Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 6)

[Shemmy 4]

My friends still go to Bike Week in SC When are they going to grow up???

Trelawny - do you know where Damien can play football (soccer) in your area?

[BelwinMills 0]

my spring breaks went to my Aunt and Uncles house in Puerto Rico. That was fun..thanks Auntie for providing the drinks . I spent one building houses for habitat for Humanity in Miami. Wow Miami is crazy during spring break lots of stories there. The rest of my spring breaks I spent in Jamaica. The best part is that its been awhile for college spring break. I still get one every year being a teacher. I wish hubby and I had the same spring break. Too bad he has his this week and it will still be cold.

[Sonshyne 2]

Good mawning Yardies

[nannygirl82 0]

just got back from birthday shopping with my sister...i am so tired my feet just hurt...i'm ready for the baby to come...

We have snow here too I've been cleaning, cleaning, cleaning all day. Now I get to go get the ex so he can see his daughter. (only doing that for her...so she can see her daddy and I have a babysitter so I can go out) And I have a date tonight Date #3 so far so good.

Gill- GOOD LUCK! Have a fabulous trip! And you guys will be in my thoughts.

have a great time!!!

:lol: Shauna did you go baby shopping? Are you ready for her?

I Just got finished cleaning and was thinking the same thing. My pelvic area has started to hurt so much. Sorry for the TMI. I am going shopping tomorrow with my sister-in-law for items. Hopefully hubby will get the nursery painted this week. I should say better get it painted because he is on Spring Break.

Is everyone ready to Spring Forward. It just seems so early this year. I hate losing an hour of sleep.

oh well it was a little bit of both i just can't help myself...tj maxx has the cutest things and i wanted to get soo much but i don't know how big she is going to be when summer comes......oh well...i think i found the stoller i want...so i hope to get it within the next coming week...

oh that area has hurt for a while....i asked the dr about it and she wasn't to worried about it...i have officially hit the "i am uncomfortable all the time" stage....

I want to get clothes for her but hubby told me to wait until the last ultra sound. I will be having my last one at week 37. Then he said we would get clothes then. We have lots of hand me downs right now which is great. I just bought my stroller, high chair, and pack and play this week. There was a sale at Target this week. I had to get them before it ended on Saturday. Now I am going shopping for the essentials tomorrow. I will have to check out TJ Max. I am going to babies r us.

So Shauna you are telling me it gets worse. UGH.. I feel like I am going to the bathroom now every half hour. I was going to ask the doctor next week about why it hurt so bad. But I guess its suppose too.

yup it get worse before it gets better the dr pushed around on my stomach but nothing hurt just pressure...so she said that there is a circular muscle of something like that that runs around your stomach and sometimes the baby will lay on it and that can cause the pressure....has your leg gone numb yet???

[*SunRay* 1]

Good Morning Everyone!!

[nannygirl82 0]

[BelwinMills 0]

just got back from birthday shopping with my sister...i am so tired my feet just hurt...i'm ready for the baby to come...

We have snow here too I've been cleaning, cleaning, cleaning all day. Now I get to go get the ex so he can see his daughter. (only doing that for her...so she can see her daddy and I have a babysitter so I can go out) And I have a date tonight Date #3 so far so good.

Gill- GOOD LUCK! Have a fabulous trip! And you guys will be in my thoughts.

have a great time!!!

:lol: Shauna did you go baby shopping? Are you ready for her?

I Just got finished cleaning and was thinking the same thing. My pelvic area has started to hurt so much. Sorry for the TMI. I am going shopping tomorrow with my sister-in-law for items. Hopefully hubby will get the nursery painted this week. I should say better get it painted because he is on Spring Break.

Is everyone ready to Spring Forward. It just seems so early this year. I hate losing an hour of sleep.

oh well it was a little bit of both i just can't help myself...tj maxx has the cutest things and i wanted to get soo much but i don't know how big she is going to be when summer comes......oh well...i think i found the stoller i want...so i hope to get it within the next coming week...

oh that area has hurt for a while....i asked the dr about it and she wasn't to worried about it...i have officially hit the "i am uncomfortable all the time" stage....

I want to get clothes for her but hubby told me to wait until the last ultra sound. I will be having my last one at week 37. Then he said we would get clothes then. We have lots of hand me downs right now which is great. I just bought my stroller, high chair, and pack and play this week. There was a sale at Target this week. I had to get them before it ended on Saturday. Now I am going shopping for the essentials tomorrow. I will have to check out TJ Max. I am going to babies r us.

So Shauna you are telling me it gets worse. UGH.. I feel like I am going to the bathroom now every half hour. I was going to ask the doctor next week about why it hurt so bad. But I guess its suppose too.

yup it get worse before it gets better the dr pushed around on my stomach but nothing hurt just pressure...so she said that there is a circular muscle of something like that that runs around your stomach and sometimes the baby will lay on it and that can cause the pressure....has your leg gone numb yet???

My legs and hands were going numb last night when I was sleeping. I wanted to sleep more but I decided to get up because of my restless legs.

[BelwinMills 0]

Happy 26rh Birthday Shauna!! :energetic:

What are you doing for your birthday?

[clairern 0]

Claire......

Has he voiced any objections before? About moving to the US, I mean?

Do you think he had an argument or something with his father that could make him hesitant to move?

He could just be scared. It is a big step for anyone.

I think at the very least, you need to have some good sit down, heart to hearts with him to find out what the problem is.

I absolutely think you are in the most perfect situation. With those of us on K-1's & K-3's we are given little time to live together and make that smooth transition from living apart to marrying and being together almost all the time at first. Someone I know was saying she wished they gave us 4 months before the K-1 expired. I said 6 would be even better. The transition is just so sudden and difficult to work with.

Anyhow, I think you are the luckiest girl I have heard of in a long time. Yes, use the time to see how it all flows. That is a brilliant thing to do.

And, no, since his father is directly involved in this one, I think it was appropriate to discuss with him. I am almost thinking you should've said all that to Mike first though. I think I would definately discuss it before he finds out from his father.

JG, thank you for your openmindednes and great advice. I am happy that you have not voiced what I was thinking. That he might have someone there with him at nights why it's been difficult for him to talk to me.

Initially, when we talked about him coming and the progress of the visa petitoni, I got so excited, but he was like nonchalant and stated that he is not in a hurry to leave JA. He also said that he had a good job and lives in a good home and is among his family that he grew up with. The only good thing that he said was that he wanted to be with me and that makes hime want to move. He wanted to drag thing out a bit longer so maybe he is apprehensive about leaving, uprooting the life that he is used to,to try to adapt to a whole new country, lifestyle and living with a womna after not having done so in years.

Whenever I try to talk to him about the changes that are about to happen, he clams up. His step-mom suggested the same thing that you did. when he comes to Florida, I should come visit him and sit down and talk about the changes and how it is going to affect him and hoe it is making him feel.

Thank you also for saying I am fortunate to be in this situation, cause I feel the same. I want to take that time to get to know him at a closer distance before I make the big step to live with him.

Thank you once again, you smart woman you.

Claire

Stress of this whole process has a funny way of making you doubt yourself all the time. If you really do think like that, you need to talk to him about it. Only he can help you get over that feeling.

If you really belive in your relationship and this man, you will know that you are being foolish for doubting him. If you still doubt, you need to work through all those feelings as to why you feel like that, what you are seeing and feeling to make yourself feel like that, and if you need to worry about it and eventually do something about it.

I don't belive in putting up with a bunch a ####### for a man who is not worth it. But, I also don't believe in needlessly punishing a good man for my own insecurities. You seem like a beautiful person, Claire, and I believe that entitles you to everything you ever dreamed of. Do what you need to do to achieve that.

Well guys; I have been logged on all morning but have not been able to catch up with the goings on (I will later). Here is my issue----

Bear with me, this is gonna be long.....sigh

Mike and I were introduced back in March 8 2007 by my sis-in-law. I went to Ja to meet him in April and then again in October. After we met for the first time, it was an instant connection and we found that we had a lot in common in regards to what our expectations are in a relationship. We grew up a couple of miles apart from each other, we are the same age--he is older by 2 months. He is a Seventh-Day Adventist. I was born one. We were both married and are now divorced. We are both educated and have great conversations.

When I visited him, I did what anyone in a relationship would do, brought him gifts (it was around his birthday) and when I got back home and he lost his job after hurricaine Dean, I helped him out financially.

After I met him I found that he was everything I wanted in a life partner. I started to look into this VJ and found this site that offered a wealth of information. As we continued to get to know each other, I told him that I wanted us to be together for the rest of our lives and he told me he wanted the same thing. When I mentioned to him about the ways we could go about achieving that in regards to the fiance visa, he told me that his father had filed a petition for him way back in 2000 and he has not heard anything about it. He went as far as to give me copies of his petition and his father's number and asked that I followup on it for him. That made me really happy because the process was already in place.

After I contacted his father and got his info I called USCIS got his NVC case number, I started to followup and was asked by him after explanation from me, to be his agent. Since then I have taken care of all correspondence to and from NVC and all fees have been paid by me.

I do not know if you all remember how stressed out I was earlier this year, about the DS-230 and police report? Well, we have finally gotten over the hurdle of having case complete.

Well, I called him last night to tell him the good news and he was all nonchalant and not too responsive to me. I asked him if everthing was alright and he said everthing was. I then said what was the matter then and he said "I want to go to sleep". I was very perturbed and pissed off because I find that very unusual a reaction for a situation like this.

Lately, as I stated in some post before, we have not been talking that much. He is hot and cold towards me. when I call him during the day at work, everything is alright and we have a graet conversation. When I call him at night (I try not to call him after 9:30pm--he goes to bed then) he is not too eager to talk to me and I find that disturbing.

I know what all has been said here on VJ and in the past few pages of posts--but I am here wondering what the heck is going on.

I called his father and step-mom last night and told them how I felt and told them that if and when he get the visa, I do not want him to come to my home. They should have him come to Florida and stay a while with them and I will see how things are and waht happens then. I want to wait to see if this behavior is just out of fraustration or what and will things change after he is here.

What do you all think about this and am I wrong in telling his father what I did?

Your thoughts and reaction to this would be really appreciated.

Sorry for the long post, I have no-one else to share things like this with and I am counting on my VJ sistas to give a listening ear and shoulder to lean on

Well, I feel like there could be several things going on here. I know he hasn't said anything yet...but is it possible that he could be going through some family issue or something at work? I know when my husband begins to feel really burdened with frustrations with his family or work, then he can be a bit ornery. And unfortunately, he doesn't let me know right away. I've learned to ask what is wrong, and he will say "everyting's alright", even though I know it's not. But I've learned that he will come to me in his own time, when he's able to talk about what's going on with him. I allow him to have his "man period" every now and then, because I know that I am not always the kindest or best to him when I'm having a hard time, and he gives me the time and space that I need when I need it. We've really gotten good at knowing "when to push and when not to push". If you have a gut instinct that something else may be going on, then by all means...GO WITH YOUR GUT!! I think it's good that he actually has somewhere else to go when he gets here instead of coming directly to your home, but my question is, how far are you from Florida? If/when he does come, do you think that you not allowing him to come to your home will create even more stress and tension? In the end though I think you should do what you feel is best for you and your relationship. And remember that it will all work out the way it is supposed to. I do believe that you should have this conversation with him though and let him know your intentions so there will be NO SURPRISES...and who knows...maybe that will open the door to conversation regarding the difficulties that you have been experiencing lately. Good luck. And I'm here for you!!

Thank you Mrs. Palmer. I sometimes think he is fraustrated and also scared. He got married to this women 10 years ago and she moved to Canada with all promises to file for him and till today, he is still in JA and divirced. I sometimes think he is apprehensive about starting life with someone new not knowing what to expect.

His father lives in Daytona Beach and I live in North Carolina. Couple hours by plane and as I have stated before, they have invited me to come and vist when he gets there so we can have a sit down, whether with him alone or with them in attendance.

A couple hours by plane for you or him and FREE NATION-WIDE LONG DISTANCE telephone! That, in itself is a thing of beauty!

It sure is

[clairern 0]

For those of you in the Raleigh/Durham area in NC...does anyone know of any good Tai Chi schools around...I'd prefer the Yang style, but am also interested in learning the Chen form...If you have any info that'd be great! I'm bored...

I have no clue about those classes.

[*SunRay* 1]

HaPpY bIrThDaY nAnNy!!!!

[clairern 0]

HaPpY bIrThDaY nAnNy!!!!

Ditto May you live to see many more!!!!

[nannygirl82 0]

Happy 26rh Birthday Shauna!! :energetic:

What are you doing for your birthday?

just having family over....my mom is making lasagna and of course birthday cake....

just got back from birthday shopping with my sister...i am so tired my feet just hurt...i'm ready for the baby to come...

We have snow here too I've been cleaning, cleaning, cleaning all day. Now I get to go get the ex so he can see his daughter. (only doing that for her...so she can see her daddy and I have a babysitter so I can go out) And I have a date tonight Date #3 so far so good.

Gill- GOOD LUCK! Have a fabulous trip! And you guys will be in my thoughts.

have a great time!!!

:lol: Shauna did you go baby shopping? Are you ready for her?

I Just got finished cleaning and was thinking the same thing. My pelvic area has started to hurt so much. Sorry for the TMI. I am going shopping tomorrow with my sister-in-law for items. Hopefully hubby will get the nursery painted this week. I should say better get it painted because he is on Spring Break.

Is everyone ready to Spring Forward. It just seems so early this year. I hate losing an hour of sleep.

oh well it was a little bit of both i just can't help myself...tj maxx has the cutest things and i wanted to get soo much but i don't know how big she is going to be when summer comes......oh well...i think i found the stoller i want...so i hope to get it within the next coming week...

oh that area has hurt for a while....i asked the dr about it and she wasn't to worried about it...i have officially hit the "i am uncomfortable all the time" stage....

I want to get clothes for her but hubby told me to wait until the last ultra sound. I will be having my last one at week 37. Then he said we would get clothes then. We have lots of hand me downs right now which is great. I just bought my stroller, high chair, and pack and play this week. There was a sale at Target this week. I had to get them before it ended on Saturday. Now I am going shopping for the essentials tomorrow. I will have to check out TJ Max. I am going to babies r us.

So Shauna you are telling me it gets worse. UGH.. I feel like I am going to the bathroom now every half hour. I was going to ask the doctor next week about why it hurt so bad. But I guess its suppose too.

yup it get worse before it gets better the dr pushed around on my stomach but nothing hurt just pressure...so she said that there is a circular muscle of something like that that runs around your stomach and sometimes the baby will lay on it and that can cause the pressure....has your leg gone numb yet???

My legs and hands were going numb last night when I was sleeping. I wanted to sleep more but I decided to get up because of my restless legs.

my left thigh goes numb when i am walking....feels so weird to be walking and then can't feel my thigh.....

thanks everyone for the wells wishes!!!

Edited March 9, 2008 by nannygirl82

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HAppy B-day Shauna..no Gill to get u a cake

[TRELAWNY PARISH 10]

My friends still go to Bike Week in SC When are they going to grow up???

Trelawny - do you know where Damien can play football (soccer) in your area?

Hey my girl...sorry I've been MIA...ex stressing me again. We'll I would have to ask my ex. He plays for a team, but let me see if I can talk to some of his friends. There's a large Jamaican football community in the Langely Park/Silver Spring area. Some of them are okay, but some I don't care for. I'll find out the information for you.