Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 6)

[BelwinMills 0]

Kelly -- Thanks for keeping us updated.

Send Shauna and Kayla our love

Okay Jax

Hey Mindy Dwain told me not to wait get it done this week. So I am sending it in tomorrow.

[*JG* 2]

JG, Andre is lucky to have you show him the clear path. I tell Anthony all the time that it is easier to walk straight than clean up a crooked mess. What gets me though is how they try harm each other. He refers to it as crabs in a barrel - when you get close to the top another crab will pull you back down. Sad.

Island.....EXACTLY! I'll never understand how your friends and family could wish bad things on you.

[kishmar 0]

Dang, Lawny. So much drama. I hope everyone gets better soon. Sorry for all your troubles. I hope your next embassy visit goes much smoother.

How are you feeling now?

Dont matter youg or old you SIMPLY DO NOT refer to someone as boy or gal in this country is rude and DISRESPECTFUL!!!!!!

[kishmar 0]

This is going to be a long one.

Hey ladies as you can see I'm back. I had to cut my trip by a few days because my life seems to be upside down at the moment. First, I get to Jamaica with a 103 fever and I get a phone call that my grandmother just had STROKE, but it was a mild one; second, my sister, who is pregnant, her water broke (baby is not due until SEPTEMBER); Third, my little brother's heart started to beat out of control so, he's also in the hospital. I tell you when it rains, it really POURS. My brother and sister is doing okay for right now. They're trying to keep the baby in until the 23rd week then they'll move her to a high tech hospital in case she needs to deliver. Then I move, into my new place on Friday... oh LORD help me please. My EXXXXXXXXX WOULD NOT LET ME TALK TO MY SON AT ALL WHILE I WAS IN JAMAICA - TOLD HIM MOMMY IS NOT COMING BACK. (I just about lost my every loving mind) --

Okay now Jamaica;

Let me tell ya'll, if I wasn't sure Marcel loved me or if I had any doubts in the back of my mind I know 110% now. First, his friend sends his brother to pick me up I did not know who the brother was but he recognize me, so, of course, I refused to go with him. I waited for Marcel's friend to call me back. They were having a send off party for one of their friends from the Holiday Inn who was coming to the states (someone I met) back in September. Anyway I showed up at the party and was asked to bless the food. (Marcel didn't know who was talking on the mic and turns to his friend and says, "I wish that DAMN woman would hurry up with the prayer so we can eat). Remember, my voice was still not 100%. Well, when he looked up and saw my face he started to cry out of control, he was BAWLING in front of about 40 people. I didn't even know he was going to react like that. I was SPEECHLESS. Anyway, I told him about my grandmother and he says let's go. We were at the hospital in Falmouth in about 45mins.

Now, because I was sick and feverish and it was about 90 plus degrees when I get to Jamaica and I was having the chills. So, WHAT DOES MARCEL SAY! No, SEX for me until I get better (MAD AS HELL) I was. YA'LL KNOW I WAS IN HEAT before I left. But, I didn't mind. I was too weak anyway. I slept the rest of the day. Thursday, still sick as hell, but been drinking rum honey and pimento. It took us a little under 3 hours to reach Kingston (Chalky Hill). Mi naw drive dehso again and we were in a TRUCK. Gill, I almost lost my breakfast! I slept the rest of the way. I didn't even know when we reached Kingston, but we got there around 10:30. A few people were outside and his appointment was not until 12:30 to drop off the DS-230, so I asked then if we could drop it off early. The guards that were out front said we had to wait for them to open the door and ask those guards. The guards said to form 2 lines. One for people who have interview and the other for those who are dropping off paperwork. Marcel was the 3rd person in the paperwork Anyway I went back to sit in the truck with the A/C blasting. We were parked across the street. Well, Marcel friend and I decided to I needed to walk around since my legs were cramping up. When I got out of the truck I looked over and saw that one of the guards that were at the door was yelling at Marcel. Now, the street that the embassy is on is extremely busy, so be careful crossing it. It took me a while to get across the street and as I'm standing on the median to wait for traffic to clear I can hear the guards yelling at Marcel and telling him he can't get in without and appointment letter and he's clamly and quietly telling them all he is there to do was drop of the DS-230 so that an interview can be scheduled and that he was told to ask if he could drop it off earlier.

I finally made it across the street. Now, I'm standing in front of the embassy and asking what's going on. Well, wouldn't you know it, the guard that was at the door GRABBED MY DRESS and Marcel went off. I was now standing between Marcel who is 6'4" and the guard who was about 5'5". Anyway, I told Marcel to walk away and I took out my US passport. The 2 police officers (not embassy guards) that were outside had Marcel off to the side talking to him and calming him down and told him not to pay the the guards anymind. By that time, two other people came outside (BECAUSE I HAVE A BIG MOUTH) a bald headed black man (a supervisor) and a white lady who walked over to me when she saw me holding my passport. She asked me what happened and I told her that I was assaulated my one of the embassy employees. She said WHAT! I said that guard over there grabbed my dress and grabbed it so hard that the tie on the side came undone. I had on a wrap dress. Of course he denied it and said he was only directing me to step into a line. All the people outside said, A LIE DI MAN A TELL...IM GRAB ON PON DI OOMAN DRESS AND PULL AR! She asked me if we had an appointment and I said yes, but it was not until 12:30 to drop off the DS -230 and that all I wanted to know was if we could drop it off before the 12:30 appointment. She looked at it and said that it was okay and we could drop it off she also told me we didn't need the 2 picutures yet and to bring 4 pictures at the interview. She told me to go ahead in with Marcel and I left my purse outside with Marcel friend. She also apologized for what happened. Once we were inside they gave us the 2 pictures back that I had attached to the DS-230 and told me that it was not necessary. The gentleman that took the DS-230 also told me the same thing, that they didn't need the pictures and I asked are you sure?. The guard that pulled my dress was removed, because I was cleary upset as were some of the other people outside.

Some of those guards think they have your lives in their hands. Like they the ones giving you the approval. Don't put up with SHITTTTT from them.

As we were leaving, the same lady walked over to me and again apologized, but to both of us this time. Marcel, shook her hand and we both said thank you. She she said see you in a month of two. She also said, some people do request and specific date and time for their interview. They will try and accommodate if it's doable. So, if you asking for a date that is about 2 months out it's a possibility you'll might get it. She said, it never hurts to ask. She was very nice, very nice.

Well, that's about it. Now, ya'll pray for me please and my siblings.

Im praying for you Lawny....sorry for your experience here in Jamaica

I just cant understand why we treat each other the way we do

[Islandwoman 0]

JG, Andre is lucky to have you show him the clear path. I tell Anthony all the time that it is easier to walk straight than clean up a crooked mess. What gets me though is how they try harm each other. He refers to it as crabs in a barrel - when you get close to the top another crab will pull you back down. Sad.

Island.....EXACTLY! I'll never understand how your friends and family could wish bad things on you.

Me either. Apparently it is something we will never understand. Because of that way, Anthony has only told 1 person - an aunt, that we filed.

[TRELAWNY PARISH 10]

Okay. I got my interview date and guess what. I asked for it (even the time). June 24th 1:30 pm. I told you that lady I spoke to outside the embassy was so very nice. She told me to ask for an afternoon appointment and I got it. Since we'll be driving from Trelawny. Now, mi need smadi fi help mi find a ticket. I'm so stress right now mi can't concentrate on nothing. So, if anyone wants to help me of have some free time -- BWI to MBJ 6/20-6/27

[Jengles 0]

Afternoon Yawdies!!

JG...Hey girl...I can't even imagine the frustration you were feeling during this time. I think about that kind of stuff all the time...folx from back home trying to take advantage of my husband when he reaches here just because they think that he will have it made. Hell, I experience that from time to time now. People always asking him to ask me for stuff, or they will ask him for stuff (even though he doesn't have much) and they feel like it's ok because they believe that he has an American wife that will take care of it. RASS!! I've listened to him tell them that he is" NOT asking me for anything for them! If they want something they should work for it, because she works hard for the things that she has and why should he (or they) take that from me?" Over the past year he has begun to see who his "real" friends are and who are not...and at times it's been hurtful for him, but like I told him, you'll eventually see people's true intentions once you learn to say NO! Luckily for me I've never had that problem! LOL...but saying NO to those that were trying to take advantage of him was something he was not good at doing when we first met a few years ago, and he would always end up on the shi##! end of the stick! But he's come a long way. I tell him it's only going to get worse once he's here because he'll have DIRECT access to more, but he feels like he will be able to handle it...we'll see...Anyway, I'm glad that you and Andre are working through this together, and I know the two of you will continue to stay strong and make the right decisions for YOU and YOUR family! Tell Andre to never mind de bad man dem!! And that the yaardies on VJ got his back if he needs us!! BULLET! BULLET! BULLET!!

Part of the problem is that Andre had a good job for the last 6 years in JA. He took care of all those freeloaders before and now they feel he needs to continue. We are not in the position to do that. They are not getting that. I feel like any one of them can work. In the family situation alone, there are 5 adults capable of working. Andre also says you are a fool if you starve in Jamaica. There were many times we would fish in the sea, go crabbing, and then climb trees for our dinner.

What you said about the friends......sadly, Andre had many friends in JA. Of them, only 2 of them have not shown their face. The JA friends that remain otherwise, are those who are in the US or Canada. It's been a real eye opener for him. It makes me sad. Really sad.

Morning all and congrats on baby Kayla!

We are already going through this friend issue - DJ has had some tough times in the past few months, starting with his car being stolen. He has learned very quickly who is a true friend and who is not - it's hard to sit by and watch your man hurting - DJ is always the one who helps everyone too, and when he needed it, none of them were around.

And, my frustration item of the day - Another phone gone, he left his cell in a taxi

try having the jamaica tours bus, almost being stolen from mr. jengles yard down in j.a. he almost lost his job, we almost had to postponed the wedding because they took the bus away from him and he was making No money and felt that as a man, he should contribute.

sometimes some good people go thru some very bad tings, in j.a. and elsewhere.

Lawny - girl can I tell u, your ex is getting in MY nerves. I hope when u came back you blew him UP!..sorry to hear of all the things that are going on right now, but remember God doesn't give u more than you can handle. we will pray for you daily.

[TRELAWNY PARISH 10]

JG, Andre is lucky to have you show him the clear path. I tell Anthony all the time that it is easier to walk straight than clean up a crooked mess. What gets me though is how they try harm each other. He refers to it as crabs in a barrel - when you get close to the top another crab will pull you back down. Sad.

Island.....EXACTLY! I'll never understand how your friends and family could wish bad things on you.

JG --

Andre should count his many blessings and thank the Lord he has you as his wife.

Great, I just told Marcel about the interview and of course he's BAWLING his eyes out.

[Jengles 0]

Okay. I got my interview date and guess what. I asked for it (even the time). June 24th 1:30 pm. I told you that lady I spoke to outside the embassy was so very nice. She told me to ask for an afternoon appointment and I got it. Since we'll be driving from Trelawny. Now, mi need smadi fi help mi find a ticket. I'm so stress right now mi can't concentrate on nothing. So, if anyone wants to help me of have some free time -- BWI to MBJ 6/20-6/27

i looked and all i can say is OUCH

[BelwinMills 0]

Lawny giving positive vibes for your family to heal and get their health back.

So much drama in JA. Glad to see you made it back safe when you were so sick.

[*JG* 2]

Dang, Lawny. So much drama. I hope everyone gets better soon. Sorry for all your troubles. I hope your next embassy visit goes much smoother.

How are you feeling now?

Dont matter youg or old you SIMPLY DO NOT refer to someone as boy or gal in this country is rude and DISRESPECTFUL!!!!!!

I'm sorry it has hit such a nerve with you.

I don't see anything wrong with calling people boys or girls in some contexts. Like I say I love you girls. It's not meant to be derogatory. If it is said in a derogatory fashion, then I do see it as being wrong.

Edited April 21, 2008 by Jomo's girl

[sus 70]

Sorry to hear all your problems, Lawny - praying for your family! Delta has those dates for $384 - connecting flight, though

[*JG* 2]

Okay. I got my interview date and guess what. I asked for it (even the time). June 24th 1:30 pm. I told you that lady I spoke to outside the embassy was so very nice. She told me to ask for an afternoon appointment and I got it. Since we'll be driving from Trelawny. Now, mi need smadi fi help mi find a ticket. I'm so stress right now mi can't concentrate on nothing. So, if anyone wants to help me of have some free time -- BWI to MBJ 6/20-6/27

i looked and all i can say is OUCH

I looked too......$412-500 on Delta. I advise you to book soon, Tre. Gas prices are only rising! It's great news to know it's finally coming to that point. I wish you so much luck!

[brownnskinn 0]

This is going to be a long one.

Well, that's about it. Now, ya'll pray for me please and my siblings.

T, glad you're back. Yeah those guards are somthing else. They had me bawlin over a camera I had in my bag. I did not realize it until I almost made it in. I placed the camera on the ground for D to take to the car, to make a long story short. We ended up paying them to let us back in the line. It was horrible. Good for you. That prayer was wonderful. Will keep you in prayer as well!.

Remember there can be no victory with out a battle!

[TRELAWNY PARISH 10]

Dang, Lawny. So much drama. I hope everyone gets better soon. Sorry for all your troubles. I hope your next embassy visit goes much smoother.

How are you feeling now?

Dont matter youg or old you SIMPLY DO NOT refer to someone as boy or gal in this country is rude and DISRESPECTFUL!!!!!!

I'm sorry it has hit such a nerve with you.

I don't see anything wrong with calling people boys or girls in some contexts. Like I say I love you girls. It's not meant to be derogatory. If it is said in a derogatory fashion, then I do see it as being wrong.

JG --

I'm good for right now. I don't think you offended her or anyone of us. It's the way it is said. BWAY or GYAL...is very disrepectful. Let Andre say it for you and you'll understand. It's just the way it's said and how it is directed. Because if anybody call my GYAL and war mi ago war and star gwaan bad.