Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 6)

[clairern 0]

Jomo,

I know. I don't want to admit it but it will probably end up being the same way for us. But its always nice to hope..

Sounds good.

Lawny,

Amen..I tell my SO that all the time. He wanted to know if I had saved any of my income tax money and my last bonus check. I had to explain to him that it isn't as easy to save because I have way more bills and responsibilites than he has. And your right, he has no house note. Only utilities. His car, paid for..He was having a fit one time about his electric bill saying it was way to high, this was after the hurricane that hit last August, I asked him how much it was, when he said $50 (U.S.) I laughed. Told him I'd love to trade with him. Try paying an electric bill thats twice that amount. He about died when I told him gas was about $4 a gallon.

Exactly.

His house phone equals to $8.50/US a month and the international cell phone is $15/US. I don't even think his electric bill reaches $20/USmonth (only if he uses a/c) which he never does. Water is $6.00/US a month. I can't remember the others and I'm like you're complaining. His mom is in a nursing home because of a stroke and he gave his brothers strict instructions on how to spend the money he left in the account. They've already lost their minds. I told him this would happen, but he says when it's done it's done. I told him to pay the nursing home directly and not depend on his brothers. Thing is some people back home think that once you reach the states that you start ROLLING in the DOUGH...

Oh, honey, just you wait. it just gets better and better. Better plant the money tree out back now.

And use tons of fertilizer

[BelwinMills 0]

I have a request.

Please pray for my girlfriend and her husband. Seems that the wait for an interview date in Kingston is taking a toll on their marriage and her A$$ of an husband is not being supportive - called last night to tell her that he was not alone and that he did his best to prevent this, but he's a man...####### is all I can say right now. My head is spinning and I can hear the hurt in her voice. On top of that she's pregnant and don't need the added stress.

I am so sorry, Tre.

I have heard a lot of women accept this kind of behavior from their men with the whole "he's a man (shrug)" attitude. ####### is that?

I hope she is giving him hell. He's so not worth her efforts.

JG - You ever talked to someone on the phone and you can feel all their pain and all their hurt. That's how I'm feeling this morning. I can't remember how long they've been married but it's been several years. He choose to wait a few years before telling her to file because he wanted to be in Jamaica to set up his business. She built a house back in 1998 before she met him and I can't believe he has the nerve to bring another woman in their and worse yet, the nerve to tell her that he did. I begged him to just deal with it and that he should be in the states by November and that it's not her fault. He's think that she did something wrong to delay the process. Their cause was completed the end of March and it's just at a standstill like many others. His own brothers even tried to talk to him, but he says he's been waiting too long. When I was home last month he must have said "HE'S A MAN" about 6 times to me in one conversation and I'm like, what is that suppose to me and all he would do is grin and smile and I would tell him that is not funny . He's a grown A$$ man and he should know better. I'm at a lose for words right now. If I was in Jamaica I would have to go and pay him a visit. What a true A$$. She's on the phone with their pastor in Jamaica right now and the pastor has also spoke to him and he's sticking to his phrase "he's a man"...the pastor is telling her not to make any quick decisions and just pray that he'll come to his senses and that these are things that truly test a marriage. I won't even add my comment about that.

Yes and I feel so bad for her.

I'm really a bad one to talk about this with, though, Tre. My stance has always been I do not put up with a cheater no matter where I am in my relationship. I respect myself too much for that. It has always been my belief and one I've never backed down from. Andre knows that is my one rule.....if he were to ever cheat no matter where we were in our relationship, he was gone and I'd never look back. I'm sorry, if you want to be with me, you are with me. If you want to go elsewhere, then go; but it will be without me.

I sympathize with her. I hope she works through it in a way that she can live with.

If you were to hop on a plane to beat his ###, I am up for going with you!

I feel the same way to Jomo. I am about to explode on my brothers girlfriend. She has cheated on him 3 times that I know of know. A month ago I thought it was over when he got the lawyer and asked my mom and dad to adopt his daughter. What gets me is when she would cheat she would take her 2 year old daughter with her out until 4am in the morning. I don't want my niece growing up in this environment. I think she is so young she doesn't know what she wants. She is a high school drop out and refuse to get her GED and won't get a job. When my brother went to stay at my mom and dads. My mother and I went to clean the house and she never did laundry. I know this because we found a swimsuit from last summer. My brother told me he would just take his money when he was at work and buy her and her daughter a new outfit everyday and tear off the tages. Then my brother took her back I was so pissed. He has a list of things she has to show him with in the next months or they are done. This gets me cause she was ripping on my hubby cause he is not with my 24/7. I had to explain to her that he has a job and a few bands he plays in. ugh. Plus we have trust in our relationships and that bands play late at night. We went to our family reunion yesterday and everyone was coming up talking to me how can you be so nice to her. My cousins said they would of told her off if they were me. I had to tell them that I want to see my niece so it is complicated. I am just learning nice gets you no where though. We had 2 baby showers at the family reunion and I had just asked my brothers girlfriend if she needed wash clothes because my mom said my niece didn't have many and what does she do re gift them. Dang and I am at the party. I was like what the hell I just gave her those yesterday. I had a few packets that I had not opened that Jaylyn's aunt gave us and thought I was being nice. I leaned over to my cousin and said how dare she regift them when she said she needs some. I could of used them for my little girl. Anyway I don't know how much longer I can go with being nice. I don't deal with cheaters well at all if I was in my bro's shoes she would of been gone a long time ago.

The one good thing to come out of this was God was looking out for my brother. She lost their 2nd child with a miscarriage. This was the time that Jaylyn was born and she was cheating why pregnant. I just think she is so young she doesn't know what she wants.

Sorry to vent this has been getting on my nerves.

On a good note. My husband last year at this time put together a reggae band with some of Ecollege music alumni and I went to hear them last night and boy where they good for a white reggae band. My husband has been teaching them to play reggae and it was pretty awesome. I heard them on their first practice and I was like oh my how is he going to teach them how to play reggae. Very impressive and they are going to play for my 30th birthday/anniversary in a few weeks.

[BelwinMills 0]

Mawning Family,

I have good news to share this morning. Ken was doing some work for my hair dresser over the weekend and this guy she knows came through the shop when Ken was there. He works interior construction and utility maintainance on apartment buildings are NYC and LI. So, he was telling my hair dresser how he has so much work and needs good people BADLY. She immediately introduced him to Ken and now Ken has a new F/T job!!!

G-D IS GOOD ALL THE TIME...ALL THE TIME G-D IS GOOD!!!

Here's the best part.

Ken told him what he used to do at the HI back in JA and the guy saw the work Ken had done on the beauty shop and hired him on the spot!! Ken is now making A NOICE PISSA FOOD NOW!! And that's just to start. The guy told Ken that once he proves himself his $$ will go up fast! That's the Pro...the Con...he's working NON-STOP 6 days a week, 10-12 hours a day!

But I am happy for him, because this is what he really wanted to do from the get-go! Honestly, if I had to hear him tell me ONE MORE TIME that he needs to find another job on his days off from the restaurant ...I would have been a widow shortly! He LOVES working and HARD LABOR type stuff. So he is going to use this opportunity to learn and build himself up!

We are truly blessed...G-d has been so good to us...sometimes I feel like Charlotte in 'Sex and the City'movie. Like life is just too good...when's the next shoe gonna drop? I know crappy attitude...but true! Well like Ken says "The sea can't rough everyday...wan day the sea mus calm!" I guess this is the day! Let me just enjoy today and not worry about tomorrow...right?

Bless,

Gill

Gill this is so awesome!! I am so happy for Ken Whoo. I love good stories like this.

[SupportOAFJF 0]

hoooray for Ken...God works Gilli !

Hellooo all...!!

[*SunRay* 1]

My honey called me this evening to tell me that he went to the clinic and got a shot and has to go back on Wednesday for two more. He's getting his shots up to date and I didn't even ask him to do that.... WOW he's the bomb! He said he gave the nurse his immunization card and told her that he's going abroad.. lol The one shot was $700 JA and the other 2 are $1200 each. He surprised the heck out of me.

[Marlita 0]

I know my job handed out AMEX giftcards back in March for $150..Well everyone who received them just paid a $37 tax on them out of their last paycheck. Some people weren't too happy about that. I didn't mind it too much.

What?! We just receive travellers checks in the amount of whatever. Its like cash. So i am not sure if the company takes the hit on a fee or what?

[Marlita 0]

Lawny,

You are truly off the chain. I'm at work sitting at my desk cracking up..

Yes he is going to Mobay Hope. After he told me what he was told to bring I called myself. I know he's not going to need all those shots. I believe he does have a regular doctor. He's suppose to be checking with his mother to see if she has a copy of his shot record. If she doesn't then he is going to go and get a copy from the doc's office. Heck he still has to pay the VISA fee so I hope he won't have to pay all that for the medical.

Ms Osbourne is VERY nice. I don't remember exactly...but I want to say Ken paid a little more than $150 US and that was getting majority of his shots at MoBay Hope (he lost his med records) , not to mention most of them were outdated anyway!

Good luck and like Lawny said ...PLEASE DO NOT STRESS...I KNOW EASIER SAID THAN DONE!!!! But TRY not to worry...you will be fine!

Bless,

Gill

Try to just go to your local clinic. The people there usually know what shots you need for the medical or other Yardies can tell you. Thats what my husband did and he didnt pay a dime.

[Marlita 0]

oh my, ladies, TYMoore even after continuing to read up on the filing process it just makes me sick. When i left JA yesterday i was so sad, i didnt eat until today around 1 becuase i felt so sick. Im still really sad and when i hear about the delays with Shrewdie and Lita and people waiting for interview dates, it just stresses me more because i know it will be just that much longer. Fortunately my SO is really good at "conserving" as he calls it, but being off of work for two weeks, has kind of set him back a bit and OMG he looks like a starving child, he lost so much weight while he was out, not eating much until his mouth healed...LOL...poor thing, i just want to bring him home, feed him and love him up so more

Oh Hun, you'll be ok. I am stressing cus our anniversary is next month and I think I'll be alone for it. Its hard when you live by yourself but your married. Plus just not knowing what the heck is happening and not being able to plan anything make it more frustrating. Not sure where u are in the process but it gets better. its been 5 months since I seen my husband and that is a long time. I truly have so much compassion for women with husbands who are deployed for months on end. Being seperated and in such a dangerous environment would have had me in the hospital by now. I am sick to my stomach everyday. I leave for JA soon, but the thought of coming back here to the infinite wait is taking its toll on me. I just wish they could just tell me anything.

[Unruly Gal 0]

Hey ladies, just wanted to say hello to all. Just returned from JA after many delays and getting stranded in Florida, but im home. I miss my SO already, and must have spent the last 8 hours crying off and on . As for him, he is doing well, his head looks like someone tried to split a coconut with a machete... but it is healing and he is back on his feet. Im not complaining and wouldnt allow him to either, as GOD is good and he is here to tell about it. He is all pressed about the scar in his head and his hair not growing properly in the area, i told him you better wear that dyam scar as a badge of honor that you are able to live and tell about it. The weather was nice and we had a great time, now i have to figure out how not to fall into depression about us being apart again. Does this ever get any easier???? doesnt feel like it sometimes. alright it is nearing 3 am and im getting delirious with sleep. Plus i have a lot of reading to do to catch up.

Unruly, PM me when you get a chance and tell me how your trip was.

Be Blessed Ladies

Honeychild

Welcome back, Honey! Can't wait to hear about your trip!

Edited July 15, 2008 by Unruly Gal

[classychic77 0]

Am I being selfish? Do I have a reason to be so angry? Let me explain....I have a room mate, she moved in with the agreement that she babysat my kids while I worked during the day in exchange for her portion of the rent and utilities. Fast forward almost 2 yrs later, our lease is up and we move July 31st. Her son became sick (allergies, eczema) and spent a few days last week in the hospital. When he was released she decided to go stay at her aunts house. Today I get a text telling me taking care of him and watching my 2 kids is too much for her, so she won't be back for awhile. Whats awhile? She has 12 more work days to babysit them before we move #######???? I am pissed, my main reason for being so mad is because not once has she called me to give me a heads up about the situation or her plans. I had to call and text her day after day to find out what was going on. I understand her son comes first of course but she also has a responsibility to me. I'm still expected to pay her portion of all the household bills! She could have picked up a phone! And I'm sorry but is it really that hard to watch my kids also? My kids are not babies and her son is not critical nor in need of constant medical attention, she is playing games. What also makes me mad is she knows my situation with not having anyone else to babysit. Well I'll be finding out tomorrow if I can move into my condo early and she can figure out ####### she's gonna do with the rest of her month. She's enjoying her aunts house maybe she should just stay there.

Hey Chica,

I don't blame you a DYAM!!! Being a working single parent is hard enough and trying to juggle all of it is NOT EASY!! So, when someone goes and throws another HUGE ball into your life it SUCKS!!! I WOULD BE LIVID!!! YOU HAVE EVERY RIGHT TO BE MAD...AND HELL YEAH HAVE HER PAY HER SHARE!!!

I AM SO HAPPY FOR YOU ABOUT THE CONDO THOUGH!!!! F-it ...G-d never closes a window without opening a door! Be done with her...it's just a shame she had to go out like that!

She really played herself!

Stay blessed,

Gill-xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxox

Thanks I always know when I come to this board with a problem I will leave feeling a whole heck of alot better!!!!

[classychic77 0]

Lawny your friend is in my prayers, that guys is scum. How hurtful to tell her something like that. Ya know the nerve of some people and amount of disrespect I have been seeing lately just make me want to scream!!!! People get it together #######! Didn't you get taught the golden rule when you were like 5? Ok I'm stepping of the soap box now, lmao.

Gill & Ken congrats! That is so great he has found another good job. You guys have had alot of good blessing since his arrival. And I love it because Gill you are so deserving of it.

And a big HELLO to everyone else!

[Islandwoman 0]

My honey called me this evening to tell me that he went to the clinic and got a shot and has to go back on Wednesday for two more. He's getting his shots up to date and I didn't even ask him to do that.... WOW he's the bomb! He said he gave the nurse his immunization card and told her that he's going abroad.. lol The one shot was $700 JA and the other 2 are $1200 each. He surprised the heck out of me.

Way to go Ray! The man is driven to get here and be with his woman.

[JaEnglishGirl 34]

Some photos for you ladies!!

Professor Nuts

Tinga Stewart

Frankie Paul

Edited July 15, 2008 by JaEnglishGirl

[TRELAWNY PARISH 10]

Lawny, is Indian's real name Brian? real thin, dark skinned, works on the beach with AL? Lawd, say it aint so...lol...he was trying to holla at one of my girls, who is probably three times his size when i was down visiting my SO in april. guess the game is the same no matter where you go!!!!

Honey I don't remember his real name, but INDIAN is a typical nickname in Jamaica. You will and almost 100% of the time run into someone name Indian. He's fair skinned, tall and his hair is long and wavy (like ZORRO) and it's always in a ponytail. He's an arrogant A$$. Girl, don't even get me started. I wouldn't be surprised if he's slept with every woman that's every visited Pier One.

On a side note, his brother is name Brian, but he's not dark and he works at Doctor Cave.

[JaEnglishGirl 34]

Sugar Minott

Admiral Bailey

Mr Easy

Edited July 15, 2008 by JaEnglishGirl