Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 6)

[TRELAWNY PARISH 10]

Yaardies!! Any of you going to the Carnival in NY Labor Day weekend? My friends and I (there will probably be 4-5 of us) are planning to come up from NC. It will be our first time in NY AND our first time at CARNIVAL! For those of you that have been or are in the area, where should we stay? We wanna do other stuff too while we're there...maybe catch a broadway show...we love to eat...We just need to plan ahead, because if we don't, we end up scrambling in the end, and everyone gets all razzled dazzled and exasperated!

COME TO D.C. CARNIVAL

[SweetSugahDumplin 0]

ok why is my meez not doin her full break it down dance !

[TRELAWNY PARISH 10]

ok why is my meez not doin her full break it down dance !

Mine u shake up di pickney

[SweetSugahDumplin 0]

ok why is my meez not doin her full break it down dance !

Mine u shake up di pickney

lol u see her tummy she supposed to be prego

[TRELAWNY PARISH 10]

ok why is my meez not doin her full break it down dance !

Mine u shake up di pickney

lol u see her tummy she supposed to be prego

Yes, I see. That's why mi seh tap shake up di pickney.

[brownnskinn 0]

it's with a jamican bank?? someone told me they have a scottia bank here in brooklyn and mr jengles should look into that

No, we orderedd an extra card from one of our account and gave it to her while we were there once, we just transfer the money into her account.

[Marlita 0]

Question ladies...for those of you who have been separated from your SO/Spouse for a long time, or who will be separated for a while, did you ever consider establishing an account in both your names while they were still in JA? I've been researching the CR-1, and I know one of the "proof of relationship" items is "any joint accounts" between the two of you. I was wondering about this simply because of the distance, and how that would work. I've been thinking of opening a savings account so that we could both put into it, but I'm not sure. And if we did decide to go this route, would it be better to open the account here or down in JA? I know the only bank I've ever seen down there is Scotia Bank...and I live in NC and I know for a fact there is NOT one here!! What do you guys think?

me and hubby tried this already. You have to be present when being added to an account, so you could visit him in JA and get added to his bank account. I decided against it cause it really doesnt do us any good right now. I'm just gonna show other evidence.

[Islandwoman 0]

hi guys do u think any of ur SOs would object to being a stay at home dad if need be if its cheaper than daycare? By the way what are infant daycare costs like and the times in which u can drop them off and pick them up.

I can't say this loud enough but YES, most jamaican men do not like to be at home, looking after pickney, even if it's theres. they want to work be out the house.

yup that was his response when i asked him. My thoughts were that it may be cheaper for him stay home. Its just a thought. Now if he gets paid like 11.75 im estimating at 40 hours a week that would give about 350 maybe? and that will only just cover daycare and we need a lot more than that im trying figure what cost i will cut to afford daycare and any other expenses right now i have no extra to cover that so i been praying on it and trying find a cheaper place to live.

When my ex and I had our 2nd child money was wicked tight as well. We worked stagged shifts so that the kids were only in day care for 1-2 hours. Maybe he could find a night job when he gets here. Not the greatest for a relationship but what the heck, we are used to going months without seeing our SO's right??!!

[BelwinMills 0]

hi guys do u think any of ur SOs would object to being a stay at home dad if need be if its cheaper than daycare? By the way what are infant daycare costs like and the times in which u can drop them off and pick them up.

In both past and present situations......this did not turn out well for me...money wise yes, but mentally for the relationship....in my case it cause so many issues. It seems they want to be providers in everyway but this one and I can't seem to get it. My current hubby didn't claim to have issues with it cause at first there wasn't much else he could do, but I know it bothered him.

My husband doesn't want to give up his part time job at all or college. Luckily we have my brothers girlfriend watching our little one. There are also ways that you can apply for government assistance and they will pay for some of the day care based on your income.

My husband has a night job which helps too.

[classychic77 0]

JALove.....I've had 2 kids and I want you to really remember this........

No matter how much you plan or how prepared you think you are.......there will NEVER be enough money. There will never be enough time. You will stress about everything. In the end, you will have a happy healthy child, you will have survived just fine---finding new and creative ways to work through everything, and when you look back, you'll wonder what the fuss was all about. Kind of like the whole visa process.

You will do just fine.

I also have 2 kids that I have raised on my own. No financial help from anyone or the state. (which I don't knock if you qualify but I never did) I whole heartedly agree with this. Some how some way it always works out. And in the mean time I stressed over everything and was giving myself panic attacks. Well I still do but I'm working on that, lol.

[Yaads 0]

Since I won't be on again before you leave...

Have a safe trip Gilly!!! We love you! Good luck on Tuesday!

[classychic77 0]

Do you think that voicing something like this puts you in the same category as those people who look at a Rasta and automatically assume he's smokes or something in that same vein?

I guess I can understand why people would categorize me with them, it's of course their choice.....Do I think I jump to unfounded conclusions by a PHOTO? Hell yes!!

I don't know the couple apart from what is said on the net, have no facts, so any conclusion I arrive at is inherently flawed.

However, if someone asked me my opinion, I would volunteer it, ensuring they realize I have no sound basis for it.

If they didn't ask, I wouldn't volunteer my opinion though.....

Can I send you a picture of every guy I start to date? LOL I would love to weed out the crappy ones without wasting a few dates on them!

[Yaads 0]

Have a good weekend everyone! See ya on Monday

[TRELAWNY PARISH 10]

JALove.....I've had 2 kids and I want you to really remember this........

No matter how much you plan or how prepared you think you are.......there will NEVER be enough money. There will never be enough time. You will stress about everything. In the end, you will have a happy healthy child, you will have survived just fine---finding new and creative ways to work through everything, and when you look back, you'll wonder what the fuss was all about. Kind of like the whole visa process.

You will do just fine.

I also have 2 kids that I have raised on my own. No financial help from anyone or the state. (which I don't knock if you qualify but I never did) I whole heartedly agree with this. Some how some way it always works out. And in the mean time I stressed over everything and was giving myself panic attacks. Well I still do but I'm working on that, lol.

So, true, but you're not alone. I'm still working on it also. Take one day at a time, that's all you have.

Have a good weekend everyone! See ya on Monday

Yardie thanks for the laughs

[BelwinMills 0]

BTW MI NEED TO SEE THE PICTURE OF ALL THE MEN DEM yes.gif

Has everyone posted pictures of themselves on the yahoo group page? I haven't been on their for awhile. I would never post pics on this site just because I am a private person and everyone cruising through this site could see.

Do you think that voicing something like this puts you in the same category as those people who look at a Rasta and automatically assume he's smokes or something in that same vein?

I guess I can understand why people would categorize me with them, it's of course their choice.....Do I think I jump to unfounded conclusions by a PHOTO? Hell yes!!

I don't know the couple apart from what is said on the net, have no facts, so any conclusion I arrive at is inherently flawed.

However, if someone asked me my opinion, I would volunteer it, ensuring they realize I have no sound basis for it.

If they didn't ask, I wouldn't volunteer my opinion though.....

Can I send you a picture of every guy I start to date? LOL I would love to weed out the crappy ones without wasting a few dates on them!

I wish it was that easy.