Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 6)

[Forever Young 1]

I am from VA and have lived all over the state and in the SouthWestern part..and the middle fo the state it is STILL touchy with a lot of older folks..

I had a student say at the beginning of the year (in another class..not mine...3rd grader..keep that in mind)... that such and such (some football player) could be my husband because we have the same last name. then he walks off..comes back and said "well, actually he cant" and I said "why not" and he said "because he is black" and I said "but hunter...I do have a jamaican husband" and he said "nuh-uh..you cant" and I chuckled and said "why not" and he said "because the bible says its wrong"

My students were standing there and all the girls were like "nuh-uh that is not true...the bible does not say that"

I couldnt help but feel sorry for those young boys and girls that are being raised in ignorance....

True Shrewdie,

The same is true on the other side. So many of my girlfriends are financially successful...but are looking for that 'special someone' to settle down with! All I hear is "All the good black men in America are in prison, married, gay or all of the above! " You don't know how lucky you are to have found Ken! (I remind them...He's just as lucky to have found me ) Because there is a Black man shortage" No doubt I know there is but...

Then when I tell them that they need to open their search to include ALL men from all backgrounds I get ...which I dont condone b/c in my view that's reverse racism! You can't DATE someone b/c of their skin color or background??? I'm not even telling them to marry...but DATE...get out there figure out what you want and what you don't! Who knows what G-d may have in store!

Anyway, I hope I didn't offend anyone..it's just my $.02!

Bless-ed Gill

Edited May 7, 2008 by Deyoungting

[shrewdgal 0]

I am from VA and have lived all over the state and in the SouthWestern part..and the middle fo the state it is STILL touchy with a lot of older folks..

I had a student say at the beginning of the year (in another class..not mine...3rd grader..keep that in mind)... that such and such (some football player) could be my husband because we have the same last name. then he walks off..comes back and said "well, actually he cant" and I said "why not" and he said "because he is black" and I said "but hunter...I do have a jamaican husband" and he said "nuh-uh..you cant" and I chuckled and said "why not" and he said "because the bible says its wrong"

My students were standing there and all the girls were like "nuh-uh that is not true...the bible does not say that"

I couldnt help but feel sorry for those young boys and girls that are being raised in ignorance....

True Shrewdie,

The same is true on the other side. So many of my girlfriends are financially successful...but are looking for that 'special someone' to settle down with! All I hear is "All the good black men in America are in prison, married, gay or all of the above! " You don't know how lucky you are to have found Ken! (I remind them...He's just as lucky to have found me ) Because there is a Black man shortage" No doubt I know there is but...

Then when I tell them that they need to open their search to include ALL men from all backgrounds I get ...which I dont condone b/c in my view that's reverse racism! You can't DATE someone b/c of their skin color or background??? I'm not even telling them to marry...but DATE...get out there figure out what you want and what you don't! Who knows what G-d may have in store!

Anyway, I hope I didn't offend anyone..it's just my $.02!

Bless-ed Gill

exactly..the best love stories are those which surprise us enough to take our breath away

[sus 70]

Shoot...soccer canceled, the only way it will be canceled would be if lightening strikes, for real !! I've watched my son play soccer for the past TEN (10 yrs) Mother's Days and for the 1st 6 yrs, I was coaching the boys.

Now for MY mother, a person that doesn't "need" anything and isn't happy with anything you get her..... any thoughts? I was thinking of maybe just taking her out for dinner ....but then fighting the lines and waits, ugh... and my father MR. IMPATIENT..... my mothers birthday is next Sat (min Sun)...and I know she's going to Atlantic City, maybe I'll send her something up to her room ???

****Tre, I really need you to send a prayer out .......to the AIRLINE GODS..... that prices to Jamaica will come down to a "reasonable" price so that I can get my butt there SOON (well July and I just can't bring myself to spend more than $300 per person!!). I'm in desperate need of a vacation !!! I can go to Punta Cana next weekend, but.... I just my home away from home .....

If she's going to AC, she obviously likes to gamble - what about scratch off tickets?

[jason&Marla 0]

Marla's visa is approved but not printed (called the 202#). My question is, Marla decided to have her visa delivered rather than pick it up, does it take longer to get it that way?

I know I am being inpatient but dang, I'm so ready for her to be here by this weekend.

[Forever Young 1]

Shoot...soccer canceled, the only way it will be canceled would be if lightening strikes, for real !! I've watched my son play soccer for the past TEN (10 yrs) Mother's Days and for the 1st 6 yrs, I was coaching the boys.

Now for MY mother, a person that doesn't "need" anything and isn't happy with anything you get her..... any thoughts? I was thinking of maybe just taking her out for dinner ....but then fighting the lines and waits, ugh... and my father MR. IMPATIENT..... my mothers birthday is next Sat (min Sun)...and I know she's going to Atlantic City, maybe I'll send her something up to her room ???

****Tre, I really need you to send a prayer out .......to the AIRLINE GODS..... that prices to Jamaica will come down to a "reasonable" price so that I can get my butt there SOON (well July and I just can't bring myself to spend more than $300 per person!!). I'm in desperate need of a vacation !!! I can go to Punta Cana next weekend, but.... I just my home away from home .....

If she's going to AC, she obviously likes to gamble - what about scratch off tickets?

Ohhhhhh...that's a good one Sus-ie!

[Forever Young 1]

Marla's visa is approved but not printed (called the 202#). My question is, Marla decided to have her visa delivered rather than pick it up, does it take longer to get it that way?

I know I am being inpatient but dang, I'm so ready for her to be here by this weekend.

IMO J., Yes it does. Ken decided to pick his up from Airpak MoBay and they called him and told him to pick it up in 6 days!

It should be coming soon...Hang tight...at least you know she WILL be coming!

Gill

[TRELAWNY PARISH 10]

I am from VA and have lived all over the state and in the SouthWestern part..and the middle fo the state it is STILL touchy with a lot of older folks..

I had a student say at the beginning of the year (in another class..not mine...3rd grader..keep that in mind)... that such and such (some football player) could be my husband because we have the same last name. then he walks off..comes back and said "well, actually he cant" and I said "why not" and he said "because he is black" and I said "but hunter...I do have a jamaican husband" and he said "nuh-uh..you cant" and I chuckled and said "why not" and he said "because the bible says its wrong"

My students were standing there and all the girls were like "nuh-uh that is not true...the bible does not say that"

I couldnt help but feel sorry for those young boys and girls that are being raised in ignorance....

True Shrewdie,

The same is true on the other side. So many of my girlfriends are financially successful...but are looking for that 'special someone' to settle down with! All I hear is "All the good black men in America are in prison, married, gay or all of the above! " You don't know how lucky you are to have found Ken! (I remind them...He's just as lucky to have found me ) Because there is a Black man shortage" No doubt I know there is but...

Then when I tell them that they need to open their search to include ALL men from all backgrounds I get ...which I dont condone b/c in my view that's reverse racism! You can't DATE someone b/c of their skin color or background??? I'm not even telling them to marry...but DATE...get out there figure out what you want and what you don't! Who knows what G-d may have in store!

Anyway, I hope I didn't offend anyone..it's just my $.02!

Bless-ed Gill

Hey Sis --

Before I met my son's father, well, just call me the RAINBOW COALITION. I dated men from just about every race, and culture. Seem that men from many different backgrounds found Jamaican women to be exotic, so I went with it. I was in a relationship with an Italian guy for almost 2 years, but his mother got to him. That was the first time I really came in contact with true racism. This woman knew nothing about me, but was quick to past judgement. We tried to make it work and in all honesty I would have married him. Even though we were from different cultures, he knew more about Jamaica than I did. His father had a vacation home in Negril and one in St. Thomas. Opposite ends of the island. His mother hated when I traveled with them; and I did it to annoy her. We would not stay with his family when I visited Jamaica, we stayed in Trelawny with my people and she hated that. Funny thing is I never had a problem with his dad or his uncles. It was just the older females in his family.

When I met his grandmother she was like, WHAT A BEAUTIFUL COLOURED GIRL. I just said thank you. My boyfriend nearly died. She was 96 years old. No point in me correcting her.

[jason&Marla 0]

Marla's visa is approved but not printed (called the 202#). My question is, Marla decided to have her visa delivered rather than pick it up, does it take longer to get it that way?

I know I am being inpatient but dang, I'm so ready for her to be here by this weekend.

IMO J., Yes it does. Ken decided to pick his up from Airpak MoBay and they called him and told him to pick it up in 6 days!

It should be coming soon...Hang tight...at least you know she WILL be coming!

Gill

According to your time-line - Ken got his visa 9 days after the interview.

[luvtravlin 0]

Shoot...soccer canceled, the only way it will be canceled would be if lightening strikes, for real !! I've watched my son play soccer for the past TEN (10 yrs) Mother's Days and for the 1st 6 yrs, I was coaching the boys.

Now for MY mother, a person that doesn't "need" anything and isn't happy with anything you get her..... any thoughts? I was thinking of maybe just taking her out for dinner ....but then fighting the lines and waits, ugh... and my father MR. IMPATIENT..... my mothers birthday is next Sat (min Sun)...and I know she's going to Atlantic City, maybe I'll send her something up to her room ???

****Tre, I really need you to send a prayer out .......to the AIRLINE GODS..... that prices to Jamaica will come down to a "reasonable" price so that I can get my butt there SOON (well July and I just can't bring myself to spend more than $300 per person!!). I'm in desperate need of a vacation !!! I can go to Punta Cana next weekend, but.... I just my home away from home .....

If she's going to AC, she obviously likes to gamble - what about scratch off tickets?

Ohhhhhh...that's a good one Sus-ie!

Whoooaaa !!! That's a great idea !! and ya know what sucks, the next words out of her mouth are going to be....what did you waste your money on these for !!!??? I'm gonna do that .....Thanks for the great tip !

Roxcie, me and my mother aren't close, never have been........sucks, but that's how it goes in our family. She's VEEEEERY close with my sister and sister-in-law, but never ever me. I took my mother on a cruise back in 2005 (1st and last time we'll ever go anywhere by ourselves together), *thinking* we could "get to know" each other better and that's when I was going to tell her about Craig....ya know, when she asked. NOTHING, NADA ever came up. Never once did (or does) she ask me about me, my life, whose in my life, what's going on in my life, howze business, how are any of my friends, nothing.... but then when she's having a conversation with like a parent on my sons soccer team, she ACTS like she truly knows me and when I say.............um, I don't do that, or act like that, etc etc..... shuts her up...ridiculous!

Hence, why my folks do not know anythinga about Craig..............still to this day and it's been 3 1/2 yrs! Maybe I should send them (both my parents) the email about Mrs. Loving

[TRELAWNY PARISH 10]

Marla's visa is approved but not printed (called the 202#). My question is, Marla decided to have her visa delivered rather than pick it up, does it take longer to get it that way?

I know I am being inpatient but dang, I'm so ready for her to be here by this weekend.

IMO J., Yes it does. Ken decided to pick his up from Airpak MoBay and they called him and told him to pick it up in 6 days!

It should be coming soon...Hang tight...at least you know she WILL be coming!

Gill

According to your time-line - Ken got his visa 9 days after the interview.

Hi Jason,

I don't think you count the weekends. At least that's what the CO at the embassy told my cousin. They told him it could take 10 working days.

Shoot...soccer canceled, the only way it will be canceled would be if lightening strikes, for real !! I've watched my son play soccer for the past TEN (10 yrs) Mother's Days and for the 1st 6 yrs, I was coaching the boys.

Now for MY mother, a person that doesn't "need" anything and isn't happy with anything you get her..... any thoughts? I was thinking of maybe just taking her out for dinner ....but then fighting the lines and waits, ugh... and my father MR. IMPATIENT..... my mothers birthday is next Sat (min Sun)...and I know she's going to Atlantic City, maybe I'll send her something up to her room ???

****Tre, I really need you to send a prayer out .......to the AIRLINE GODS..... that prices to Jamaica will come down to a "reasonable" price so that I can get my butt there SOON (well July and I just can't bring myself to spend more than $300 per person!!). I'm in desperate need of a vacation !!! I can go to Punta Cana next weekend, but.... I just my home away from home .....

If she's going to AC, she obviously likes to gamble - what about scratch off tickets?

Ohhhhhh...that's a good one Sus-ie!

Whoooaaa !!! That's a great idea !! and ya know what sucks, the next words out of her mouth are going to be....what did you waste your money on these for !!!??? I'm gonna do that .....Thanks for the great tip !

Roxcie, me and my mother aren't close, never have been........sucks, but that's how it goes in our family. She's VEEEEERY close with my sister and sister-in-law, but never ever me. I took my mother on a cruise back in 2005 (1st and last time we'll ever go anywhere by ourselves together), *thinking* we could "get to know" each other better and that's when I was going to tell her about Craig....ya know, when she asked. NOTHING, NADA ever came up. Never once did (or does) she ask me about me, my life, whose in my life, what's going on in my life, howze business, how are any of my friends, nothing.... but then when she's having a conversation with like a parent on my sons soccer team, she ACTS like she truly knows me and when I say.............um, I don't do that, or act like that, etc etc..... shuts her up...ridiculous!

Hence, why my folks do not know anythinga about Craig..............still to this day and it's been 3 1/2 yrs! Maybe I should send them (both my parents) the email about Mrs. Loving

Girl stop. I"m tellingggggggggg

[sus 70]

I am from VA and have lived all over the state and in the SouthWestern part..and the middle fo the state it is STILL touchy with a lot of older folks..

I had a student say at the beginning of the year (in another class..not mine...3rd grader..keep that in mind)... that such and such (some football player) could be my husband because we have the same last name. then he walks off..comes back and said "well, actually he cant" and I said "why not" and he said "because he is black" and I said "but hunter...I do have a jamaican husband" and he said "nuh-uh..you cant" and I chuckled and said "why not" and he said "because the bible says its wrong"

My students were standing there and all the girls were like "nuh-uh that is not true...the bible does not say that"

I couldnt help but feel sorry for those young boys and girls that are being raised in ignorance....

True Shrewdie,

The same is true on the other side. So many of my girlfriends are financially successful...but are looking for that 'special someone' to settle down with! All I hear is "All the good black men in America are in prison, married, gay or all of the above! " You don't know how lucky you are to have found Ken! (I remind them...He's just as lucky to have found me ) Because there is a Black man shortage" No doubt I know there is but...

Then when I tell them that they need to open their search to include ALL men from all backgrounds I get ...which I dont condone b/c in my view that's reverse racism! You can't DATE someone b/c of their skin color or background??? I'm not even telling them to marry...but DATE...get out there figure out what you want and what you don't! Who knows what G-d may have in store!

Anyway, I hope I didn't offend anyone..it's just my $.02!

Bless-ed Gill

exactly..the best love stories are those which surprise us enough to take our breath away

Great quote, Shrewdie!

I have been through the wringer with the racism issue - My Dad was SO SO against IR dating, and we had some serious battles over the years - I have always stressed to my parents that they raised me NOT to see color, and that I was never going to close my mind against falling in love with someone who made me happy because of the color of their skin. When I was with my ex and told my parents that I was engaged, my mother actually told me that "she understands I love reggae, but she loves country music and never wanted to marry a cowboy"!

I just had a battle about this with a friend last night - She gets very judgmental of my relationship with DJ - I finally said to her, so If I had gone to the UK, fallen in love, and was in the same situation with someone from there, would you have a problem with it? She paused and then admitted she wouldn't! Just proved my point that it was the race issue - even though her nephew is mixed, and she has dated other races.

I don't care what color someone is - My friends look like the United Nations!

Whoooaaa !!! That's a great idea !! and ya know what sucks, the next words out of her mouth are going to be....what did you waste your money on these for !!!??? I'm gonna do that .....Thanks for the great tip !

I did it for my cousin's 50th birthday - I found this cute ceramic jar that said Mad Money on it, and stuffed it with scratch offs - she had a ball with them, and actually won a couple hundred $s

[luvtravlin 0]

Hey Sis --

Before I met my son's father, well, just call me the RAINBOW COALITION. I dated men from just about every race, and culture. Seem that men from many different backgrounds found Jamaican women to be exotic, so I went with it. I was in a relationship with an Italian guy for almost 2 years, but his mother got to him. That was the first time I really came in contact with true racism. This woman knew nothing about me, but was quick to past judgement. We tried to make it work and in all honesty I would have married him. Even though we were from different cultures, he knew more about Jamaica than I did. His father had a vacation home in Negril and one in St. Thomas. Opposite ends of the island. His mother hated when I traveled with them; and I did it to annoy her. We would not stay with his family when I visited Jamaica, we stayed in Trelawny with my people and she hated that. Funny thing is I never had a problem with his dad or his uncles. It was just the older females in his family.

When I met his grandmother she was like, WHAT A BEAUTIFUL COLOURED GIRL. I just said thank you. My boyfriend nearly died. She was 96 years old. No point in me correcting her.

This is EXACTLY how my parents are !!! I was the only one in my family ...any in my family to have black, mixed, asian, etc etc friends. Every trip that me and my son went on to Jamaica, my parents NEVER want to see my pictures --because of the friends that I have there. When they met my friend Mophead (who now lives here in Baltimore that I've known from Negril)...my dad wouldn't even shake his hand. It's SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO embarrassing !!!!

I remember one time I had a pool party at my parents house and a friend of mine came in looking for me and my grandmother was sitting at the table reading the paper (I think I was in the bathroom) ....when I saw my grandmother she said........some coloured fellas was looking for you. Now meanwhile, there was only 1 white guy and about 15 black guys there.......I opened the door and said (cause my friends all know my family has *issues* with color) and I said, which colored fella was lookin for me.....my friend came up, and said, I was a misses... my grandmother looked like she was going to pass out with humiliation. OH WELL !!!

It's very unfornate that my parents have said things to my son when he had his black friends over to their house to go swimming (he asked before he went over if he could have friends)....and the next time he asked, my mother said, can you bring a different set of friends next time. Guess what.........haven't been back there to go swimming since and that ws 2 yrs ago !!!!

It sucks, but I don't let it bother me .....I've had to deal with it for almost 43 yrs now !!!

[shrewdgal 0]

Shoot...soccer canceled, the only way it will be canceled would be if lightening strikes, for real !! I've watched my son play soccer for the past TEN (10 yrs) Mother's Days and for the 1st 6 yrs, I was coaching the boys.

Now for MY mother, a person that doesn't "need" anything and isn't happy with anything you get her..... any thoughts? I was thinking of maybe just taking her out for dinner ....but then fighting the lines and waits, ugh... and my father MR. IMPATIENT..... my mothers birthday is next Sat (min Sun)...and I know she's going to Atlantic City, maybe I'll send her something up to her room ???

****Tre, I really need you to send a prayer out .......to the AIRLINE GODS..... that prices to Jamaica will come down to a "reasonable" price so that I can get my butt there SOON (well July and I just can't bring myself to spend more than $300 per person!!). I'm in desperate need of a vacation !!! I can go to Punta Cana next weekend, but.... I just my home away from home .....

If she's going to AC, she obviously likes to gamble - what about scratch off tickets?

Ohhhhhh...that's a good one Sus-ie!

Whoooaaa !!! That's a great idea !! and ya know what sucks, the next words out of her mouth are going to be....what did you waste your money on these for !!!??? I'm gonna do that .....Thanks for the great tip !

Roxcie, me and my mother aren't close, never have been........sucks, but that's how it goes in our family. She's VEEEEERY close with my sister and sister-in-law, but never ever me. I took my mother on a cruise back in 2005 (1st and last time we'll ever go anywhere by ourselves together), *thinking* we could "get to know" each other better and that's when I was going to tell her about Craig....ya know, when she asked. NOTHING, NADA ever came up. Never once did (or does) she ask me about me, my life, whose in my life, what's going on in my life, howze business, how are any of my friends, nothing.... but then when she's having a conversation with like a parent on my sons soccer team, she ACTS like she truly knows me and when I say.............um, I don't do that, or act like that, etc etc..... shuts her up...ridiculous!

Hence, why my folks do not know anythinga about Craig..............still to this day and it's been 3 1/2 yrs! Maybe I should send them (both my parents) the email about Mrs. Loving

Im not close with my mother either. She is close with my sister and used to be with my sister-in-law. We have never been close and its like she tries to guilt me now for not being close with her. I moved back to the area where I grew up and lived her for 8 months or so before she even knew where I lived...b/c she never asked...and its only 20 minutes away.

and then she wonders why I dont want to just go sit at my parents house during my freetime...

hmm...

[LIFE'SJOURNEY 970]

Shoot...soccer canceled, the only way it will be canceled would be if lightening strikes, for real !! I've watched my son play soccer for the past TEN (10 yrs) Mother's Days and for the 1st 6 yrs, I was coaching the boys.

Now for MY mother, a person that doesn't "need" anything and isn't happy with anything you get her..... any thoughts? I was thinking of maybe just taking her out for dinner ....but then fighting the lines and waits, ugh... and my father MR. IMPATIENT..... my mothers birthday is next Sat (min Sun)...and I know she's going to Atlantic City, maybe I'll send her something up to her room ???

****Tre, I really need you to send a prayer out .......to the AIRLINE GODS..... that prices to Jamaica will come down to a "reasonable" price so that I can get my butt there SOON (well July and I just can't bring myself to spend more than $300 per person!!). I'm in desperate need of a vacation !!! I can go to Punta Cana next weekend, but.... I just my home away from home .....

If she's going to AC, she obviously likes to gamble - what about scratch off tickets?

Ohhhhhh...that's a good one Sus-ie!

Whoooaaa !!! That's a great idea !! and ya know what sucks, the next words out of her mouth are going to be....what did you waste your money on these for !!!??? I'm gonna do that .....Thanks for the great tip !

Roxcie, me and my mother aren't close, never have been........sucks, but that's how it goes in our family. She's VEEEEERY close with my sister and sister-in-law, but never ever me. I took my mother on a cruise back in 2005 (1st and last time we'll ever go anywhere by ourselves together), *thinking* we could "get to know" each other better and that's when I was going to tell her about Craig....ya know, when she asked. NOTHING, NADA ever came up. Never once did (or does) she ask me about me, my life, whose in my life, what's going on in my life, howze business, how are any of my friends, nothing.... but then when she's having a conversation with like a parent on my sons soccer team, she ACTS like she truly knows me and when I say.............um, I don't do that, or act like that, etc etc..... shuts her up...ridiculous!

Hence, why my folks do not know anythinga about Craig..............still to this day and it's been 3 1/2 yrs! Maybe I should send them (both my parents) the email about Mrs. Loving

Hi lutravlin,

I am the middle child, so my relationship with my mother wasn't the special one, but neither the less, I treated my mother the same way I wanted to be treated as a mother. So it didn't matter how she acted, I knew I had to answer to my God, the ten commandments say honor thy mother and father.

But my family is small and close anyway, so I didn't have a lot of drama. My mother was a very good mother. She provided and sent all 4 kids thru college. So I could only love her as a parent.

Be Bless

[dancehallquana 5]

I am from VA and have lived all over the state and in the SouthWestern part..and the middle fo the state it is STILL touchy with a lot of older folks..

I had a student say at the beginning of the year (in another class..not mine...3rd grader..keep that in mind)... that such and such (some football player) could be my husband because we have the same last name. then he walks off..comes back and said "well, actually he cant" and I said "why not" and he said "because he is black" and I said "but hunter...I do have a jamaican husband" and he said "nuh-uh..you cant" and I chuckled and said "why not" and he said "because the bible says its wrong"

My students were standing there and all the girls were like "nuh-uh that is not true...the bible does not say that"

I couldnt help but feel sorry for those young boys and girls that are being raised in ignorance....

True Shrewdie,

The same is true on the other side. So many of my girlfriends are financially successful...but are looking for that 'special someone' to settle down with! All I hear is "All the good black men in America are in prison, married, gay or all of the above! " You don't know how lucky you are to have found Ken! (I remind them...He's just as lucky to have found me ) Because there is a Black man shortage" No doubt I know there is but...

Then when I tell them that they need to open their search to include ALL men from all backgrounds I get ...which I dont condone b/c in my view that's reverse racism! You can't DATE someone b/c of their skin color or background??? I'm not even telling them to marry...but DATE...get out there figure out what you want and what you don't! Who knows what G-d may have in store!

Anyway, I hope I didn't offend anyone..it's just my $.02!

Bless-ed Gill

Good afternoon to all.. I have been trying to catch up and not doing very well.. I had a great time in Ft Lauderdale, the part I was in was like Lil Jamaica.. I understood conversation maybe 50% of the time cuz everybody spoke Patwa and I ate American food maybe ONCE the whole time I was there.. Porridge, mackrel, rice, turn cornmeal, yam, sweet potato (both of which are orange where I live, not white) dumpling.. I didn't even that much Jamaican food when I was in Jamaica LOL EVERYTHING WAS SOOO GOOD..

I chimed in to ask a question about women being open in relationships.. I don't mean to offend anyone. Obviously love is a powerful thing cuz u guys have went against all odds for it. i just wondered did the money issue ever deter u.. I really am not materialistic, but money is important. I look at the odds and the earning potential for people that immigrate here just doesn't look very good. Although I was encouraged by the story of the chef that Lawny told the other day, and then I guess those that open their own business. But it seems most of the time even if u are well educated from your own country, u have to start ALL over from square one here.

I know this post was talking about race and that is also an issue that with all the complications interracial relationships can have, it is beautiful to see people pursue it nevertheless. I think love is supposed to conquer all, but the whole being open to someone who's income will be rather meager is soooo scary.. I work for SSA, so I think about survivor benefits if he were to pass, disability if he were to get hurt, medical insurance.. I know I can make my head hurt thinking about all the cons but I have been wanting to ask.. anybody ever wrestle w/ it??

PS.. i know that same question can go to relationships w/ men NOT from another country but I thought I would ask u wise, beautiful ladies LOL