Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 6)

[TRELAWNY PARISH 10]

mawnin yardies,

Lawny, congrats again and again girl. I'm so happy for you and marcel. How has his first couple of a days been? I hope the ex is not scaring him.... We may have to pull out a can of whipaz- on him. He's acting real simply...

Wakey, congrats on dwayne getting his visa. I can't wait until I get to that point. If I can only get a darn appt to drop off the ds-230. I haven't heard a word from them people after sending 3 e-mails....

Anyone else have interviews scheduled?

Nothing yet--WTH??!!! How about just overnight mailing it or DHL? Use something with a tracking #. Then it will at least get there this week!

I just had the realization this weekend that our NOA2 expires August 15. Doesn't look like we will have our interview by then. Anyone have any ideas what I am supposed to do re: an extension??

The NOA2 has an expiration date that good for 4 months. But, 2 of the ladies that had interviews the same day we did NOA2 had expired before their interview and they were interviewed and approved anyway. They try to get you an appt before the expiration date usually.

How does an NOA2 expire? I have never heard of this.

[Forever Young 1]

mawnin yardies,

Lawny, congrats again and again girl. I'm so happy for you and marcel. How has his first couple of a days been? I hope the ex is not scaring him.... We may have to pull out a can of whipaz- on him. He's acting real simply...

Wakey, congrats on dwayne getting his visa. I can't wait until I get to that point. If I can only get a darn appt to drop off the ds-230. I haven't heard a word from them people after sending 3 e-mails....

Anyone else have interviews scheduled?

Nothing yet--WTH??!!! How about just overnight mailing it or DHL? Use something with a tracking #. Then it will at least get there this week!

I just had the realization this weekend that our NOA2 expires August 15. Doesn't look like we will have our interview by then. Anyone have any ideas what I am supposed to do re: an extension??

How does an NOA2 expire? I have never heard of this.

Hey Lita,

If my memory serves me well you only have I believe 4 months to get from NVC to Embassy to visa. However, the Embassy can extend the NOA2 for a next 4 months .

See below

http://www.visajourney.com/forums/index.php?showtopic=126837

[Islandwoman 0]

If my memory serves me well you only have I believe 4 months to get from NVC to Embassy to visa. However, the Embassy can extend the NOA2 for a next 4 months .

See below

http://www.visajourney.com/forums/index.php?showtopic=126837

Thanks Gill.

[Marlita 0]

Having a bit of a rough weekend here. Wondering WTH we need family anyway. Some days..................

Funny.....I thought the same thing this weekend.........!!!!

Congrats Lawny - welcome Marcel!! My heart is exploding for you two!

Right there with ya'll!

This morning...bright and Early KJ's mom calls! Ok, she has been building a house...so she is moving this Friday! Great, cause the area she lives in now is straight Garrison! We have been sending money down to her religiously for KJ's expenses and to help wid her move. The end of every month we send her $$. She calls today to tell Ken that her house needs windows and can we send down more $$ before Friday!

I look at Ken like... ...what is she talking about we just sent her her monthly allowance LAST WEEK!!! Look this month is already bugeted and I want to get Ken's AOS out before the end of it! If we send her what she is asking for that will NOT happen!

I told him...we can't do it! I'm sorry! He understood why and seemed ok with it...but I know in his heart he is worried about his son sleeping in a home with no windows! SOOO... now what??? Do I look like a big bad meanie and stick with the plan to file or give this chick her dyam windows!!? I told him we can give her the windows...but I don't want to hear JACK about going back to Yard anytime soon b/c w/o the AOS filed...there will be No GC or AP...zeen!?

Am I wrong? I just feel so dyam conflicted with this thing! At the same time I'm like WHO THE HELL doesn't realize that windows need to be purchased PRIOR to your move! So, you know me...is this Chick trying to run GAME on us??? I just want Ken and KJ to be happy and safe...but I don't want to be manipulated! Which is EXACTLY what I feel like I am being right now!

URRRRRRRGH!!!

Bless,

Gill

WINDOWS!!! Who needs windows in Jamaica in the middle of July!! I mean if they put windows in they just gonna fling em open anyway cause its so dang hot!! I know lots of folks in JA with out windows. yes they may be saving to get some, but not having any does not cause too many problems. Don't think you're mean cause you need to support your family here in the states too. You are only one person with one income and it needs to get dispersed in the most appropriate way. I dont know your situation but if Ken needs that AOS put in then put it in. Dont let this woman proke guilt trips with her chat bout pickeny nah ave window. Send them money for window screen material as a temp solution until you can afford to send money for the windows. Yes I do believe she is trying to run game on you two and using the baby is the best way for her to do it. The baby has a home, food clothing and love, he can go without a window for another month.

Sorry if this sounds harsh but I'm in a mood today and i hate when I see good people getting done in.

[*SunRay* 1]

Congrats Wakey,

I am happy for you, i know that must be a good feeling to know that Dwayne will finally be on his way to you.

I am tail dragging today, tired as *&^%, but happy because im leaving for Ochi tonight when i get off work so that will inspire me to get thru the day as productive ( yeah right) as possible....LOL.... I cant wait to see my SO with his stitched up self....LOL

As i tend to be the one with anxiety all the time, about everything, it didnt help to find out tropical storm Bertha has now turned into hurricane Bertha( cross your fingers and pray it doesnt head toward JA for me....LOL)

Honeychild I'm so excited for you leaving tonight. I wanna get in your suitcase and go back myself. This last trip was soo very short and if I'd known it would be a month till he gets here I would have stayed 2 weeks.

Don't forget your skeeter spray and be safe!

Wakey

mawnin yardies,

Lawny, congrats again and again girl. I'm so happy for you and marcel. How has his first couple of a days been? I hope the ex is not scaring him.... We may have to pull out a can of whipaz- on him. He's acting real simply...

Wakey, congrats on dwayne getting his visa. I can't wait until I get to that point. If I can only get a darn appt to drop off the ds-230. I haven't heard a word from them people after sending 3 e-mails....

Anyone else have interviews scheduled?

Man Sunny I don't know what the hold up is on your drop off. Want me to email with you. Maybe a different email address will grab some attention

Wakey

I'm in too, Shell. If you want me to e-mail for you, just PM the info. It can't hurt.

I sent the e-mail from two different e-mail addresses. I'll send it to you and we can see what happens..

Michelle - did Ray get his packet 3 in the mail?

Not yet and they mailed it out on the 23rd of June.

[Forever Young 1]

Having a bit of a rough weekend here. Wondering WTH we need family anyway. Some days..................

Funny.....I thought the same thing this weekend.........!!!!

Congrats Lawny - welcome Marcel!! My heart is exploding for you two!

Right there with ya'll!

This morning...bright and Early KJ's mom calls! Ok, she has been building a house...so she is moving this Friday! Great, cause the area she lives in now is straight Garrison! We have been sending money down to her religiously for KJ's expenses and to help wid her move. The end of every month we send her $$. She calls today to tell Ken that her house needs windows and can we send down more $$ before Friday!

I look at Ken like... ...what is she talking about we just sent her her monthly allowance LAST WEEK!!! Look this month is already bugeted and I want to get Ken's AOS out before the end of it! If we send her what she is asking for that will NOT happen!

I told him...we can't do it! I'm sorry! He understood why and seemed ok with it...but I know in his heart he is worried about his son sleeping in a home with no windows! SOOO... now what??? Do I look like a big bad meanie and stick with the plan to file or give this chick her dyam windows!!? I told him we can give her the windows...but I don't want to hear JACK about going back to Yard anytime soon b/c w/o the AOS filed...there will be No GC or AP...zeen!?

Am I wrong? I just feel so dyam conflicted with this thing! At the same time I'm like WHO THE HELL doesn't realize that windows need to be purchased PRIOR to your move! So, you know me...is this Chick trying to run GAME on us??? I just want Ken and KJ to be happy and safe...but I don't want to be manipulated! Which is EXACTLY what I feel like I am being right now!

URRRRRRRGH!!!

Bless,

Gill

WINDOWS!!! Who needs windows in Jamaica in the middle of July!! I mean if they put windows in they just gonna fling em open anyway cause its so dang hot!! I know lots of folks in JA with out windows. yes they may be saving to get some, but not having any does not cause too many problems. Don't think you're mean cause you need to support your family here in the states too. You are only one person with one income and it needs to get dispersed in the most appropriate way. I dont know your situation but if Ken needs that AOS put in then put it in. Dont let this woman proke guilt trips with her chat bout pickeny nah ave window. Send them money for window screen material as a temp solution until you can afford to send money for the windows. Yes I do believe she is trying to run game on you two and using the baby is the best way for her to do it. The baby has a home, food clothing and love, he can go without a window for another month.

Sorry if this sounds harsh but I'm in a mood today and i hate when I see good people getting done in.

I never thought about it...but you're right Lita! Oh, we already decided that AOS trumps windows!

Good looking out Chica...thanks

[TRELAWNY PARISH 10]

Sunny don't stress over Packet 3. I know plenty of people who did not receive it...Packet 3 is the DS-230, which you already have. To tell you the truth, I don't even remember what else was in there (if anything). Packet 4 had a lot of papers and detailed instructions. To me Packet 4 is the important one (contains the interview letter and medical instructions and other forms that you can print out online).

[Forever Young 1]

Congrats Wakey,

I am happy for you, i know that must be a good feeling to know that Dwayne will finally be on his way to you.

I am tail dragging today, tired as *&^%, but happy because im leaving for Ochi tonight when i get off work so that will inspire me to get thru the day as productive ( yeah right) as possible....LOL.... I cant wait to see my SO with his stitched up self....LOL

As i tend to be the one with anxiety all the time, about everything, it didnt help to find out tropical storm Bertha has now turned into hurricane Bertha( cross your fingers and pray it doesnt head toward JA for me....LOL)

Honeychild I'm so excited for you leaving tonight. I wanna get in your suitcase and go back myself. This last trip was soo very short and if I'd known it would be a month till he gets here I would have stayed 2 weeks.

Don't forget your skeeter spray and be safe!

Wakey

mawnin yardies,

Lawny, congrats again and again girl. I'm so happy for you and marcel. How has his first couple of a days been? I hope the ex is not scaring him.... We may have to pull out a can of whipaz- on him. He's acting real simply...

Wakey, congrats on dwayne getting his visa. I can't wait until I get to that point. If I can only get a darn appt to drop off the ds-230. I haven't heard a word from them people after sending 3 e-mails....

Anyone else have interviews scheduled?

Man Sunny I don't know what the hold up is on your drop off. Want me to email with you. Maybe a different email address will grab some attention

Wakey

I'm in too, Shell. If you want me to e-mail for you, just PM the info. It can't hurt.

I sent the e-mail from two different e-mail addresses. I'll send it to you and we can see what happens..

Michelle - did Ray get his packet 3 in the mail?

Not yet and they mailed it out on the 23rd of June.

Sunny,

Have you tried calling the Embassy directly. Tel: (876) 702-6000 Ok, brace yourself for the foolishness ...but it might be worth a shot! When you call ask for Citizen Services as there is no direct line for immigrant visas. Look, you may have to put up a stink wid deh dyam renk receptionist...but do what cha got to! You're a citizen and you need service. If you can't get to the CS ask to speak with Barbara LaGrange Johnson (the Ambassador)!! If they still say no then tell them your next call will be to Secretary of State, Condelezza Rice's office! Explain to them that you are VERY concerned that you have not received a date to drop off your DS-230. You have sent umpteen emails to a variety of Embassy addresses and the NVC recommended you call them and ask for assistance. You understand that this is not the appropriate dept. blah blah blah, but anything she can help you with would be appreciated!

That's what I did when I couldn't get an interview date for Ken!

Good luck Chica!

Bless,

Gill

Edited July 7, 2008 by Forever Young

[Marlita 0]

I warned you, Gill. I'm sorry just the same. I always hope when I put out the warning to someone, that I will be wrong. I'd really like to be wrong.

I think the hardest thing for me to deal with is the feelings of guilt they just keep piling on. And, you are absolutely correct on them not understanding how hard it is here. They have no concept of the bills, the hours worked just to pay those bills, and the general cost of living in the US. Andre says that all the time.....that every Jamaican should get to experience the US and then the calls would stop.

Want to know about the NY sister? She dropped her kids in Jamaica a few months ago with the premise that she would send money down each week and get herself a job in NY, a job she apparently can't get with her kids around. Wanna guess what has happened? She has not found a job. She sent money initially; but stopped after a few short weeks. She is just adding to our stress by adding two more kids to the JA household mix.

I fear for Andre. I fear they are going to stress him so much that it triggers a sickle cell episode.

Yes it can trigger an episode!! So please tell him to relax. I swear sometimes you just have to be as mad crazy as the next man. meaning, play their game. Send them your bills, show them pics of your car door, ask them for help. Its ridiculous that these people still have the nerve to keep coming back for more. Cut them off!! Unless somebody is on their death bed they can live the life in which the GOOD LORD ALMIGHTY has given them. Yes some peoples lives are harder than others but God has still blessed them with a life. There are people far more worse off. Send them media clippings on Darfur and ask them if their life is so bad. They were fully functioning before you were so blessed to meet your husband. You are not their messiah, on the Jesus is and they need to look to him to give them a way out of their mess.. He will also keep them from having to be in the mess in the first place. Seriously play their game.

[Marlita 0]

OMG!!! No no no NO!!! Andre can't let them do that to him...to YOUR IMMEDIATE FAMILY...JG & ANDRE!!!

Yuh knoa somedays I just want to take Kens phone and smash it to a million pieces! The guilt...you're so dyam right about that! Cause ultimately we are good people and want to help...but when people start taking your sweetness for weakness ish has got to be locked off! And unlike Alexis Carrington, I don't like being mean and stingy with Family...but the want want wants get to you over a while!

I am so sick of the whole dyam thing! What kills me is I never even sent down this type of money to Ken! I tried to explain to Ken the sooner we do the AOS & AP the sooner we can file for KJ and he can go down and get him! But they keep throwing ish in the path of that and all Ken wants is his boy! All Ken keeps saying is I need to work harder, I need to get another job! I mean the man works dyam near 70 hours a week as is!

JG, tell Andre the same thing I tell Ken...You could work 168 hours per week (24 hours x 7days) and it wouldn't be enough for them!! So when my husband worked himself to death and I am left a widow...are they going to take care of me????

Bless,

Gill

God bless you!!

[Forever Young 1]

Gill...DO NOT GIVE HER A RASS DOLLA ! she too brite..if u give her money monthly..wah mek she tink u ave it before di rass month done...mek she wait...mi sure KJ nah sleep a door ..she will find a way she a mumma to..just as much responsibility as Ken...wid her brite self..

Yuh no know how dem tings yah piss me off...and den yuh husband a go turn round to yuh and seh him cyaa mek him pickney suffer..well guess wah 50/50 resposibility him belongs to di 2 a dem..u a wah buttu...please! come in like fi mi husband one...dem feel like dem obligated to MORE cause him deh a FARRIN...B!TCH please..go look a rass job..fi mi pickney affi eat to...

Yuh knoa I was just sayin the same thing! I mean we send $250 or $17,500JA. every month! We just send dung July's allowance LAST WEEK!! #######!!! I mean how much does a 3 year old eat and where's her $250???? I told Ken it wasn't you wan mek em! Ken just called me and I told him I was stressing cause he was stressing! He was like "Who stressing...after yuh doan tell mi deh runnings mi just tek mi mind hoffa dat yah!" Look 'ere, we need fi file my papers suh I cyaan guh pick hup mi son! She been living in Melbourne dis lang one more month nah guh kill har!" Suh...doh Wife...tek yuh mind hoffa dat!"

He ain't gotta tell me twice...DONE...next problem!!!

Bless,

Gill

I LOVE KEN

Gil u are truly blessed..

Hello my yardie fam, just got to work taking a long holiday..

Tre I am ecstatic bout how everything turn out and can't wait to hear.. i hear ya on the ex girlie.. I am not yet divorced and even thinking bout trying to move on with my life puts me in a freaking depression cuz of his CRAZY RASS!!!!!!!!!!!! God will bless though as he always has..

Wakey congrats to u too girl, the 30th soon come!!

JG, my heart goes out to u girl, 2 yrs is a long time to put up w/ such foolishness and it doesn't seem to be letting up?!? I pray your husbands strength, guilt is a hard thing, even when u KNOW waht u are dong is right.

Thanks Girl..I know how truly blessed I am to have him!

Gill

P.S.- This is about your happiness , not your ex's ...like I told Lawny don't let his foolishness control your happiness! You are entitled to be happy and loved!!

[TRELAWNY PARISH 10]

Sunny,

Send me the e-mail you sent to the embassy.

[Forever Young 1]

I warned you, Gill. I'm sorry just the same. I always hope when I put out the warning to someone, that I will be wrong. I'd really like to be wrong.

I think the hardest thing for me to deal with is the feelings of guilt they just keep piling on. And, you are absolutely correct on them not understanding how hard it is here. They have no concept of the bills, the hours worked just to pay those bills, and the general cost of living in the US. Andre says that all the time.....that every Jamaican should get to experience the US and then the calls would stop.

Want to know about the NY sister? She dropped her kids in Jamaica a few months ago with the premise that she would send money down each week and get herself a job in NY, a job she apparently can't get with her kids around. Wanna guess what has happened? She has not found a job. She sent money initially; but stopped after a few short weeks. She is just adding to our stress by adding two more kids to the JA household mix.

I fear for Andre. I fear they are going to stress him so much that it triggers a sickle cell episode.

Yes it can trigger an episode!! So please tell him to relax. I swear sometimes you just have to be as mad crazy as the next man. meaning, play their game. Send them your bills, show them pics of your car door, ask them for help. Its ridiculous that these people still have the nerve to keep coming back for more. Cut them off!! Unless somebody is on their death bed they can live the life in which the GOOD LORD ALMIGHTY has given them. Yes some peoples lives are harder than others but God has still blessed them with a life. There are people far more worse off. Send them media clippings on Darfur and ask them if their life is so bad. They were fully functioning before you were so blessed to meet your husband. You are not their messiah, on the Jesus is and they need to look to him to give them a way out of their mess.. He will also keep them from having to be in the mess in the first place. Seriously play their game.

RIGHT ON LITA!!! PREACH PREACH SIS!!!!!

Gill

[TRELAWNY PARISH 10]

Gill...DO NOT GIVE HER A RASS DOLLA ! she too brite..if u give her money monthly..wah mek she tink u ave it before di rass month done...mek she wait...mi sure KJ nah sleep a door ..she will find a way she a mumma to..just as much responsibility as Ken...wid her brite self..

Yuh no know how dem tings yah piss me off...and den yuh husband a go turn round to yuh and seh him cyaa mek him pickney suffer..well guess wah 50/50 resposibility him belongs to di 2 a dem..u a wah buttu...please! come in like fi mi husband one...dem feel like dem obligated to MORE cause him deh a FARRIN...B!TCH please..go look a rass job..fi mi pickney affi eat to...

Yuh knoa I was just sayin the same thing! I mean we send $250 or $17,500JA. every month! We just send dung July's allowance LAST WEEK!! #######!!! I mean how much does a 3 year old eat and where's her $250???? I told Ken it wasn't you wan mek em! Ken just called me and I told him I was stressing cause he was stressing! He was like "Who stressing...after yuh doan tell mi deh runnings mi just tek mi mind hoffa dat yah!" Look 'ere, we need fi file my papers suh I cyaan guh pick hup mi son! She been living in Melbourne dis lang one more month nah guh kill har!" Suh...doh Wife...tek yuh mind hoffa dat!"

He ain't gotta tell me twice...DONE...next problem!!!

Bless,

Gill

I LOVE KEN

Gil u are truly blessed..

Hello my yardie fam, just got to work taking a long holiday..

Tre I am ecstatic bout how everything turn out and can't wait to hear.. i hear ya on the ex girlie.. I am not yet divorced and even thinking bout trying to move on with my life puts me in a freaking depression cuz of his CRAZY RASS!!!!!!!!!!!! God will bless though as he always has..

Wakey congrats to u too girl, the 30th soon come!!

JG, my heart goes out to u girl, 2 yrs is a long time to put up w/ such foolishness and it doesn't seem to be letting up?!? I pray your husbands strength, guilt is a hard thing, even when u KNOW waht u are dong is right.

Thanks Girl..I know how truly blessed I am to have him!

Gill

P.S.- This is about your happiness , not your ex's ...like I told Lawny don't let his foolishness control your happiness! You are entitled to be happy and loved!!

Gill,

I forgot to tell you that I went to a houswarming party in Greenwood...lawd di house dem up dehso BIG...anyway the homeowners son is some popular dancer name BASHY (don't know if Ken knows him)...but I was like...IS YOUR EYEBROWS ARCHED...he answered in his EXTREMELY high pitched voice YESSSSSSSSSS....I was like mi RASS. Marcel just took my hand and led me away before I could ask him anymore questions. DAMN...I wanted to ask him who did his eyebrows and fingerwaved his hair....WHO THE HELL still wear FINGERWAVES in 2008.

[Forever Young 1]

Sunny don't stress over Packet 3. I know plenty of people who did not receive it...Packet 3 is the DS-230, which you already have. To tell you the truth, I don't even remember what else was in there (if anything). Packet 4 had a lot of papers and detailed instructions. To me Packet 4 is the important one (contains the interview letter and medical instructions and other forms that you can print out online).

Agreed...the most important thing about Packet 3 is the DS-230...for right here right now...the other things can wait til the interview date!