Story and intro

[IR5FORMUMSIE 850]

Welcome and thanks for sharing your story

On a side note, are there any Canadians who DON'T play WoW??? I am feeling so left out now LOL

I don't play games. (OK, that sounded incredibly ominous )

[ZansGirl 0]

"...... playing world of warcraft ... then we spent three months figuring out whether we should meet for real or not ... I have to say it helped realizing he lived only a few hours a way. I live in Victoria "

WOW~~~ That is how Zan and I met and I live in Victoria (off Mackenzie) and Zan lives outside Tacoma (Graham)*breaks into sappy version of "It's a Small World"*

We have been trying to see each other at least every other weekend, but with his scheduale ( he is a Corrections Officer) and mine (Retail Store Manager), things do not always go our way. We have discussed the variables and I think have decided that the K-! is the way to go. We have not yet begun the process yet and probably won't for a few more months , but I think we both have realized what a journey this is going to be for both of us. We have both had spouses who chose Adultery over Monogamy and both have been burned by it...but Zan has had longer to heal. I have never felt this safe and protected by anyone in my entire life as I do with Zan, so there is no fear that this marriage will fail, but I do have family and friends I am dealing with who all think I am RUSHING into things. I know they mean well, but they were not in my marriage. For now I am willing to bide my time and when that day finally arrives, I know all this waiting and distance will be a memory!

Tangie

ps...if you ever need to share the ferry ride give me a shout!!!!

[ZansGirl 0]

* oh...and we are horde on Bonechewer.. I am a Rogue Troll and Zan...well...Zan has many alter egos!! but I love his Tauren Druid bestest!!!

[EmilyandJason 0]

"...... playing world of warcraft ... then we spent three months figuring out whether we should meet for real or not ... I have to say it helped realizing he lived only a few hours a way. I live in Victoria "

WOW~~~ That is how Zan and I met and I live in Victoria (off Mackenzie) and Zan lives outside Tacoma (Graham)*breaks into sappy version of "It's a Small World"*

We have been trying to see each other at least every other weekend, but with his scheduale ( he is a Corrections Officer) and mine (Retail Store Manager), things do not always go our way. We have discussed the variables and I think have decided that the K-! is the way to go. We have not yet begun the process yet and probably won't for a few more months , but I think we both have realized what a journey this is going to be for both of us. We have both had spouses who chose Adultery over Monogamy and both have been burned by it...but Zan has had longer to heal. I have never felt this safe and protected by anyone in my entire life as I do with Zan, so there is no fear that this marriage will fail, but I do have family and friends I am dealing with who all think I am RUSHING into things. I know they mean well, but they were not in my marriage. For now I am willing to bide my time and when that day finally arrives, I know all this waiting and distance will be a memory!

Tangie

ps...if you ever need to share the ferry ride give me a shout!!!!

Haha .. wow it is a small world!

I'm on the boat almost every week so shoot me a pm next time you go if you want some company

[Lili 3]

I just wanted to drop by and say some few words.

I do not think you should doubt your choice. From what i read across the forums, CR-1 is the way to go! It will be easier to start your life once you arrive here. As opposed to K-1 who have to wait for a work visa, you can just start your life as soon as you step on the American soil.

I really understand your situation.

When i first started dating my husband, we would only see each other once every 3 months. It was tough but do not forget it is all worth it in the end. I think all of the couples on VJ comes out stronger in the end. Not a lot of couple can endure what we are all enduring.

You just have to keep in mind that this is all worth it and there will be an end to this madness and pain.

Good luck to you!

[ZansGirl 0]

I'm on the boat almost every week so shoot me a pm next time you go if you want some company

have you ever been seriously grilled when going across?? My problem is that my ALL my utilities (hydro, cable internet, even my phone) is included in my rent...and the only bills i have are a cell phone and visa. I am planning on changing jobs in the near future (due to incredible stress) so having a letter from my employer is gonna be extreamely difficult.

So my question is...what proof do i take with me?? I have Rent receipts, Car insurance payments.......and both my kids live in Canada.

Tangie

(someone please respond!!! I am beginning to think i am an Elite ThreadKiller!!)

[Carlawarla 1]

have you ever been seriously grilled when going across?? My problem is that my ALL my utilities (hydro, cable internet, even my phone) is included in my rent...and the only bills i have are a cell phone and visa. I am planning on changing jobs in the near future (due to incredible stress) so having a letter from my employer is gonna be extreamely difficult.

So my question is...what proof do i take with me?? I have Rent receipts, Car insurance payments.......and both my kids live in Canada.

Tangie

(someone please respond!!! I am beginning to think i am an Elite ThreadKiller!!)

I'm sure your employer can write you a letter. I just asked mine for a letter and explained that sometimes Canadians get asked for "ties" to Canada when they're visiting the US finances so they don't think you're going to abscond to the U.S. She just wrote me out on letterhead, who I was, what my position was, how long I'd worked there, when I was expected back. If you haven't been there long, don't have them write down how long you've been with them. Let me see...what else could you bring. A bank statement? Do you have a car lease or loan? How old are your kids? If they're being looked after by someone in Canada, that would be pretty strong ties to Canada! I think it sounds like you have enough. Someone said on here as well, they brought some copies of the immigration stuff with them, so that they could explain that you're going through the process, so likely wouldn't be intercepting it!

[shawna7 4]

Welcome and thanks for sharing your story

On a side note, are there any Canadians who DON'T play WoW??? I am feeling so left out now LOL

I don't play WoW..come sit next to me!!

[Flames9_RN 358]

Never even see what WOW looks like,lol I normally play sports games, or Call of duty!!

[Autumnchik 6]

I do play chess online, so I guess that counts as a game (I am such a nerd!!!)

[EmilyandJason 0]

I've never been grilled seriously, though they warn me occasionally that as I get farther in the process the burden of proof will become higher ... whatever that means. I bring my bank statements for the last few months to show my direct deposit pay, rent payments, car payments, utility .. I also bring some recent mail to show my address.

They seem to know me now, as soon as I say where I am going and that I am visiting my husband, they scan my passport and say have a nice weekend.