Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 6)

[JaEnglishGirl 34]

Yes, I can agree with that.

But I also feel that the wife doesn`t mean much to them either if they are willing to disrespect her by cheating.

Men will do what they feel they can get away with.

If they were 100% sure the wife would leave, then they wouldn`t...

[JaEnglishGirl 34]

Again, forgiving infidelity in my eyes is a licence to cheat. He knows you`re not going anywhere, despite your threats...

[IrieCat 2]

Yes, I can agree with that.

But I also feel that the wife doesn`t mean much to them either if they are willing to disrespect her by cheating.

Men will do what they feel they can get away with.

If they were 100% sure the wife would leave, then they wouldn`t...

I agree 100%!

[brownnskinn 0]

GOOD MORNING MY BEAUTIFUL SITAHS

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They use to beat us for speaking PATWAH when I went to school in the 70s. I went to a private school that was ran by England. My brother and I are terrified of NUNS

JG--- how is the TAX season treating you?

I thought that article was sort of funny in that it was eluding to text messaging being a learning tool. WTH is that?

I don't work in an accounting office any more. So, not a big deal for me. Waiting to see IF we owe anything and how much. It was initially looking like we would owe $3,000. Now, there seems to be a loophole we fall into that may make that sum disappear. Crossing my fingers!

Wow, I'll cross mine for you too. I actually made out good this year for the first.

Mawnin

Our refund mek it and left. The entire amount went toward our credit card account. Now for the rebate to pay off the other one

[Yaads 0]

Good Morning!

Sorry I have been MIA for a bit. The site isn't really working for me and it is taking ages to load one page and then when I try and go to the next page I keep getting errors and all sorts of stuff. It seems to be working ok now but I am so far behind I will never catch up so I am just going to catch up with this new thread. Can y'all believe we are on part 6 I can remember the very first post of part 1...seems like so long ago. I just noticed that I am about to have my 3 year anniversary here on the site...whoa that seems so crazy

(((Kimmy))) So glad to hear that you are feeling better What a wonderful blessing!!!

Edited March 5, 2008 by Yardiewife

[Yaads 0]

Congrats Claire!!! That is so wonderful...keeping my fingers crossed for a quick interview date

Positive approval vibes going out to Marlita and Shrewdie

[*JG* 2]

JENGS........wake up....wake up

fi real, i was on time today, so the day is going to drag,

??? Here's my question for the day and when thinking about the answer let's try to leave our husband's/SO's out of it.

Do you believe the statement. She means nothing to me, when a man is caught cheating? Men (friends) have told me over and over again that men can sleep with a woman and have zero feelings for her. From observing men, I in part do belive that statement to be true, but when it goes on for a long time, that's when i'm like NOT. Long time meaning years and then they start having kids and all that stuff and he's still with his wife.

I'm awake now

She means something to him. If a man cheats on his wife, that other woman had some sort of pull, even if it was just to stroke his ego to know someone else still wants him. She meant enough for him to completely disrespect his wife and the vows of marriage he made.

That being said, I think a man can have casual affairs without it meaning any matter of the heart. He can have sex without being in love with the woman, sometimes without even really liking her. Women are usually much tougher on their hearts in these matters.

The very first time he cheated it would mean something to me. Something I could never forgive nor forget.

Again, forgiving infidelity in my eyes is a licence to cheat. He knows you`re not going anywhere, despite your threats...

I completely agree with this statement.

I, too, believe that if you let him get away with cheating at any time, he will KNOW he can do it again and again without consequences. He'll just get better at hiding it from you the next time.

[brownnskinn 0]

JENGS........wake up....wake up

fi real, i was on time today, so the day is going to drag,

??? Here's my question for the day and when thinking about the answer let's try to leave our husband's/SO's out of it.

Do you believe the statement. She means nothing to me, when a man is caught cheating? Men (friends) have told me over and over again that men can sleep with a woman and have zero feelings for her. From observing men, I in part do belive that statement to be true, but when it goes on for a long time, that's when i'm like NOT. Long time meaning years and then they start having kids and all that stuff and he's still with his wife.

I'm awake now

Yes, I believe a man can sleep with a woman and she mean noting to him.....If he keeps going back there has to be feelings some where, and they making kids too . NOT!!

Edited March 5, 2008 by brownnskinn

[*JG* 2]

Yes, I can agree with that.

But I also feel that the wife doesn`t mean much to them either if they are willing to disrespect her by cheating.

Men will do what they feel they can get away with.

If they were 100% sure the wife would leave, then they wouldn`t...

I agree 100%!

Me too.

Which is why it is important to set ground rules and stick by them.

[TRELAWNY PARISH 10]

JENGS........wake up....wake up

fi real, i was on time today, so the day is going to drag,

??? Here's my question for the day and when thinking about the answer let's try to leave our husband's/SO's out of it.

Do you believe the statement. She means nothing to me, when a man is caught cheating? Men (friends) have told me over and over again that men can sleep with a woman and have zero feelings for her. From observing men, I in part do belive that statement to be true, but when it goes on for a long time, that's when i'm like NOT. Long time meaning years and then they start having kids and all that stuff and he's still with his wife.

I'm awake now

She means something to him. If a man cheats on his wife, that other woman had some sort of pull, even if it was just to stroke his ego to know someone else still wants him. She meant enough for him to completely disrespect his wife and the vows of marriage he made.

That being said, I think a man can have casual affairs without it meaning any matter of the heart. He can have sex without being in love with the woman, sometimes without even really liking her. Women are usually much tougher on their hearts in these matters.

The very first time he cheated it would mean something to me. Something I could never forgive nor forget.

I agree 100%. I wasn't until recently I found out my ex is/was engaged to another woman in Jamaica. Doesn't even make sense for me to confront him about it now. It just explains (A LOT), him never wanted to take me to Jamaica with him the 10 years we've been together. That was the LAST thing on my mind, besides, I would have NEVER forgiven him. When men have cheated on my in the past, all I ask for is a little honesty. I won't take you back, but I'll have a LITTLE respect for you down the road. Just be honest. Like grandmother would say...bettah u HURT me now, than HURT me later.

[Jengles 0]

JENGS........wake up....wake up

fi real, i was on time today, so the day is going to drag,

??? Here's my question for the day and when thinking about the answer let's try to leave our husband's/SO's out of it.

Do you believe the statement. She means nothing to me, when a man is caught cheating? Men (friends) have told me over and over again that men can sleep with a woman and have zero feelings for her. From observing men, I in part do belive that statement to be true, but when it goes on for a long time, that's when i'm like NOT. Long time meaning years and then they start having kids and all that stuff and he's still with his wife.

I'm awake now

She means something to him. If a man cheats on his wife, that other woman had some sort of pull, even if it was just to stroke his ego to know someone else still wants him. She meant enough for him to completely disrespect his wife and the vows of marriage he made.

That being said, I think a man can have casual affairs without it meaning any matter of the heart. He can have sex without being in love with the woman, sometimes without even really liking her. Women are usually much tougher on their hearts in these matters.

The very first time he cheated it would mean something to me. Something I could never forgive nor forget.

Again, forgiving infidelity in my eyes is a licence to cheat. He knows you`re not going anywhere, despite your threats...

I completely agree with this statement.

I, too, believe that if you let him get away with cheating at any time, he will KNOW he can do it again and again without consequences. He'll just get better at hiding it from you the next time.

Not even liking her, that is scary and English i totally agree with your second statement. Forgiving it the wrong way, just leads to more cheating, meaning there has to be some type of consequences. A long time ago one of my friend's uncles told her the same thing, if you make it to easy on a man to come back to you after he's cheated on you then he'll do it again.

I think women get stuck there. U might want him to suffer something but then their scared that they might drive him away to the other woman. but i think they should thing postive if he really wanted to be with her...wouldn't he have left you and went to her?? So sometimes the woman sho has been cheated on has more clout then she realizes...makes sense??

[Jengles 0]

Yes, I can agree with that.

But I also feel that the wife doesn`t mean much to them either if they are willing to disrespect her by cheating.

Men will do what they feel they can get away with.

If they were 100% sure the wife would leave, then they wouldn`t...

I agree 100%!

Me too.

Which is why it is important to set ground rules and stick by them.

but sometimes isn't that hard?? One always knows what should be done....but what actually gets done is sometimes something different.

i.e. English's friend who went back to her boyfriend or whatever he is to her and now he's making kid number 2 with the baby mother. Deep in her heart she knew she should have left him the first time she found out and look at what has happened now??

JENGS........wake up....wake up

fi real, i was on time today, so the day is going to drag,

??? Here's my question for the day and when thinking about the answer let's try to leave our husband's/SO's out of it.

Do you believe the statement. She means nothing to me, when a man is caught cheating? Men (friends) have told me over and over again that men can sleep with a woman and have zero feelings for her. From observing men, I in part do belive that statement to be true, but when it goes on for a long time, that's when i'm like NOT. Long time meaning years and then they start having kids and all that stuff and he's still with his wife.

I'm awake now

She means something to him. If a man cheats on his wife, that other woman had some sort of pull, even if it was just to stroke his ego to know someone else still wants him. She meant enough for him to completely disrespect his wife and the vows of marriage he made.

That being said, I think a man can have casual affairs without it meaning any matter of the heart. He can have sex without being in love with the woman, sometimes without even really liking her. Women are usually much tougher on their hearts in these matters.

The very first time he cheated it would mean something to me. Something I could never forgive nor forget.

I agree 100%. I wasn't until recently I found out my ex is/was engaged to another woman in Jamaica. Doesn't even make sense for me to confront him about it now. It just explains (A LOT), him never wanted to take me to Jamaica with him the 10 years we've been together. That was the LAST thing on my mind, besides, I would have NEVER forgiven him. When men have cheated on my in the past, all I ask for is a little honesty. I won't take you back, but I'll have a LITTLE respect for you down the road. Just be honest. Like grandmother would say...bettah u HURT me now, than HURT me later.

but isn't he with someone else up here??

[*JG* 2]

The thing I am trying to say is there is no going back. If a man cheats on me, he better be willing to move forward. I have never, nor will I ever take a cheater back. It is my one rule I have never, nor will I ever go back on.

So, no, the answer is that it is not hard to stick to a rule you make if you really believe in that rule.

In a marriage, or any relationship for that matter, there are always grey areas to compromise on. However, I believe cheating breaks ALL the rules. I never compromise on this issue.

[brownnskinn 0]

Congrats Claire!!! That is so wonderful...keeping my fingers crossed for a quick interview date

Positive approval vibes going out to Marlita and Shrewdie

Hey yardi .

[Jengles 0]

mr jengles has agreed to take the car to the junkyard, so it looks like he might be back next week!!