More or less freqeunt arguements when away from SO

[Jeraly 4]

Apparently when living together the first year is the worst while you iron out all the wrinkles and things

[Krikit 1,164]

Apparently when living together the first year 10 years is the worst while you iron out all the wrinkles and things

[Jeraly 4]

Apparently when living together the first year 10 years is the worst while you iron out all the wrinkles and things

Ahh - it's ok - you have to divorce wa-a-ay before then - after all - aren't we all just in it for the GC?!

j/k (in case anyone thinks I am serious )

I don't think it hits a year and suddenly all becomes hearts and roses I think we will always have to work at things but I think that is what makes a relationship special - being prepared to work through the hard times

[Krikit 1,164]

Apparently when living together the first year 10 years is the worst while you iron out all the wrinkles and things

Ahh - it's ok - you have to divorce wa-a-ay before then - after all - aren't we all just in it for the GC?!

Oh right! Phew. What a relief!

[StillThePrettiest 3]

well, I don't think it makes us look 'good', it's just a different way of communicating, but my fiance and I rarely argue, and when we do, it's very calm and reasoned... I think that's down to a few things:

- we're a bit older (36 and 38, respectively; I know that's not OLD but we're not teenagers either )

- we're both pretty calm and logical people

- I was a teacher for more than twelve years and that REALLY helps you keep your temper

I hated teachers who yelled, too, so I never did that... learned to speak my mind calmly (sometimes it was a dangerous calmness )

- Dave attended some counselling sessions towards the end of his first marriage, and is REALLY good at talking things through, he says largely because of what he learned there (and who am I to argue? )

all that said, there are NO guarantees for the future; we know damn well that the whole picture changes once we're in the same place for an extended period (like, the rest of our lives )... I think we're prepared for that, but I'm sure there will still be a few surprises... we'll deal with them too, I guess

and as I said at the beginning: I don't think it makes us look 'good'; it's just one aspect... sure, horrible nasty screaming matches can be detrimental to a relationship, but for some people arguments are healthy; for others sulky silences are far worse... and just because we're not big arguers doesn't mean we don't have other weak points

but I'd better not share them here; that might be off topic

(by the way, I think we should all start posting in bold )

[Jeraly 4]

I'm not sure what you mean? RIght on!!!1!!

[DanielParul 50]

Apparently when living together the first year is the worst while you iron out all the wrinkles and things

I feel that we argued a lot just a few days before Daniel came to Delhi.. Now that we are together, there are times when we get irritated but most of the times we can just laugh it all off coz it all seems sooooo insignificant compared to everything we have gone through to be together

[StillThePrettiest 3]

oh, this thread is suddenly so much more enlightening, somehow

[DanielParul 50]

oh, this thread is suddenly so much more enlightening, somehow

Ahhh!! the BOLD enlightenment!!!!

[zqt3344 21]

But But But what is "Bushing the balls" What does that mean? is that bold enlightenment?

oh, this thread is suddenly so much more enlightening, somehow

Ahhh!! the BOLD enlightenment!!!!

[StillThePrettiest 3]

it's a typo, and it's been done to death

and no, no bold enlightenment where you're concerned

[Jeraly 4]

Cheap thrills?

[zqt3344 21]

Bummer!

it's a typo, and it's been done to death

and no, no bold enlightenment where you're concerned

[sarahaziz 0]

Yeah arguing is more when we're apart. Together if we try to argue we just bust out laughing it's so wierd to fight face to face.