Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 6)

[TRELAWNY PARISH 10]

I have heard that as well from many women. Not my philosophy at all. It sounds like something legend.....can't say I totally believe it is in practice much anymore. If someone wants to believe that and live like that then more power to them. It would not work for me.

Tre..........tell me about the music, please.

JG --

Her mom said the guest didn't understand the music...which was funny because the dance floor was packed when reggae was playing...the DJ did and excellent job with mixing the music...I helped them picked the music since the ground was a little older I left out all the hardcore reggae...choose more of the back in the day artist

Sounds like mama had an issue with the Jamaican culture being at the wedding at all. Har miserable!

That's all it was...plus her ex husband is Jamaican.

Well there you go. Her jabs were at the ex not her daughter's wedding but letting everyone know what she couldn't stand about him. sad really

Oh, well, her ex was there...he paid for most of the things for the wedding (so maybe that explains it) and he walked his step-daughter down the aisle (still no excuse for her behavior). She should be grateful, he raised all 4 of her girls.

[wakeywakeup 1]

I have heard that as well from many women. Not my philosophy at all. It sounds like something legend.....can't say I totally believe it is in practice much anymore. If someone wants to believe that and live like that then more power to them. It would not work for me.

Tre..........tell me about the music, please.

JG --

Her mom said the guest didn't understand the music...which was funny because the dance floor was packed when reggae was playing...the DJ did and excellent job with mixing the music...I helped them picked the music since the ground was a little older I left out all the hardcore reggae...choose more of the back in the day artist

Sounds like mama had an issue with the Jamaican culture being at the wedding at all. Har miserable!

That's all it was...plus her ex husband is Jamaican.

Well there you go. Her jabs were at the ex not her daughter's wedding but letting everyone know what she couldn't stand about him. sad really

Oh, well, her ex was there...he paid for most of the things for the wedding (so maybe that explains it) and he walked his step-daughter down the aisle (still no excuse for her behavior). She should be grateful, he raised all 4 of her girls.

AMEN!

[Forever Young 1]

VISA APPROVED!!!!!!!!!!!

WOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO-HOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!

Congrats Catty!!!!

Many blessings,

Gill

[brownnskinn 0]

Thanks for all the congrats!!

I only talked to him for a second.. he is at the airport in Barbados back to St Lucia. His appointment was at 9am and at noon he called me and was already headed to the airport. Taxi driver let him use her phone. He was out of credit on his phone.

Gosh I wish I had more friends to call!!

I have been screaming with happiness...my neighbors must think I am nuts... I think If I did a flip I would break something ... me or the floor!! LOL!!

I will fill in with the interview details later.

YAYAYAY!

thanks all for advice and prayers!

Too funny...congrats!!

[LIFE'SJOURNEY 970]

VISA APPROVED!!!!!!!!!!!

CONGRATULATION

Be Bless

Roxcie

[SupportOAFJF 0]

for Irie ...way to go..congrats !!

Ok....wakey dat dere ooman a chat pure ish unless is her "religion/belief"..

In my book equal means what I can put forth that u can't for God knows reasons and what he can put forth...so u can do what i can't and wi balance out each other..how a relationship strong if only one person a contribute to everything? then u find that one partner will accept "foolishness" for that fact...

i guess to each his own..dem bread buttah pon di 2 side...

wat a gwaan family...mi deh yah..a pass tru

I'm with u on the quoting post ting JG

[brownnskinn 0]

I was listening to a talk radio show and they were discussing Male and Female roles in a successful romantic relationship.

A Jamaican woman came on and said that the reason our relationships don't last is because woman try to be equal to the man in the relationship. She said that woman could be respected but never considered equal to a man. She gave examples of what she meant by saying we "women" should never pass gas around a man, never let him know when you have a monthly, or never let him know when you go to "doodie" etc. She said all Jamaican women are taught this and that why their relationships last.

What are your thoughts?

Wakey

Funny.....Maybe that's why the last marriage was shot and this one is def on it's way out Not!! The is definitely no modestly in our home, we seem to have a discussion about some body's bowels every other day and the way he likes to rook like a jack rabbit, he knows my monthly schedule betta than I do, and the gas thing...like I said,there is no modesty in our home. not sure if it matters, I'm sure my grandmothers were taught some of the same things. He's knows I'm the classiest Deva around.

[Forever Young 1]

I'm worried that's how our ceremony will be. Mom is not really saying anything bad she just gets real quiet whenever I mention plans. I think she is still hoping and praying that I'm just going through something. NOT

I was listening to a talk radio show and they were discussing Male and Female roles in a successful romantic relationship.

A Jamaican woman came on and said that the reason our relationships don’t last is because woman try to be equal to the man in the relationship. She said that woman could be respected but never considered equal to a man. She gave examples of what she meant by saying we “women” should never pass gas around a man, never let him know when you have a monthly, or never let him know when you go to “doodie” etc. She said all Jamaican women are taught this and that why their relationships last.

What are your thoughts?

Wakey

Hey Wakey,

I disagree with that woman.

When I was 18 my Mom died of Breast Cancer. In her final years the way my father took care of his wife too this day leaves me with tears. It was nothing for him to bath her...help her use the toilet... shave her legs, underarms and other places he knew she like to keep trim. Honestly, do things that even I as a daughter don't know if I would have felt comfortable doing. It was during that time although I had only rarely seen my parents kiss in public...that I understood the depth of love he had for this woman. To me...that was LOVE.

When I met Ken for good or bad...we agreed to keep 'it' real! Now, I know that saying is very cliche right now...but I honestly have been nothing but honest with Ken from the very beginning of our relationship. He respects it and says how refreshing it is to have a woman speak her mind and be 'human'. However, I am honest but not hurtful...I'll find a nice way to say or do what I have to say...but you can best believe I'm going to say or do it.

I also look at Ken as my equal...I'm no better than him, as he is no better than me! It's not about rying to one-up your partner anyway...it's about finding a level that you can both hold a respected balance and work through this thing called marriage.

Hell, this month I asked Ken to go to the store and pick up some 'Always' fuh me. He started laughing and said "Bwoy Gill yuh different from alota ooman I know!" I asked him if he felt a way picking them up and he said "Ah nuh nuttin dat! Yuh feel henny way when yuh haffi pick hup deh condoms?" Not to mention when I had to curl my hair and he was 'dooding' - He couldn't stop laughing and saying " I've never had hennywan inna deh toilet when mi a sh..." I just looked at him and laughed and say welcome to our life!" He gave me a pound(BEFORE he wiped ) and he did his thing and I curled my hair.

It depends upon the man and the relationship...different things work for different people. But for us ...Honesty and openess has been the best policy! Wakey, you and your Boo will find your own happy medium... of that I have no doubt!

Bless-ed,

Gill

[brownnskinn 0]

I think an equal playing field means each person uses their strengths for the betterment of the relationship. It does't mean anyone has an upper hand.

And in my opinion, if a man resents a strong woman, that is his problem. He needs to work on his own insecurities.

Agreed!! Agreed!!

A question for the veterans.....How long was your husband in the US before going back to Jamaica again for the first time?

As soon as he was able to fly, he was outtah here.

[brownnskinn 0]

In my book equal means what I can put forth that u can't for God knows reasons and what he can put forth...so u can do what i can't and wi balance out each other..how a relationship strong if only one person a contribute to everything? then u find that one partner will accept "foolishness" for that fact...

[brownnskinn 0]

I'm worried that's how our ceremony will be. Mom is not really saying anything bad she just gets real quiet whenever I mention plans. I think she is still hoping and praying that I'm just going through something. NOT

I was listening to a talk radio show and they were discussing Male and Female roles in a successful romantic relationship.

A Jamaican woman came on and said that the reason our relationships don't last is because woman try to be equal to the man in the relationship. She said that woman could be respected but never considered equal to a man. She gave examples of what she meant by saying we "women" should never pass gas around a man, never let him know when you have a monthly, or never let him know when you go to "doodie" etc. She said all Jamaican women are taught this and that why their relationships last.

What are your thoughts?

Wakey

Hey Wakey,

I disagree with that woman.

When I was 18 my Mom died of Breast Cancer. In her final years the way my father took care of his wife too this day leaves me with tears. It was nothing for him to bath her...help her use the toilet... shave her legs, underarms and other places he knew she like to keep trim. Honestly, do things that even I as a daughter don't know if I would have felt comfortable doing. It was during that time although I had only rarely seen my parents kiss in public...that I understood the depth of love he had for this woman. To me...that was LOVE.

When I met Ken for good or bad...we agreed to keep 'it' real! Now, I know that saying is very cliche right now...but I honestly have been nothing but honest with Ken from the very beginning of our relationship. He respects it and says how refreshing it is to have a woman speak her mind and be 'human'. However, I am honest but not hurtful...I'll find a nice way to say or do what I have to say...but you can best believe I'm going to say or do it.

I also look at Ken as my equal...I'm no better than him, as he is no better than me! It's not about rying to one-up your partner anyway...it's about finding a level that you can both hold a respected balance and work through this thing called marriage.

Hell, this month I asked Ken to go to the store and pick up some 'Always' fuh me. He started laughing and said "Bwoy Gill yuh different from alota ooman I know!" I asked him if he felt a way picking them up and he said "Ah nuh nuttin dat! Yuh feel henny way when yuh haffi pick hup deh condoms?" Not to mention when I had to curl my hair and he was 'dooding' - He couldn't stop laughing and saying " I've never had hennywan inna deh toilet when mi a sh..." I just looked at him and laughed and say welcome to our life!" He gave me a pound(BEFORE he wiped ) and he did his thing and I curled my hair.

It depends upon the man and the relationship...different things work for different people. But for us ...Honesty and openess has been the best policy! Wakey, you and your Boo will find your own happy medium... of that I have no doubt!

Bless-ed,

Gill

Sweet. Perfectly put.

I cannot tell you how many times hubby has walked in on my trying to do the #2!! When I say can I get some privacy or pretend to be modest, his reply is.....I'm your husband..or aren't you mi wife? dems tings natural or something to that affect.

[brownnskinn 0]

I think an equal playing field means each person uses their strengths for the betterment of the relationship. It does't mean anyone has an upper hand.

And in my opinion, if a man resents a strong woman, that is his problem. He needs to work on his own insecurities.

Agreed!! Agreed!!

A question for the veterans.....How long was your husband in the US before going back to Jamaica again for the first time?

As soon as he was able to fly, he was outtah here.

I'm thinking it took almost two years. We file for AP, but green card came first. He was definitely in a rush to get home to see his daughter.

[*JG* 2]

Any words of wisdom from you guys on this one?

http://www.visajourney.com/forums/index.ph...p;#entry1874974

[wakeywakeup 1]

I was listening to a talk radio show and they were discussing Male and Female roles in a successful romantic relationship.

A Jamaican woman came on and said that the reason our relationships don't last is because woman try to be equal to the man in the relationship. She said that woman could be respected but never considered equal to a man. She gave examples of what she meant by saying we "women" should never pass gas around a man, never let him know when you have a monthly, or never let him know when you go to "doodie" etc. She said all Jamaican women are taught this and that why their relationships last.

What are your thoughts?

Wakey

Funny.....Maybe that's why the last marriage was shot and this one is def on it's way out Not!! The is definitely no modestly in our home, we seem to have a discussion about some body's bowels every other day and the way he likes to rook like a jack rabbit, he knows my monthly schedule betta than I do, and the gas thing...like I said,there is no modesty in our home. not sure if it matters, I'm sure my grandmothers were taught some of the same things. He's knows I'm the classiest Deva around.

I love it! Me too but when I heard the talk show I thought I was headed down the wrong path. You are right to each his own ladies!

[*JG* 2]

OMG.....I just imagined a talk show based on the stuff we talk about on here....with us as guests. I made myself spit soda out of my nose! Can you imagine?