Stupid Question?

[terrie/kamal 0]

I have a stupid question to ask about something my husband said to me the other day and i really am wondering how true it is. He told me (now mind you we are waiting for the approval of his green card) that if he wanted to, and if he left me, he wouldn't need me to stay here. He could stay in our country with minimal problems and it would just take longer to get his residency. Its driving me crazy that he said that. I don't know if this is a warning or what. I hope someone can shed some light on this subject. This is bothering me to no end.

[SaadBell 0]

No stupid questions sweetie, understandable that you would worry. Maybe he was just talking off his head, sometimes I say things off the top of my head, and not really know that what I just said hurt someone. Just try to tell him how that made you feel, and see what he says. Good luck and you are in my thoughts.

[Beauty for Ashes 257]

I have a stupid question to ask about something my husband said to me the other day and i really am wondering how true it is. He told me (now mind you we are waiting for the approval of his green card) that if he wanted to, and if he left me, he wouldn't need me to stay here. He could stay in our country with minimal problems and it would just take longer to get his residency. Its driving me crazy that he said that. I don't know if this is a warning or what. I hope someone can shed some light on this subject. This is bothering me to no end.

Is there a big age difference between you?

I would stay calm but I think you have reason to worry.....You need to talk to him

[sarahaziz 0]

Yeah he couldve been blubbering for nothing. But try to remember the tone and way of the conversation if you guys were in a joking mood or serious or fighting or what!. I personally doubt he meant using you or anything he was just being an ####....like all men lol God bless

[terrie/kamal 0]

Yeah he couldve been blubbering for nothing. But try to remember the tone and way of the conversation if you guys were in a joking mood or serious or fighting or what!. I personally doubt he meant using you or anything he was just being an ####....like all men lol God bless

The age difference is 10 years me older. And at the time we were having issues. I just want to know is there any way that he can stay here without being married to me.

[chaishai 1]

I have a stupid question to ask about something my husband said to me the other day and i really am wondering how true it is. He told me (now mind you we are waiting for the approval of his green card) that if he wanted to, and if he left me, he wouldn't need me to stay here. He could stay in our country with minimal problems and it would just take longer to get his residency. Its driving me crazy that he said that. I don't know if this is a warning or what. I hope someone can shed some light on this subject. This is bothering me to no end.

maybe he was saying that to you because he was trying to prove to you that if he just wanted you for gc then he could leave?

i think you would have to try to get him deported, i dont know how hard that would be and then he could probably hide somewhere? not sure.

[EgyptianLove 0]

I don't really post here but I read this and was wondering why someone asked about if there is an age gap? My fiance and I have a large one and now I'm worried.

[terrie/kamal 0]

I don't really post here but I read this and was wondering why someone asked about if there is an age gap? My fiance and I have a large one and now I'm worried.

I wouldn't worry about it.

[Nagishkaw 510]

I don't really used to post here but I read this and was wondering stirring the pot why someone asked about if there is an age gap? My fiance and I have a large one and now I'm worried.

[sarahaziz 0]

Age gaps I mean that's really not a big deal, Me I'm pretty sure he likes you to baby him and take care of him as a wife does that's why he maried you because you have all the qualities of a mother, wife, gf,etc.. But I do agree that he was trying to make you understand he could stay in america if you divorced him blah blah. Since it's the heat of the moment your scared but after you guys makeup you'll laugh at this topic.

[sarahaziz 0]

Age gaps I mean that's really not a big deal, Me I'm pretty sure he likes you to baby him and take care of him as a wife does that's why he maried you because you have all the qualities of a mother, wife, gf,etc.. But I do agree that he was trying to make you understand he could stay in america if you divorced him blah blah. Since it's the heat of the moment your scared but after you guys makeup you'll laugh at this topic.

HEY! but still keep an eye out. I'm the same race as my husband but I don't think twice that I could'nt get used to. It doesn't seem realistic but there's always that 1% because we hold different citizenships. Something can always happen just get a prenup or something that will secure you if anything happens! I'd sure as hell do one if I could

[sara535 15]

I have a stupid question to ask about something my husband said to me the other day and i really am wondering how true it is. He told me (now mind you we are waiting for the approval of his green card) that if he wanted to, and if he left me, he wouldn't need me to stay here. He could stay in our country with minimal problems and it would just take longer to get his residency. Its driving me crazy that he said that. I don't know if this is a warning or what. I hope someone can shed some light on this subject. This is bothering me to no end.

If you divorced after AOS but before the lifting conditions then yes, he can stay here and lift the conditions himself as long as he can prove he didnt enter the marriage solely for a green card which would mean he would need to provide evidence that your life was 'co-mingled' before the divorce. As far as prior to AOS I am not sure but I am thinking at that point he cant do it by himself.

whether or not its a 'warning' I dont know but I find it interesting that he knows its an option. Has he researched it?

I think you probably need to try to talk to him about it..

[Beauty for Ashes 257]

Yeah he couldve been blubbering for nothing. But try to remember the tone and way of the conversation if you guys were in a joking mood or serious or fighting or what!. I personally doubt he meant using you or anything he was just being an ####....like all men lol God bless

The age difference is 10 years me older. And at the time we were having issues. I just want to know is there any way that he can stay here without being married to me.

Yes he can...several ways and I would wonder like hell why he said that

I have a stupid question to ask about something my husband said to me the other day and i really am wondering how true it is. He told me (now mind you we are waiting for the approval of his green card) that if he wanted to, and if he left me, he wouldn't need me to stay here. He could stay in our country with minimal problems and it would just take longer to get his residency. Its driving me crazy that he said that. I don't know if this is a warning or what. I hope someone can shed some light on this subject. This is bothering me to no end.

If you divorced after AOS but before the lifting conditions then yes, he can stay here and lift the conditions himself as long as he can prove he didnt enter the marriage solely for a green card which would mean he would need to provide evidence that your life was 'co-mingled' before the divorce. As far as prior to AOS I am not sure but I am thinking at that point he cant do it by himself.

whether or not its a 'warning' I dont know but I find it interesting that he knows its an option. Has he researched it?

I think you probably need to try to talk to him about it..

He cannot if she stops the aos...he can if he gets it

[sara..... 371]

I have a stupid question to ask about something my husband said to me the other day and i really am wondering how true it is. He told me (now mind you we are waiting for the approval of his green card) that if he wanted to, and if he left me, he wouldn't need me to stay here. He could stay in our country with minimal problems and it would just take longer to get his residency. Its driving me crazy that he said that. I don't know if this is a warning or what. I hope someone can shed some light on this subject. This is bothering me to no end.

it kind of sounds like he was trying to assure u that he is here with u because he loves u not because he wants a green card......men a lot of times say stupid things meant to make u feel better but in the end have that adverse effect

[AlHayatZween 2]

Hi Terrie,

i'm sorry that he said those hurtful things to you.

i hope it was just out of anger or thoughtlessness, not that that is an EXCUSE! You have a right to be confused and upset.

Talk to him, i hope it was all just nothing,

hz

men a lot of times say stupid things meant to make u feel better but in the end have that adverse effect

ha! this is true, too!