ANYONE REGRETTING THE MOVE TO U.S.A

[lawsonschick 0]

lawsonschick, can you give details ? What do you put in that whole package ?

I agree with what everyone that has wrote in stating, missing family the most, friends, healthcare, familiarity of general things.. such as going to the store, or gravy on fries... all of those things factor in just the same for me as they do everyone else here.. and granted I do know how to get myself to the store and if i want gravy on my fries, i just have them at home....jobs are another factor, back home I had a job where i could at least take care of myself and pay the bills, here 4 years into my stay i've yet to find one even remotely half decent. I'm thankful I don't have to live using my income, but I can't stand the thought that if I "needed" to live off of my income, I couldn't. It has hit me particularly hard this past winter with both parents suffering serious health issues back home and that "I'm stuck here" feeling really set in for me.. I'm thankful each day for the support offered to me by my husband, who is just fantastic, he's truly the only reason I stay, I can say that honestly as I can't think of another single reason that would ever keep me here at this point.

I think for me, like i said before it's the whole package. It's been particularly hard for me to "start over". I can't really pinpoint on one or two things in general, it really has been the whole experience of it and on some level I am reminded of it every day whether it's a co-worker with a smart remark about the "Canuck" or whether it's the latest client I deal with on the phone who is in trouble financially over their healthcare bill or if it's a call from home with news of yet another event that I missed...

....one thing I know for sure 100% absolutely, is that i would choose to never do again...

I realize I am probably one of the few that feel this way and I am so glad when I read posts here and see where people are so happy.... I sure wish I could feel the same way, but... I don't..

Anne

[Krikit 1,164]

I wouldn't do it again, either.

[faylen 0]

sorry that you're feeling that way, and I do sympathize with you. one of the things i really don't like in this country is how the health care system works. you just can't compare it to canada, really. i won't get into too much detail, but when i had our daughter almost 3 years ago, our insurance then (SRC-subsidiary of Aetna) didn't cover any of the bill. well, no, they paid about 2% of the total amount which was $38,000. if you ever come across this insurance, do not ever, never, get coverage from them as they are nothing but deceitful people. this may sound very harsh, but it's true.

but anyway, what industry are you in?

[KevandKiki2 0]

sorry

Edited March 17, 2008 by KevandKiki2

[Delicia 1]

I have "done this" twice in a matter of 3 years. Would I do it again? Absolutely. But then again its just me, and I really haven't had the privilege of living with my spouse in a full and legal way yet, so I don't know what that will be like.

I honestly don't know why Canadians complain about non-federalized health care. I hated the Canadian system where you end up at the emergency room 80% of the time because the doctor offices and clinics don't have full labs and xrays and that a doctor's appointment is an all-day affair. My second child was born in the U.S. where I was insured through my employer. He was born with a congenital heart defect and required NICU time (6 weeks) and surgery. All I had to pay for out of pocket was the cost of the transport from the hospital where he was born to the hospital performing the surgery. Out of a $150,000 bill, I had to pay $240. It certainly keeps people from abusing the system and I saw quite a bit of that in Canada. I like to chose where my dollars go with my paycheck and not every time I stepped into a store and paid 15% GST and knowing it a large part of that went into a health care system that was lack luster (not to mention I never qualifed for).

I live 1,000 miles away from my daughter and the rest of my family (brother, parents, childhood friends) and 2,300 miles away from my husband and son right now. Please don't complain about how it sucks in the U.S. All I can say is... well, never mind, I will just offend everyone here. Be thankful for what you do have.

[DavidsPrincess 1]

I have "done this" twice in a matter of 3 years. Would I do it again? Absolutely. But then again its just me, and I really haven't had the privilege of living with my spouse in a full and legal way yet, so I don't know what that will be like.

I honestly don't know why Canadians complain about non-federalized health care. I hated the Canadian system where you end up at the emergency room 80% of the time because the doctor offices and clinics don't have full labs and xrays and that a doctor's appointment is an all-day affair. My second child was born in the U.S. where I was insured through my employer. He was born with a congenital heart defect and required NICU time (6 weeks) and surgery. All I had to pay for out of pocket was the cost of the transport from the hospital where he was born to the hospital performing the surgery. Out of a $150,000 bill, I had to pay $240. It certainly keeps people from abusing the system and I saw quite a bit of that in Canada. I like to chose where my dollars go with my paycheck and not every time I stepped into a store and paid 15% GST and knowing it a large part of that went into a health care system that was lack luster (not to mention I never qualifed for).

I live 1,000 miles away from my daughter and the rest of my family (brother, parents, childhood friends) and 2,300 miles away from my husband and son right now. Please don't complain about how it sucks in the U.S. All I can say is... well, never mind, I will just offend everyone here. Be thankful for what you do have.

good post made me think

[Krikit 1,164]

I have "done this" twice in a matter of 3 years. Would I do it again? Absolutely. But then again its just me, and I really haven't had the privilege of living with my spouse in a full and legal way yet, so I don't know what that will be like.

I honestly don't know why Canadians complain about non-federalized health care. I hated the Canadian system where you end up at the emergency room 80% of the time because the doctor offices and clinics don't have full labs and xrays and that a doctor's appointment is an all-day affair. My second child was born in the U.S. where I was insured through my employer. He was born with a congenital heart defect and required NICU time (6 weeks) and surgery. All I had to pay for out of pocket was the cost of the transport from the hospital where he was born to the hospital performing the surgery. Out of a $150,000 bill, I had to pay $240. It certainly keeps people from abusing the system and I saw quite a bit of that in Canada. I like to chose where my dollars go with my paycheck and not every time I stepped into a store and paid 15% GST and knowing it a large part of that went into a health care system that was lack luster (not to mention I never qualifed for).

I live 1,000 miles away from my daughter and the rest of my family (brother, parents, childhood friends) and 2,300 miles away from my husband and son right now. Please don't complain about how it sucks in the U.S. All I can say is... well, never mind, I will just offend everyone here. Be thankful for what you do have.

I guess you could say that I am tired of Americans telling others to stop "complaining" or to leave if we don't like it here so....

I don't see anyone complaining, Delicia. I do see people who (rightfully so) miss their loved ones and the things they grew up with. Just like you, members are relating their good experiences and their bad experiences. Just because it is not your experience does not mean that they/we should be told not to relay what is ours. The topic of the thread is "Anyone Regretting the Move to U.S.A." It is selfish to request that others only post Delicia-approved regrets. When your posts about Canada are full of negativity you receive nothing but support. We do not feel threatened or defensive, or tell you to stop complaining. We understand that people have problems every day in life.... some even of our own making.

Just as we do not not know what you do or do not have, you do not know what we do and do not have. We all have our burdens and our joys. I am sorry that you are having, and have had, a difficult time. I truly am. It hurts my heart when others hurt. But I know when and what to be thankful for, and I don't need anyone telling me to do so.

[Flames9_RN 358]

I have "done this" twice in a matter of 3 years. Would I do it again? Absolutely. But then again its just me, and I really haven't had the privilege of living with my spouse in a full and legal way yet, so I don't know what that will be like.

I honestly don't know why Canadians complain about non-federalized health care. I hated the Canadian system where you end up at the emergency room 80% of the time because the doctor offices and clinics don't have full labs and xrays and that a doctor's appointment is an all-day affair. My second child was born in the U.S. where I was insured through my employer. He was born with a congenital heart defect and required NICU time (6 weeks) and surgery. All I had to pay for out of pocket was the cost of the transport from the hospital where he was born to the hospital performing the surgery. Out of a $150,000 bill, I had to pay $240. It certainly keeps people from abusing the system and I saw quite a bit of that in Canada. I like to chose where my dollars go with my paycheck and not every time I stepped into a store and paid 15% GST and knowing it a large part of that went into a health care system that was lack luster (not to mention I never qualifed for).

I live 1,000 miles away from my daughter and the rest of my family (brother, parents, childhood friends) and 2,300 miles away from my husband and son right now. Please don't complain about how it sucks in the U.S. All I can say is... well, never mind, I will just offend everyone here. Be thankful for what you do have.

I guess you could say that I am tired of Americans telling others to stop "complaining" or to leave if we don't like it here so....

I don't see anyone complaining, Delicia. I do see people who (rightfully so) miss their loved ones and the things they grew up with. Just like you, members are relating their good experiences and their bad experiences. Just because it is not your experience does not mean that they/we should be told not to relay what is ours. The topic of the thread is "Anyone Regretting the Move to U.S.A." It is selfish to request that others only post Delicia-approved regrets. When your posts about Canada are full of negativity you receive nothing but support. We do not feel threatened or defensive, or tell you to stop complaining. We understand that people have problems every day in life.... some even of our own making.

Just as we do not not know what you do or do not have, you do not know what we do and do not have. We all have our burdens and our joys. I am sorry that you are having, and have had, a difficult time. I truly am. It hurts my heart when others hurt. But I know when and what to be thankful for, and I don't need anyone telling me to do so.

Well said!!! Everyone has the right to feel the way they do. And it can be very beneficial to write it down and get it off your chest!

[melusine 5]

Agree too with Crikey !

This is a thread were people can share bad experiences... let it be !!!!

(and for me, not there yet, i can learn what to expect by reading it and see if i might regret or not (so far definetly not, because beeing in Canada is already my first immigration from france so i already leave some of the inconvenient part )

[Allie 5]

I have "done this" twice in a matter of 3 years. Would I do it again? Absolutely. But then again its just me, and I really haven't had the privilege of living with my spouse in a full and legal way yet, so I don't know what that will be like.

I honestly don't know why Canadians complain about non-federalized health care. I hated the Canadian system where you end up at the emergency room 80% of the time because the doctor offices and clinics don't have full labs and xrays and that a doctor's appointment is an all-day affair. My second child was born in the U.S. where I was insured through my employer. He was born with a congenital heart defect and required NICU time (6 weeks) and surgery. All I had to pay for out of pocket was the cost of the transport from the hospital where he was born to the hospital performing the surgery. Out of a $150,000 bill, I had to pay $240. It certainly keeps people from abusing the system and I saw quite a bit of that in Canada. I like to chose where my dollars go with my paycheck and not every time I stepped into a store and paid 15% GST and knowing it a large part of that went into a health care system that was lack luster (not to mention I never qualifed for).

I live 1,000 miles away from my daughter and the rest of my family (brother, parents, childhood friends) and 2,300 miles away from my husband and son right now. Please don't complain about how it sucks in the U.S. All I can say is... well, never mind, I will just offend everyone here. Be thankful for what you do have.

Wow! I lived in Canada for 53 yrs. and never saw the health system as laclustre or even worried where my tax dollars went as long as myself and others requiring health needs got them. When you don't see the tax deduction in your pay you don't miss it. I raised 5 kids in Canada and when they became ill the health care was always there.

So what one goes to a hospital to get an X-ray big deal It doesn't cost anything. I had 3 dealings with how health care is run here in the U.S while doing my I- 693 Civil Surgeon thing. Pay to see the CS, pay for a TB needle test I didn't need and pay for and X-ray to prove it.

You had health insurance to pay your medical bill. What about those here that don't have that luxury? They suffer with illnesses because they can't afford the health care. I'd much sooner pay the tax and be able to get health care.

By the way lots of people don't qualify for the GST. I never ever got GST when I was in Canada but got everything else that Glorious Country offers it's citizens

[Delicia 1]

Perhaps you misunderstand. I lived in Toronto 2 years and never qualified for OHIP although I paid for it with every purchase I made. With that, everyone is entitled to their opinions, missing home feelings included in the broad scope, and so be it.

Peace out!

[Earmuffs 1]

that Glorious Country offers it's citizens

cant be that glorious if you left it

[Cassie 8]

that Glorious Country offers it's citizens

cant be that glorious if you left it

*biting tongue*

[Flames9_RN 358]

What i don't understand is that this topic is obviously a bit of a rant topic, so one should expect people ranting, to get it off their chest, but then others have to come in and say "you dont" have a right to rant!!" blah blah blah!! Everyone has their opinion!! And their is a topic on here for the reason why we like the USA, its not as if were planning to burn down the white house (again) lol

[Chica Yeyé 41]

that Glorious Country offers it's citizens

cant be that glorious if you left it

Are you just plain rude or are you having a "day"? Most of us left our countries because we made a decision with our spouses/partners to live in the US. Your comment goes beyond insensitive.