Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 6)

[TRELAWNY PARISH 10]

Clairey..o bodda chop off mi head I just had to cause mi know she woulda do mi di same blasted ting... ..and yes Yaards done tell mi her mind..but she a wait til afta baby fi do action so beg u a chance tuh..yuh hear...mi neva know u ave bad heart man..mi sorry

CHAP EEH AAFFFFFF....chap eeh affff

u si yuh !!

chupsss mi still LUV U

[TRELAWNY PARISH 10]

1luv...This is real life..no poking fun here

Ur hubby knows that reading and writing is something he wants to achieve so he is doing what is necessary. I forget who said but some men DO NOT care to ever learn and they are ok with that. Is it that they "think" learning to read and write will get them no further than where they r right now ?

i agree with that....and i think there is more too it as well...i know for mike he was ashamed that he could not read or write that well....and there for did NOT want to get help because he felt like he was the only person in the US with this issue....i explained time and time again he is so not the only person with this issue....still he didn't want to believe me and got a ok job...stocking shelves which is fine...happy for him to have that job....BUT he doesn't want to look for a better job or a second job because that would mean more paperwork....

This is where it gets to be a problem for me. He's holding himself back cause his mind is not free....not because someone tells him he can't do it.

and it is aproblem for me as well....i want to drill a hole into his thick head and put some sense into him....it really bothers me....

Nans, this is a very tricky situation. You have to thread gently. Do not push too hard or else you will never get him to try. Just talk about it and not get upset when you do. I know it is fraustrating but you can't give up.

My ex (the barber) was very smart (street) could read and write but could not hold a conversation in public. You know how it is in a Jaamican barber shop. That is all the conversation he wanted to have. When he moved to NC with me, he claimed he could not get a job but I think he was afraid to actually go on an interview for fear ne would not be able to handle it. I was patient with him but he decided to go back to NYC back to his old barber shop where he was comfortable hanging out with the guys.

girl u almost had me, because my son's father is a baber and this sounds like him too a t. the sad thing is he went to school to become a teller and was number one in his class...but he couldn't talk and it didn't help that he would go on interfviews in his dancehall clothes...

Sounds like my brothers friends after they came up here. It was so damn fustrating to get them out of the Jamaica mode just for an hour...you know how hard it is to explain that you can't wear JEANS with a RASTAH belt haning off to the side........

[Jengles 0]

I have come to the conclusion that i need spelling lessons...we would I be without spellcheck?? I can't get the one on this site downloaded.

[Sonshyne 2]

1luv...This is real life..no poking fun here

Ur hubby knows that reading and writing is something he wants to achieve so he is doing what is necessary. I forget who said but some men DO NOT care to ever learn and they are ok with that. Is it that they "think" learning to read and write will get them no further than where they r right now ?

i agree with that....and i think there is more too it as well...i know for mike he was ashamed that he could not read or write that well....and there for did NOT want to get help because he felt like he was the only person in the US with this issue....i explained time and time again he is so not the only person with this issue....still he didn't want to believe me and got a ok job...stocking shelves which is fine...happy for him to have that job....BUT he doesn't want to look for a better job or a second job because that would mean more paperwork....

This is where it gets to be a problem for me. He's holding himself back cause his mind is not free....not because someone tells him he can't do it.

and it is aproblem for me as well....i want to drill a hole into his thick head and put some sense into him....it really bothers me....

Nans, this is a very tricky situation. You have to thread gently. Do not push too hard or else you will never get him to try. Just talk about it and not get upset when you do. I know it is fraustrating but you can't give up.

My ex (the barber) was very smart (street) could read and write but could not hold a conversation in public. You know how it is in a Jaamican barber shop. That is all the conversation he wanted to have. When he moved to NC with me, he claimed he could not get a job but I think he was afraid to actually go on an interview for fear ne would not be able to handle it. I was patient with him but he decided to go back to NYC back to his old barber shop where he was comfortable hanging out with the guys.

girl u almost had me, because my son's father is a baber and this sounds like him too a t. the sad thing is he went to school to become a teller and was number one in his class...but he couldn't talk and it didn't help that he would go on interfviews in his dancehall clothes...

Sounds like my brothers friends after they came up here. It was so damn fustrating to get them out of the Jamaica mode just for an hour...you know how hard it is to explain that you can't wear JEANS with a RASTAH belt haning off to the side........

Tell me about it

[TRELAWNY PARISH 10]

I have come to the conclusion that i need spelling lessons...we would I be without spellcheck?? I can't get the one on this site downloaded.

u no need no spell check..gwaan weh u a go...I feel FUSTRATED!

[BelwinMills 0]

I have come to the conclusion that i need spelling lessons...we would I be without spellcheck?? I can't get the one on this site downloaded.

It will be OK. Spelling is not my thing either.

[Marlita 0]

Sounds like my brothers friends after they came up here. It was so damn fustrating to get them out of the Jamaica mode just for an hour...you know how hard it is to explain that you can't wear JEANS with a RASTAH belt haning off to the side........

haha, this is too funny, but I can see how true this can be and how it could cause some problems. I guess my situation is a little different as Evan has an American AND Jamaican upbringing, so he's kinda a "hybrid' as I call him. He's lived in JA is whole life but part of it was raised with an expat American family so he has this wierd hybrid culture sometimes. Sometimes is a good thing sometimes not.

[BelwinMills 0]

Sounds like my brothers friends after they came up here. It was so damn fustrating to get them out of the Jamaica mode just for an hour...you know how hard it is to explain that you can't wear JEANS with a RASTAH belt haning off to the side........

haha, this is too funny, but I can see how true this can be and how it could cause some problems. I guess my situation is a little different as Evan has an American AND Jamaican upbringing, so he's kinda a "hybrid' as I call him. He's lived in JA is whole life but part of it was raised with an expat American family so he has this wierd hybrid culture sometimes. Sometimes is a good thing sometimes not.

I never had this problem. Maybe because my man grew up with American culture from our college group for 15 years and worked in the hotel industry. I have taken care of six Jamaican guys at once at my school and I understand :lol:

[SupportOAFJF 0]

It's hard bringing anyone out of their "norm" they have to learn the hard way sometimes...Mi neva affi tell my hsuband him cannot wear jeans to an interview no matter what position he's going for. And him no Americanized inna no way shape or form..alot has to do with values taught and what they chose to keep

[Jengles 0]

I have come to the conclusion that i need spelling lessons...we would I be without spellcheck?? I can't get the one on this site downloaded.

u no need no spell check..gwaan weh u a go...I feel FUSTRATED!

did u have a better day today.

[SupportOAFJF 0]

I have come to the conclusion that i need spelling lessons...we would I be without spellcheck?? I can't get the one on this site downloaded.

u no need no spell check..gwaan weh u a go...I feel FUSTRATED!

did u have a better day today.

none aoonuh no ave sense

[Jengles 0]

I have come to the conclusion that i need spelling lessons...we would I be without spellcheck?? I can't get the one on this site downloaded.

u no need no spell check..gwaan weh u a go...I feel FUSTRATED!

did u have a better day today.

none aoonuh no ave sense

I AM BEING NICE, SO HUSH

[SupportOAFJF 0]

I have come to the conclusion that i need spelling lessons...we would I be without spellcheck?? I can't get the one on this site downloaded.

u no need no spell check..gwaan weh u a go...I feel FUSTRATED!

did u have a better day today.

none aoonuh no ave sense

I AM BEING NICE, SO HUSH

really !

[JaEnglishGirl 34]

Lawd. mi did deh yah a laugh out HELL affa Indian...Imagine, di man git up,

cut awf him long luxurious hair fi interview

dress up inna suit

fine transport from MOBAY guh KINGSTON

Travel fi FOUR hours fi reach fi 8.30AM

PAY $100 us fi di visa

Pay how much een money fi di MEDICAL

And dem TUN DI FOOL BACK!!

mi cyaa stop laugh, mi nah lie

[1luv 1]

1luv...This is real life..no poking fun here

Ur hubby knows that reading and writing is something he wants to achieve so he is doing what is necessary. I forget who said but some men DO NOT care to ever learn and they are ok with that. Is it that they "think" learning to read and write will get them no further than where they r right now ?

i agree with that....and i think there is more too it as well...i know for mike he was ashamed that he could not read or write that well....and there for did NOT want to get help because he felt like he was the only person in the US with this issue....i explained time and time again he is so not the only person with this issue....still he didn't want to believe me and got a ok job...stocking shelves which is fine...happy for him to have that job....BUT he doesn't want to look for a better job or a second job because that would mean more paperwork....

This is where it gets to be a problem for me. He's holding himself back cause his mind is not free....not because someone tells him he can't do it.

and it is aproblem for me as well....i want to drill a hole into his thick head and put some sense into him....it really bothers me....

Nans, this is a very tricky situation. You have to thread gently. Do not push too hard or else you will never get him to try. Just talk about it and not get upset when you do. I know it is fraustrating but you can't give up.

My ex (the barber) was very smart (street) could read and write but could not hold a conversation in public. You know how it is in a Jaamican barber shop. That is all the conversation he wanted to have. When he moved to NC with me, he claimed he could not get a job but I think he was afraid to actually go on an interview for fear ne would not be able to handle it. I was patient with him but he decided to go back to NYC back to his old barber shop where he was comfortable hanging out with the guys.

girl u almost had me, because my son's father is a baber and this sounds like him too a t. the sad thing is he went to school to become a teller and was number one in his class...but he couldn't talk and it didn't help that he would go on interfviews in his dancehall clothes...

Sounds like my brothers friends after they came up here. It was so damn fustrating to get them out of the Jamaica mode just for an hour...you know how hard it is to explain that you can't wear JEANS with a RASTAH belt haning off to the side........

LMFAO!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Edited March 12, 2008 by 1luv