Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 6)

[TRELAWNY PARISH 10]

KimKim I'm so glad to hear that your doing betta

SHYNE a wah u a guh wid suitcase?

Mi ago out shoping fe new tings tuh put pon mi suticase fe mi trip tuh JA next month

DWL...SHYN sarry yah...JENGS the GINGER WINE a get to mi....but it GOODDDDDDDDD Ithink that's why I haven't been sick in very long time.

Mi need some a dat mi been sick 3 days and nuh go tuh wuk

SHYN, fram mi granni tell mi fi star tek a likkle sip everynight or 3 times a week, I've not been sick. I've been doing well for 3 years now. Last month 27 of my co-workers were out with the flu and that's just one division. Mi tell dem NO COME NEAR MI...

[BelwinMills 0]

Happy Birthday to you Jamie Cha Cha Cha!!!

[Jengles 0]

KimKim I'm so glad to hear that your doing betta

SHYNE a wah u a guh wid suitcase?

Mi ago out shoping fe new tings tuh put pon mi suticase fe mi trip tuh JA next month

DWL...SHYN sarry yah...JENGS the GINGER WINE a get to mi....but it GOODDDDDDDDD Ithink that's why I haven't been sick in very long time.

Mi need some a dat mi been sick 3 days and nuh go tuh wuk

SHYN, fram mi granni tell mi fi star tek a likkle sip everynight or 3 times a week, I've not been sick. I've been doing well for 3 years now. Last month 27 of my co-workers were out with the flu and that's just one division. Mi tell dem NO COME NEAR MI...

what exactly is your meez doing, is that a victory dance....she win wimbledon....should me start calling you Serena??? mek mi know from now.

[BelwinMills 0]

KimKim I'm so glad to hear that your doing betta

SHYNE a wah u a guh wid suitcase?

Mi ago out shoping fe new tings tuh put pon mi suticase fe mi trip tuh JA next month

DWL...SHYN sarry yah...JENGS the GINGER WINE a get to mi....but it GOODDDDDDDDD Ithink that's why I haven't been sick in very long time.

Mi need some a dat mi been sick 3 days and nuh go tuh wuk

SHYN, fram mi granni tell mi fi star tek a likkle sip everynight or 3 times a week, I've not been sick. I've been doing well for 3 years now. Last month 27 of my co-workers were out with the flu and that's just one division. Mi tell dem NO COME NEAR MI...

Oh my!!! Wow that is a lot of people!!

Pam feel better!

Did any of you ladies get the flu shot? I had one but its not working.

Maybe its common to be sick in 3rd trimester..

[Marlita 0]

Ok Ladies, its my turn...I need advice.

So Evan has been voicing his concern about me not giving him enough affection and attention and time, and how i don't show him i need him and love him or basically just say affectionate things to him. I think that I do do all these things. But obviously not as much as he would like. We get into major arguments about this cause I sometimes feel like he is only noticing when I Don't do something, vs noticing when I DO. I understand the need to want your partner to tell you you love them and miss them and comment, say say they look good or send them little "sweet" notes, but my issue with this is, that if i am not doing it to his liking or then he begins to think that I am thinking the EXACT opposite of those things, like....I don't love him, or miss him, or I'm too busy for him, or don't think he's attractive enough on, and on, and on. I think that is completely unfair. What do you think? I don't know if he is having major issues with the seperation or if he is insecure or if he just needs more affirmation than most men I have been involved with and I just need to adjust. Do your men have these complaints?

And on a side note, I speak to him EVERYDAY. I send him texts, I usually have him call me back since he has a better phone plan than me, but I send him letters in the mail, email, and he still says that I am not showing him enough or being there for him when he needs me. Its stressing me out, literally cause I feel like I can't be sad or lonely and missing him, cause he's complaining about it enough for the both of us. Is there something I should be or could be doing to ease his mind or is he just tripping?

[JA Tam 7]

that is absolute foolishness, the department of homeland security should do what. a lie and they have time to do that??? mi can't believe my tax dollars is being spent on that foolishness. it would have been better if he did say a social worker. all dem people that adopt every day from china the homeland security is going to fi dem house. u about to get me UPSET. I think someone should try calling the american embassy and speaking to someone else. because was pure foolishness and phuckry was dropping from that CO's mouth.

I won't b**ch too much about the memo - it's on a nonprofit website of an organization that helps kids - So it's out there for a good cause, just was shocked to find it (and a little pissed that I wasn't told or given credit!)

I haven't heard of the DHS having to come to the house - what the issue is with a Sp. immigrant juvenile petition is that the DHS has to sign an affidavit that they consent to the filing of the petition - doesn't mean it's granted, but it's a fairly simple step.

Back when I wrote this memo, we had a case where an attorney that I worked with and I were appointed as Court appointed advocates for a young girl in foster care - the more we learned of her story, we realized that she had no legal status in the US as she had been brought here under another person's visa. So, my research work began into how the He** do we get her a green card? I am very happy to say - she not only is a green card holder now, we got her mom and sisters out of a refugee camp and over here to be reunited.

I am not sure what will happen with this girl having left the US though - But I would file a grievance against the lawyer that gave that advice - let him pay the costs to bring her back here!

Sorry ladies, I had to step away for awhile. Thanks sus, I definitely think he should file a grievance because that was some straight up BAD advice because there is no way, I would have let her go back to JA

[JA Tam 7]

Ok Ladies, its my turn...I need advice.

So Evan has been voicing his concern about me not giving him enough affection and attention and time, and how i don't show him i need him and love him or basically just say affectionate things to him. I think that I do do all these things. But obviously not as much as he would like. We get into major arguments about this cause I sometimes feel like he is only noticing when I Don't do something, vs noticing when I DO. I understand the need to want your partner to tell you you love them and miss them and comment, say say they look good or send them little "sweet" notes, but my issue with this is, that if i am not doing it to his liking or then he begins to think that I am thinking the EXACT opposite of those things, like....I don't love him, or miss him, or I'm too busy for him, or don't think he's attractive enough on, and on, and on. I think that is completely unfair. What do you think? I don't know if he is having major issues with the seperation or if he is insecure or if he just needs more affirmation than most men I have been involved with and I just need to adjust. Do your men have these complaints?

And on a side note, I speak to him EVERYDAY. I send him texts, I usually have him call me back since he has a better phone plan than me, but I send him letters in the mail, email, and he still says that I am not showing him enough or being there for him when he needs me. Its stressing me out, literally cause I feel like I can't be sad or lonely and missing him, cause he's complaining about it enough for the both of us. Is there something I should be or could be doing to ease his mind or is he just tripping?

Lita, this sounds to me like separation anxiety. It is truly not easy being in a long distance relationship and it is certainly not helped with the stress that this immigration process puts us under. My husband didn't have those complaints, though he would get mighty upset when I didn't call on time and such when we were separated. It will be different when Evan gets here.

[BelwinMills 0]

I know this lady doesn't post on this thread but I want to wish this yardie the best with her interview. Mrs. Lawson all the best tomorrow!!

[JA Tam 7]

I know this lady doesn't post on this thread but I want to wish this yardie the best with her interview. Mrs. Lawson all the best tomorrow!!

Ditto..All the best Mrs. Lawson!!!

I am going to post my immigration issue to the greater VJ community, but once again, I am off in hiding. Back into the books. Thanks ladies for all the comments, it was greatly appreciated. I will certainly keep you all posted.

[Marlita 0]

Ok Ladies, its my turn...I need advice.

So Evan has been voicing his concern about me not giving him enough affection and attention and time, and how i don't show him i need him and love him or basically just say affectionate things to him. I think that I do do all these things. But obviously not as much as he would like. We get into major arguments about this cause I sometimes feel like he is only noticing when I Don't do something, vs noticing when I DO. I understand the need to want your partner to tell you you love them and miss them and comment, say say they look good or send them little "sweet" notes, but my issue with this is, that if i am not doing it to his liking or then he begins to think that I am thinking the EXACT opposite of those things, like....I don't love him, or miss him, or I'm too busy for him, or don't think he's attractive enough on, and on, and on. I think that is completely unfair. What do you think? I don't know if he is having major issues with the seperation or if he is insecure or if he just needs more affirmation than most men I have been involved with and I just need to adjust. Do your men have these complaints?

And on a side note, I speak to him EVERYDAY. I send him texts, I usually have him call me back since he has a better phone plan than me, but I send him letters in the mail, email, and he still says that I am not showing him enough or being there for him when he needs me. Its stressing me out, literally cause I feel like I can't be sad or lonely and missing him, cause he's complaining about it enough for the both of us. Is there something I should be or could be doing to ease his mind or is he just tripping?

Lita, this sounds to me like separation anxiety. It is truly not easy being in a long distance relationship and it is certainly not helped with the stress that this immigration process puts us under. My husband didn't have those complaints, though he would get mighty upset when I didn't call on time and such when we were separated. It will be different when Evan gets here.

You know this is what I've been trying to tell myself but it keeps getting worse. I hate fighting about the same issues over and over, and I know that he doesn't really understand how hard my life and day really is. SO I keep telling myself, just hold on a bit more Lita and he'll soon be here and singing a different tune. Its just sometimes he can be really mean and rude about his complaints. I'd be more inclined to receive them if he was nicer about expressing how he feel.

[BelwinMills 0]

Ok Ladies, its my turn...I need advice.

So Evan has been voicing his concern about me not giving him enough affection and attention and time, and how i don't show him i need him and love him or basically just say affectionate things to him. I think that I do do all these things. But obviously not as much as he would like. We get into major arguments about this cause I sometimes feel like he is only noticing when I Don't do something, vs noticing when I DO. I understand the need to want your partner to tell you you love them and miss them and comment, say say they look good or send them little "sweet" notes, but my issue with this is, that if i am not doing it to his liking or then he begins to think that I am thinking the EXACT opposite of those things, like....I don't love him, or miss him, or I'm too busy for him, or don't think he's attractive enough on, and on, and on. I think that is completely unfair. What do you think? I don't know if he is having major issues with the seperation or if he is insecure or if he just needs more affirmation than most men I have been involved with and I just need to adjust. Do your men have these complaints?

And on a side note, I speak to him EVERYDAY. I send him texts, I usually have him call me back since he has a better phone plan than me, but I send him letters in the mail, email, and he still says that I am not showing him enough or being there for him when he needs me. Its stressing me out, literally cause I feel like I can't be sad or lonely and missing him, cause he's complaining about it enough for the both of us. Is there something I should be or could be doing to ease his mind or is he just tripping?

Lita, this sounds to me like separation anxiety. It is truly not easy being in a long distance relationship and it is certainly not helped with the stress that this immigration process puts us under. My husband didn't have those complaints, though he would get mighty upset when I didn't call on time and such when we were separated. It will be different when Evan gets here.

Some people just complain a lot so they have something to talk about. I know we stopped talking everyday a lot when we were separated. It's tough being apart during this process. My husband told me I complained a lot when we were apart. I really just missed him a lot and we had run out of things to talk about.

[BelwinMills 0]

Congratulations Claire!!! On your case being completed. Time will fly by now in a few months you should have an interview. All the best with the next stage of your journey.

[JA Tam 7]

Ok Ladies, its my turn...I need advice.

So Evan has been voicing his concern about me not giving him enough affection and attention and time, and how i don't show him i need him and love him or basically just say affectionate things to him. I think that I do do all these things. But obviously not as much as he would like. We get into major arguments about this cause I sometimes feel like he is only noticing when I Don't do something, vs noticing when I DO. I understand the need to want your partner to tell you you love them and miss them and comment, say say they look good or send them little "sweet" notes, but my issue with this is, that if i am not doing it to his liking or then he begins to think that I am thinking the EXACT opposite of those things, like....I don't love him, or miss him, or I'm too busy for him, or don't think he's attractive enough on, and on, and on. I think that is completely unfair. What do you think? I don't know if he is having major issues with the seperation or if he is insecure or if he just needs more affirmation than most men I have been involved with and I just need to adjust. Do your men have these complaints?

And on a side note, I speak to him EVERYDAY. I send him texts, I usually have him call me back since he has a better phone plan than me, but I send him letters in the mail, email, and he still says that I am not showing him enough or being there for him when he needs me. Its stressing me out, literally cause I feel like I can't be sad or lonely and missing him, cause he's complaining about it enough for the both of us. Is there something I should be or could be doing to ease his mind or is he just tripping?

Lita, this sounds to me like separation anxiety. It is truly not easy being in a long distance relationship and it is certainly not helped with the stress that this immigration process puts us under. My husband didn't have those complaints, though he would get mighty upset when I didn't call on time and such when we were separated. It will be different when Evan gets here.

You know this is what I've been trying to tell myself but it keeps getting worse. I hate fighting about the same issues over and over, and I know that he doesn't really understand how hard my life and day really is. SO I keep telling myself, just hold on a bit more Lita and he'll soon be here and singing a different tune. Its just sometimes he can be really mean and rude about his complaints. I'd be more inclined to receive them if he was nicer about expressing how he feel.

Lita, I can tell you - Aaron and I fought for no reason sometimes and I knew much of it had to do with us not being together. Is Evan like this when you are together? Is he in general a rude person? This process does something to you, believe me. You already know that his adjustment here is not going to be easy, so you will have your difficulties even then, but remember he won't truly know what you are going through until he is here to see it for himself. He does need to recognize that this isn't easy for you either. Have you voiced your concerns with him? God will take you through it love. Have God order your words as you talk to Evan about this.

Congratulations Claire!!! On your case being completed. Time will fly by now in a few months you should have an interview. All the best with the next stage of your journey.

Ditto...Clairey, I am so happy for you

[Sonshyne 2]

Congratulations Claire!!! On your case being completed. Time will fly by now in a few months you should have an interview. All the best with the next stage of your journey.

Ditto Claire

[Sonshyne 2]

KimKim I'm so glad to hear that your doing betta

SHYNE a wah u a guh wid suitcase?

Mi ago out shoping fe new tings tuh put pon mi suticase fe mi trip tuh JA next month

DWL...SHYN sarry yah...JENGS the GINGER WINE a get to mi....but it GOODDDDDDDDD Ithink that's why I haven't been sick in very long time.

Mi need some a dat mi been sick 3 days and nuh go tuh wuk

SHYN, fram mi granni tell mi fi star tek a likkle sip everynight or 3 times a week, I've not been sick. I've been doing well for 3 years now. Last month 27 of my co-workers were out with the flu and that's just one division. Mi tell dem NO COME NEAR MI...

Mi need fe find a bokkle ov dat!! Neil had the flu last week and kindly passed it off tuh mi. The ting is he was only sick for about 24hrs. Mi....3 days and counting mi dizzy, chills, cyaan taste nuhting,nose a run wan wicked chest busti cough and feva deh whole 9 yaads!!