January Filers at the CSC - How are you doing?

[Alex & Rachel 78]

Blake; how did informing staff of your new job go?

Now let's only hope that USPS doesn't lose any mail!

Oh man, can you imagine if the first time you had any idea that your petition had been approved was when packet 3 turned up on the beneficiary's doorstep?

Be nice when you ask for this as it obligates the USC to provide support, no matter what, for the next 9 years or so.

Kidding aside, I know there's a lot to do once the approval arrives - and it might take longer for this fact to dawn on us fun loving, irresponsible, and conflict avoiding men, however, that's why God created women, to provide balance.

Blake, your sisters taught you well - always so smooth with the ladies!

Alex may actually ask his father to be a co-sponsor, as Alex's earnings are perilously close to 125% of the poverty line for two people. Even if his dad says yes I shall still feel a little guilty. Hopefully we'll be able to support ourselves, but even so I'm not keen on the idea of being named as an 'official' burden to anyone. Alex, okay, we'll be a married unit anyway, his dad...not so much.

[Cecile and Bryan 0]

Oh man, can you imagine if the first time you had any idea that your petition had been approved was when packet 3 turned up on the beneficiary's doorstep?

Then we're lucky we don't have anything to send back to USCIS before they transfer our case to NVC and then the embassy! otherwise it would be a mess!

Alex may actually ask his father to be a co-sponsor, as Alex's earnings are perilously close to 125% of the poverty line for two people. Even if his dad says yes I shall still feel a little guilty. Hopefully we'll be able to support ourselves, but even so I'm not keen on the idea of being named as an 'official' burden to anyone. Alex, okay, we'll be a married unit anyway, his dad...not so much.

I was afraid we would have to get a co-sponsor, for the very same reasons as you. and it turned out that he gets more money than I thought

If he has to ask his father to do so, make sure you talk to him and make him understand that even though officially he will be responsible of you, you are not planning to ask him any money and that you will be able to manage your life without his help. Make him understand that even though there is still a very slight possibility you might become a burden to him someday, presumably this won't happen. If he understands it this way and accept it, you'll accept it easier too.

Edited May 13, 2008 by Cecile and Bryan

[BlakeandOlha 0]

Alex may actually ask his father to be a co-sponsor, as Alex's earnings are perilously close to 125% of the poverty line for two people. Even if his dad says yes I shall still feel a little guilty. Hopefully we'll be able to support ourselves, but even so I'm not keen on the idea of being named as an 'official' burden to anyone. Alex, okay, we'll be a married unit anyway, his dad...not so much.

I know it must be a little tough to accept the "official burden" monicer, I know Olga isn't very happy about it. Fact is that when the AOS goes through and the employment authorization arrives, all those feelings will fade away. It's not you or Alex that is preventing your working right away, it's the US gov't. I'm sure you and Alex will be a great "unit" even if times are tough for a bit. In fact I think it's a bit better to start out will little - because it really helps mold two people into one.

[aravis227 1]

Alex may actually ask his father to be a co-sponsor, as Alex's earnings are perilously close to 125% of the poverty line for two people. Even if his dad says yes I shall still feel a little guilty. Hopefully we'll be able to support ourselves, but even so I'm not keen on the idea of being named as an 'official' burden to anyone. Alex, okay, we'll be a married unit anyway, his dad...not so much.

I know it must be a little tough to accept the "official burden" monicer, I know Olga isn't very happy about it. Fact is that when the AOS goes through and the employment authorization arrives, all those feelings will fade away. It's not you or Alex that is preventing your working right away, it's the US gov't. I'm sure you and Alex will be a great "unit" even if times are tough for a bit. In fact I think it's a bit better to start out will little - because it really helps mold two people into one.

I totally agree...every once in awhile Dennis and I have talked about the only up-side of this whole process is that we really have to test our relationship to get through it. At least we know we can make it through the hard stuff We're going to be ina similar position to you Rachel...when my lease is up in my apartment I'll be moving into my mom's house. Dennis and I will live with her until his EAD comes through and he gets a job, then we'll buy our own house. I hate relying on my mom like that...but when we looked at it financially, it didn't make sense to do anything else.

[Alex & Rachel 78]

Once again this site reminds me that I am not alone.

Cecile - I shall definitely recommend to Alex that he phrase his request as you suggested.

Blake - that is very true. I'm going to keep repeating 'it's the US government's fault' to myself while I wait for my EAD; that way I don't have to feel guilty about having a protracted break from working. There aren't many periods in life when you CAN'T work so I'll enjoy it while I can!

aravis - I most definitely agree with you; I think all of our relationships are stronger for this process. While I was fixing a snack upstairs I actually thought about how much this visa process is forcing me to do. I've never been great at arranging things (I hate having to use the phone, and I'm terrified of being a nuisance) and I've always left everything up to other people. Since I've been in a long-distance relationship I've had to learn how to book a flight, fly on my own, become very familiar with the postal system (don't ask me why anyone should be nervous about having to send a package abroad, but I was), book driving lessons and soon I'll have to organise moving my belongings whether I like it or not!

[erintoronto 0]

aravis - I most definitely agree with you; I think all of our relationships are stronger for this process. While I was fixing a snack upstairs I actually thought about how much this visa process is forcing me to do. I've never been great at arranging things (I hate having to use the phone, and I'm terrified of being a nuisance) and I've always left everything up to other people. Since I've been in a long-distance relationship I've had to learn how to book a flight, fly on my own, become very familiar with the postal system (don't ask me why anyone should be nervous about having to send a package abroad, but I was), book driving lessons and soon I'll have to organise moving my belongings whether I like it or not!

i agree with you rachel and aravis. this process forces us to really focus on our relationships and ourselves and strengthen any potential weak spots. i am glad i am not alone in this work it sounds like we're all moving things along nicely.

[BlakeandOlha 0]

Wow - the first Feb approval (Leo & Tim) just came through. This couple filed on 2/29 - and this is not a Cuban approval. This has got to be one of those "training" applications that I've read about. Regardless, Congratulations!

Edited May 13, 2008 by BlakeandOlha

[BlakeandOlha 0]

oops, may have been a false alarm -

[Cecile and Bryan 0]

yes I saw that! it was actually frightening (approvals would go from first part of January to end of February?!) but they removed the NOA2 date.

[shes 0]

its quite unbelievable but if ever congrats! a february filer skips lots of january filers eh?

[aravis227 1]

its quite unbelievable but if ever congrats! a february filer skips lots of january filers eh?

That would be par for the course...but it looks like it was some sort of random glitch in Igor's. The person's VJ timeline says they haven't logged in since March and there is no NOA2 date listed...I'm not sure how Igor's has decided they were approved.

[MissYoko 4]

its quite unbelievable but if ever congrats! a february filer skips lots of january filers eh?

That would be par for the course...but it looks like it was some sort of random glitch in Igor's. The person's VJ timeline says they haven't logged in since March and there is no NOA2 date listed...I'm not sure how Igor's has decided they were approved.

you can update your timeline without logging in VJ.

[aravis227 1]

its quite unbelievable but if ever congrats! a february filer skips lots of january filers eh?

That would be par for the course...but it looks like it was some sort of random glitch in Igor's. The person's VJ timeline says they haven't logged in since March and there is no NOA2 date listed...I'm not sure how Igor's has decided they were approved.

you can update your timeline without logging in VJ.

Ohhh...well, then I'm going to keep my fingers crossed that it's real.

[BlakeandOlha 0]

its quite unbelievable but if ever congrats! a february filer skips lots of january filers eh?

That would be par for the course...but it looks like it was some sort of random glitch in Igor's. The person's VJ timeline says they haven't logged in since March and there is no NOA2 date listed...I'm not sure how Igor's has decided they were approved.

you can update your timeline without logging in VJ.

Ohhh...well, then I'm going to keep my fingers crossed that it's real.

I've PM'd Igor to have him look at how the list is drawing the information and how the list "corrects" for mispostings - which actually what I think this was. But it's ok to keep your finger's crossed aravis, one never knows......

[sunnybear 0]

I hope it was a glitch hahaha sorry not being mean or nothing but jeesh there are sooooo many others in waiting it just wouldn't be fair...not that anything about this process is fair.....but yeah hoping it was just some random glitch and that a ton more of us January and before January people get approvals!!!!