Just remembering a time......

[SimoAndYvette 0]

Good Evening everyone!!

I was talking to a friend today........and we were discussing how "back in the day" there was NO need for a site like Visa Journey - WAIT!!! In No way bashing it.......I Love IT and it has been tremendously helpful to my husband and me. What I am talking about is there was a time, when a cloud of suspicion did not fall over every couple that fell in love...and they just happened to live in two different countries.

With my passport, I can visit almost anywhere I want to.....and have done so. It is a privilege I took for granted up to about one year ago! My great-great grandmother came to America as a mail-order bride, from Norway.....she lived a long and healthy life with her husband; all it required was fare on a ship, and a train ride across the U.S. to meet him in Kansas. My other great-grandparents, came to America from Mexico during the late 1800's when Mexico was in a civil war, and their only choice was to leave, in order to survive. Once they got here, they raised their families and became American citizens. You hear about WWII vets meeting the love of their life and coming back home with their new bride.

When did your country of birth dictate who you fell in love with, and WHEN you could be together? Our melting pot...is not really such a patchwork of diversity and culture anymore. I am Basque (Spanish/French), Mexican, Norwegian, Italian and Navajo Indian....would that diverse array of cultures EVER took place, if my ancestors had to complete an I-130, send one 2x2 pic, give a description of how they met, then back it up with PROOF, wait for a receipt, send an additional packet...again wait for a receipt, be interviewed, medically tested....BY Goodness - They would have given UP after just getting the first set of paperwork!

I know.....I know.....there are some who came here under false pretenses. I get that! But in what area of life, do you not find that? It is a shame, and in a perfect world everyone would be upfront and tell you exactly what they are up to...but we are in a far from perfect world....and you will find people who want and need to move somewhere for financial and social reasons in every country of the world; just like you will find someone who takes 20 items to the 15 or less line....they do not need to sign an affadavit before they get to the cashier swearing they have correct number of purchases.

Yes! I am feeling frustrated and discouraged tonight......I was not looking for my husband, but I honestly believe God brought us together. He is an amazing man, and LOVES my son as much as he does me. He is going to adopt him, and he already has taken his name......if it was anyone here, in the U.S. - no problem, a simple trip to the nearest courthouse. Instead, our son, Said and I are separated tonight....just like every night since October 2, and when Christian asks me, "When is daddy going to be home mommy?" Still my answer is....I do not know!

Another night remembering........and thinking about a better time!

[SusieK 3]

Good Evening everyone!!

I was talking to a friend today........and we were discussing how "back in the day" there was NO need for a site like Visa Journey - WAIT!!! In No way bashing it.......I Love IT and it has been tremendously helpful to my husband and me. What I am talking about is there was a time, when a cloud of suspicion did not fall over every couple that fell in love...and they just happened to live in two different countries.

With my passport, I can visit almost anywhere I want to.....and have done so. It is a privilege I took for granted up to about one year ago! My great-great grandmother came to America as a mail-order bride, from Norway.....she lived a long and healthy life with her husband; all it required was fare on a ship, and a train ride across the U.S. to meet him in Kansas. My other great-grandparents, came to America from Mexico during the late 1800's when Mexico was in a civil war, and their only choice was to leave, in order to survive. Once they got here, they raised their families and became American citizens. You hear about WWII vets meeting the love of their life and coming back home with their new bride.

When did your country of birth dictate who you fell in love with, and WHEN you could be together? Our melting pot...is not really such a patchwork of diversity and culture anymore. I am Basque (Spanish/French), Mexican, Norwegian, Italian and Navajo Indian....would that diverse array of cultures EVER took place, if my ancestors had to complete an I-130, send one 2x2 pic, give a description of how they met, then back it up with PROOF, wait for a receipt, send an additional packet...again wait for a receipt, be interviewed, medically tested....BY Goodness - They would have given UP after just getting the first set of paperwork!

I know.....I know.....there are some who came here under false pretenses. I get that! But in what area of life, do you not find that? It is a shame, and in a perfect world everyone would be upfront and tell you exactly what they are up to...but we are in a far from perfect world....and you will find people who want and need to move somewhere for financial and social reasons in every country of the world; just like you will find someone who takes 20 items to the 15 or less line....they do not need to sign an affadavit before they get to the cashier swearing they have correct number of purchases.

Yes! I am feeling frustrated and discouraged tonight......I was not looking for my husband, but I honestly believe God brought us together. He is an amazing man, and LOVES my son as much as he does me. He is going to adopt him, and he already has taken his name......if it was anyone here, in the U.S. - no problem, a simple trip to the nearest courthouse. Instead, our son, Said and I are separated tonight....just like every night since October 2, and when Christian asks me, "When is daddy going to be home mommy?" Still my answer is....I do not know!

Another night remembering........and thinking about a better time!

It will come soon, and times have changed and sometimes late at night I wonder the same, but against my heartfelt wishes, times have changed and we are at the mercy of our governmental agency. There are checks and balances put into place for certain reasons, do I agree with them, some yes, others no.

You can see by some of my post that I am saddened and angered when our mates can not be here in a reasonable timeframe, but the balances make sense, the checks are just that. What I see is that a complete disfunctional system, but again, WE THE PEOPLE are at the mercy of the system.

I only want my husband here, I do not want him to collect any public assistance nor will he, he does not carry any negative reflections of 911 - I know that, our numerous friends know that, but the problem is, USCIS or NVC does not. I can not fault them for trying to sort through the millions of applications for spouses - fiances - naturalization etc. But trying to figure out the ifs and whens does not exist anymore, we just have to wake up every day and hope for an approval on a certain application.

I miss mine beyond but I have tried and tried to fight the system, there are some avenues to go when your timeframe is out of line, but beyond this point, the answer to your question......thinking about a better time......well that would be when your other half finally arrives on USA soil.

Cheers and God Speed on your journey and to that little guy at home, this is beyond his comprehension - I am sorry that this happening to all - but one day it will be behind us, hopefully soon. I can not fathom that my rights as a citizen has been mired by the famous saying ........pursuit of happiness.........for the pursuit of security should be added to offset that written line so many years ago. Sighs soon......

[YOUTOO 2]

Well, well.....the benefits of living in the "Land of the Free"...........

[visaveteran1 33]

Good Evening everyone!!

I was talking to a friend today........and we were discussing how "back in the day" there was NO need for a site like Visa Journey - WAIT!!! In No way bashing it.......I Love IT and it has been tremendously helpful to my husband and me. What I am talking about is there was a time, when a cloud of suspicion did not fall over every couple that fell in love...and they just happened to live in two different countries.

With my passport, I can visit almost anywhere I want to.....and have done so. It is a privilege I took for granted up to about one year ago! My great-great grandmother came to America as a mail-order bride, from Norway.....she lived a long and healthy life with her husband; all it required was fare on a ship, and a train ride across the U.S. to meet him in Kansas. My other great-grandparents, came to America from Mexico during the late 1800's when Mexico was in a civil war, and their only choice was to leave, in order to survive. Once they got here, they raised their families and became American citizens. You hear about WWII vets meeting the love of their life and coming back home with their new bride.

When did your country of birth dictate who you fell in love with, and WHEN you could be together? Our melting pot...is not really such a patchwork of diversity and culture anymore. I am Basque (Spanish/French), Mexican, Norwegian, Italian and Navajo Indian....would that diverse array of cultures EVER took place, if my ancestors had to complete an I-130, send one 2x2 pic, give a description of how they met, then back it up with PROOF, wait for a receipt, send an additional packet...again wait for a receipt, be interviewed, medically tested....BY Goodness - They would have given UP after just getting the first set of paperwork!

I know.....I know.....there are some who came here under false pretenses. I get that! But in what area of life, do you not find that? It is a shame, and in a perfect world everyone would be upfront and tell you exactly what they are up to...but we are in a far from perfect world....and you will find people who want and need to move somewhere for financial and social reasons in every country of the world; just like you will find someone who takes 20 items to the 15 or less line....they do not need to sign an affadavit before they get to the cashier swearing they have correct number of purchases.

Yes! I am feeling frustrated and discouraged tonight......I was not looking for my husband, but I honestly believe God brought us together. He is an amazing man, and LOVES my son as much as he does me. He is going to adopt him, and he already has taken his name......if it was anyone here, in the U.S. - no problem, a simple trip to the nearest courthouse. Instead, our son, Said and I are separated tonight....just like every night since October 2, and when Christian asks me, "When is daddy going to be home mommy?" Still my answer is....I do not know!

Another night remembering........and thinking about a better time!

What i have learned through the experience of trying to marry two different women from overseas, over the past 5 years, is that the world does not want people of different cultures to marry. My Russian wife told me that there is serious talk in Russia to stop Russian women from immigrating to marry men from other countries. Almost all governmental bureaucracies are anti-marriage (to foreigners) and make it as hard as possible to marry and quickly live together. One would think getting married is similar to spying or treason. What's the big deal? A man and a woman want to be married...how will that threaten any country? Yes...I know that sometimes spies and the "bad guys" might use marriage as an entry into a country for foul play...but it should not take a year or more to establish that the marriage is clean and clear.

It's far easier to buy a gun and get a conceal carry license in the US than to get married to someone from another country and bring them home. I'm not anti-gun but i do think it's interesting how the government prioritizes dangers.

If the government wants something from YOU, they want it yesterday (taxes, permit fees, tariffs, etc). But YOU, the citizen, can sit and cool your heels for months and years while the wheels slowly move forward towards a conclusion. Government is heartless, cold and too often anti-alien marriage. Just look at how US Embassies have changed in recent years concerning processing petitions. Once upon a time the Embassy was user friendly and helpful...now they have a prison guard mentality. I speak from experience.

[samira_07 1]

Good Evening everyone!!

I was talking to a friend today........and we were discussing how "back in the day" there was NO need for a site like Visa Journey - WAIT!!! In No way bashing it.......I Love IT and it has been tremendously helpful to my husband and me. What I am talking about is there was a time, when a cloud of suspicion did not fall over every couple that fell in love...and they just happened to live in two different countries.

With my passport, I can visit almost anywhere I want to.....and have done so. It is a privilege I took for granted up to about one year ago! My great-great grandmother came to America as a mail-order bride, from Norway.....she lived a long and healthy life with her husband; all it required was fare on a ship, and a train ride across the U.S. to meet him in Kansas. My other great-grandparents, came to America from Mexico during the late 1800's when Mexico was in a civil war, and their only choice was to leave, in order to survive. Once they got here, they raised their families and became American citizens. You hear about WWII vets meeting the love of their life and coming back home with their new bride.

When did your country of birth dictate who you fell in love with, and WHEN you could be together? Our melting pot...is not really such a patchwork of diversity and culture anymore. I am Basque (Spanish/French), Mexican, Norwegian, Italian and Navajo Indian....would that diverse array of cultures EVER took place, if my ancestors had to complete an I-130, send one 2x2 pic, give a description of how they met, then back it up with PROOF, wait for a receipt, send an additional packet...again wait for a receipt, be interviewed, medically tested....BY Goodness - They would have given UP after just getting the first set of paperwork!

I know.....I know.....there are some who came here under false pretenses. I get that! But in what area of life, do you not find that? It is a shame, and in a perfect world everyone would be upfront and tell you exactly what they are up to...but we are in a far from perfect world....and you will find people who want and need to move somewhere for financial and social reasons in every country of the world; just like you will find someone who takes 20 items to the 15 or less line....they do not need to sign an affadavit before they get to the cashier swearing they have correct number of purchases.

Yes! I am feeling frustrated and discouraged tonight......I was not looking for my husband, but I honestly believe God brought us together. He is an amazing man, and LOVES my son as much as he does me. He is going to adopt him, and he already has taken his name......if it was anyone here, in the U.S. - no problem, a simple trip to the nearest courthouse. Instead, our son, Said and I are separated tonight....just like every night since October 2, and when Christian asks me, "When is daddy going to be home mommy?" Still my answer is....I do not know!

Another night remembering........and thinking about a better time!

I know exactly what your feeling and often wonder myself when has our system of embracing diversity failed. When has it become necessary to keep families apart for 6, 12, or 18 months to satisfy the need for what is called "investigation." While it only takes less then one day to investigate a case. When has it became necessary to use the system against families. Against lives being happy and especially children having smiles on their face . Personally I am sick of the whole system, sick of waiting, sick of not getting answers. But when it comes down to it they (the process) knows where they have people the place where they want you to feel hopeless so when your approval comes and your spouse is with you, both of you will have some new found hope of they system that is the irony of it all.