Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 6)

[luvtravlin 0]

I guess I've been kind of cryptic, cause some of you have asked in PM's. I wanted to clarify a bit and put something out there to all the vets on here.

First of all, Andre and I are fine. If everyone around us would cut the #######, we'd be ever better. But the two of us....just the two of us....we are doing just fine.

Have any of you who's husbands been here a while experienced stupid ####### from their friends, sometimes family, in Jamaica?

Here is the deal.....

A few months ago, 1 friend called to say he had someone in the US wire money via Western Union to Andre. Andre had to pick it up and then turn around and wire what was left after the fee, to the guy in JA. Andre did not think about this before he did it. When I found out, I was hopping mad. The same friend called again a few weeks ago and wanted to do it again. Andre declined.

His friend in Germany called a few weeks ago and wanted to ship electronics to Andre for Andre to then ship them to Jamaica. He could keep any he wanted from time to time for his troubles. His excuse was that "he had to have a US address on them". Andre declined.

Andre's sister has made 3 very quick trips to JA and even though she doesn't have a job, she now has some money to send us to get plane tickets to come visit her. We have passed.

We don't want no part of any of these people and their games. I don't believe any of it can be legal.

Add to that the constant calls from people asking for money and it's just been overwhelming this week.....the stories just get more and more out there. Redial seems to be their friend, sometimes calling 10 times in a row. I kid you not when I say the other day, he had 57 missed calls on his phone. This is all the reason I was in a tizzy this week. And, most of it was because my husband had a meltdown. He heard that these so called friends say that "he forgot where he came from" cause he won't participate in these games. Today, we found out it was not just him they are trying to play. Another friend from Florida and another in Canada have also been contacted to participate in this stuff. They too declined.

Anyone else out there dealt with this kind of #######? What did you do to get it all to stop?

As for me and Andre, we are fine. Today we had a long talk about not letting this unimportant nonsense bother us because in the end, it has nothing to do with our marriage or our lives.

I do love all of you who inquired, said prayers, or even thought about us. Thank you.

Craig has never given his number out to "friends". Only a select few have it and they never call and ask for money. Now that we don't live in the separate house and he bought a pre-paid phone, only his mother has his new number and he never gets calls.

I'm sorry you're going through all of that. It's sometimes hard to fight that type of battle... Is he willing to have HIS phone number changed at all ? to make those calls come to a stop ?? Or does he fight that ? How about having a pre-paid phone for the Jamaica calls and then using his regular phone (with the number changed) for contact with you and true friends? Craig has changed his number 4x in the past yr 1/2, but that was mostly because of the "women" calls.

I do know that a friend of mine, her JA husband was busted for some gun and drug "ring" between Florida and New York and it was HUGE. We all just had absolutely no clue (partly the reason of their divorce). He's such a "nice" guy !!!

[SupportOAFJF 0]

Shauna..welcome baby Francis thank goodness mommy and baby are just fine !!

JG girl...THANK GOD u guys stayed strong...I have heard my share of stories with this bull ####### stuff from others...something similar happened to us..my BIL called and told Kashi that a friend of theirs is to send him some money but he is NOT HOME (wouldn't that be perfect to not be home even easier to send the money?) any way hubby told him I don't have that money and 1st of all u should have asked b4 u TOLD me to send it..brite..so then he asked to talk to me "i have soemthing very IMPORTANT to take care of today (SATURDAY!) and if i can send him the money and the FREIND wouldsend it back to me ! WHAT r u phocking out of ur mind...a so me love dash weh money and mi ave family fi mine..fi mek HIM use fi him head !! phock outta here ! anyway..in the end i said CALL YOUR MOTHER AND ASK HER , U KETCH MI PON A BAD DAY !!! CANNOT BE SERIOUS...where were all those so called FRIENDS when u'll needed them for whatever reason...now him switch cause him want fi be round for his family....go to HELL!!

[brownnskinn 0]

JG- sorry to hear what is going on. I don't know what I would do if I was in that situation. It sounds like you guys are handling it well. Stay strong

Ditto. Sounds like you both did well. Boy, do I understand.

Kelly thanks for the up date!

Congrats Shauna!

[clairern 0]

Congrats to Shauna on the successful birth of little Leilani (luv that name). Wishing you all the best and hoping you get to go home soon. Remember, let the nurses do their work and take care of you and the baby because when you go home they won't be there to help you.

Rest up and be well!!!!

[Mrs. Palmer 5]

CONGRATULATIONS SHAUNA!! Welcome Kayla!! I'm mad she was still up there chillin though...like she had absolutely NO intentions of coming out any time soon!!

Hey Kelly...long time since I've seen you up here...glad to see you! Are you doing ok?

Question for some of the vets....Do any of you still keep in contact with ChristineJames?

[luvtravlin 0]

CONGRATULATIONS SHAUNA!! Welcome Kayla!! I'm mad she was still up there chillin though...like she had absolutely NO intentions of coming out any time soon!!

Hey Kelly...long time since I've seen you up here...glad to see you! Are you doing ok?

Question for some of the vets....Do any of you still keep in contact with ChristineJames?

I'm doing great ! Thanks for asking.

[Jamaica to CT 0]

Congraulations Shauna!! Enjoy your time with your precious daughter

[Jamaica to CT 0]

CONGRATULATIONS SHAUNA!! Welcome Kayla!! I'm mad she was still up there chillin though...like she had absolutely NO intentions of coming out any time soon!!

Hey Kelly...long time since I've seen you up here...glad to see you! Are you doing ok?

Question for some of the vets....Do any of you still keep in contact with ChristineJames?

I'm doing great ! Thanks for asking.

good for you Kelly!

[classychic77 0]

Thanks Kelly!!!

I am so excited for you Shauna Can't wait to see her!!!

[BelwinMills 0]

I need to buy our tickets now and send out for my new passport this week. I could wait and change my last name next year when it expires. Only hubby thinks I should have the correct name.

Hey Jax -- the name you book your tickets under has to match the name on the passport. I just revised mine to. Sent it in on 3/31 -- got it back <<NO LIE>> on 4/8. But, whatever you do, don't wait until the last minute.

Thanks Mindy. I may just wait until the baby is born and send ours off together in the next couple weeks.

[BelwinMills 0]

Shauna and likkle Ms...update

Kayla Leilani Francis made her debut at 12:18 AM (today), by emergency c-section. Shauna has been in the hospital for the past few days because her BP was up and the Docs didn't like that. Kayla is 8 lbs 12 oz and almost 21 inc long. Shauna had to have a vertical c-section because the little one was NOT ready to come out and was still tucked up so far and they "vacummed" her outta there.

She's tired and feeling good. The baby is great ! Shauna will remain in the hospital for up to 5 days. She won't be online for quite awhile.

Once she's out of the hospital and settled, I'll be making a trip to see her and the little one.

Kelly

Congrats Shauna!! May you have a speedy recovery from the C-section. Glad to hear you and Kayla are doing fine. :dance:

[JaEnglishGirl 34]

Shauna and likkle Ms...update

Kayla Leilani Francis made her debut at 12:18 AM (today), by emergency c-section. Shauna has been in the hospital for the past few days because her BP was up and the Docs didn't like that. Kayla is 8 lbs 12 oz and almost 21 inc long. Shauna had to have a vertical c-section because the little one was NOT ready to come out and was still tucked up so far and they "vacummed" her outta there.

She's tired and feeling good. The baby is great ! Shauna will remain in the hospital for up to 5 days. She won't be online for quite awhile.

Once she's out of the hospital and settled, I'll be making a trip to see her and the little one.

Kelly

Congrats Shauna!! May you have a speedy recovery from the C-section. Glad to hear you and Kayla are doing fine. :dance:

You next!!!!!!!

It's so wonderful having people having babies here, it's like having a baby myself but just not having to go through the pain of carrying them and the sleepless nights!!!!!

[Minfay 0]

Kelly -- Thanks for keeping us updated.

Send Shauna and Kayla our love

Okay Jax

[*JG* 2]

Hey JG,

That situation sucks. My husband has not had people try any illegal #######,for sure if that started, he's get a swift kick to the butt. Andre better understand (I'm sure he does) that once you are married, any crime conviction can become a civil case against both married parties. Anything he participates in will drag you down too. Just not worth it. I know I'm preaching to the choir!! But, my man does get hounded by "Friends" 24 hours a day, asking for money.............. from everything from chicken feed to baby formula. They do catch an attitude when he denies them, saying that "he got rich and switched" Which is funny because he gives and gives and gives, and at some point you have to stop momentarily and take care of yourself. Its so draining!!

Well, hang in there and NO FUNNY BUSINESS..........

This is the part I have to constantly preach on. Like I said, he accepted the Western Union payment and then sent it on to JA before I knew about it. I threw a fit. Once I explained what I thought was going on and the consequences, he was mad. He did deny this person the next time he called, so I know he's learned.

I preach over and over and over again, you cannot do this, this, this........because it's illegal and you are an immigrant. They will jail you and then deport you. He gets it. It's just so hard when so many of his so called friends and family are all bombarding him from all sides.

Hey JG,

That situation sucks. My husband has not had people try any illegal #######,for sure if that started, he's get a swift kick to the butt. Andre better understand (I'm sure he does) that once you are married, any crime conviction can become a civil case against both married parties. Anything he participates in will drag you down too. Just not worth it. I know I'm preaching to the choir!! But, my man does get hounded by "Friends" 24 hours a day, asking for money.............. from everything from chicken feed to baby formula. They do catch an attitude when he denies them, saying that "he got rich and switched" Which is funny because he gives and gives and gives, and at some point you have to stop momentarily and take care of yourself. Its so draining!!

Well, hang in there and NO FUNNY BUSINESS..........

he should tell them he can't get rich, cause they keep calling him, i'm sure you as his wife,would be interested to know he's working for other people he can't even call to help him, should he ever need it.

The ironic thing, Jengs, is they ALWAYS seem to have money for those phone cards.

[*JG* 2]

Afternoon Yawdies!!

JG...Hey girl...I can't even imagine the frustration you were feeling during this time. I think about that kind of stuff all the time...folx from back home trying to take advantage of my husband when he reaches here just because they think that he will have it made. Hell, I experience that from time to time now. People always asking him to ask me for stuff, or they will ask him for stuff (even though he doesn't have much) and they feel like it's ok because they believe that he has an American wife that will take care of it. RASS!! I've listened to him tell them that he is" NOT asking me for anything for them! If they want something they should work for it, because she works hard for the things that she has and why should he (or they) take that from me?" Over the past year he has begun to see who his "real" friends are and who are not...and at times it's been hurtful for him, but like I told him, you'll eventually see people's true intentions once you learn to say NO! Luckily for me I've never had that problem! LOL...but saying NO to those that were trying to take advantage of him was something he was not good at doing when we first met a few years ago, and he would always end up on the shi##! end of the stick! But he's come a long way. I tell him it's only going to get worse once he's here because he'll have DIRECT access to more, but he feels like he will be able to handle it...we'll see...Anyway, I'm glad that you and Andre are working through this together, and I know the two of you will continue to stay strong and make the right decisions for YOU and YOUR family! Tell Andre to never mind de bad man dem!! And that the yaardies on VJ got his back if he needs us!! BULLET! BULLET! BULLET!!

Part of the problem is that Andre had a good job for the last 6 years in JA. He took care of all those freeloaders before and now they feel he needs to continue. We are not in the position to do that. They are not getting that. I feel like any one of them can work. In the family situation alone, there are 5 adults capable of working. Andre also says you are a fool if you starve in Jamaica. There were many times we would fish in the sea, go crabbing, and then climb trees for our dinner.

What you said about the friends......sadly, Andre had many friends in JA. Of them, only 2 of them have not shown their face. The JA friends that remain otherwise, are those who are in the US or Canada. It's been a real eye opener for him. It makes me sad. Really sad.

Shauna and likkle Ms...update

Kayla Leilani Francis made her debut at 12:18 AM (today), by emergency c-section. Shauna has been in the hospital for the past few days because her BP was up and the Docs didn't like that. Kayla is 8 lbs 12 oz and almost 21 inc long. Shauna had to have a vertical c-section because the little one was NOT ready to come out and was still tucked up so far and they "vacummed" her outta there.

She's tired and feeling good. The baby is great ! Shauna will remain in the hospital for up to 5 days. She won't be online for quite awhile.

Once she's out of the hospital and settled, I'll be making a trip to see her and the little one.

Kelly

Kelly, I got you e-mail. Thank you so much for the update.

Please give Shauna and the little one my best. I'm so happy for them.