yuo wan to hear something that angered me so much

[one love 0]

this tells you even Lawyers have no heart are need to watch what they say to clients.. My own lawyer said to me jusr yesterday.. When going to interview keep open mind because I have a few things against us.. I said why you did not say when or before you take our money.. It may be an issue.. Any I ask so what is issue... He said we ahve invisablie evidence?????????????????????? I ask explain..

He said I am white my husband Black???????????????????????????????What the _________ I looked at him with shock that as a lawyer he says this to me.. I told him Maybe he has issue with it but We do not we love each other very much and color is nver apart of it.. We both know diffrence Im white his Black.. And our age diffrence?????????????????????????? I said what part of age has anything to do with us lovin each other we are not kids which would be a diffrence.. Many americans mary older or younger...... Now I wondering to myself did he have bad day with someone before our appointment or what?? I am very disappointed to here him talk lie this.. when he suppose to be helping us and cheering us on>>

[Zee Bee 61]

Maybe your lawter was trying to say that you should get ready to maybe address those issues in the interview (if they come up)?

If that is what he was trying to say he didn't do a good job.

[Ta Ta 1]

Your lawyer is acting in your best interest to inform you of everything that they are looking at. You paid him and he is doing exactly what he is supposed to do. You did not pay him to cheer you on but to tell you the facts and what they see as red flags.

The facts are that age differences can be a problem with a CO and there have been denials due to that. Race is not so much a factor.

Having said that please don't take what the lawyer told you as a personal attack but as a piece of information to overcome.

Let the love you both have for each other shine through and have lots of bona fide proof of evidence and all will be well.

Wishing you the very best and hoping you will be together very soon.

[Queen Jenn 0]

Well, he probably didn't express himself very well, but I think Zee is right. He's probably just trying to let you know that the racial and age differences MAY come up at the interview and so to be prepared so that you're ready for it.

[Arinola 0]

Ditto!!!

[one love 0]

Maybe your lawter was trying to say that you should get ready to maybe address those issues in the interview (if they come up)?

If that is what he was trying to say he didn't do a good job.

Im sure taht what he attended to say btu said wrong we already knwo it may come up.. We ready.. if they deny becauz of age they wrong in this.. we still married can not change our love.. Im thinking postive POSITVE

[Zee Bee 61]

Maybe your lawter was trying to say that you should get ready to maybe address those issues in the interview (if they come up)?

If that is what he was trying to say he didn't do a good job.

Im sure taht what he attended to say btu said wrong we already knwo it may come up.. We ready.. if they deny becauz of age they wrong in this.. we still married can not change our love.. Im thinking postive POSITVE

Thats the way to go, just think positive

[Donna A 4]

i really dont understand why that would be a problem at all. mixed marrieges are pretty common these days.

[Ta Ta 1]

i really dont understand why that would be a problem at all. mixed marrieges are pretty common these days.

Embassies go by what is the norm for the applicants culture to determine intent of the beneficiary.

Mixed races are much more readily accepted than age differences.

It is just good to know what to expect during an interview and be ready and prepared for anything.

It is good that you will be present at the interview, just make sure your SO informs the CO that you are there

and maybe they will call you in.

Positive vibes for you both

[Sylvia_n_Joseph 3]

It is still not the norm for an older woman to marry a younger man. A few years ( 3-4) usually goes unnoticed but as the difference gets bigger the image changes. A man marries someone 20 years younger and every one pats him on the back and say .. way to go.. A woman does the same and everyone thinks they both require immediate aide from a mental health professional. That is just the way peoples minds are still programmed. Mix that in with a country with a reputation for fraud and yes I would ( and do ) expect extra questions. The funny thing is I think most of the white woman marrying Nigerian men are at least a few years older than the man. Before everyone jumps on my case, I base this on the ones that I have knowledge of the ages of the parties involved. I am in that group myself.

[one love 0]

It is still not the norm for an older woman to marry a younger man. A few years ( 3-4) usually goes unnoticed but as the difference gets bigger the image changes. A man marries someone 20 years younger and every one pats him on the back and say .. way to go.. A woman does the same and everyone thinks they both require immediate aide from a mental health professional. That is just the way peoples minds are still programmed. Mix that in with a country with a reputation for fraud and yes I would ( and do ) expect extra questions. The funny thing is I think most of the white woman marrying Nigerian men are at least a few years older than the man. Before everyone jumps on my case, I base this on the ones that I have knowledge of the ages of the parties involved. I am in that group myself.

Thank you so much it was good to hear this I know, what you mean men get patted on back woman are called robbing cradle.. Its so wrong I feel my opinion mind you the nigerian men are more mature at yung age becuz of lif ethe live there they r forced to do it not a chose for them.. My husband is so mature... I love him so much I pray all evedence will show proof we are real in our love as we are.. age is a number.. thats all it is and my kids love him so much as well... All I can and anyone can do is pray... Its just hard to beleiv thye turn married couple away becuz of age what they expect a person to do if they say no you cna not be with your wife.. becuz of age diffrence?? we ready for ?? Well for us we have decuss everything and we will be together even if I become Nigerian citizen... LOL thtas truth.. Good luck on your journey plz pray for us its in 25 days.. I will be there as well.. thanks again

[panamania79 2]

this tells you even Lawyers have no heart are need to watch what they say to clients.. My own lawyer said to me jusr yesterday.. When going to interview keep open mind because I have a few things against us.. I said why you did not say when or before you take our money.. It may be an issue.. Any I ask so what is issue... He said we ahve invisablie evidence?????????????????????? I ask explain..

He said I am white my husband Black???????????????????????????????What the _________ I looked at him with shock that as a lawyer he says this to me.. I told him Maybe he has issue with it but We do not we love each other very much and color is nver apart of it.. We both know diffrence Im white his Black.. And our age diffrence?????????????????????????? I said what part of age has anything to do with us lovin each other we are not kids which would be a diffrence.. Many americans mary older or younger...... Now I wondering to myself did he have bad day with someone before our appointment or what?? I am very disappointed to here him talk lie this.. when he suppose to be helping us and cheering us on>>

As messed up as it sounds for him to be saying something like this to you in this day and age,he is just trying to warn you.They will most likely be concerned about these two factors come time for the interview.Unfortunately,some people haven't gotten past color and/or age differences yet.

[Leedah 22]

I wanted to comment and shed some light on this subject.

What your lawyer said was VERY true and I just think that he wasn't trying to sugar coat his words. Maybe he WAS looking for a shock value in order to prepare you.

The facts are very real:

Many people are living in destitute situations and sometimes MUST do things that can benefit their families and themselves. I KNOW this because I have lived in several parts of Africa for YEARS. I have seen FIRSTHAND how marriages are planned by WHOLE families for son's or daughters to marry foreigners. I have also sat in on these accounts and have some crucial details on how sons are groomed on what to say and how to act for their new "spouse". Trust me, the only reason I have this info is because I'm African-American, have lived so long in Africa that I speak just about most of the languages fluently with no accent and therefore am not regarded as a Toubob (foreigner).

I know I may get flamed for telling it like it is,...but hey, somebody has to open the door to the hard truth.

And guess what? My husband is African. He's has also been very helpful in shedding info about the scams also as I have for him also. Did you know that some folks in the U.S. marry foreigners to have an in-house slave? Don't think so? Ask some people in the forums if their spouse has ever eluded to this fact and see what they say.

Anyway, I do hope that the attorney can help you overcome the "issues" that he speaks of. Either way, does it really matter? You two are already married right? If your not approved, will that mean the end of your love and your marriage? I doubt it. The U.S. isn't the only place in the world to live (even though the government likes to impress upon the whole world that it is the "end all and be all".)

-----------------Shameless Plug Below....hahaha--------------

By the way, I am in the process of finishing my book about the African Diaspora. Be sure to check it out in Borders and Barnes & Noble in the next coming months. Very informative. In one chapter I have compiled a Top 10 list of how to tell if your being scammed. It's funny, but you'd be surprised at some of the red flags that people ignore all in the name of love. Otherwise, I give complete insight on the culture of marriage to a "man of color", how to interact with the in-laws, learning to appreciate the societal differences, tips on loving your mate and many other details.

Peace out.

[one love 0]

I wanted to comment and shed some light on this subject.

What your lawyer said was VERY true and I just think that he wasn't trying to sugar coat his words. Maybe he WAS looking for a shock value in order to prepare you.

The facts are very real:

Many people are living in destitute situations and sometimes MUST do things that can benefit their families and themselves. I KNOW this because I have lived in several parts of Africa for YEARS. I have seen FIRSTHAND how marriages are planned by WHOLE families for son's or daughters to marry foreigners. I have also sat in on these accounts and have some crucial details on how sons are groomed on what to say and how to act for their new "spouse". Trust me, the only reason I have this info is because I'm African-American, have lived so long in Africa that I speak just about most of the languages fluently with no accent and therefore am not regarded as a Toubob (foreigner).

I know I may get flamed for telling it like it is,...but hey, somebody has to open the door to the hard truth.

And guess what? My husband is African. He's has also been very helpful in shedding info about the scams also as I have for him also. Did you know that some folks in the U.S. marry foreigners to have an in-house slave? Don't think so? Ask some people in the forums if their spouse has ever eluded to this fact and see what they say.

Anyway, I do hope that the attorney can help you overcome the "issues" that he speaks of. Either way, does it really matter? You two are already married right? If your not approved, will that mean the end of your love and your marriage? I doubt it. The U.S. isn't the only place in the world to live (even though the government likes to impress upon the whole world that it is the "end all and be all".)

-----------------Shameless Plug Below....hahaha--------------

By the way, I am in the process of finishing my book about the African Diaspora. Be sure to check it out in Borders and Barnes & Noble in the next coming months. Very informative. In one chapter I have compiled a Top 10 list of how to tell if your being scammed. It's funny, but you'd be surprised at some of the red flags that people ignore all in the name of love. Otherwise, I give complete insight on the culture of marriage to a "man of color", how to interact with the in-laws, learning to appreciate the societal differences, tips on loving your mate and many other details.

Peace out.

My husband also warn me about afrain men and scams he is very prodective of me... We are well prepared of question ask of us we will eb truthful of all we say have nothing to hide from anyone... So we will see waht happens no nothing will keep us apart no matter out come..

[LovinLiberia 0]

I wanted to comment and shed some light on this subject.

What your lawyer said was VERY true and I just think that he wasn't trying to sugar coat his words. Maybe he WAS looking for a shock value in order to prepare you.

The facts are very real:

Many people are living in destitute situations and sometimes MUST do things that can benefit their families and themselves. I KNOW this because I have lived in several parts of Africa for YEARS. I have seen FIRSTHAND how marriages are planned by WHOLE families for son's or daughters to marry foreigners. I have also sat in on these accounts and have some crucial details on how sons are groomed on what to say and how to act for their new "spouse". Trust me, the only reason I have this info is because I'm African-American, have lived so long in Africa that I speak just about most of the languages fluently with no accent and therefore am not regarded as a Toubob (foreigner).

I know I may get flamed for telling it like it is,...but hey, somebody has to open the door to the hard truth.

And guess what? My husband is African. He's has also been very helpful in shedding info about the scams also as I have for him also. Did you know that some folks in the U.S. marry foreigners to have an in-house slave? Don't think so? Ask some people in the forums if their spouse has ever eluded to this fact and see what they say.

Anyway, I do hope that the attorney can help you overcome the "issues" that he speaks of. Either way, does it really matter? You two are already married right? If your not approved, will that mean the end of your love and your marriage? I doubt it. The U.S. isn't the only place in the world to live (even though the government likes to impress upon the whole world that it is the "end all and be all".)

-----------------Shameless Plug Below....hahaha--------------

By the way, I am in the process of finishing my book about the African Diaspora. Be sure to check it out in Borders and Barnes & Noble in the next coming months. Very informative. In one chapter I have compiled a Top 10 list of how to tell if your being scammed. It's funny, but you'd be surprised at some of the red flags that people ignore all in the name of love. Otherwise, I give complete insight on the culture of marriage to a "man of color", how to interact with the in-laws, learning to appreciate the societal differences, tips on loving your mate and many other details.

Peace out.

Your book sounds like it will be a very interesting read. What will be the name of it?