She Dumped Me!!

[brucelene 1]

Beata dumped me because her friends fed her a line of bull about me leaving her stranded or alone. She called our life together a dream which would not be a reality. She hurt me so much when she broke up with me. She had decided weeks ago but decided to wait until after she got her Woman's Day gift. I would have given her all I had. The worst thing she took from me was my heart.

Im very sorry to hear about you... I pity on you and not to your girl. You know if she really loves you,

she would never listen or follow her friends. There are some friends that ruins a good life, and there are friends that are really true. True friends dont advised things like that, to let your girl get discourage

on you. And if her daughter is in the critical condition, girls wont do that, coz we all know girls we need our man not only in money matters but someone their for us "the concerns". and she needs you. not to leave you. She was a kind of strange girl huh.

Advise to you, you can take it or leave it. Call her again, talk to her but dont beg coz you might making her head big and spoiling her. Express to her how you love her, that youre concerned about her daughter and her family. If nothing change, i may say, she doesnt really loves you but your money alone. Im sorry to say this, but this is widely common already. I have had known lots of girls doing this tricks/ deeds. So beware. Just pray always that she will be inlighten.

For you girls who read this, please also loved your husband as you loved yourself. Its not easy to make money out there.please, please. You'll might say im hypocrites, yess i really love my husband and i would also say i loved his money. There's a saying "LOVE and MONEY is present. they are combined together."

So you kd4uvc, take a move now. Dont waste your life. Life is too short.

God Bless you,

Arlene

[slim 1,533]

just give her the damn ring now. I will move on.

Was this really just about a ring? A ring can be a big deal

"One ring to rule them all....... "

("Dude, there was only one Trilogy, and it wasn't about a Return of the King, it was about a Return of the Jedi.")

The problem, it seemed, was that the women who are already over here have much different dating goals than the women who aren't over here.

Really?

For the OP........

It sounds like you're dealing with a Class II. (Class II is the "maybe we can get a better life" scenario type internet profile poster. They're not against finding love and international romance, but they're not all the way believing it either. In the mean time, they'll see what's out there and if it sounds good; house, Mercedes, etc., then they'll give it a whirl. She may or may not have been 100% serious from the start, but now that you've pressed the issue, "will you marry me?" it's decision time.)

There's potential, but it could go either way. She may not have been against it, but she probably wasn't all the way into it either. Now that you've upped the ante, so to speak, it's her turn to call.

My only advice here is time.

Let her decide what she wants to do. Don't press the issue too much. Let her think it over for a few days and get back to you. AND DO NOT SEND ANY MORE MONEY!!! But, let her know the money is there, if she needs it. But, only if she's serious. It's for your life together, not for her life there.

And if you really want to see what's going on, put her to "Slim's tried and true international love test." Tell her you're going to quit your job and move over there so you two can be together. Her response will tell you the truth. Base your next move on her answer. Go with your gut.

Good luck, and the more you share here, the better we can help you. Although we're all individual in this, there is a trend.

[slim 1,533]

According to the guy I talked with, yes.

Of course they're going to have different things they're looking for. Women here have "made it" to the U.S. already and their survival instincts and mate selections have also "made it" to U.S. standards. They're not looking for simply a nice guy that can take care of them; they can take care of themselves already, have been doing quite nicely for a while, thank you very much. Now, they're looking for the nice guy that can take care of them and who is RICH. And who isn't going to "pay" for them. They're not prostitutes, they're just looking for a nice man. A nice man with money, of course.

Family plays a little bit into that as well, but as far as the dating is concerned, a meet and greet here for $1000/head lacks all the initial reasons a meet and greet works in the first place. Lots of hot chicks on the cheap. Once the probability of "scoring" one is reduced, that $1000 seems like a lot to pay for what you could get for free at the local bar.

Now, a "free" meet and greet, that's going to work any day!

All good advice, except this part. While it may actually provide some insight, it's game-playing. Game-playing doesn't belong in a serious relationship. (And what is he to do if she says "great, I'll prepare for your arrival?")

Serious being the key word.

For the guy, it's more of a hypothetical question.... "So what if I was to just drop everything and move there? Would that work for you? That way we could be together!"

She'll either be delighted or kind of hesitant. Instant ID on where the seriousness is.

And as far as games not being a part of serious relationships.... how do they get started???

[eekee 182]

If a woman really wants to marry you, she wants to marry you and won't listen to her friends. I honestly wouldn't be surprised if there was something else going on... maybe a liubovnik. trust me, I'm a woman, and if I loved someone and knew they loved me I wouldn't play these kinds of games.

[Kazan' Tiger 1]

I very much agree with you!

If a woman really wants to marry you, she wants to marry you and won't listen to her friends. I honestly wouldn't be surprised if there was something else going on... maybe a liubovnik. trust me, I'm a woman, and if I loved someone and knew they loved me I wouldn't play these kinds of games.

[Jason-Sasha 1]

Like I said before. Sounds to me like there is someone else in the picture that perhaps the OP doesn't know about. A "friend" wouldn't be enough to keep a woman from getting married. But a secret "other" would.

[visaveteran1 33]

I've been taking this all in and I think either this guy is a Satellite wannabe running a good story on us, or a rookie of the lowest order. Either way I don't see how this forum is the right venue to run out this soap opera. There's other web sites for meeting Russian women, match-making, how to date FSU women, and scammers, etc.

I certainly don't see a fiancee visa in this guy's future with this woman should any of this story be true. But I'm betting this guy is laughing his a** off at us folks for responding to this Russian bride "tall tale."

I will also offer that, in my experience, it's unlikely today to find Russian women who think American men are going to dump them on the streets of America or do some kind of "reverse scam." Almost every Russian woman has a friend, relative or colleague who married an American man and had a good result. Yes, there might be envy among the so called "biddies' but Russian women know Russian women...and this woman is no youngster, so she ought to be hip to the ways of pettiness one might encounter in Siberian social circles.

And if they actually had a real meeting in St. Petersburg, usually such a meeting reveals the vibes the couple has going on. If the woman met this guy and still listens to "biddies" and walks away from what might be her one shot for getting out of Siberia...well that does not feel right to me.

On top of that, she has a sick child and I've been to a Siberia hospital...and if my kid was really sick I'd do whatever it takes to get them out of Russia and to the USA. Additionally, Siberia has a very high women to men ratio...so women are beating the bushes to find husbands...certainly not a place to be difficult and cavalier towards a potential American husband for lack of an engagement ring. And how would that expensive ring be delivered anyway? DHL? How romantic!

I try to suspend my disbelief here but it's tough...very tough to buy in on this drama that has story line that changes every few days. Whether BS artist or rookie, maybe we need to offer him some tough love..and say bye bye.

[Jason-Sasha 1]

I've been taking this all in and I think either this guy is a Satellite wannabe running a good story on us, or a rookie of the lowest order. Either way I don't see how this forum is the right venue to run out this soap opera. There's other web sites for meeting Russian women, match-making, how to date FSU women, and scammers, etc.

I certainly don't see a fiancee visa in this guy's future with this woman should any of this story be true. But I'm betting this guy is laughing his a** off at us folks for responding to this Russian bride "tall tale."

I will also offer that, in my experience, it's unlikely today to find Russian women who think American men are going to dump them on the streets of America or do some kind of "reverse scam." Almost every Russian woman has a friend, relative or colleague who married an American man and had a good result. Yes, there might be envy among the so called "biddies' but Russian women know Russian women...and this woman is no youngster, so she ought to be hip to the ways of pettiness one might encounter in Siberian social circles.

And if they actually had a real meeting in St. Petersburg, usually such a meeting reveals the vibes the couple has going on. If the woman met this guy and still listens to "biddies" and walks away from what might be her one shot for getting out of Siberia...well that does not feel right to me.

On top of that, she has a sick child and I've been to a Siberia hospital...and if my kid was really sick I'd do whatever it takes to get them out of Russia and to the USA. Additionally, Siberia has a very high women to men ratio...so women are beating the bushes to find husbands...certainly not a place to be difficult and cavalier towards a potential American husband for lack of an engagement ring. And how would that expensive ring be delivered anyway? DHL? How romantic!

I try to suspend my disbelief here but it's tough...very tough to buy in on this drama that has story line that changes every few days. Whether BS artist or rookie, maybe we need to offer him some tough love..and say bye bye.

Well Damn! My man just laid the hammer down!

[Kazan' Tiger 1]

KaBOOM-!!!

I've been taking this all in and I think either this guy is a Satellite wannabe running a good story on us, or a rookie of the lowest order. Either way I don't see how this forum is the right venue to run out this soap opera. There's other web sites for meeting Russian women, match-making, how to date FSU women, and scammers, etc.

I certainly don't see a fiancee visa in this guy's future with this woman should any of this story be true. But I'm betting this guy is laughing his a** off at us folks for responding to this Russian bride "tall tale."

I will also offer that, in my experience, it's unlikely today to find Russian women who think American men are going to dump them on the streets of America or do some kind of "reverse scam." Almost every Russian woman has a friend, relative or colleague who married an American man and had a good result. Yes, there might be envy among the so called "biddies' but Russian women know Russian women...and this woman is no youngster, so she ought to be hip to the ways of pettiness one might encounter in Siberian social circles.

And if they actually had a real meeting in St. Petersburg, usually such a meeting reveals the vibes the couple has going on. If the woman met this guy and still listens to "biddies" and walks away from what might be her one shot for getting out of Siberia...well that does not feel right to me.

On top of that, she has a sick child and I've been to a Siberia hospital...and if my kid was really sick I'd do whatever it takes to get them out of Russia and to the USA. Additionally, Siberia has a very high women to men ratio...so women are beating the bushes to find husbands...certainly not a place to be difficult and cavalier towards a potential American husband for lack of an engagement ring. And how would that expensive ring be delivered anyway? DHL? How romantic!

I try to suspend my disbelief here but it's tough...very tough to buy in on this drama that has story line that changes every few days. Whether BS artist or rookie, maybe we need to offer him some tough love..and say bye bye.

Well Damn! My man just laid the hammer down!

[B'sA 0]

Beata dumped me because her friends fed her a line of bull about me leaving her stranded or alone. She called our life together a dream which would not be a reality. She hurt me so much when she broke up with me. She had decided weeks ago but decided to wait until after she got her Woman's Day gift. I would have given her all I had. The worst thing she took from me was my heart.

t's just so mean.

But hey, think that you probably got rid of a pain in the a$$ now, before you got married to her and things would get more complicated,

You know, it's not even her friend's fault.When you're inlove and you have faith in your loved one you know not to listen this B S..tt

comming from people that are not really designed to give advises.

Not to feel frustrated you can be angry REALLY ANGRY .

how far did you go ewiht her?

[~Laura and Nick~ 5]

Stop, panty time!

[Jason-Sasha 1]

Beata dumped me because her friends fed her a line of bull about me leaving her stranded or alone. She called our life together a dream which would not be a reality. She hurt me so much when she broke up with me. She had decided weeks ago but decided to wait until after she got her Woman's Day gift. I would have given her all I had. The worst thing she took from me was my heart.

t's just so mean.

But hey, think that you probably got rid of a pain in the a$$ now, before you got married to her and things would get more complicated,

You know, it's not even her friend's fault.When you're inlove and you have faith in your loved one you know not to listen this B S..tt

comming from people that are not really designed to give advises.

Not to feel frustrated you can be angry REALLY ANGRY .

how far did you go ewiht her?

Ahhh yes......This reminds me of a few conversations I was involved in, one way or another, back in the 9th grade. I wanted to score a homerun so bad, I even joined the school's baseball team! and you know, I turned out to be pretty damn good at it!

I hope I didn't offend BryantAliona. There was absolutely nothing wrong with their post. I just couldn't resist.

Stop, panty time!

YAY!!! I panty time!

[Madzia+James 0]

I'm sorry,

sorry to be the harsh voice of reason here, but if she is taking her friend's word over yours, she doesn't love you....

I hate to say it... but TRUST ME ON THIS ONE... As much as it hurts right now, and believe me I know it hurts, I've been there..

...I don't mean to be harsh or cruel, but you need to walk away.... with your dignity intact... find a girl who will love you unconditionally...

...Take my advice with a grain of salt, it is only my opinion... I hope it works out for the best, no matter what you decide...

[Ban Hammer 14,453]

another late arrival.

[groovlstk 0]

They, the biddies, have convinced her that I will bring her here and dump her on the streets. Now, why would I spend so much money and just do that?

Why is it so difficult for guys to read the 38-point, boldfaced writing on the wall? This woman does not love you, she does not even like you, she has no respect for you. If you continue down this path with her you'll be milked for everything she can get from you and then finally tossed aside. Her behavior isn't something that stems from cultural differences or because her friends have brainwashed her. (Quite the opposite, really: I'd bet my next paycheck that her girlfriends admire and envy her for the way she has played you. Only a virtuoso could treat a guy like garbage and then have him crawling back for more.)

We each have our own standards.

We sure do.