Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 6)

[TRELAWNY PARISH 10]

I think flirting with another woman in front of me is DISRESPECTFUL...I would never do that and I'm sure my man wouldn't like it.

Years ago I was dating this guy and we went out to eat. I noticed from we sat down that this woman kept flirting with my date and we kept talking about it. So, I told him I'm going to get up and go to the restroom. The woman's date went outside to make a call and the woman walked by and handed her business card to my date. She also wrote on the back of the card (call me after 11pm he'll be at work. When I got back to the table my date gave me the card and YES, I got up walked over to her table and handed it to her date (which was her husband) and told him to read what's on the back. Was I wrong to do that?

Years ago, meeda walk up tuh har and bax har renking rass....Today I'd merely spit pan har...ok ok ok, I merely ask her in an extra LOUD voice if she neva did a get nutting fi satisfy har a night time, and maybe she shoulda try likkle alum

good grief, ya'll is violent

JENGS,

U nevah know seh yard ooman FACTEY and luv fi fight

[brownnskinn 0]

Mi rahtid...mi lef fi one hour an unu reach a 13 areadi...

We'll be on part 7 in no time.

[MSNELLY 0]

Happy Birthday Yardie

MSNELLY - I see your visa journey has ended....best wishes to 'ya

THANKS EVERYTHING HAPPEN FOR A REASON BETTER NOW THEN LATER

Girl you never seh a betta thing....Hold your head HIGH because it takes a STRONG woman to make the RIGHT choices sometimes.....

TRUST ME MY HEAD IS HIGH

[Yaads 0]

I am guessing he wants Mr. Jengles for his daughter?!? Something definitely seems off about the guy and his intentions.

Everytime A and I would be doing good everyone was happy for us...then when something would go bad people would come out of the woodwork telling me all about how he was only here for the green card he was using me etc. I just ignore it and if I do comment I say something like "well what goes around comes around if that is the case" or "well that is too bad for me isn't it" really sarcastic and snotty and kissing my teeth

Edited March 5, 2008 by Yardiewife

[TRELAWNY PARISH 10]

OKAY,

NEXT QUESTION

how do u handle people who don't respect your relationship - or think your s/o is with you only to get their papers.

mr jengles met this older guy from j.a. at school, the guy lives with his daughter, the guy is in his 50's mr jengles says. ok so they talk every once in a while. the school had something for xmas and mr jengles made two dishes. They guy calls and invites mr jengles over to his house for xmas dinner. so mr jengles asks me if we can go, so i said sure in the evening. the guy then calls mr jengles and says to him, too bad mr jengles couldn't come over and cook xmas dinner for him and his daughter. I'm like huh???? mr jengles just took it as a complement to his cooking. I didn't cause u know the man has his family so what the hell are u talking about. anyway xmas day I was sick so we didn't go anywhere.

then the man calls and mr jengles says to him he is going to j.a. and the man could call me and get mr jengles cellphone number in j.a. o.k cool. the man calls a week later when he thinks mr jengles is in j.a. (remember now he lost his passport) so he was supposed to be in j.a. when the man called. the man says oh my duaghter went down yesterday. she's wasn't even staying anywhere around ochi, but still that is what u're calling him to tell him. not how u are doing or how is j.a. Is it just me reading too much into something. I asked one of my friends and she said I wasn't, just want to make sure. I haven't said anything to mr. jengles. the man has been calling since mr jengles has been gone but never when i'm home. so how do deal with something like that??

JENGS what is the name of your boss...joke mi a mek...mi ago read di...lawd u type nuff

[sus 70]

JENGS,

To tell you the truth, I use to think something was wrong with me. I just couldn't get it right. I took me a VERY LONG time to realize it wasn't me. I'm shock mi no MAD by now. Of all my relationship, the last one was the WORSE and my SON's father was the only man I've every loved in the past. Girl, I've been there and been through it. I did have a break down in the mid 90s when I walked in on my boyfriend (THROWING DOWN) with his other woman in my apartment. You see, when you tell people things like that, they find it VERY hard to believe, but once you've been through something like that, it kind of messes with your head. But you have to realize at some point that all MEN are not the same and I love and respect my daddy and brothers very much. So my HEART has been through it.

Lawny, I can so relate to this. I have been through it and back with men, including my ex fiance. I swear, I could rival any episode of Jerry Springer with some of the situations. Last year, I went to a medium / psychic with my cousin (just for fun). What she said totally blew my mind - never mind the medium stuff, which she was right on the money, down to describing my grandmother's wedding ring. She told me that I attract drama in my relationships, and that it dates back to something that happened to me around age 5 that was a significant change - That whatever it was taught me to act out / cause drama to get attention. When I was 5, my younger brother was born - Not only did a new baby take attention, he had a learning disability - so as he grew, he demanded more of my mother's attention.

It might sound wierd - it struck me so much what she said, and thinking back on my life, in many ways, she was so right. I think hearing that helped me to put things in perspective - for the first time, I truly feel that I have an honest man who loves me for me - and isn't out to start the drama.

[Jengles 0]

OKAY,

NEXT QUESTION

how do u handle people who don't respect your relationship - or think your s/o is with you only to get their papers.

I get less, and less of this. Actually people didn't expect us to last this long. When I get comments I usually just ignore them.

Jengs I can't follow your story, so dose he want you or your hubby

u give me one piece ah joke, no i think he wants to hook up his daughter with mr jengles

[Jengles 0]

[OKAY,

NEXT QUESTION

how do u handle people who don't respect your relationship - or think your s/o is with you only to get their papers.

mr jengles met this older guy from j.a. at school, the guy lives with his daughter, the guy is in his 50's mr jengles says. ok so they talk every once in a while. the school had something for xmas and mr jengles made two dishes. They guy calls and invites mr jengles over to his house for xmas dinner. so mr jengles asks me if we can go, so i said sure in the evening. the guy then calls mr jengles and says to him, too bad mr jengles couldn't come over and cook xmas dinner for him and his daughter. I'm like huh???? mr jengles just took it as a complement to his cooking. I didn't cause u know the man has his family so what the hell are u talking about. anyway xmas day I was sick so we didn't go anywhere.

then the man calls and mr jengles says to him he is going to j.a. and the man could call me and get mr jengles cellphone number in j.a. o.k cool. the man calls a week later when he thinks mr jengles is in j.a. (remember now he lost his passport) so he was supposed to be in j.a. when the man called. the man says oh my duaghter went down yesterday. she's wasn't even staying anywhere around ochi, but still that is what u're calling him to tell him. not how u are doing or how is j.a. Is it just me reading too much into something. I asked one of my friends and she said I wasn't, just want to make sure. I haven't said anything to mr. jengles. the man has been calling since mr jengles has been gone but never when i'm home. so how do deal with something like that??

JENGS what is the name of your boss...joke mi a mek...mi ago read di...lawd u type nuff

is why u want mi boss name for??? just give me yah input please *cha*

JENGS,

To tell you the truth, I use to think something was wrong with me. I just couldn't get it right. I took me a VERY LONG time to realize it wasn't me. I'm shock mi no MAD by now. Of all my relationship, the last one was the WORSE and my SON's father was the only man I've every loved in the past. Girl, I've been there and been through it. I did have a break down in the mid 90s when I walked in on my boyfriend (THROWING DOWN) with his other woman in my apartment. You see, when you tell people things like that, they find it VERY hard to believe, but once you've been through something like that, it kind of messes with your head. But you have to realize at some point that all MEN are not the same and I love and respect my daddy and brothers very much. So my HEART has been through it.

Lawny, I can so relate to this. I have been through it and back with men, including my ex fiance. I swear, I could rival any episode of Jerry Springer with some of the situations. Last year, I went to a medium / psychic with my cousin (just for fun). What she said totally blew my mind - never mind the medium stuff, which she was right on the money, down to describing my grandmother's wedding ring. She told me that I attract drama in my relationships, and that it dates back to something that happened to me around age 5 that was a significant change - That whatever it was taught me to act out / cause drama to get attention. When I was 5, my younger brother was born - Not only did a new baby take attention, he had a learning disability - so as he grew, he demanded more of my mother's attention.

It might sound wierd - it struck me so much what she said, and thinking back on my life, in many ways, she was so right. I think hearing that helped me to put things in perspective - for the first time, I truly feel that I have an honest man who loves me for me - and isn't out to start the drama.

amazing how the birhth of your brother just changed you like that. who would have thought.

[Jengles 0]

I think flirting with another woman in front of me is DISRESPECTFUL...I would never do that and I'm sure my man wouldn't like it.

Years ago I was dating this guy and we went out to eat. I noticed from we sat down that this woman kept flirting with my date and we kept talking about it. So, I told him I'm going to get up and go to the restroom. The woman's date went outside to make a call and the woman walked by and handed her business card to my date. She also wrote on the back of the card (call me after 11pm he'll be at work. When I got back to the table my date gave me the card and YES, I got up walked over to her table and handed it to her date (which was her husband) and told him to read what's on the back. Was I wrong to do that?

Years ago, meeda walk up tuh har and bax har renking rass....Today I'd merely spit pan har...ok ok ok, I merely ask her in an extra LOUD voice if she neva did a get nutting fi satisfy har a night time, and maybe she shoulda try likkle alum

good grief, ya'll is violent

JENGS,

U nevah know seh yard ooman FACTEY and luv fi fight

u see it, inna second uunu have earings off and vaseline pon face....and den di razor blade come out from inside di cheek

[Yaads 0]

OKAY,

NEXT QUESTION

how do u handle people who don't respect your relationship - or think your s/o is with you only to get their papers.

I get less, and less of this. Actually people didn't expect us to last this long. When I get comments I usually just ignore them.

Jengs I can't follow your story, so dose he want you or your hubby

u give me one piece ah joke, no i think he wants to hook up his daughter with mr jengles

Dat mi a sey! Seems like Mr. Man wants Mr. Jengles fi him daughta Mi post ie a bit ago.

[*SunRay* 1]

Happy Birthday Yardie

MSNELLY - I see your visa journey has ended....best wishes to 'ya

THANKS EVERYTHING HAPPEN FOR A REASON BETTER NOW THEN LATER

That's so true Nel, it really is better now than later. I know it was a very hard decision to make. Know that I'm here for you.

[TRELAWNY PARISH 10]

JENGS,

To tell you the truth, I use to think something was wrong with me. I just couldn't get it right. I took me a VERY LONG time to realize it wasn't me. I'm shock mi no MAD by now. Of all my relationship, the last one was the WORSE and my SON's father was the only man I've every loved in the past. Girl, I've been there and been through it. I did have a break down in the mid 90s when I walked in on my boyfriend (THROWING DOWN) with his other woman in my apartment. You see, when you tell people things like that, they find it VERY hard to believe, but once you've been through something like that, it kind of messes with your head. But you have to realize at some point that all MEN are not the same and I love and respect my daddy and brothers very much. So my HEART has been through it.

Lawny, I can so relate to this. I have been through it and back with men, including my ex fiance. I swear, I could rival any episode of Jerry Springer with some of the situations. Last year, I went to a medium / psychic with my cousin (just for fun). What she said totally blew my mind - never mind the medium stuff, which she was right on the money, down to describing my grandmother's wedding ring. She told me that I attract drama in my relationships, and that it dates back to something that happened to me around age 5 that was a significant change - That whatever it was taught me to act out / cause drama to get attention. When I was 5, my younger brother was born - Not only did a new baby take attention, he had a learning disability - so as he grew, he demanded more of my mother's attention.

It might sound wierd - it struck me so much what she said, and thinking back on my life, in many ways, she was so right. I think hearing that helped me to put things in perspective - for the first time, I truly feel that I have an honest man who loves me for me - and isn't out to start the drama.

Sus,

It become a cycle and it takes alot of strength and courage to break that cycle. I went to a thing called "GIRLFRIEND week-end" in the Bahamas last year and it changed me. They had women from all over the US and a few from European. Women from all backgrounds (some VERY wealthy). We all shared one thing though, we've all had horrible abusive relationships. I met women who were so well educated, wealthy and full of life, but were living a lie. There men were beating them almost everyday or their men were womanizer. I was just amazed. Some of the women told their families about the ABUSE and their family didn't believe them. I told my ex's family what was going on and their reply was "he's just adjusting to the relationship" (10 FRIGGIN YEARS). I just sat there and soaked up as much information as I could in 3 days in the Bahamas. Want to mess with someone's head (just spoon feed them) whatever you think will make them happy and to keep them around. All I can say is "know your SELF-WORTH"----know your SELF-WORTH

[*SunRay* 1]

Dang!!! I have 14 pages to read to catch up... A lot was discussed today I see.

Hope everyone's doing ok today.

YARDIE

[sus 70]

All I can say is "know your SELF-WORTH"----know your SELF-WORTH

This is so true - and every woman has her point in life when she recognizes her own self worth - Whether it is a simple thing that someone says (whether it's realistic or not), or whatever happens to make her take a hard look at herself - From that moment forward, there is no turning her back.

I have been through the abusive relationship, the cheater - you name it. I have a friend right now who is in and out of an abusive relationship - it breaks my heart to see, but she knows that I am there for her when she needs me. However, I truly believe that everyone has their own individual wall - eventually you hit it and realize that it's enough for you, but until that time, nothing anyone says to you makes a difference.

[*SunRay* 1]

All I can say is "know your SELF-WORTH"----know your SELF-WORTH

This is so true - and every woman has her point in life when she recognizes her own self worth - Whether it is a simple thing that someone says (whether it's realistic or not), or whatever happens to make her take a hard look at herself - From that moment forward, there is no turning her back.

I have been through the abusive relationship, the cheater - you name it. I have a friend right now who is in and out of an abusive relationship - it breaks my heart to see, but she knows that I am there for her when she needs me. However, I truly believe that everyone has their own individual wall - eventually you hit it and realize that it's enough for you, but until that time, nothing anyone says to you makes a difference.

Co-sign Sus,

I've been there too and no matter how man times people try to talk you out of your relationship, you have to be ready.