She Dumped Me!!

[diadromous mermaid 36]

Wow! You are starting to sound like your nemesis, tito!

LOL!!!!! Sorry, but I'm just so sick of all the sugar-coating I see in this thread!

Well, only the OP knows all of the facts. What we know at this time is that he is emotionally distraught. Perhaps we should give him some slack, eh ?

[mox 298]

I wish I could fly to Novosibirsk, but I would lose my job.

I went to St. Petersburg and paid for her flight to join me there. She will not come.

He said he went to St. Petersburg.

Based on these two posts I think she is from Novosibirks and diadromous mermaid, you are right, he came to St. Petersburg, but she as I understand she did not. Therefore, I jump to the conclusion there was no meeting at all.

Sat, I think "She will not come" was directed at Laura. As in "she will not come to the States." I'm pretty sure they have met. See his other thread on needing help with translation.

Well, only the OP knows all of the facts. What we know at this time is that he is emotionally distraught. Perhaps we should give him some slack, eh ?

Fair enough. What makes this different from a typical "tito world" situation though, is that nothing is adding up, and it has all the hallmarks of a "Russian Bride Scam." Unlike tito, I'm willing to acknowledge the "other side" of the coin. I know there is fraud, and I know that it happens. You're right that only the OP knows his situation, but there comes a point in the story that you really do need to render an opinion.

[rebeccajo 14]

He said he went to St. Petersburg.

He said he went to St. Petersburg and paid for her flight and she won't come......

Sounded to me like they were to meet there.

[mox 298]

He said he went to St. Petersburg.

He said he went to St. Petersburg and paid for her flight and she won't come......

Sounded to me like they were to meet there.

I believe it was just poor wording on the OP's part. She *did* go to St. Pete, as I read it. He was directing his comment "She will not come" to Laura. He meant "She will not come to the United States." At least that's how I'm reading it.

[rebeccajo 14]

He said he went to St. Petersburg.

He said he went to St. Petersburg and paid for her flight and she won't come......

Sounded to me like they were to meet there.

I believe it was just poor wording on the OP's part. She *did* go to St. Pete, as I read it. He was directing his comment "She will not come" to Laura. He meant "She will not come to the United States." At least that's how I'm reading it.

Maybe. But he also speaks about not being able to fly to her town for fear of losing his job. So I was just wondering if they had even met yet.

[eric&gen 0]

Charlie Brown doing what it does best loool.

[Kazan' Tiger 1]

As I understand it too, he flew to Saint Pete, she flew there to join him on his nickel, they did have one meeting, but now she will not come to the States as he was dumped. The OP had very bad wording in this post.

As for the job situation, I'm not sure why he can't fly there, if he has plenty of money. Unless he is trying to say he has no allowed time off.

He said he went to St. Petersburg.

He said he went to St. Petersburg and paid for her flight and she won't come......

Sounded to me like they were to meet there.

I believe it was just poor wording on the OP's part. She *did* go to St. Pete, as I read it. He was directing his comment "She will not come" to Laura. He meant "She will not come to the United States." At least that's how I'm reading it.

Maybe. But he also speaks about not being able to fly to her town for fear of losing his job. So I was just wondering if they had even met yet.

Edited March 9, 2008 by Kazan' Tiger

[Jason-Sasha 1]

Very strange situation. if its true he's just being dumped as he claimed originally. Sounds like this "friend" might be more than a friend. my money says she's involved in another relationship. I'd also bet her daughter is healthy. Even if she begged him to forgive her and take her back, I'd suggest he leave this one alone. but I agree with everyone else here. Sounds just too fishy to me.

[apk 0]

For an hour, I talked with her. Some damn idiot which claims to be her friend has convinced her that I would abandon her and leave her stranded. She is convinced that her coming her would be a burden on her and me. She thinks she will be a burden on me financially on her. If I could get my hands on this friend,... How can I talk and convince her of how her thoughts of me and the burden issue is wrong when I can only talk with her on the phone and her friends can talk face to face. She thinks she will be better off living there. She makes $200 a month, has to buy her daughter medicine for leukemia, and food. Several days ago, she almost passed out due to not eating. I believe it is due to not having money. I have asked her to tell me when she needed money for her daughter's medicine but she rarely requested it. I believe it is a death sentence for her daughter. I make good money. I drive a Mercedes, 2006, Harley 2006, own my own home. I live 92 miles from work and am in the process of selling it. I was going to buy a home closer to work. I grew up in a family which doesn't get divorces. The average marriage lasts over 50 years. It is the rule, not the exception. I waited until I found someone which loved me very much. Unfortunately, I lose her due to bad advice from her friends. It is my loss!!

I am so very sorry!

[Jeraly 4]

Wow! You are starting to sound like your nemesis, tito!

LOL!!!!! Sorry, but I'm just so sick of all the sugar-coating I see in this thread!

*thread crashing*

Funny though sad to see how infamous tito is becoming...

[kd4uvc 0]

Update, she used the excuse of me not buying her a ring immediately for the excuse. And you are right, it is over. The money for the medicine over a year did not amount to one week's pay there. She got drunk with her biddies on woman's day and they concocted a scam to get me to do things. Didn't work. It hurts. But being slammed here didn't help either. I was looking for answers. I got them.

Posted for the one's who were sympathetic.

[~Laura and Nick~ 5]

Update, she used the excuse of me not buying her a ring immediately for the excuse. And you are right, it is over. The money for the medicine over a year did not amount to one week's pay there. She got drunk with her biddies on woman's day and they concocted a scam to get me to do things. Didn't work. It hurts. But being slammed here didn't help either. I was looking for answers. I got them.

Posted for the one's who were sympathetic.

I really am sorry that she did this to you...Best of luck for the future.

[eekee 182]

Sorry to hear this turn of events. But it's better to know now than later. Best of luck to you, and I hope you find true love again.

[russ 1]

Update, she used the excuse of me not buying her a ring immediately for the excuse.

Whatever, get away from this and put it behind you as soon as you can.

If a ring means that much to anyone (American, Russian, whatever) it is clearly more important to them than you are. Be glad you found out now.

My wife would love to have had a bigger engagement ring, but so would everyone. I am sorry this happened to you. It sucks for someone to waste a year of their life.

My usual advice stands - do not meet foreigners on websites. You are asking for trouble. If for some reason you want to marry someone from Russia, move there. You will find someone before too long. You won't have to worry about any of this scam BS. And you will probably get paid more in Russia than you make now in the US. (Depending on what you do, the market for Western Expats in Russia is very strong, since no one wants to go there, and no one speaks the language.) It also costs next to nothing to study Russian in a university there, which is also a good idea.

[Kazan' Tiger 1]

I as well. Finding out now is far, far, better than finding out here later. I don't buy into her ring excuse for one moment. Engagement rings are not even custom (although it is slowly gaining favour) and wedding rings tend to be simple gold bands. Most of us here will tell you, rings are far less a value, to these ladies, than the man they wish to spend their life with.

Sorry to hear this turn of events. But it's better to know now than later. Best of luck to you, and I hope you find true love again.