She Dumped Me!!

[~Laura and Nick~ 5]

Alright...call me jaded, but one of two things is going on here:

1) kd4uvc is a troller

-or-

2) There is more to this story than we're being told, and it's being done in such a way as to pull on this community's heartstrings to make the OP feel better about a situation he knows is a complete scam.

I find it very strange that this story has played out so quickly. In just over a week we've gone from totally in love, needing help translating documents for the K-1, to "she's keeping secrets." Sorry, that's just not working for me.

kd4uvc, if you're for real, then you're being taken for a ride, and what's more is that you know it. I'm sorry I can't provide more sympathy than that, but nothing is adding up for me. If you're for real, then you know that you need to run, not walk, away from this relationship.

well said.

[kd4uvc 0]

I got hit by a bulldozer of a problem today. I do not expect sympathy from you. Just remember to pass the word to others that some of the friends they have will do harm. Since I am considered a threat to this forum, I will send my thanks and leave.

[Southern_Canadian 0]

Alright...call me jaded, but one of two things is going on here:

1) kd4uvc is a troller

-or-

2) There is more to this story than we're being told, and it's being done in such a way as to pull on this community's heartstrings to make the OP feel better about a situation he knows is a complete scam.

I find it very strange that this story has played out so quickly. In just over a week we've gone from totally in love, needing help translating documents for the K-1, to "she's keeping secrets." Sorry, that's just not working for me.

kd4uvc, if you're for real, then you're being taken for a ride, and what's more is that you know it. I'm sorry I can't provide more sympathy than that, but nothing is adding up for me. If you're for real, then you know that you need to run, not walk, away from this relationship.

My thoughts exactly!!! Couldn't have said it better myself!

[Kazan' Tiger 1]

How can you not remember where you found her? You are talking about the love of your life right? I'm sure a lot of us would like to believe you, but your responses raise more questions than answers.

I met her on a website. I don't even remember the name of it. We have been talking on the phone for the last 1 1/2 years. I went to St. Petersburg and paid for her flight to join me there. She will not come.

[~Laura and Nick~ 5]

I got hit by a bulldozer of a problem today. I do not expect sympathy from you. Just remember to pass the word to others that some of the friends they have will do harm. Since I am considered a threat to this forum, I will send my thanks and leave.

Threat?

No.

It's just that your story seems...off.

A year and a half and suddenly you come on VJ and within a week it's over?

If this really is real, then I'm sorry. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off and move on.

This girl seems like she's got enough on her plate, she doesn't need to be shoveling it on yours while you pay the bill.

Best of luck.

How can you not remember where you found her? You are talking about the love of your life right? I'm sure a lot of us would like to believe you, but your responses raise more questions than answers.

Exactly.

That isn't going to fly on the K1 application. "We met online but I don't remember where."

No go.

Edited March 9, 2008 by ~Laura and Nick~

[Satellite 1]

She is an attorney there but she has a slight confidence problem with English.

She makes $200 a month

the daughter, she is 19 and will be 20 by the interview?

My fiancee's daughter has leukemia.

I drive a Mercedes, 2006, Harley 2006, own my own home.

I am a diabetic and no one will hire me now

It took me 44 years to find the one which stole my heart.

I made a promise to her and to God. I cannot break that promise. I promised to be faithful to her, and I shall

I met her on a website. I don't even remember the name of it. We have been talking on the phone for the last 1 1/2 years. I went to St. Petersburg and paid for her flight to join me there. She will not come.

Okay here is what I have summarized so far:

She is an attorney making only $200 a month, in the capital of Siberia, Novosibirsk, kind of low considering Russia's inflation. Store clerks make that much these days. You are well off, 44 years old, yet unhireable. You sound religious and she has been through a hard life. She must be closer to your age because she has a daughter age 19. She is suffering from Lukemia, which is very expensive to treat without insurance here in the US, and she will age out of your insurance in a few years time. You met on a website, spoke on the phone for 1.5 years, yet never met in person?

Maybe the best thing to say to all this: all goods things must come to end. Considering all the communication issues, lack of trust and confidence, and all the possible baggage this lady would bring to your situation, perhaps it was all for the best.

[rebeccajo 14]

So you haven't met her face to face yet?

[diadromous mermaid 36]

He said he went to St. Petersburg.

[~Laura and Nick~ 5]

Well said Satellite.

[mox 298]

I don't think you're a threat kd4uvc. But here's why "that dog don't hunt:"

You flew her to St. Pete. because there was some reason she couldn't meet you in her home town. You probably wired her the money to buy her plane ticket. You haven't met her child because the child was too sick to travel. (What really happened: She lives in St. Pete and pocketed your money for the plane ticket. There is no child.)

She "fell in love" with you, you asked her to marry, but the timing just wasn't right for her yet. (What really happened: She never had any intention of marrying you, but she did enjoy all the money you spent on her.)

In the meantime, her child's medical expenses continue to climb. There have probably even been a few urgent calls in the night saying she needs money RIGHT NOW for some emergency operation. (What really happened: She has been milking you for money. You're probably in to this for thousands right now.)

You pushed her to make a decision. She has stalled you for as long as she can. Now she knows the gravy train is over, so she's breaking it off. OR it could be just another chapter. She'll make up with you, you'll send her more money, and she'll milk it a little longer.

How did I do?

You would find this community much more sympathetic with your plight if you were honest with us. I hate to see anyone scammed, but you need to drop the fairy tail world you've built around her and man up to the truth.

Edited March 9, 2008 by mox

[diadromous mermaid 36]

I got hit by a bulldozer of a problem today. I do not expect sympathy from you. Just remember to pass the word to others that some of the friends they have will do harm. Since I am considered a threat to this forum, I will send my thanks and leave.

There is also a daughter, who needs care. Perhaps the decision was not simply your fiancée thinking solely of herself.

I don't think you're a threat kd4uvc. But here's why "that dog don't hunt:"

You flew her to St. Pete. because there was some reason she couldn't meet you in her home town. You probably wired her the money to buy her plane ticket. You haven't met her child because the child was too sick to travel. (What really happened: She lives in St. Pete and pocketed your money for the plane ticket. There is no child.)

She "fell in love" with you, you asked her to marry, but the timing just wasn't right for her yet. (What really happened: She never had any intention of marrying you, but she did enjoy all the money you spent on her.)

In the meantime, her child's medical expenses continue to climb. There have probably even been a few urgent calls in the night saying she needs money RIGHT NOW for some emergency operation. (What really happened: She has been milking you for money. You're probably in to this for thousands right now.)

You pushed her to make a decision. She has stalled you for as long as she can. Now she knows the gravy train is over, so she's breaking it off. OR it could be just another chapter. She'll make up with you, you'll send her more money, and she'll milk it a little longer.

How did I do?

You would find this community much more sympathetic with your plight if you were honest with us. I hate to see anyone scammed, but you need to drop the fairy tail world you've built around her and man up to the truth.

Wow! You are starting to sound like your nemesis, tito!

[~Laura and Nick~ 5]

I don't think you're a threat kd4uvc. But here's why "that dog don't hunt:"

You flew her to St. Pete. because there was some reason she couldn't meet you in her home town. You probably wired her the money to buy her plane ticket. You haven't met her child because the child was too sick to travel. (What really happened: She lives in St. Pete and pocketed your money for the plane ticket. There is no child.)

She "fell in love" with you, you asked her to marry, but the timing just wasn't right for her yet. (What really happened: She never had any intention of marrying you, but she did enjoy all the money you spent on her.)

In the meantime, her child's medical expenses continue to climb. There have probably even been a few urgent calls in the night saying she needs money RIGHT NOW for some emergency operation. (What really happened: She has been milking you for money. You're probably in to this for thousands right now.)

You pushed her to make a decision. She has stalled you for as long as she can. Now she knows the gravy train is over, so she's breaking it off. OR it could be just another chapter. She'll make up with you, you'll send her more money, and she'll milk it a little longer.

How did I do?

You would find this community much more sympathetic with your plight if you were honest with us. I hate to see anyone scammed, but you need to drop the fairy tail world you've built around her and man up to the truth.

You nailed it Mox.

[mox 298]

Wow! You are starting to sound like your nemesis, tito!

LOL!!!!! Sorry, but I'm just so sick of all the sugar-coating I see in this thread!

[~Laura and Nick~ 5]

Wow! You are starting to sound like your nemesis, tito!

NEVER!!!! !

[Satellite 1]

I wish I could fly to Novosibirsk, but I would lose my job.

I went to St. Petersburg and paid for her flight to join me there. She will not come.

He said he went to St. Petersburg.

Based on these two posts I think she is from Novosibirks and diadromous mermaid, you are right, he came to St. Petersburg, but she as I understand she did not. Therefore, I jump to the conclusion there was no meeting at all.