Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 6)

[TRELAWNY PARISH 10]

Okay...I'm in a slump a couple of days before my wedding and I'm trying not to show my feelings to my SO (has nothing to do with my marriage) just a lot going on in my life and at work, I just can't seem to catch up...I just feel like I'm falling backwards...will some one catch me please?

[JaEnglishGirl 34]

Oh! on another topic... I have a girlfriend that wants to take a vacation by herself over Christmas. She has been to SLU twice to visit me so I told her to try something new. What do you all think about sending her to Jamaica?

Peace & Blessings.... Irie

I think this is still going, I've know the owner for years!!

http://www.girlfriendtours.com/about.htm

[JaHoney 3]

No JA, your right. He cant go all day without having some form of nourishment. You know MIL's swear, they know everything. My previous MIL, did the same thing only stupider, southern women tend to feel that breast milk, or formula is not enough to sustain a baby so they start feeding em, table food early on, well my ex MIL decided to feed my son who was 11 months old , mashed up greens and cornbread and then sent him home, he hollered all night cause his dang tummy was hurting and he was gassy all night.

[JaHoney 3]

Lawny, it's gonna be okay girl. You are always here to offer some encouraging words to us on this site. Think about it, it has been a long road with the visa process and everything, which at times can probably feel all consuming, your working and planning a new chapter in your life. It is ok to feel overwhelmed, heck if you need to go in a bathroom and have a good cry, then by all means do so. Just think in two days your gonna be on to a new phase in your life, focus on how wonderful that will feel, dont worry about the rest.

[JaEnglishGirl 34]

My MIL is from the South too lol!

He did eat some food at her house, just NO liquid....

No JA, your right. He cant go all day without having some form of nourishment. You know MIL's swear, they know everything. My previous MIL, did the same thing only stupider, southern women tend to feel that breast milk, or formula is not enough to sustain a baby so they start feeding em, table food early on, well my ex MIL decided to feed my son who was 11 months old , mashed up greens and cornbread and then sent him home, he hollered all night cause his dang tummy was hurting and he was gassy all night.

[JaEnglishGirl 34]

Aw.....I know your life has been such a roller coaster lately, and it's hard dealing with everything....You need to put your burden down now, Marcel is here to help you with it....One of the hardest things I dealt with over the past year is learning that I don't have to deal with everything on my own....Hugs to you...

Okay...I'm in a slump a couple of days before my wedding and I'm trying not to show my feelings to my SO (has nothing to do with my marriage) just a lot going on in my life and at work, I just can't seem to catch up...I just feel like I'm falling backwards...will some one catch me please?

[*JG* 2]

Okay...I'm in a slump a couple of days before my wedding and I'm trying not to show my feelings to my SO (has nothing to do with my marriage) just a lot going on in my life and at work, I just can't seem to catch up...I just feel like I'm falling backwards...will some one catch me please?

Tre, girl....you hang in there. Work your butt off at work, doing what you can. Leave it all behind when you walk out those doors.

A wedding is a big deal, no matter how big or small it is. You are just freakin' out at everything hitting you at once. Enjoy the ride cause it will soon be over and you'll be settled into what will seem like boring married life in retrospect.

Just hang in there. Everything passes in it's time. This will too.

[sus 70]

Okay...I'm in a slump a couple of days before my wedding and I'm trying not to show my feelings to my SO (has nothing to do with my marriage) just a lot going on in my life and at work, I just can't seem to catch up...I just feel like I'm falling backwards...will some one catch me please?

Tre, you know we are all here to catch you - Push the troubles aside and concentrate on the beauty of your wedding - Problems don't go anywhere, and work won't go anywhere either - If you don't get it done or catch up, it's still gonna be there when you get back to it. Focus on the positives and enjoy this time!

[Islandwoman 0]

Yah, but see.....you are talking about going to see someone there. It is a little different when you are going for the first time and not knowing a single soul. This is the main reason I suggest an AI on at least the first visit. You have better control on if you want to just hang inside and feel safe or if you want to attempt to go out. Going out can be a little scary for newbies. Once you know how to navigate without getting taken and where the good places to go are, you can always stay somewhere less constricting.

I agree JG. I was there for almost 2 days by myself before my SO made it to the Holiday Inn and it was great! They also shuttled a bus to the clubs for like $10 most nights so it was easy and safe getting around. And of course, anyone who works there is more than happy escort you for the night.

I have to laugh at that. Tre and I have been talking.....HI seems to have an unusually high rate of visas recently.

$10 really? A few years ago, it was free.

LOL!!! I never thought of that. Guess they have some really good tour guides there!

I thought $10 was cheap for roundtrip since it cost me $20 to get from the blasted airport - one way!

[dancehallquana 5]

Okay...I'm in a slump a couple of days before my wedding and I'm trying not to show my feelings to my SO (has nothing to do with my marriage) just a lot going on in my life and at work, I just can't seem to catch up...I just feel like I'm falling backwards...will some one catch me please?

I know how u feel Tre, yesterday I had one of those days.. i just wanted to lie down cuz i felt so overwhelmed w/ this divorce, nursing my oldest back to health after surgery, (she is doing well, just dealing w/ pain)wishing for a new job and sometimes talking to someone even SO doesn't seem to be the answer..(don't know if anybody has been there)

Girl I went dancing last night just to free my mind. I know u have ALOT going on b4 the wedding but maybe u could do something or go somewhere just to decompress.. I am so happy for you girl, and u are sooooo blessed to be marrying your best friend. I hope that I can have that one day.

Don't be afraid to fall though sweetie, the Lord is right there behind u..as well as your SO and other family and friends...

[Islandwoman 0]

VENT alert!! And a bit of TMI

Yesterday, my MIL came and took the baby to church.

I fed him around 9-9.30am, she took him at 10.30am. Sent a bottle of water and a bottle of expressed milk. Church finishes at 2pm, she called me at 3.30pm to ask if I wanted her to bring over some dinner, which would take another hour. I was like fine.

She brought him back at 5.30pm.

He immediately wanted to nurse, drained both breasts.

After that, he nursed again in hour, and an hour after that. He went to sleep about 8pm, but must have woken up and nursed every hour throughout the night.

So this morning I asked her how much he had drunk when he was with her, because of how many times he had nurse during the night.

She said he had drunk NOTHING!!!!!!

In EIGHT hours, NO LIQUID??????????

He's TEN frigging months old, I would have a problem with my SEVEN YEAR OLD not drinking for a DAY!!

So I told her basically that it was not acceptable, he needed have been nursed.

She started going on about she didn't agree, any liquid would have done.

So I said, but he DIDN'T have ANY LIQUID at all!!

She said she tried him with the water and the milk, but he didn't take it, which is typical of him.

But in my opinion, SHE SHOULD HAVE BROUGHT HIM HOME THEN!!!!

Then she made a comment about him being almost 11 months old and still breastfeeding and then went on to say I did it for my own benefit!!!

I said PARDON ME??????

What BENEFIT is this??

Sore nipples??

Waking in the night to feed him??

Unable to go on a diet??

I was so angry I said to her that both me and her SON had decided that the baby was going to be breastfed until he was a year old and NOTHING was going to change that.

I also said to her that I could understand if she was going on about me feeding FORMULA to the baby but BREASTMILK????

So she said she was busy and hung up.

Am I wrong for being angry????

I agree with you!! I would have died in 8 hrs with no drink. Poor baby! She should've brought him home if he wouldn't take anything else, especially when she knows he doesn't like the bottle.

Stick to your guns - you are doing the best that you can for your son by giving him this jumpstart.

[SupportOAFJF 0]

Lawny...u have to remember ur not alone now..don't start keeping stuff in it only makes Marcel feel left out of "ur" world...gotta talk to him..if it will bore him.. and a wedding is big enough to be anxious over...

[JaHoney 3]

Island i believe we have all had those days, what is weird is it seems that the SO's are having issues as well, Mrs. P was saying how her SO was kind of in a funk, my SO was so frustrated yesterday i had to be strong for him, hell i was mad at the world on Saturday...LOL...but were gonna be ok. Sometimes i hate the heck outta my job, a few of my clients have contracted MRSA( that resistant staph) and im expected to go out and still make the rounds, ( yeah right) and i got bills up the butt that need to be paid, but guess what none of that matters, I got up this morning, thanked god for allowing me to see another day, mentally figured out the game plan for paying this next batch of due bills, and logged on to VJ so it is all good

[wakeywakeup 1]

Okay...I'm in a slump a couple of days before my wedding and I'm trying not to show my feelings to my SO (has nothing to do with my marriage) just a lot going on in my life and at work, I just can't seem to catch up...I just feel like I'm falling backwards...will some one catch me please?

I know how u feel Tre, yesterday I had one of those days.. i just wanted to lie down cuz i felt so overwhelmed w/ this divorce, nursing my oldest back to health after surgery, (she is doing well, just dealing w/ pain)wishing for a new job and sometimes talking to someone even SO doesn't seem to be the answer..(don't know if anybody has been there)

Girl I went dancing last night just to free my mind. I know u have ALOT going on b4 the wedding but maybe u could do something or go somewhere just to decompress.. I am so happy for you girl, and u are sooooo blessed to be marrying your best friend. I hope that I can have that one day.

Don't be afraid to fall though sweetie, the Lord is right there behind u..as well as your SO and other family and friends...

Hey Lawny,

Hang in there girlie.

Maybe tonight you should go ahead and unload what ever is on your mind with your hubbie to be. You never know he may be feeling just as overwhelmed will be relived to know you are in the same boat, besides ins't that why we're joining of lives with our soul mates. Let him and the Lord be your sounding board and then press on to Wednesday. Everyone here is giving you great advice just breath and then do something fun to shake your groove thang!

Wakey

[dancehallquana 5]

Hey all cheesecake lovers.. (I am IN LOVE with cheesecake!!!!!!!!!!!!)

FYI, the cheesecake factory has $1.50 slices on Wed to celebrate Trelawny's wedding....no I am sorry their 30 anniversary LOL got get some..

and JA, u don't have to feel bad about anything, no matter what others think about your strategies U and ur husband are the parents.. and as long as u r not endangering your child, what u say goes. She should keep her opinions to herself. Sometimes my own mother and I would have disagreements on upbringing so sometimes if my kids are w/ her, I just had to roll, but something as important as DRINKING!!!! C"MON!!!

She should have at least put something into his body that is just PHOCKERY!!! if u can't focus on his needs a lil better than that then u need to only have him for VERY brief visits until he is old enough to say "GRANNY, I"M THIRSTY!!!!!!!!!!"