Is Chatting With A Member Of The Opposite Sex Cheating?

[Y's_habibitk 2]

Why would someone need a new chat buddy? I will not chat with other women because there is no need to.

This is exactly my thoughts on the matter, the bottomline for me is that my husband nor I need any opposite sex friends.

There is a level of emotional intimacy that evolves between two friends.. male or female.

I perosnally dont think I need to be emotionally intimate with any man other than my husband and my family members. And I expect the same from my husband. This is what works for us.

What works for others is their business.

Lisa

I editted to add this:

I dont think everyone who hears "im happily married" gives a #######. I have seen women and men "befriend" someone knowing they are married. It usually ends bad for someone.

Edited March 10, 2008 by Y_habibitk

[Marilyn. 340]

I am not talking about deep intimate friends here.. just people I causally chat with..

if people don't give a ####### about the happily married that is their business not mine... I would never let it get very far if they didn't care...

Edited March 10, 2008 by MarilynP

[Y's_habibitk 2]

I am not talking about deep intimate friends here.. just people I causally chat with..

if people don't give a ####### about the happily married that is their business not mine... I would never let it get very far if they didn't care...

how far would you let it go? heh heh just teasn' you

[Peikko 1,575]

I think this thread speaks volumes as to why relationships often go wrong. More lessons on what trust is, what a monogomous relationship is, what infidelity might help people to get a fuller life experience and enjoy an extremely fulfilling monogomous relationship.

[Marilyn. 340]

I am not talking about deep intimate friends here.. just people I causally chat with..

if people don't give a ####### about the happily married that is their business not mine... I would never let it get very far if they didn't care...

how far would you let it go? heh heh just teasn' you

... I just like having causal chats with people and I am in a chat room with a lot of people, it is not like I am talking one on one with someone...

I think this thread speaks volumes as to why relationships often go wrong. More lessons on what trust is, what a monogomous relationship is, what infidelity might help people to get a fuller life experience and enjoy an extremely fulfilling monogomous relationship.

yeah... trust is a beautiful thing....

[Bassi and Zainab 1]

I think this thread speaks volumes as to why relationships often go wrong. More lessons on what trust is, what a monogomous relationship is, what infidelity might help people to get a fuller life experience and enjoy an extremely fulfilling monogomous relationship.

Actually, it's the individuals in the relationship that have to agree, not the people on this board, to make a relationship work and be successful.

[Peikko 1,575]

Marilyn, does your hubster post on here at all? Mine doesn't, but I talk to him aboutt the stuff that goes on and we had this excellent discussion on trust last night. Truly, I feel so fortunate to have met and married such a wonderful man.

[Marilyn. 340]

Marilyn, does your hubster post on here at all? Mine doesn't, but I talk to him aboutt the stuff that goes on and we had this excellent discussion on trust last night. Truly, I feel so fortunate to have met and married such a wonderful man.

no, he doesn't post in here at all nor does he read anything here.. I think he is tired of me talking about VJ...lol

I tell my hubby everything... I don't keep secrets from him at all...

I love my hubby to bits.. I would never do anything to jeopardize our relationship..

Edited March 10, 2008 by MarilynP

[rebeccajo 14]

Marilyn, does your hubster post on here at all? Mine doesn't, but I talk to him aboutt the stuff that goes on and we had this excellent discussion on trust last night. Truly, I feel so fortunate to have met and married such a wonderful man.

Awwwwwwwwww....that's really nice!

[Peikko 1,575]

All further posts will be cleansed of remarks that are nauseatingly smug and way too sweet.

I do feel like that though...

[rebeccajo 14]

All further posts will be cleansed of remarks that are nauseatingly smug and way too sweet.

I do feel like that though...

I thought it was very nice. And honest.

[Martiniolive 0]

but what if the screen names you see on his msn are "titiesjiggler and seemyrocks or angeleyedkitty" etc hhhhh

There's a saying "flirting is cheatings second cousin"

I think if it's a joint email address you give out it doesn't seem as bad as if it's a personal address.

interesting how many guys I thought were just friends suddenly dissappeared when I got married. I can't think of a reason to give out my email unless it's business related and than I wouldn't have to hide it. If your spouse says they NEVER chat online to the opposite sex "flirting" than believe them, but I don't think they should give out theyre email or msn, yahoo etc to the oposite sex. That seems too intimate. A forum is different or community chit chat seems harmless. But thats me

[Fuzzness 2]

This isn't just about trust, it's also about control

[Teacher Mark 53]

Why would someone need a new chat buddy? A vast majority of the people on this website including myself met our others online. We all know where "innocent chatting" can lead. My wife and I had this same discusion not long ago. As I told her, I trust you but it's not proper for you to chat with other men. I will not chat with other women because there is no need to.

Right on brother!

[Teacher Mark 53]

I encorage her to have friends. I draw the line at chatting with other men though (relatives excluded). Call it control or what you will but I have would have a problem with her chatting with another man on a computer that I bought, over the Internet that I pay for, on the time that she has free because I support her.

Dude, with all due respect, you're seriously fcked up. There's control, and there's abuse.

I hope your wife finds some normal guy online real soon. I hope you pay for it too.

Listen. I've been thinking about this all day. I never bring up the fact that I pay for these things and I was out of line posting that here. She never asked, I offered. I have went WAY beyond what my most trusted friends have told me I should be doing. The length to which I have extended myself sort of scares me to be honest but she is taking a leap as well.

I'm going to ignore you mawilson. Go take a look in the mirror.