

Edited March 17, 2008 by Sinergy

[pushbrk 12,878]

I think if she really used him, yea, he has every right to send her home, he brought her here, with the thought that she loved him and really wanted to be with him, and the whole time she was lieing. Yea, he has every right to wanna send her back home. I dont think hes horrible for wanting that, nor do i think hes "disposing of her". She used him to get here, and its him who can send her home. Using ppl is wrong, and id be just as pissed as he is.

and OMG, ive never seen so much breaking of TOS in any thread on VJ

Evidently the mods are taking a long winter's nap. We have the right to "wanna" anything but not the "right" force a fiance or spouse to get on a plane. Only the authorities can do that.

[Eric-Pris 1,606]

We have the right to "wanna" anything but not the "right" force a fiance or spouse to get on a plane. Only the authorities can do that.

Legally speaking, you are probably right. But most people don't think that way. And if I was just played for a visa, I have every right to send her packing on the first available flight back.

[Sinergy 3]

I think if she really used him, yea, he has every right to send her home, he brought her here, with the thought that she loved him and really wanted to be with him, and the whole time she was lieing. Yea, he has every right to wanna send her back home. I dont think hes horrible for wanting that, nor do i think hes "disposing of her". She used him to get here, and its him who can send her home. Using ppl is wrong, and id be just as pissed as he is.

and OMG, ive never seen so much breaking of TOS in any thread on VJ

Evidently the mods are taking a long winter's nap. We have the right to "wanna" anything but not the "right" force a fiance or spouse to get on a plane. Only the authorities can do that.

Legally speaking yea, i agree with ya, emotionally speaking, nah, his heart is broken and his hurt and angry. But legally, yea, as you sd, only the authorities can do that.

[yunwoo 0]

Im so sorry, refund is only allowed for first 30 days and merchandise must be returned in as new condition.

[pokernut 0]

i did learn from the first one. I didnt marry this one and im not going through 2 years of hell to be dumped at the end of the paperwork trail... I at least improved... I caught this one early on ... and shes gone.... as soon as i can get it done...

[Mrs.J06 4]

i did learn from the first one. I didnt marry this one and im not going through 2 years of hell to be dumped at the end of the paperwork trail... I at least improved... I caught this one early on ... and shes gone.... as soon as i can get it done...

Pokernut, even though I do understand your pain and feel for you, I think your wording is somewhat off on that.

Maybe you should take a step back and make sure it won't happen with the next one again. Don't get me wrong, I wish you the best whatever the outcome of this will be, but please show some respect for fellow human beings.

[LaL 418]

This isnt the thread for having a little fun. Try the OFF TOPIC threads.

Thanks Jason-Sasha, I agree with you.

I think if she really used him, yea, he has every right to send her home, he brought her here, with the thought that she loved him and really wanted to be with him, and the whole time she was lieing. Yea, he has every right to wanna send her back home. I dont think hes horrible for wanting that, nor do i think hes "disposing of her". She used him to get here, and its him who can send her home. Using ppl is wrong, and id be just as pissed as he is.

and OMG, ive never seen so much breaking of TOS in any thread on VJ

Evidently the mods are taking a long winter's nap. We have the right to "wanna" anything but not the "right" force a fiance or spouse to get on a plane. Only the authorities can do that.

A PM would have done the trick, we do not "hunt" for TOS violations and depend on members to report infractions to us.

That aside - either the posts in this thread ease up and stay on topic or this thread may be closed. I am now moving this to the proper forum (organizers?).