THIS IS MY SECOND TIME TO BE BENIFICIARY OF K-1 VISA

[pushbrk 12,893]

Yes this maybe visa journey but given the OP is 19years old ( which is quite young).

I agree with with Ladynoles to some degree....you cannot truly know someone til you live with them, but i suspect you have a better chance of sucess if you invest more time during courtship period...."marry in haste repent at leisure"

Thats not to say ALL short courtship relationships fail....some are very sucessfull happy marriages ( and good luck to them).......but i think when someone as young as 19 goes into one it is vastly different to when someone older is choosing a short courtship.

Those who are married after a short courtship period and are happy,secure and content in their lives certainly shouldn't feel the need to take umbrage or be personally offended with anyone who has a different point of view.. the response to give would be something like ....

" I hear what you say, you may be right in some cases however for me the short courtship was all the time i needed to know that this was the person for me to spend the rest of my life together"

If you want to discuss relationship advice there are appropriate forums here in which to do it. The IMBRA forum isn't one of them. This is a forum for IMBRA questions and answers. Please be kind enough to stay on topic.

[babe07 0]

And I am not here to judge but how can you want to marry a man or men lol that you dont even know?

love isnt a game..less a mariage...

Anyway if you are sure the petition been sent and is on completion..then the only thing is to cancel it which only your fiance can do.

If theres none sent already theres no problem you nw fiance can apply for you.

good luck

If you dont want to judge then why judge? How do you know she doesnt know him?

They met online November then personally in February. Sometimes that's all it takes to know someone enough to want to marry em.

wow...my topic became hot...THANKS FOR ADVICE..I REALLY APPRECIATE IT..YES..WE CANNOT JUDGE EACH AND EVERYONE OF US...WHEN IT COMES TO LOVE..even UR YOUNG OR OLD..OR in a SHORT OR LONG COURTSHIP..it doesnt matter...when u want to marry a man..its BECAUSE U LOVED HIM ANd U KNOW HIM enough...to be ur husband...

[babe07 0]

Yes this maybe visa journey but given the OP is 19years old ( which is quite young).

I agree with with Ladynoles to some degree....you cannot truly know someone til you live with them, but i suspect you have a better chance of sucess if you invest more time during courtship period...."marry in haste repent at leisure"

Thats not to say ALL short courtship relationships fail....some are very sucessfull happy marriages ( and good luck to them).......but i think when someone as young as 19 goes into one it is vastly different to when someone older is choosing a short courtship.

Those who are married after a short courtship period and are happy,secure and content in their lives certainly shouldn't feel the need to take umbrage or be personally offended with anyone who has a different point of view.. the response to give would be something like ....

" I hear what you say, you may be right in some cases however for me the short courtship was all the time i needed to know that this was the person for me to spend the rest of my life together"

thanks alot.....im asking for what will i do on my case...not involve the age..niether the courthip period or etc...the main topic is WHAT WILL I DO TO MY 1ST PETITION..SO IT WILL NOT AFFECT MY 2ND 1..yes....it bother me..because it will appear on their database....this will be my 2nd time to be the beneficiary of 2 different petitioner...

[truffles 2]

How fortunate for you that the first petition didnt run its full course and you didnt marry the first petitioner...otherwise you would have been married to the wrong guy.

"wow...my topic became hot...THANKS FOR ADVICE..I REALLY APPRECIATE IT..YES..WE CANNOT JUDGE EACH AND EVERYONE OF US...WHEN IT COMES TO LOVE..even UR YOUNG OR OLD..OR in a SHORT OR LONG COURTSHIP..it doesnt matter...when u want to marry a man..its BECAUSE U LOVED HIM ANd U KNOW HIM enough...to be ur husband..."

Good luck with your journey.

[dbears 1]

How fortunate for you that the first petition didnt run its full course and you didnt marry the first petitioner...otherwise you would have been married to the wrong guy.

"wow...my topic became hot...THANKS FOR ADVICE..I REALLY APPRECIATE IT..YES..WE CANNOT JUDGE EACH AND EVERYONE OF US...WHEN IT COMES TO LOVE..even UR YOUNG OR OLD..OR in a SHORT OR LONG COURTSHIP..it doesnt matter...when u want to marry a man..its BECAUSE U LOVED HIM ANd U KNOW HIM enough...to be ur husband..."

Good luck with your journey.

You nailed it truffles

[pushbrk 12,893]

How fortunate for you that the first petition didnt run its full course and you didnt marry the first petitioner...otherwise you would have been married to the wrong guy.

"wow...my topic became hot...THANKS FOR ADVICE..I REALLY APPRECIATE IT..YES..WE CANNOT JUDGE EACH AND EVERYONE OF US...WHEN IT COMES TO LOVE..even UR YOUNG OR OLD..OR in a SHORT OR LONG COURTSHIP..it doesnt matter...when u want to marry a man..its BECAUSE U LOVED HIM ANd U KNOW HIM enough...to be ur husband..."

Good luck with your journey.

You nailed it truffles

Dbears,

You filed for a fiance visa for a Filipina? I don't want judge but how could you do that? Why do you expect the girl to leave her life behind and come to the USA, on only your verbal promise of marriage? If you really loved and cared about her, you would have married her in the PI before you asked her to leave her life behind.

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I'm just making a point. The above does not express my feeling about fiance visas but if it did, the IMBRA forum is not the place to discuss such things. Perhaps you'll see my point now. Please stay on topic.

Edited February 29, 2008 by pushbrk

[LadyNoles 0]

How fortunate for you that the first petition didnt run its full course and you didnt marry the first petitioner...otherwise you would have been married to the wrong guy.

"wow...my topic became hot...THANKS FOR ADVICE..I REALLY APPRECIATE IT..YES..WE CANNOT JUDGE EACH AND EVERYONE OF US...WHEN IT COMES TO LOVE..even UR YOUNG OR OLD..OR in a SHORT OR LONG COURTSHIP..it doesnt matter...when u want to marry a man..its BECAUSE U LOVED HIM ANd U KNOW HIM enough...to be ur husband..."

Good luck with your journey.

You nailed it truffles

Dbears,

You filed for a fiance visa for a Filipina? I don't want judge but how could you do that? Why do you expect the girl to leave her life behind and come to the USA, on only your verbal promise of marriage? If you really loved and cared about her, you would have married her in the PI before you asked her to leave her life behind.

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I'm just making a point. The above does not express my feeling about fiance visas but if it did, the IMBRA forum is not the place to discuss such things. Perhaps you'll see my point now. Please stay on topic.

[truffles 2]

You miss the point.....this wasnt to do with the OP stating she was promised a marriage and it didnt happen...and she feels let down, which is basically what you are offering dbear as a argument. It doesnt fit this particular case.

The remarks refer to the speed of the action....and a suggestion that taking a little more time out so as she is NOT finding herself in a situation she may come to regrets.( I hope not ) ....at 19years old she may think she can deal with all life throws at her...and she may well be one of the unusual 19 year old who can - most need input from others.

The basis for this is that OP already said

"when u want to marry a man..its BECAUSE U LOVED HIM ANd U KNOW HIM enough...to be ur husband..."

and i am sure she felt exactly the same for the first petitioner ....

Yes it is advice..you may feel it is inappropriate on this board....you and the OP have the benefit of ignoring it if it offends.

Edited February 29, 2008 by truffles

[pushbrk 12,893]

You miss the point.....this wasnt to do with the OP stating she was promised a marriage and it didnt happen...and she feels let down, which is basically what you are offering dbear as a argument. It doesnt fit this particular case.

The remarks refer to the speed of the action....and a suggestion that taking a little more time out so as she is NOT finding herself in a situation she may come to regrets.( I hope not ) ....at 19years old she may think she can deal with all life throws at her...and she may well be one of the unusual 19 year old who can - most need input from others.

The basis for this is that OP already said

"when u want to marry a man..its BECAUSE U LOVED HIM ANd U KNOW HIM enough...to be ur husband..."

and i am sure she felt exactly the same for the first petitioner ....

Yes it is advice..you may feel it is inappropriate on this board....you and the OP have the benefit of ignoring it if it offends.

Of course they are different issues. What is the same is they are both examples of judgmental comments that are inappropriate and off-topic for the IMBRA forum.

Please stay on-topic AND keep your nose out of other peoples' relationships when all they asked about was the visa process.

[truffles 2]

LOL....may i venture you confuse judgements with suggestions....

[pushbrk 12,893]

LOL....may i venture you confuse judgements with suggestions....

Not at all. The suggestion was made because of the judgment and more to the point was off topic. This is not a forum for relationship suggestions. The question was about the visa process.

[truffles 2]

You set such high standards Pushbrk!...I know i can rely on you to offer me constructive coaching on the rights and wrongs of posting! I think I would like to emulate your exemplary principles in regard to definition of whats allowed and what is not...May I seek out as many of your future posts as i can to learn from your excellence ?

[N360 0]

You set such high standards Pushbrk!...I know i can rely on you to offer me constructive coaching on the rights and wrongs of posting! I think I would like to emulate your exemplary principles in regard to definition of whats allowed and what is not...May I seek out as many of your future posts as i can to learn from your excellence ?

My mom was 17 and my dad was 18 when they married. It was a very, very short courtship. 42 years later, you could still see that they love each other very much.

I've been to many relationships. Short and long term. If you think you can really get to "know" someone simply by knowing him/her for say five years, then I think you're sadly mistaken.

In your opinion, what's the "standard" or acceptable lenght of time you have to know someone before you think you "really know" someone enought to marry?

Pushbrk's point is that judgements have no place on this thread.

The point I'm making is... Don't judge.

I dont know why that is so hard to understand and why you seem to think its ok.

Heck, you're not even aware you're making judgements.

Edited February 29, 2008 by NoelandTintin

[babe07 0]

You set such high standards Pushbrk!...I know i can rely on you to offer me constructive coaching on the rights and wrongs of posting! I think I would like to emulate your exemplary principles in regard to definition of whats allowed and what is not...May I seek out as many of your future posts as i can to learn from your excellence ?

My mom was 17 and my dad was 18 when they married. It was a very, very short courtship. 42 years later, you could still see that they love each other very much.

I've been to many relationships. Short and long term. If you think you can really get to "know" someone simply by knowing him/her for say five years, then I think you're sadly mistaken.

In your opinion, what's the "standard" or acceptable lenght of time you have to know someone before you think you "really know" someone enought to marry?

Pushbrk's point is that judgements have no place on this thread.

The point I'm making is... Don't judge.

I dont know why that is so hard to understand and why you seem to think its ok.

Heck, you're not even aware you're making judgements.

i agree to you...my topic is not here to judge of anyone...each of your advice will help me alot about my visa processing... and whatever they said about my age or courtship...who care!!!i really appreciate the one who help me here...

[dbears 1]

Dbears,

You filed for a fiance visa for a Filipina? I don't want judge but how could you do that? Why do you expect the girl to leave her life behind and come to the USA, on only your verbal promise of marriage? If you really loved and cared about her, you would have married her in the PI before you asked her to leave her life behind.

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I'm just making a point. The above does not express my feeling about fiance visas but if it did, the IMBRA forum is not the place to discuss such things. Perhaps you'll see my point now. Please stay on topic.

You just made me roll with laughter. Actually pushbrk, I AM the Filipina fiancee and filing for a fiance visa has been a mutual decision. And to set the record straight, we originally planned on getting married here in the Philippines, as a matter of fact we have already booked some wedding vendors but then decided to just go for a K1 visa as it is more cost effective as of now and then have another wedding here in the Philippines 2-3years from now or maybe on our 5th anniversary.

You are so vent on "Please stay on-topic AND keep your nose out of other peoples' relationships when all they asked about was the visa process." but just read your post to me... and actually some of your other post here on VJ....

well, i won't add anything more coz i was taught to respect the elderly even if they are so touchy, after all, they are supposed to be so full of wisdom .. but man, you cracked me up with that one .. thank you for making me laugh, really needed that one.

Edited February 29, 2008 by dbears