New Life

[tammy2688 1]

Having been on both sides of the fence I belief my experience renders valid advice.

I was an immigrant and was married to my petitioner for 24 years and then divorced him due to his emotional abuse and

cheating.

I am now a USC and petitioning an immigrant.

My advice : Be responsible and accountable for your own choices and actions, look within yourself and change what needs to be changed.

Look deep before you leap when selecting your mate.

Communication, compromise and respect are the essence in any relationship. When your SO has completed the adjustment period, respect his freedom to maneuver his new environment without resenting his new found navigation skills, without feeling compelled to " be needed " at every corner.

Respect his growth. Check yourself for co-dependency issues.

Do you " need to be needed ? " Resent it if he doesn't as much anymore ? See his emerging new confidence as threatening ?

Check yourself, what drives you ?

If the relationship doesn't work out and your foreign SO has wronged you and it can't be fixed then you move on.

Forgive and move on with hope. Life is short. A pancake always has two sides. B)

Omoba is right. We must examine all these things and understand ourselves. That is the most important way to reaching any form of peace and stability in a relationship.

Tammy