New Life

[Jeraly 4]

Agreed on the brilliant analogy

[bakofoil 27]

Yeah babbles - you did us proud - of course you have more patience than I hence my refusal to really comment on any of the utter garbage that gets talked about from time to time around here. Just one point though - if you notice, there are very few posts by the person you replied to outside of the forum... maybe this is why they perceive the immigration procedure as all doom and gloom?

On another note, I do wonder why aforementioned poster only seems to want to post in this forum and also wonder if aforementioned poster jumped into a relationship and promised marriage after a two week holiday as mentioned... I know I most certainly didn't and following a few visits actually made the effort to live for a time with my fiance as I know many other RANUSCs have.

For those of you who are (like myself) too retarded to understand the acronym and as we are very fond of them around here, the above stands for Retarded Alien Non United States Citizens. Apologies from those USCs who got it without the explanations

Lol, I dunno about patience. I think my impatience with the poster's remarks fueled my fire. You could be right about the motivation behind the posts since the scenarios described seem rather specific, although I assumed it was just a generalisation about RANUSCs (glad you defined that!). The poster mentions a couple of times a career in which immigration appears to be important - so I assumed the perspective stemmed from that somehow.

Regardless, you are right somepin must have gone pear-shaped somewhere along the way if this is the only perspective the poster can give.

[DanielParul 50]

Oh I have something else to add too...

Where does this conceited attitude come from that USC's are the only ones with the financial means to pay for phone calls, trips and the only ones filling out any documentation. I've had documents up to my eyeballs. What an arrogant point of view.

DanielParul.... to respond to your original post....

No, I don't think you can ever be prepared for what's in store. I liken it to having children. You make all kinds of preparations and have pre-conceived thoughts and expectations, but until they actually arrive and you are immersed in it, you don't really have an idea of the reality and the emotions which will hit you.

Marrying, in and of itself, is a huge step with lots of give and take and understanding to make it work. Throw a little immigration into the mix and things can get very overwhelming. There is a learning curve with both situations. The first year is not going to be kittens and roses as the immigrant adjusts. But the realization of this fact will get you through.

Brilliant analogy.

Actually, thats the fun of doing it all, isn't it? If everything was perfect -Life would be so boring!!

Most of us here on VJ have really strong bonds with their SOs b'cuz of everything that we go through.. There is not much choice, if you want to work things out, you dream, think, expect, prepare, COMMUNICATE, hope and pray and we do it wi the one we love.. Thats the base that we all build our relationships on..

Just miss Daniel so much now... he's at the Newark airport right now waiting to catch his flight to Delhi - to me

He's going to be sooooooo jet lagged when I drag him to the Consulate for my interview too

[bakofoil 27]

And yes, I too spent lengthy periods in the US to ensure that we still enjoyed the company of one another beyond a 'holiday' experience. Time well spent.

Actually, thats the fun of doing it all, isn't it? If everything was perfect -Life would be so boring!!

Most of us here on VJ have really strong bonds with their SOs b'cuz of everything that we go through.. There is not much choice, if you want to work things out, you dream, think, expect, prepare, COMMUNICATE, hope and pray and we do it wi the one we love.. Thats the base that we all build our relationships on..

Just miss Daniel so much now... he's at the Newark airport right now waiting to catch his flight to Delhi - to me

He's going to be sooooooo jet lagged when I drag him to the Consulate for my interview too

Yep, I totally agree with you. What an exciting time for you too! Best of luck with the interview! *hugs*

[DanielParul 50]

Oh and just on the sidenote - I had to help Daniel with all his documentation and then do mine also. Hate that bl**dy word now.. Am just a uneducated, neanderthal - Specialist Trainer (Sales, CS and Accounts) for Insurance who has worked for American and British Companies.... What do I know about the stress that the USCs go through for undeserving us

[DanielParul 50]

thanks babblesgirl.. the times, they are a pretty exciting

thanks to jeraly for complementing my shedding hair too

[bakofoil 27]

Oh and just on the sidenote - I had to help Daniel with all his documentation and then do mine also. Hate that bl**dy word now.. Am just a uneducated, neanderthal - Specialist Trainer (Sales, CS and Accounts) for Insurance who has worked for American and British Companies.... What do I know about the stress that the USCs go through for undeserving us

Must have been hard filling out those forms with no electricity. Can you even afford a pen and a compooter?!

[Jeraly 4]

Lol, I dunno about patience. I think my impatience with the poster's remarks fueled my fire. You could be right about the motivation behind the posts since the scenarios described seem rather specific, although I assumed it was just a generalisation about RANUSCs (glad you defined that!). The poster mentions a couple of times a career in which immigration appears to be important - so I assumed the perspective stemmed from that somehow.

Regardless, you are right somepin must have gone pear-shaped somewhere along the way if this is the only perspective the poster can give.

I have been in your situation *hugs* I had my fire fueled then realised it was like arguing with a brick wall that the reason it is still standing is because of the cement Brick wall insists on arguing that this is strictly not the case and that brick wall is merely an architectural marvel.

Now I choose to pay attention to the OP instead and respond to intelligent and well thought out responses even if they contradict what I believe - at least they make logical sense

Just miss Daniel so much now... he's at the Newark airport right now waiting to catch his flight to Delhi - to me

He's going to be sooooooo jet lagged when I drag him to the Consulate for my interview too

Oh you must be soo excited!

Agreed on the making life interesting thing as well - I used to hate change and crave stability and routine. While I still don't particularly like this rollercoaster all the time I would never change a thing, even the extended July wait because it has taught me so much about myself, helped me grow as a person and taught us both a lot about our relationship and let that grow as well

I still want stability but I'm not adverse to a few rocky roads to keep life interesting - just have to make sure I get myself some decent hiking boots...

*can't seem to cut out the metaphors*

[Jeraly 4]

Oh and just on the sidenote - I had to help Daniel with all his documentation and then do mine also. Hate that bl**dy word now.. Am just a uneducated, neanderthal - Specialist Trainer (Sales, CS and Accounts) for Insurance who has worked for American and British Companies.... What do I know about the stress that the USCs go through for undeserving us

Is that a complaint you scum-of-the-earth RANUSC?!?!

Must have been hard filling out those forms with no electricity. Can you even afford a pen and a compooter?!

Compooterz don't use electricity - they use elastic bands. What is a pen? What is a form? Electricity is used to brush your hair or did we establish that was for something else in the end? Help me fellow RANUSCs!!

[DanielParul 50]

Must have been hard filling out those forms with no electricity. Can you even afford a pen and a compooter?!

LMAO.... naah!! electricity is used to brush hair, and give us shock therapy. Who needs it to fill a few forms

[Krikit 1,164]

Just miss Daniel so much now... he's at the Newark airport right now waiting to catch his flight to Delhi - to me

He's going to be sooooooo jet lagged when I drag him to the Consulate for my interview too

Yep, I totally agree with you. What an exciting time for you too! Best of luck with the interview! *hugs*

Ohmygoodness, that's exactly what went through my head when I was reading her post, too! Parul, that's SO exciting for you! Good luck and all the best at your interview. That's so nice that you will have Daniel with you. My hubby (then fiancé) was with me, too, and it sure helped to take the pressure off.

Oh and just on the sidenote - I had to help Daniel with all his documentation and then do mine also.

TOTALLY agree. I had to take care of all the documentation too. My husband didn't have a clue. But that's okay, because attention to detail is one of my strengths and most in tune with my line of work. His strengths lie in other areas. Not that I can "comprehend the nature and scope of the pressures and dynamics involved", mind you.

[bakofoil 27]

Agreed on the making life interesting thing as well - I used to hate change and crave stability and routine. While I still don't particularly like this rollercoaster all the time I would never change a thing, even the extended July wait because it has taught me so much about myself, helped me grow as a person and taught us both a lot about our relationship and let that grow as well

I still want stability but I'm not adverse to a few rocky roads to keep life interesting - just have to make sure I get myself some decent hiking boots...

*can't seem to cut out the metaphors*

Precisely! No relationship is ever perfect. The sign of a good one is the ability of both of you to work through the difficult times and come out the other side still smiling about being with the person you love. Any relationship will face tests, but we have really big ones to deal with straight off and I think it helps to put things into perspective. I know J and I will have arguments, but we have learned through this process what is important to us as a couple and I feel confident that we can deal with those things as and when they arise.

I'm liking the metaphors

[Krikit 1,164]

I'm liking the metaphors

Met a fours help us simpel foke unnerstan stuff that's beyon ... beyon... way past our comm prenn shun.

[bakofoil 27]

Oh and just on the sidenote - I had to help Daniel with all his documentation and then do mine also.

TOTALLY agree. I had to take care of all the documentation too. My husband didn't have a clue. But that's okay, because attention to detail is one of my strengths and most in tune with my line of work. His strengths lie in other areas. Not that I can "comprehend the nature and scope of the pressures and dynamics involved", mind you.

Same here! I suppose the assumption is that because the USC petitions the K1 visa, the fiance(e) is redundant in this process. (S)he simply needs to wait for the plane ticket to arrive in the post (because a NON-USC could never possibly have either the sense or financial means to buy a plane ticket), pack a bag, hop on the plane and then spend the next 10 years doing ####### all (due to inability to do anything constructive) except flicking light switches and marvelling at the wonder of electricity and threatening the USC with the affadavit of support.

Met a fours help us simpel foke unnerstan stuff that's beyon ... beyon... way past our comm prenn shun.

[Krikit 1,164]

Same here! I suppose the assumption is that because the USC petitions the K1 visa, the fiance(e) is redundant in this process. (S)he simply needs to wait for the plane ticket to arrive in the post (because a NON-USC could never possibly have either the sense or financial means to buy a plane ticket), pack a bag, hop on the plane and then spend the next 10 years doing ####### all (due to inability to do anything constructive) except flicking light switches and marvelling at the wonder of electricity and threatening the USC with the affadavit of support.