Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 6)

[clairern 0]

Congratulations Claire!!! On your case being completed. Time will fly by now in a few months you should have an interview. All the best with the next stage of your journey.

Thanks Jax

[clairern 0]

Congratulations Claire!!! On your case being completed. Time will fly by now in a few months you should have an interview. All the best with the next stage of your journey.

Thanks Jax

Thank you all ladies for your kind words and congratulations. Hopefully he will get an interview date for next month

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Si di one KIMMY get some food inna ar belly now she a play DUPPY

ahahaa dats right mi a jump fi joy..no man mi head a hat fi frum mawning...and mi did have class since nite ...and mi a go chop up mi MIL...but mi deh back inna di place still..

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Ja Tam, yuh sure u got ALL the information. i think it would be more about her coming her under someone else's name. that is reason's for denial, but since this is a child not sure on what they would do.

Oh yeah, I have all the info. Another attorney that the granddad spoke to said that her entering under another name would be forgiven since she was a child at the time it happened. The issue is the adoption and the CO saying the adoption should have taken place in JA and Dept of Homeland Security then needs to go to his house to inspect where she lives to make sure it is in fact a safe environment before they would consider the adoption legal. The Dept of Homeland Security issue I can't understand at all

that is absolute foolishness, the department of homeland security should do what. a lie and they have time to do that??? mi can't believe my tax dollars is being spent on that foolishness. it would have been better if he did say a social worker. all dem people that adopt every day from china the homeland security is going to fi dem house. u about to get me UPSET. I think someone should try calling the american embassy and speaking to someone else. because was pure foolishness and phuckry was dropping from that CO's mouth.

Gray area...dat deh part a mek mi head hat mi...dat no mek no seh a tall. Smadi we afi tell mi different. Who tell dem fi send di lil girl home? Who gave that advice?

a stupid lawyer

Ja Tam, yuh sure u got ALL the information. i think it would be more about her coming her under someone else's name. that is reason's for denial, but since this is a child not sure on what they would do.

Oh yeah, I have all the info. Another attorney that the granddad spoke to said that her entering under another name would be forgiven since she was a child at the time it happened. The issue is the adoption and the CO saying the adoption should have taken place in JA and Dept of Homeland Security then needs to go to his house to inspect where she lives to make sure it is in fact a safe environment before they would consider the adoption legal. The Dept of Homeland Security issue I can't understand at all

that is absolute foolishness, the department of homeland security should do what. a lie and they have time to do that??? mi can't believe my tax dollars is being spent on that foolishness. it would have been better if he did say a social worker. all dem people that adopt every day from china the homeland security is going to fi dem house. u about to get me UPSET. I think someone should try calling the american embassy and speaking to someone else. because was pure foolishness and phuckry was dropping from that CO's mouth.

My thought exactly. When my mom told me about it, my jaw hit the floor. Dat nuh mek sense to mi! First of all, mi nevah tink she shoulda haffi go ah JA fi do di interview. She shoulda go ah 79th Street inna Miami fi do har interview! Ah tru him nuh ha no sense an nah talk to people till afta di fac'

let's leave that alone...cause right now i could right books lol

cho !! u no easy

[Jengles 0]

Ok Ladies, its my turn...I need advice.

So Evan has been voicing his concern about me not giving him enough affection and attention and time, and how i don't show him i need him and love him or basically just say affectionate things to him. I think that I do do all these things. But obviously not as much as he would like. We get into major arguments about this cause I sometimes feel like he is only noticing when I Don't do something, vs noticing when I DO. I understand the need to want your partner to tell you you love them and miss them and comment, say say they look good or send them little "sweet" notes, but my issue with this is, that if i am not doing it to his liking or then he begins to think that I am thinking the EXACT opposite of those things, like....I don't love him, or miss him, or I'm too busy for him, or don't think he's attractive enough on, and on, and on. I think that is completely unfair. What do you think? I don't know if he is having major issues with the seperation or if he is insecure or if he just needs more affirmation than most men I have been involved with and I just need to adjust. Do your men have these complaints?

And on a side note, I speak to him EVERYDAY. I send him texts, I usually have him call me back since he has a better phone plan than me, but I send him letters in the mail, email, and he still says that I am not showing him enough or being there for him when he needs me. Its stressing me out, literally cause I feel like I can't be sad or lonely and missing him, cause he's complaining about it enough for the both of us. Is there something I should be or could be doing to ease his mind or is he just tripping?

Lita, this sounds to me like separation anxiety. It is truly not easy being in a long distance relationship and it is certainly not helped with the stress that this immigration process puts us under. My husband didn't have those complaints, though he would get mighty upset when I didn't call on time and such when we were separated. It will be different when Evan gets here.

You know this is what I've been trying to tell myself but it keeps getting worse. I hate fighting about the same issues over and over, and I know that he doesn't really understand how hard my life and day really is. SO I keep telling myself, just hold on a bit more Lita and he'll soon be here and singing a different tune. Its just sometimes he can be really mean and rude about his complaints. I'd be more inclined to receive them if he was nicer about expressing how he feel.

sounds like he is really fustrated, is he going thru something right now?? try asking him how u can improve or what specifically did you do to upset him, and why. sometimes we have to pull the real reason as to what is going on.

u just came back from there, was this going on down there?? if not sounds like he's missing his baby Lita...and to me sometimes j.a. men talk rough and have no idea how they are coming accross.

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Lita u know me and husband used to fight when were separated not that we don't now..but what i did by the advice of a friends mother..she seh wah is the sense oonuh a go talk everyday and cuss waste of money...So u know what i did stopped calling everyday all thru the day..and u know it helped..maybe u need to back off a little..maybe just send the emails and texts and so but limit the phone talk it brings frustration of missing each other so near but yet so far kinda thing...hope it works out

so i had a salad with turkey today plus some baby carrot with ranch dressing and all i've been wanting is water...everytime i see water i wanna be in it..

[clairern 0]

LAWD ME ADDICTED TO VJ. ME LOG ON FRAM ME COME HOME FROM WORK AND NOW A 1130 AND ME STILL DEH YAH. a WRANG WID ME EEHHH????

[Jengles 0]

Lita u know me and husband used to fight when were separated not that we don't now..but what i did by the advice of a friends mother..she seh wah is the sense oonuh a go talk everyday and cuss waste of money...So u know what i did stopped calling everyday all thru the day..and u know it helped..maybe u need to back off a little..maybe just send the emails and texts and so but limit the phone talk it brings frustration of missing each other so near but yet so far kinda thing...hope it works out

so i had a salad with turkey today plus some baby carrot with ranch dressing and all i've been wanting is water...everytime i see water i wanna be in it..

U get dry mouth?? now what is it you are taking again to keep the food down.

my bed is screeching my name......mek mi go and mek it quiet.

good night

Edited March 6, 2008 by Jengles

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Lita u know me and husband used to fight when were separated not that we don't now..but what i did by the advice of a friends mother..she seh wah is the sense oonuh a go talk everyday and cuss waste of money...So u know what i did stopped calling everyday all thru the day..and u know it helped..maybe u need to back off a little..maybe just send the emails and texts and so but limit the phone talk it brings frustration of missing each other so near but yet so far kinda thing...hope it works out

so i had a salad with turkey today plus some baby carrot with ranch dressing and all i've been wanting is water...everytime i see water i wanna be in it..

U get dry mouth??

i do mroe time....a coulda dat huh !! JENGS MI NAH TEK NUTTIN..IT JUST STOP BY ITSELF MY GIRL...!!! afta mi call mi doc in tears seh mi vomit blood and den go in and feel bettah like a lie mi did a tell

LAWD ME ADDICTED TO VJ. ME LOG ON FRAM ME COME HOME FROM WORK AND NOW A 1130 AND ME STILL DEH YAH. a WRANG WID ME EEHHH????

Clairey it's ok hunny..i think we are all addicted

Edited March 6, 2008 by kimmykashi

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Ok..so oonuh memba mi paper wah mi couldn't do ? mi prof email mi today a talk bout him send a "C" if mi ok wid dat..hmmm bwoy mi no know..mi really no feel like do no paper but den again mi no want no baxide C..wah oonuh tink ?

[clairern 0]

Lita u know me and husband used to fight when were separated not that we don't now..but what i did by the advice of a friends mother..she seh wah is the sense oonuh a go talk everyday and cuss waste of money...So u know what i did stopped calling everyday all thru the day..and u know it helped..maybe u need to back off a little..maybe just send the emails and texts and so but limit the phone talk it brings frustration of missing each other so near but yet so far kinda thing...hope it works out

so i had a salad with turkey today plus some baby carrot with ranch dressing and all i've been wanting is water...everytime i see water i wanna be in it..

I agree with Kimmie on this one. I had the same problem with Mike only the other way around. I was the one complaining. We would talk everyday, sometimes twice a day and after the second visit in October, I started to miss him so much more and would tell him how I felt but he would not reciprocate. He would be silent and I always asked if I am talking to the phone and wasting money. He always says "telling you I miss you and all that is not gonna change the fact that we can't be together right now. I know how you feel and you know how I feel. Talking about it is not the solution right now, because when we get off the phone, it's not gonna change." The more I heard that the angrier I became and then I decided to back off and not call him as much and would purposefully miss his calls. Now ehen we talk it is so fullfilling and we have so much more to talk about. We now talk maybe 2-3 times a week and I am better able to handle the separation.

Lita, I also think you should try backing off a little. Some men are die-hard romantics and like to hear sweet nuiances in their ears. I think also Evan is missing his baby and needs to hears those things to re-affirm your love for him.

Just my $0.20.

Now ge me back me change

[Jengles 0]

Ok..so oonuh memba mi paper wah mi couldn't do ? mi prof email mi today a talk bout him send a "C" if mi ok wid dat..hmmm bwoy mi no know..mi really no feel like do no paper but den again mi no want no baxide C..wah oonuh tink ?

sounds like u doing a paper...if u were at a point where a "c" wouldn't move your g.p.a then cool, but u just started the program right...so it would be better if u did better in the beginning.

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Lita u know me and husband used to fight when were separated not that we don't now..but what i did by the advice of a friends mother..she seh wah is the sense oonuh a go talk everyday and cuss waste of money...So u know what i did stopped calling everyday all thru the day..and u know it helped..maybe u need to back off a little..maybe just send the emails and texts and so but limit the phone talk it brings frustration of missing each other so near but yet so far kinda thing...hope it works out

so i had a salad with turkey today plus some baby carrot with ranch dressing and all i've been wanting is water...everytime i see water i wanna be in it..

U get dry mouth??

i do mroe time....a coulda dat huh !! JENGS MI NAH TEK NUTTIN..IT JUST STOP BY ITSELF MY GIRL...!!! afta mi call mi doc in tears seh mi vomit blood and den go in and feel bettah like a lie mi did a tell

LAWD ME ADDICTED TO VJ. ME LOG ON FRAM ME COME HOME FROM WORK AND NOW A 1130 AND ME STILL DEH YAH. a WRANG WID ME EEHHH????

Clairey it's ok hunny..i think we are all addicted

Oh, thank you, thank you. I thought I was crazy

Ok..so oonuh memba mi paper wah mi couldn't do ? mi prof email mi today a talk bout him send a "C" if mi ok wid dat..hmmm bwoy mi no know..mi really no feel like do no paper but den again mi no want no baxide C..wah oonuh tink ?

What is the alternative? An incomplete? How would that affect your GPA?

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Ok..so oonuh memba mi paper wah mi couldn't do ? mi prof email mi today a talk bout him send a "C" if mi ok wid dat..hmmm bwoy mi no know..mi really no feel like do no paper but den again mi no want no baxide C..wah oonuh tink ?

sounds like u doing a paper...if u were at a point where a "c" wouldn't move your g.p.a then cool, but u just started the program right...so it would be better if u did better in the beginning.

a dat mi a seh..but him a go ask mi if mi alright with that...hell no ..gimme mi incomplete mek mi finish and u grade mi

[Jengles 0]

Ok..so oonuh memba mi paper wah mi couldn't do ? mi prof email mi today a talk bout him send a "C" if mi ok wid dat..hmmm bwoy mi no know..mi really no feel like do no paper but den again mi no want no baxide C..wah oonuh tink ?

sounds like u doing a paper...if u were at a point where a "c" wouldn't move your g.p.a then cool, but u just started the program right...so it would be better if u did better in the beginning.

a dat mi a seh..but him a go ask mi if mi alright with that...hell no ..gimme mi incomplete mek mi finish and u grade mi

sounds good to me, but then maybe u can vomit pon him shoes and ask for the b.

clairen...i think we is all addicted myself and how u ask Lita for change and we nuh see how much money u give her. lol

i'm really really going to bed now. i told mr jengles i was going to bed two hours ago and all now mi still sitting by the computer