UAE Nationals ~ HELP!!!

[caybee 21]

How is it possible to be "beyond homesickness" when she hasn't yet left her country? My husband, a grown *man*, has moments of homesickness and he's been here nearly a year.

Realistically speaking...what happens if this marriage doesn't work out? She'll be in a strange country alone. She will not be able to fall back on her family and return to her country. I know you have strong feelings for her but like others have said, if you truly love her, let her go. From the sounds of it she's very young and naive. She has no idea what she's really getting herself into and quite frankly, neither do you.

Add to this that she is 21 years old and has, presumably, led a very sheltered life so far. She seems prepared to close a lot of doors. As you said, she is even prepared to risk her life. Actually, she may have already done so, secretly meeting an American Christian man 27 years her senior on multiple occasions without being married to him. If someone who knows her happened to see her at the embassy or consulate, what explanation would she give? DOS makes home visits on occasion. How would things play out if someone visited her home and asked her parents how they felt about her impending marriage? If she did receive a visa, she might have to wait through weeks or months of security checks first, and then receive a phone call. Would her situation allow her to receive that phone call out of the blue? Is she the only one who answers her phone?

The idea is appealing. You spirit her off to the interview. She comes out, visa in hand, and you head for the airport. But immigration is too unpredictable for that in most cases, even without the added difficulties you face. I do believe you love her and you are prepared to move heaven and earth to be together. You have said she is ready to die for you. Are you really ready to accept that kind of sacrifice?

All i meant bout the homesickness was the fact that she hesitated for months when I said i wanted to make this a long term relationship. Yes....she was very concerned bout coming to another country without friends or family......but the more we talked .....and the more she thought bout it....the more she realized she doesnt have that much where she is at. In fact...stating at one point that she has nothing there. Does it concern me. ? -- YES !.....I have struggled with it for many months....but silly me just cant let her go. I have talked to many lawyers on what our prospects are in UAE......I have sent mail to the consulate in Abu Dhabi.....I have called the UAE embassy in Washington DC.......YES !....there are concerns......BUT I AM DOING MY HOMEWORK !!!! For starters....i dont think home visits happen in UAE.......if it happens to us....we are done..she has a cell phone....they can reach her there if they need to....i find it hard to believe they would contact her....because she has tried on several occasions to contact THEM......to no avail......as far as waiting for visa after interview...if it takes more than a few days......we are done.....unless i can get her to another country...have been told by many that UAE issues within 2 days........There is no gurantee on any relationship .....just because i marry someone from my own race near my own age doesnt guarantee it will work.......is there better chances..?...yes...i understand there is...but still no guarantee....Her and I have discussed it several times. She is 21 and far more mature than women twice her age...........and I feel that she would be twice as loyal........and if I only have a few years with her ......it will be the most wonderful few years of my life............ I think our only problem is we tend to listen too much to the naysayers .....we need to follow our hearts.......and i think we will do just that......and with that ....I thank you all for your input and concerns......but unless you know of or are a female UAE national........dont want to hear bout it .....I told her just last night i wanted to link this forum to her.....but I told her there are alot of naysayers in here and parts of it are just negative.......

I cant believe ya dont think she is just after money or a green card....and how do i know ?? .....cause.....if that is what she wanted .......she would have been gone along time ago....cause i would have given her thousands.....so enough with the negativity!!!!!!

WE DONT NEED THAT.......what we need is a plan.....TO GET HER OUT ! and that is what i plan to do .....and i will keep trying to do that till she says no...till she can honestly tell me this is not what she wants . Is it risky for me ? ya...maybe it is....but she is leaving her country to be with me.....so for that....i will take on a little risk myself when she gets here.......and thank God above for the gift He has given me......and thank the local government here for allowing me a concealed carry license.

Best wishes for a long and happy life together.

Love conquers all. Especially in MENA.

Edited March 7, 2008 by mona_jamie

[sereia 0]

*sigh*

[denny01 0]

Have you two met in person yet?

met her in June on several occasions and I went back to see her in October 2007.....on several occasions.............I had more problems at Detroit airport than i had in Dubai........I love Dubai and if she would let me ....I would move there...but......she said it wouldnt work there. This is for real.....and she is looking forward to another visit when we figure out how to proceed........with all this negativity, its all on hold right now.

[denny01 0]

she is willing to die to make this happen.....she just isnt lookin forward to the beatings.

It bothers me that you're willing to accept that this will happen to her. If you truly love her I really think you should let it go for her own safety.

Well....she HAS discussed that with me and doesnt think it will go that far.......she just doesnt want to get caught by family THERE ! The only reason i say stuff like that is the fact she has told me several times she doesnt think she can live without me.....I have not accepted that she could be hunted down and killed......if that were the case, I WOULD be able to let her go.....if I am wrong....I just hope immigration makes it as difficult for anyone coming to get her as they have made it for us to be together.

[denny01 0]

she is willing to die to make this happen.....she just isnt lookin forward to the beatings.

It bothers me that you're willing to accept that this will happen to her. If you truly love her I really think you should let it go for her own safety.

Well....she HAS discussed that with me and doesnt think it will go that far.......she just doesnt want to get caught by family THERE ! The only reason i say stuff like that is the fact she has told me several times she doesnt think she can live without me.....I have not accepted that she could be hunted down and killed......if that were the case, I WOULD be able to let her go.....if I am wrong....I just hope immigration makes it as difficult for anyone coming to get her as they have made it for us to be together.

[Sofiyya 1,687]

Denny, if you think we're being negative, you ain't seen nothing yet. You've got governments to deal with and they don't give a damn about your love. Be careful.

[denny01 0]

Denny, if you think we're being negative, you ain't seen nothing yet. You've got governments to deal with and they don't give a damn about your love. Be careful.

ok.....sorry....just get a bit defensive .....have heard negativity before......its just gettin old.......and maybe with lawyers....... i understand ...they just may want my money......but it seems like they would have backed away from even attempting to do this.....especially the ones that guarantee a visa......but like someone said before.....they may not know Sharia law....sorry....am just confused....and depressed bout it all.....should i read " 1984 " again ?......just wish they would put that in the rules of the game " parental approval is required " .

[Sofiyya 1,687]

and maybe with lawyers....... i understand ...they just may want my money......but it seems like they would have backed away from even attempting to do this.....especially the ones that guarantee a visa

Denny, I work for an international law firm that handles asylum cases. No lawyer worth his license would guarantee you a visa. Even having obtained a visa doesn't guarantee that the holder will be allowed to enter the US at the POE. Good grief! Stay away from the ones who say they can do that.

[denny01 0]

Asylum, huh ?.....Everybody is tellin me she could be jailed or beaten or killed......doesnt that qualify her for asylum ?

Edited March 10, 2008 by denny01