Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 6)

[*JG* 2]

JG --

And, like I always say, if it happens to me, I have the right to say any damn thing I want about it.

Ain't that the TRUTH! Some people DO NOT UNDERSTAND UNTIL THEY'RE PLACED IN THE SITUATION.

I understand that. If it weren't happening to me, I would have a hard time believing it myself. Sometimes the words said are so surreal you think it must be some movie script.

Tre.....it's difficult. There are days I thought I would blow my freakin' head off from trying not to yell at someone. But, if you love Marcel.....and I know you do.....you will both figure out a way to make it all work for you. I always feel if there is really a need......and I do mean REALLY cause I have heard some stories......then, we will do what we can. I will never feel bad for how little it might be because we are giving from the heart and it is more then they would've had if we didn't give it. Once you reconcile it all in your own heads, it's easier to known when there is need and when you are being played and it's a lot easier to just say no.

Well said JG --

Marcel and we talked about it and how we're going to deal with it should it come up. His people, so far, are okay and I told him to talk to them before he leaves. Things are going to get very expensive and expensive really FAST!

I know his mom is going to need extensive care and physical therapy and that's going to cost and that's his main concern. He just wants to get here and start working, but I told him it's not going to happen right away. I even tried to talk him into staying a little longer since you have 6 months to travel after you get the visa and he said NO...he wants to be here with me, so the B#*CH of an AUNT he has his staring more problems. Because he refused to talk to his aunt, she's telling his family that I'm putting space between him and them and I'm like HELL YEAH...3000 miles! Girl, all I can say is I have my hands full. Do I want to throw my hands up in the air, sometimes, but I'm not giving up that easy.

I've been there, done that, still doing that...........if you ever need to talk and you want it to be private, please PM me. I may not be able to help much; but I am a good listener.

I also want you to know I talk to many of the so called "vets" on here and some people from other sites and we all share the same issues at one point or another They can be very helpful in finding solutions and just talking you through it all.

If ever there is a need, please hollar.

Maybe we need a little prayer, Miss Tre......

[clairern 0]

Good morning Yardie family. How has everyone been?

Jason, I am sorry to hear that Marla did not get her visa in hand yet, but hang tight--she should get it soon.

Junst hinging in there and preparing for my trip to JA next week.

Hope everyone have a great and productive day.

[TRELAWNY PARISH 10]

JG -- Smadi else afi pray tideh! I need someone to pray for me, because, I'M ABOUT TO GO OFF.

I just walked into my office and someone cut their damn FINGERNAILS and TOENAILS at my DESK and left it there. I was in another office working, becaUse they're putting a white board into my office and this is what I see at my keyboard. I'M TRULY DIGUSTED...I'm going to send an e-mail. brb

[*JG* 2]

BTW.....I wish the US had free health care or some sort of more structured healthcare like Canada. It kills me to pay for health care. But, in the end, it is something I will not settle without. When Andre came here in June 2006, I added him to my health insurance at a cost to us of almost $600 per month. That almost killed us since he wasn't able to/couldn't find a job till January 2007 and even then, didn't get his own insurance for another 3 months.

He went to the ER for a sickle cell episode in July of 2006. I hadn't signed him up for my health insurance yet so when they suggested he stay over night, I said what are you going to do to him? The answer was IV pain meds, fluids, and watch him. I said write a prescription, I'll make him drink some water, and I'll keep an eye on him....he's out of here. The point was all moot cause the insurance company backdated his enrollment to our wedding date and all was good. But, at that moment right then and there........I forsaw way too many $$$$$$.

I would give up many, many things to have health insurance. Hopefully, one day, they will fix this system and it won't be my, nor anyone else's worry.

JG -- Smadi else afi pray tideh! I need someone to pray for me, because, I'M ABOUT TO GO OFF.

I just walked into my office and someone cut their damn FINGERNAILS and TOENAILS at my DESK and left it there. I was in another office working, becaUse they're putting a white board into my office and this is what I see at my keyboard. I'M TRULY DIGUSTED...I'm going to send an e-mail. brb

EEEEWWWWWWWWWWWWW!!!!!!!!!!

[Marie876 0]

Mornin everyone!

So I was doing my daily gleaner reading and saw saw an article on Mandeville. When I clicked the link I saw a picture of my grandfather playing dominoes with some of his friends. So I called him and asked about it and he said he don't remember his picture being taken and that I need to call the Gleaner for them to take it down lol!

Jason, I am so sorry to hear about your visa issues - I pray that something will happen and the visa will come soon! If I were you, I would bug the hell outta the embassy - email, email, email until it comes -

Kishmar -

No one here is suggesting that the US is perfect and that Jamaica is all bad - Yes, JA is making strides in trying to give back with the health care initiative, something the US is doing a poor job of - I have spent $400 in the past week between prescriptions and co-pays, and I have GOOD insurance - But, if you have no money, free health care and having to wait is better than no health care at all. It's not a perfect system, but it's something that is available.

Any discussion that I see here about the crime, etc... in Jamaica is mainly spoken about as it directly affects our families and those that we love - no one is trying to bash JA in discussing it, we are all concerned - by falling in love with a Jamaican, Jamaica becomes a part of us - what happens there concerns us as much as what happens here.

The reality of it is, though - Many Jamaicans don't see the day to day struggles that exist for us in America, and you will see more of it once you arrive here (not sure if you have visited or not, can't remember). What our families, etc... in JA see is that we are in JA and have the money to spend on hotels, airfare, etc... to get there - we might have name brand clothing, or bring gifts - What they don't see is that in order to do so, we have eaten Ramen pride noodles and tuna for months on end, budgeted our money, gone without luxuries,..... Clothes and things are more readily available in the US - but that DKNY top I am wearing was probably bought at a discount store, is 3 years out of style, and cost me $15 -

What I read here from the yardie family is not about people bashing JA - it's about people being frustrated with their own families greed, and fear of the crime that is affecting their personal lives.

Ditto!! Well said Sus!

Good morning Yardie family. How has everyone been?

Jason, I am sorry to hear that Marla did not get her visa in hand yet, but hang tight--she should get it soon.

Junst hinging in there and preparing for my trip to JA next week.

Hope everyone have a great and productive day.

Hey Claire! Have fun next week and remember to relax and enjoy yourself

[LIFE'SJOURNEY 970]

It hurts me to see him slowly learning this lesson.

I feel your pain, and I know how hard it is to sit by and watch him go through something that hurts.

I used to sit back and be quiet. Lately, I've spoken up more and more. I can't let him be hurt anymore.

He called his mom Sunday. She said she's sick and needs to go to the doctor. I said why doesn't she go? He said, she says she has no money. I said, um.....free medical care in JA since April 1st. Andre said why would she say that then? Um....cause she thinks we don't know. Neverending. You can't even call your mom on Mother's day.........

Good evening everyone, I think we need to clear up what free medical care in JA means. The free only applied to the Dr's vist at the hospital and some clinics. All lab, xrays (ancillary services) vaccinations and medicine are still at a cost to the patient. If the patient is seeing a private Doctor at his/her office there is still a cost.

JA did not throw out the baby with the bath water. What I am trying to say is, there are still waiting periods (long lines) at all clinics. You can go to a clinic and a hospital and not be seen because of this because the waiting list is too long. ...... Or the Doctor (specialist) you need to see is not at the clinic today. I hope we all understand that there is no such thing as total free health care anywhere in the world. There is poor health care(free) or good health care ($$$$$). You pick your own prescription. Pay you might get good service, but if you want free you have wait for whatever they want to give to you. Yes, JA is trying to give it's people something and something is better than nothing.

Sorry,but if my mother was sick, I would move heaven and earth to get her some care.

Be Bless

Roxcie

Thank you so very much Roxcie for giving my fellow "Jamaicans" the real understanding behind this free medical thing here in Jamaica.

I just feel moved at times of how people seem to find all thats wrong or going wrong in Jamaica but hardly ever stop to give honor where honor is due. I must say that as a Jamaican im am proud of the step that the Jamaican government has taken to "try" and assist those of us who cannot afford to visit a private doctor because of financial reasons. (and might i add the big US of A is yet to put some level of normalcy to its medical care system). Think what you may about the medical care system in the Jamaica, but the government here tries very hard with the limited resources that it has.

I just wish and pray for the day when Jamaicans who have left here and supposedly goes to the where the "grass is greener" will not only see what is wrong with this beautiful country but will also spend some time to see the vast improvements that have also taken place here.

You all talk about crime about in Jamaica as if Jamaica is the only place that crime exists?????? I watch the news every evening and there is not ONE evening where i dont see someone being murdered senselessly in the great America.

Give honor where honor is, Jamaica like everywhere else in the world has its fare share of problems and no one government or small group of people can fix it.

Thank you.

Respectfully yours,

Jamaican Citizen

Kishmar,

Now with all of that being said, I have a question.... Can I send garden seeds, i.e tomatoes, pumpkins, corn etc and flower seeds thru the mail to my mother-in-law. I want to send her these things so she and the grand kids can grow a vegetable garden. I don't know where I can find the information about what I can send thru the mail to JA. I know you can't bring live plants in/out of JA, but can I send seeds?

ROXIE;

My daddy says yes, don't put it in your carry-on though, put in in the suitcase.

TRE,

I WOKE UP THIS MORNING AND GOD SMILED ON ME. MY FEET HIT THE FLOOR[/b].

Thanks for the assisant on this. Yesterday, my brother-in-law arrived and now I am miserable, because my husband is not yet here. I must remember, this is GOD's Plan, and I am only one of the actors he has put here to play my role. He will make things right in his time. But, on a good note my two nieces called last night and asked me to go to Puerto Rico for a little spa and relaxation at their expense. So Iwill be off to PR.at the end of the month. That should help pick me up a little.

“The hardest battle you're ever going to fight is the battle to be just you.”

Again thanks,

Be Blessed

Roxcie

[*JG* 2]

That is so funny, Marie. Grandfather is now famous!

[Marie876 0]

That is so funny, Marie. Grandfather is now famous!

LOL! Yeah. I'm so glad the Gleaner did the article. Most of my cousins cannot get work because of the stereotype attached to our community. With them all living in my grandparents house and not working it puts a LOT of pressure on us up here. I just do what I am able to do and glad that they can understand when I say 'no' Hopefully someone will read the article and try to help out

[TRELAWNY PARISH 10]

It hurts me to see him slowly learning this lesson.

I feel your pain, and I know how hard it is to sit by and watch him go through something that hurts.

I used to sit back and be quiet. Lately, I've spoken up more and more. I can't let him be hurt anymore.

He called his mom Sunday. She said she's sick and needs to go to the doctor. I said why doesn't she go? He said, she says she has no money. I said, um.....free medical care in JA since April 1st. Andre said why would she say that then? Um....cause she thinks we don't know. Neverending. You can't even call your mom on Mother's day.........

Good evening everyone, I think we need to clear up what free medical care in JA means. The free only applied to the Dr's vist at the hospital and some clinics. All lab, xrays (ancillary services) vaccinations and medicine are still at a cost to the patient. If the patient is seeing a private Doctor at his/her office there is still a cost.

JA did not throw out the baby with the bath water. What I am trying to say is, there are still waiting periods (long lines) at all clinics. You can go to a clinic and a hospital and not be seen because of this because the waiting list is too long. ...... Or the Doctor (specialist) you need to see is not at the clinic today. I hope we all understand that there is no such thing as total free health care anywhere in the world. There is poor health care(free) or good health care ($$$$$). You pick your own prescription. Pay you might get good service, but if you want free you have wait for whatever they want to give to you. Yes, JA is trying to give it's people something and something is better than nothing.

Sorry,but if my mother was sick, I would move heaven and earth to get her some care.

Be Bless

Roxcie

Thank you so very much Roxcie for giving my fellow "Jamaicans" the real understanding behind this free medical thing here in Jamaica.

I just feel moved at times of how people seem to find all thats wrong or going wrong in Jamaica but hardly ever stop to give honor where honor is due. I must say that as a Jamaican im am proud of the step that the Jamaican government has taken to "try" and assist those of us who cannot afford to visit a private doctor because of financial reasons. (and might i add the big US of A is yet to put some level of normalcy to its medical care system). Think what you may about the medical care system in the Jamaica, but the government here tries very hard with the limited resources that it has.

I just wish and pray for the day when Jamaicans who have left here and supposedly goes to the where the "grass is greener" will not only see what is wrong with this beautiful country but will also spend some time to see the vast improvements that have also taken place here.

You all talk about crime about in Jamaica as if Jamaica is the only place that crime exists?????? I watch the news every evening and there is not ONE evening where i dont see someone being murdered senselessly in the great America.

Give honor where honor is, Jamaica like everywhere else in the world has its fare share of problems and no one government or small group of people can fix it.

Thank you.

Respectfully yours,

Jamaican Citizen

Kishmar,

Now with all of that being said, I have a question.... Can I send garden seeds, i.e tomatoes, pumpkins, corn etc and flower seeds thru the mail to my mother-in-law. I want to send her these things so she and the grand kids can grow a vegetable garden. I don't know where I can find the information about what I can send thru the mail to JA. I know you can't bring live plants in/out of JA, but can I send seeds?

ROXIE;

My daddy says yes, don't put it in your carry-on though, put in in the suitcase.

TRE,

I WOKE UP THIS MORNING AND GOD SMILED ON ME. MY FEET HIT THE FLOOR[/b].

Thanks for the assisant on this. Yesterday, my brother-in-law arrived and now I am miserable, because my husband is not yet here. I must remember, this is GOD's Plan, and I am only one of the actors he has put here to play my role. He will make things right in his time. But, on a good note my two nieces called last night and asked me to go to Puerto Rico for a little spa and relaxation at their expense. So Iwill be off to PR.at the end of the month. That should help pick me up a little.

“The hardest battle you're ever going to fight is the battle to be just you.”

Again thanks,

Be Blessed

Roxcie

WAhhhhhhhhhhh TAKE ME WITH YOU....

[Jengles 0]

right now, here is my concern about j.a. building a house. I would at some point like me and mr jengs to build a house so we can retire but. I'm also concerned about my stuff being there when we return. Any thoughts on this. How do u guys handle this?

[TRELAWNY PARISH 10]

right now, here is my concern about j.a. building a house. I would at some point like me and mr jengs to build a house so we can retire but. I'm also concerned about my stuff being there when we return. Any thoughts on this. How do u guys handle this?

Hey JENGS; That was my parents concerns back in 1982. Let me give you the short version. My dad's house was suppose to be 2 levels with a wrap round varenda on each level. Because my dad was not there they stole a lot of his materials. It took another 4 years to get back what was stolen from him. My dad's advice to anyone who is trying to build there now, if you can be there at least for the 1st stages, BE THERE! For the last 15 years the dad is making constant repairs. We're now adding another level and my dad had to reinforce all the walls on the lower level, because it was not done properly the first time around.

Jengs -- if you can have someone look after your house (someone you trust) that will open the house up to get AIR every now and then, that would be great. With my dad's house we had one part of the house rented out and the other party we stayed in while we're there on vacation. That's always worked for us. CAUTION: Be careful who you rent to, if you choose to do that after you build or have a family member stay in the house.

[LIFE'SJOURNEY 970]

right now, here is my concern about j.a. building a house. I would at some point like me and mr jengs to build a house so we can retire but. I'm also concerned about my stuff being there when we return. Any thoughts on this. How do u guys handle this?

That's the same concern I am having aswell. Hubby says don't worry. I say wrong answer.

Be Bless

Roxcie

[*JG* 2]

right now, here is my concern about j.a. building a house. I would at some point like me and mr jengs to build a house so we can retire but. I'm also concerned about my stuff being there when we return. Any thoughts on this. How do u guys handle this?

Hey JENGS; That was my parents concerns back in 1982. Let me give you the short version. My dad's house was suppose to be 2 levels with a wrap round varenda on each level. Because my dad was not there they stole a lot of his materials. It took another 4 years to get back what was stolen from him. My dad's advice to anyone who is trying to build there now, if you can be there at least for the 1st stages, BE THERE! For the last 15 years the dad is making constant repairs. We're now adding another level and my dad had to reinforce all the walls on the lower level, because it was not done properly the first time around.

Jengs -- if you can have someone look after your house (someone you trust) that will open the house up to get AIR every now and then, that would be great. With my dad's house we had one part of the house rented out and the other party we stayed in while we're there on vacation. That's always worked for us. CAUTION: Be careful who you rent to, if you choose to do that after you build or have a family member stay in the house.

Everyone I know who has done this sort of thing, had someone they knew and trusted living there while they couldn't be. That can bring it's own set of problems, even from family members; but is much safer then letting it sit empty.

[TRELAWNY PARISH 10]

right now, here is my concern about j.a. building a house. I would at some point like me and mr jengs to build a house so we can retire but. I'm also concerned about my stuff being there when we return. Any thoughts on this. How do u guys handle this?

Hey JENGS; That was my parents concerns back in 1982. Let me give you the short version. My dad's house was suppose to be 2 levels with a wrap round varenda on each level. Because my dad was not there they stole a lot of his materials. It took another 4 years to get back what was stolen from him. My dad's advice to anyone who is trying to build there now, if you can be there at least for the 1st stages, BE THERE! For the last 15 years the dad is making constant repairs. We're now adding another level and my dad had to reinforce all the walls on the lower level, because it was not done properly the first time around.

Jengs -- if you can have someone look after your house (someone you trust) that will open the house up to get AIR every now and then, that would be great. With my dad's house we had one part of the house rented out and the other party we stayed in while we're there on vacation. That's always worked for us. CAUTION: Be careful who you rent to, if you choose to do that after you build or have a family member stay in the house.

Everyone I know who has done this sort of thing, had someone they knew and trusted living there while they couldn't be. That can bring it's own set of problems, even from family members; but is much safer then letting it sit empty.

JENGS --

It also depends on where you build. A lot of the newer places are going up in communities that are gated and have security, some are actually HOAs and you know that's going to cost. I know a lot of people who have an empty house there, but I mean COMPLETELY EMPTY. Also, watch the family thing. It may work for you, it didn't work for US.

[JaEnglishGirl 34]

No one ever said crimes and murders don't happen everywhere. In my neighborhood, 3 different crimes involving guns happened just last week. However, to dismiss the crime of Jamaica with the wave of a hand is a cop out. [b]Per capita, it is the murder capital of the world[/b]. Something still needs to be done about that.

And, I was not dishonoring Jamaica in my tirade. I was going off on Jamicans I personally know who are driving me crazy. I have every right to do this because this is happening to me. It Has nothing to do with dishonoring Jamaica as a whole.

That is NOT true.