Toddler Abuse In Car Wash Caught On Tape

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"Security cameras caught a strange case of child abuse in a car wash bay at the Magical Car Wash in Orlando. They show a woman spraying a toddler with a high pressure hose while another woman watches. The footage shows the toddler attempt to run away, but she is grabbed and pinned to the wall as she is prayed on the legs, back and even her face. The manager of the car wash didn't see the abuse until she watched the footage, but she did hear the little girl crying after the incident. She als heard the woman state, "You're going to learn to respect me. You don't treat me bad. You don't mistreat me; I'm your mother." Footage also shows the girl being stripped naked, while the two women grabbed a towel and put her back in the car. Once investigators locate the women, they said the mother will likely face child abuse charges."

[Ban Hammer 13,346]

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[Niels Bohr 72]

"Mother?" The child don't know any better at that age. The mother should know. Or, she probably don't know what a mother is.

[keltic 1]

did you see the follow up?

so, the mom calls and says that the girl was having a temper tantrum... it was the first time she has used that... she does time outs... she has used a spray bottle in the past... and..... it gets better....

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wait for it......

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SHE'S PREGNANT!!!

just some interesting facts:

that kind of pressure is the equivalent speed of 18 miles an hour...

When using a pressure washer, always follow the safety instructions included in the owner’s manual.

Risks

~The strong spray from a pressure washer can cause serious wounds that might first appear minor. Wounds that appear minor can cause a person to delay treatment, increasing risk for infection, disability or amputation.

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Precautions

~Never point a pressure washer at yourself or others.

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~Never allow children to operate a pressure washer. Keep children at a safe distance when an adult is using a pressure washer.

If you are hurt by a pressure washer:

Call 911 if emergency help is needed.

Take care of any wounds:

Before treating the wound, wash your hands with soap and clean water.

Remove any object that is in the way of caring for the wound.

Put pressure on the wound with a clean cloth to stop bleeding.

After bleeding has stopped, pour bottled or clean running water over the wound.

Gently clean around the wound with soap and clean water.

Pat dry and use an adhesive bandage or dry clean cloth to cover the wound.

Leave unclean wounds open.

Persons who have high pressure spray wounds are urged to get medical attention as soon as possible. A medical professional might X-Ray the injured area, provide a tetanus shot and antibiotics, or make a referral to a specialist.

http://www.bt.cdc.gov/disasters/pressurewashersafety.asp

[jundp 191]

Why do you have to get a license to drive a car, for many jobs, to own a PET, but any person can be a parent? What is WRONG with people?

Seriously. How? How can people treat children this way?

[Toshtishtash 1]

[Jasman0717 9]

[Nagishkaw 510]

Sick, twisted, and just wrong.

[one...two...tree 2,762]

...hope that mother is required to take some adequate parenting classes and followed up with some serious counseling.

[Niels Bohr 72]

I watched the second video and I don't believe she's pregnant. She can't even handle the first one. A kid at that age needs a parent with that can handle alot of responsibility and patience. Apparently, as the video suggests, she cannot be a parent.

[JeanneVictoria 55]

Felt so helpless watching this little one endure the pain of the spray. What was this "mother" thinking...

[one...two...tree 2,762]

The reality is that most, if not all parents lack all the skills needed in being a parent. Probably the most difficult job anyone can have and an ongoing process of learning from your mistakes. Was this mother intentionally trying to hurt her child? I hope not, but obviously her choice of punishment was incredibly stupid, not to mention excessive.

How do parents deal with temper tantrums?

The article continues: Ignoring the tantrum behavior and helping a young child learn how to handle and express anger and frustration are usually effective ways to deal with the behavior. Also, paying attention to what triggers tantrums can help you act before a child's emotions escalate beyond the point where he or she can control them.

Any attempts to stop a tantrum usually make it worse. When you stop responding to your child's temper tantrums, the behavior may get worse for a few days before it stops. Ignoring some temper tantrums (such as when a child has one because he or she does not want to go to bed, or is kicking, biting, and pinching) may not be possible.

The article offers more ways of handling a child's tantrums:

• Praise for calming down. After a tantrum, comfort your child without giving into her or his demands. Tell your child that he or she was out of control and needed time to calm down. Never make fun of or punish a child who has had a temper tantrum. Don't use words like "bad girl" or "bad boy" to describe your child during a temper tantrum.
• Acknowledge the feeling. Once your child is calm, acknowledge his or her feelings of frustration and anger. You might say, "I know that you were frustrated because you could not tie your shoes."
• Teach other ways to handle anger and frustration. Teaching a child different ways to deal with negative emotions may reduce the number of temper tantrums a child has or prevent temper tantrums from getting worse. Offer simple suggestions to help a child learn self-control. For example, encourage your child to use words to express feelings or establish a safe, comfortable, place in the home where your child can go to calm down. Notice and praise good behavior.
• Encourage taking a break from a frustrating activity or redirect the child to a task he or she has already mastered.
• Be a good role model. Children often learn by watching their parents. Set a good example by handling your own frustration calmly.

What to do and what not to do during a tantrum?

During a tantrum, you can help your child by:

• Remaining calm.
• Staying where the child can see you, especially if the child is very young.
• Sending the child to his or her room until he or she is calm, if the child is old enough to understand why this is being done.
• Removing any dangerous furniture or objects within the child's reach. If there are too many objects that could hurt the child, you may need to move the child to a safe place. Sometimes, you may need to physically hold a younger child to prevent injury.
• Being firm and consistent about what you expect. Do not give in to the child's demands.
• Not trying to reason with the child during the tantrum. Talk calmly to the child if this works for him or her. However, don't lecture, threaten, or argue with the child.
• Distracting your child from his or her frustration or take your child away from a situation that is likely to trigger a tantrum. For example, if your child doesn't like to go to bed, about 20 minutes before bedtime talk about a fun activity that is going to occur the next day. Reduce the need to say "no" to your child by childproofing your home. Fewer rules need to be enforced if unsafe or breakable items are kept out of a child's reach or sight.

http://www.parentwonder.com/content/view/481/54/

[GabiandVi 34]

The reality is that most, if not all parents lack all the skills needed in being a parent. Probably the most difficult job anyone can have and an ongoing process of learning from your mistakes. Was this mother intentionally trying to hurt her child? I hope not, but obviously her choice of punishment was incredibly stupid, not to mention excessive.

How do parents deal with temper tantrums?

The article continues: Ignoring the tantrum behavior and helping a young child learn how to handle and express anger and frustration are usually effective ways to deal with the behavior. Also, paying attention to what triggers tantrums can help you act before a child's emotions escalate beyond the point where he or she can control them.

Any attempts to stop a tantrum usually make it worse. When you stop responding to your child's temper tantrums, the behavior may get worse for a few days before it stops. Ignoring some temper tantrums (such as when a child has one because he or she does not want to go to bed, or is kicking, biting, and pinching) may not be possible.

The article offers more ways of handling a child's tantrums:

• Praise for calming down. After a tantrum, comfort your child without giving into her or his demands. Tell your child that he or she was out of control and needed time to calm down. Never make fun of or punish a child who has had a temper tantrum. Don't use words like "bad girl" or "bad boy" to describe your child during a temper tantrum.
• Acknowledge the feeling. Once your child is calm, acknowledge his or her feelings of frustration and anger. You might say, "I know that you were frustrated because you could not tie your shoes."
• Teach other ways to handle anger and frustration. Teaching a child different ways to deal with negative emotions may reduce the number of temper tantrums a child has or prevent temper tantrums from getting worse. Offer simple suggestions to help a child learn self-control. For example, encourage your child to use words to express feelings or establish a safe, comfortable, place in the home where your child can go to calm down. Notice and praise good behavior.
• Encourage taking a break from a frustrating activity or redirect the child to a task he or she has already mastered.
• Be a good role model. Children often learn by watching their parents. Set a good example by handling your own frustration calmly.

What to do and what not to do during a tantrum?

During a tantrum, you can help your child by:

• Remaining calm.
• Staying where the child can see you, especially if the child is very young.
• Sending the child to his or her room until he or she is calm, if the child is old enough to understand why this is being done.
• Removing any dangerous furniture or objects within the child's reach. If there are too many objects that could hurt the child, you may need to move the child to a safe place. Sometimes, you may need to physically hold a younger child to prevent injury.
• Being firm and consistent about what you expect. Do not give in to the child's demands.
• Not trying to reason with the child during the tantrum. Talk calmly to the child if this works for him or her. However, don't lecture, threaten, or argue with the child.
• Distracting your child from his or her frustration or take your child away from a situation that is likely to trigger a tantrum. For example, if your child doesn't like to go to bed, about 20 minutes before bedtime talk about a fun activity that is going to occur the next day. Reduce the need to say "no" to your child by childproofing your home. Fewer rules need to be enforced if unsafe or breakable items are kept out of a child's reach or sight.

http://www.parentwonder.com/content/view/481/54/

Thanks for this info. My daughter is 16 months and has tantrums. I try to do the above, but it is very hard sometimes, so it's nice to get some reinforcement and validation like this. Just yesterday we went to the supermarket. My daughter wanted me to carry her around rather than sit in the cart. She screamed for about 20 minutes. It was embarrassing, but I just ignored her. People were staring, etc. Then, last night, she wanted a bottle in the middle of the night. She has been weaned from night bottles for over a month. It was a scene from The Exorcist. I kept doubting myself, but finally, she calmed down and held me while she fell asleep. SOOOOOO hard not to give in or lose patience. I admit, I lose patience sometimes. The night bottle tantrum was about the 6th one yesterday! I don't know what's up, but I guess I'll just keep ignoring the tantrums. GIVE ME STRENGTH!

[nana_356 0]

What the hell is going on nowadays, mothers are drowining their kids in the tub, throwing them over bridges, my god!