Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 6)

[*JG* 2]

Ok I am headed off to lunch but had a topic I wanted to throw out there...

Would you still file AOS or removing conditions for your spouse if things in the marriage didn't work out between the two of you? Take out all the factors of them just coming for a green card and all that. It was a genuine bona fide marriage but it just didn't work between the two of you. Would you file to let them stay here?

What factors would or wouldn't cause you to file for them?

(Please don't read more into this than there is in regard to my personal situation...I am genuinely just curious and wonder what others would do in the situation.)

Well, considering AOS should really be filed before the I-94 expires and he is out of status, I would say Hell no. If my marriage can't last 90 days, it couldn't have been very bonafide in the first place. And, honestly, I would not accept any reasoning whatsoever at this point.

Now, if you are talking about Lifting of Conditions......2 years later, that would be a different story for me. I'd still say NO; but at least he could file a waiver and file for himself. I would not oppose his petition.

[Yaads 0]

Yardie,

so sorry to hear about your grandma! I think the people at those places becaome desensatized after a while and forget that they are dealing with someone's grandmother. Are u guys able to bring her home on weekend??

Thanks Jengles...she lives there in this assisted living/retirement home fulltime all the time. She has like a little studio apartment and all her meals and everything are included. It really is a nice place I just think the care is lacking. She never really leaves there...she just doesn't have the energy. We have taken her out to dinner and stuff like that but she doesn't really like to leave so she just stays there. That is very true about the desensatization...never really thought of that.

Thanks Shauna The lack of disrespect is just astounding to me sometimes. Sorry your grandma had to go through that.

[Yaads 0]

Ok I am headed off to lunch but had a topic I wanted to throw out there...

Would you still file AOS or removing conditions for your spouse if things in the marriage didn't work out between the two of you? Take out all the factors of them just coming for a green card and all that. It was a genuine bona fide marriage but it just didn't work between the two of you. Would you file to let them stay here?

What factors would or wouldn't cause you to file for them?

(Please don't read more into this than there is in regard to my personal situation...I am genuinely just curious and wonder what others would do in the situation.)

I don't think that I would simply because we were no longer together. If the couple has really tried to make it work, and it just hasn't, then there would be no need for me to continue to have any responsibility in regards to his staying here. It would be the same if I married an American...if we tried to make it work, and it didn't...then I would want to sever the ties completely and negate myself of ANY and ALL responsibility towards him. If I didn't, then we might as well just be together. There's too much risk and responsibility involved, especially in regards to the immigration issue.

Those are some very good points. I wasn't even thinking from a responsibility standpoint. Interesting insight

[Yaads 0]

Ok I am headed off to lunch but had a topic I wanted to throw out there...

Would you still file AOS or removing conditions for your spouse if things in the marriage didn't work out between the two of you? Take out all the factors of them just coming for a green card and all that. It was a genuine bona fide marriage but it just didn't work between the two of you. Would you file to let them stay here?

What factors would or wouldn't cause you to file for them?

(Please don't read more into this than there is in regard to my personal situation...I am genuinely just curious and wonder what others would do in the situation.)

yes because I would want the child support

Hehehe...that is a very big motivating factor.

[Yaads 0]

Ok I am headed off to lunch but had a topic I wanted to throw out there...

Would you still file AOS or removing conditions for your spouse if things in the marriage didn't work out between the two of you? Take out all the factors of them just coming for a green card and all that. It was a genuine bona fide marriage but it just didn't work between the two of you. Would you file to let them stay here?

What factors would or wouldn't cause you to file for them?

(Please don't read more into this than there is in regard to my personal situation...I am genuinely just curious and wonder what others would do in the situation.)

Well, considering AOS should really be filed before the I-94 expires and he is out of status, I would say Hell no. If my marriage can't last 90 days, it couldn't have been very bonafide in the first place. And, honestly, I would not accept any reasoning whatsoever at this point.

Now, if you are talking about Lifting of Conditions......2 years later, that would be a different story for me. I'd still say NO; but at least he could file a waiver and file for himself. I would not oppose his petition.

Yep that is basically my standpoint as well. I wouldn't oppose it but I am not going to be held responsible for the next 10 years of my life for someone who doesn't want to be married.

[nannygirl82 0]

Ok I am headed off to lunch but had a topic I wanted to throw out there...

Would you still file AOS or removing conditions for your spouse if things in the marriage didn't work out between the two of you? Take out all the factors of them just coming for a green card and all that. It was a genuine bona fide marriage but it just didn't work between the two of you. Would you file to let them stay here?

What factors would or wouldn't cause you to file for them?

(Please don't read more into this than there is in regard to my personal situation...I am genuinely just curious and wonder what others would do in the situation.)

Well, considering AOS should really be filed before the I-94 expires and he is out of status, I would say Hell no. If my marriage can't last 90 days, it couldn't have been very bonafide in the first place. And, honestly, I would not accept any reasoning whatsoever at this point.

Now, if you are talking about Lifting of Conditions......2 years later, that would be a different story for me. I'd still say NO; but at least he could file a waiver and file for himself. I would not oppose his petition.

Yep that is basically my standpoint as well. I wouldn't oppose it but I am not going to be held responsible for the next 10 years of my life for someone who doesn't want to be married.

so ture....

[Yaads 0]

Geesh everyone must be working at work for once We will never get to page 100 today at this rate. I was hoping that the Captain would have to shut our thread down in less than a month cause we get to big

How are you feeling Shauna? Ready to have her already?

[nannygirl82 0]

Yardie,

so sorry to hear about your grandma! I think the people at those places becaome desensatized after a while and forget that they are dealing with someone's grandmother. Are u guys able to bring her home on weekend??

Thanks Jengles...she lives there in this assisted living/retirement home fulltime all the time. She has like a little studio apartment and all her meals and everything are included. It really is a nice place I just think the care is lacking. She never really leaves there...she just doesn't have the energy. We have taken her out to dinner and stuff like that but she doesn't really like to leave so she just stays there. That is very true about the desensatization...never really thought of that.

Thanks Shauna The lack of disrespect is just astounding to me sometimes. Sorry your grandma had to go through that.

i know me too.....

i think my grandma was just tired and she was ready to go...she was 94 when she passed....and even though it was hard for us to let her go looking back it was just her time.....

sorry to hear about your grandma just be strong and hold your ground....bring flowers to her when you see her...my grandma liked that....and just spend time with her....

[nannygirl82 0]

Geesh everyone must be working at work for once We will never get to page 100 today at this rate. I was hoping that the Captain would have to shut our thread down in less than a month cause we get to big

How are you feeling Shauna? Ready to have her already?

today has been actually a good day....not to tired..just not that hungry either..which is a good thing but at night forget about it....i just can't get comfortable at all...and my dreams are horrible....

it was funny today my mom and i were..where else shopping and were talking to this lady about her stroller and how well she liked it ect ect...and i thought to myself...wow...this is what my life has come to....checking out baby strollers oh well i will be ssssoo happy when she is here.....

[Jengles 0]

Ok I am headed off to lunch but had a topic I wanted to throw out there...

Would you still file AOS or removing conditions for your spouse if things in the marriage didn't work out between the two of you? Take out all the factors of them just coming for a green card and all that. It was a genuine bona fide marriage but it just didn't work between the two of you. Would you file to let them stay here?

What factors would or wouldn't cause you to file for them?

(Please don't read more into this than there is in regard to my personal situation...I am genuinely just curious and wonder what others would do in the situation.)

Well, considering AOS should really be filed before the I-94 expires and he is out of status, I would say Hell no. If my marriage can't last 90 days, it couldn't have been very bonafide in the first place. And, honestly, I would not accept any reasoning whatsoever at this point.

Now, if you are talking about Lifting of Conditions......2 years later, that would be a different story for me. I'd still say NO; but at least he could file a waiver and file for himself. I would not oppose his petition.

Yep that is basically my standpoint as well. I wouldn't oppose it but I am not going to be held responsible for the next 10 years of my life for someone who doesn't want to be married.

but what if it is the american citizen who wants to end the marriage?

[Jengles 0]

Geesh everyone must be working at work for once We will never get to page 100 today at this rate. I was hoping that the Captain would have to shut our thread down in less than a month cause we get to big

How are you feeling Shauna? Ready to have her already?

today has been actually a good day....not to tired..just not that hungry either..which is a good thing but at night forget about it....i just can't get comfortable at all...and my dreams are horrible....

it was funny today my mom and i were..where else shopping and were talking to this lady about her stroller and how well she liked it ect ect...and i thought to myself...wow...this is what my life has come to....checking out baby strollers oh well i will be ssssoo happy when she is here.....

no it gets better...next u get to check out baby shite!!

Edited March 10, 2008 by Jengles

[JaEnglishGirl 34]

Ok I am headed off to lunch but had a topic I wanted to throw out there...

Would you still file AOS or removing conditions for your spouse if things in the marriage didn't work out between the two of you? Take out all the factors of them just coming for a green card and all that. It was a genuine bona fide marriage but it just didn't work between the two of you. Would you file to let them stay here?

What factors would or wouldn't cause you to file for them?

(Please don't read more into this than there is in regard to my personal situation...I am genuinely just curious and wonder what others would do in the situation.)

It all depends why we broke up.

If he was a cheater, liar or dishonest hell no....In fact, I guess if I disliked him, I wouldn't file.

If he was a genuinely good person, and had always treated me well, I'd help him all I could.

[JaEnglishGirl 34]

Yardie,

so sorry to hear about your grandma! I think the people at those places becaome desensatized after a while and forget that they are dealing with someone's grandmother. Are u guys able to bring her home on weekend??

Thanks Jengles...she lives there in this assisted living/retirement home fulltime all the time. She has like a little studio apartment and all her meals and everything are included. It really is a nice place I just think the care is lacking. She never really leaves there...she just doesn't have the energy. We have taken her out to dinner and stuff like that but she doesn't really like to leave so she just stays there. That is very true about the desensatization...never really thought of that.

Thanks Shauna The lack of disrespect is just astounding to me sometimes. Sorry your grandma had to go through that.

So sorry to hear about your grandmother....Mine is pushing 97 and still lives on her own in her own house. I pray she'll never have to go into a nursing home though

[JaEnglishGirl 34]

Geesh everyone must be working at work for once We will never get to page 100 today at this rate. I was hoping that the Captain would have to shut our thread down in less than a month cause we get to big

How are you feeling Shauna? Ready to have her already?

today has been actually a good day....not to tired..just not that hungry either..which is a good thing but at night forget about it....i just can't get comfortable at all...and my dreams are horrible....

it was funny today my mom and i were..where else shopping and were talking to this lady about her stroller and how well she liked it ect ect...and i thought to myself...wow...this is what my life has come to....checking out baby strollers oh well i will be ssssoo happy when she is here.....

I LOVE mine, this is what I have....

[JaEnglishGirl 34]

I guess one thing I dislike about the USA, 90% of the strollers are puke green!!

:lol:

please don't all stone me at once!